Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

It goes both ways for sure and not just regarding enemas only. I have heard plenty of female friends who love anal play complaining about the lack of interest or even worse negative reactions from their current or previous partner(s). Believe it or not, there are guys who don't wanno do oral on their partner 😉

My "other half" has severe I.B.S., all her life. Before we married I convinced her to try enemas for relief from the IBS. They worked very well and quickly, but to this day, she sees nothing erotic about them. For her, they are a necessary uncomfortable procedure to get relief.

I usually give her 2 16 oz. bulbs of warm water 3 times a week. If she is having an especially bad, prolonged attack, she'll go for a 2 qt. bag with a colon tube up high. This happens about once a month. She's been this way for so long, I don't get aroused anymore; it's just helping her get relief.

When we first hooked up, she would give me the bag, because I got so hard and the sex was so intense. That routine got old for her and I am a solo player now.

I tried to get her into anal play, but the IBS has given her internal hemorrhoids and a fissure that cracks open a few times a year. As long as I don't go inside she is fine with it, but anything inserted into the rectum causes her pain. That's as good as it's going to get.

Christmas Day is our E-anniversary - a year ago today was my wife's first foray into enema bliss...

It had been an extremely stressful few weeks prior - she had started a new job, and that had really started to grind, then her father nearly died - we had spent most of our evenings in the hospital. Needless to say, my extremely regular (like a fine Swiss watch) wife was bound up, and miserable.

She knew I enjoyed enemas, and while tolerant, she was still in the 'that's disgusting' mindset typical of the uninitiated. I promised her my magic bag would work wonders, and, trusting soul she is, she finally got her lovely ass in the air, and I slid a lubed nozzle in.

She rather enjoyed the ensuing sensations - not bad, not gross, just nice... But when I left her to expel I heard the gush, and she cried out, "oh my god!!!" - I knew she had become a believer.

I filled her up 4 times that day - she absolutely loved all of them, and wanted yet more! She's not so into the eroticism like I am, but she is enthusiastic for our weekly sessions - and she will happily give, receive, and make me come during mine. She loves the cleaned out feeling, and concedes its a bit of a thrill.

That's about the best present I can think I've ever received - today of course we are enjoying some nice soapies and bubbly wine as is our usual now - Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good enema!

In my case it was quite easy all the time: i would just honestly tell my girlfriends how it felt to me and that they might enjoy it as well. They became curious and just agreed to give it a try 😃

For most of us, enemas are part of our psyche, and I can;'t imagine entering a lasting intimate relationship with someone who finds enemas disturbing. Fortunately there are ways and places to meet folks who also enjoy enemas and perhaps even other miscellaneous kinks. One of those folks may be an ideal mate.

1. Fish in a stocked pond, to use a sports analogy. (or is that an ANALogy?) Many enema fans attend E-fests, with the best known and longest-running is the Florida Efest which just celebrated ten years of annual events. If you cannot attend, you can still join forums such as this and make friends.

Don't concentrate on finding a partner, concentrate on making friends. Potential partners will find you and hopefully become friends, after establishing a friendship, these folks will likely help your search if they believe you are a decent person, as their reputation could suffer if they recommend someone who turns out to be a thrill-seeker who does not want to settle down.

If you're just looking for an occasional partner, don't be afraid to mention that either. I've had many occasional partners, some who worked as a part-time enema nurse and who loved to give enemas. In nearly all those cases we became friends, and I always respected that the enemas were a business relationship but goin out for fun later was just two friends getting together.

2. Join online groups such as Zity, and let people know a little about yourself. Get to know some of the folks in real life, especially if they are nearby. Yes, there is a fear of "exposure" to the rest of the world, but in many cases the rest of the world does not care, and in nearly all cases the folks you befriend in real life also have a stake in not becoming well known as a fetishist.

Other groups such as Fetlife.com are helpful as well as there is a more precise geographical touch to their system although they were wise enough to not allow us pe3rverts to search for enema fans in a specific town, which is the number one complaint of the drive-by perverts who are not interested in getting to know people.

I do hope this helps!

H.

My ex wife was never into enemas, she maybe gave me 5 in 15 years but never liked it, I hope to someday find a partner that's atleast somewhat interested in them

Well, I've written before and told you all that my wife will give me my enemas. She does not fix the bags..That is up to me.. But once I have the bags filled, she will come in and inject the water into me. She will not encourage me to take the water. In fact, she will not even speak to me as I take the enema. When I empty the bags or can't take any more water, she will shut the shut-off and leave the room. Being an old athlete, I would love for her to coach me and encourage me to take my enemas. Do any of you have any suggestions as to how I might get this to happen? I have about given up...

When I first got married my wife did not know of my fetish. One night I got up the nerve to tell her about my interest and asked her if she would give an enema, to which she replied "Sure, I love you and I will do anything to make you happy". At times she will even say "I think you need an enema".

Fetishes like anything else is only understood and enjoyed if you posses the fetish..Its almost impossible to "convert" someone..You may get them to give to you in a clinical way but you'll find little if any satisfaction in this...In order to know what WE feel or need you have to have the fetish...

A good example is how many of us want to sneak into someone closet and smell the dirty shoes or lick cruddy feet? Well if you have a foot fetish you get the same sexual release as we do taking or giving an enema...I have no interest in Diapers, Tickling Scat urinating on others and a multitude of other fetishes and enemas are included in this list...So don't expect your SO to just jump in and get off giving you and enema or even allowing you to give one to him or her....

Prior to our marriage my wife would beg me to give her enemas for constipation. 42 years on she regards them as "intrusive & disgusting". Unfortunately, childbirth cured her constipation! Thank goodness I have other lady friends who appreciate my help.

I have not been involved with a woman for as many years as I read about here. I sometimes regret that, but then I have had a lot of sex/enema related experiences. I like the type of woman you don't take home to Mother. I prefer sluttier and promiscuous women. I usually ask a lot of questions about their past and sexual attitude. Things like are you bi, have you ever taken on more than one guy at a time, do you like anal, how many guys have you been with. If I get mostly yes answers she is the woman for me. Then I get to the enema questions they seem tame compared the others. Any woman who likes other women and are willing to pull a train, an enema is mild in comparison.

My wife is not a "regular" fan of enemas but there have been a few occasions when she surprised me. For example, on one Sunday evening my wife and I removed our clothes and began kissing and touching each other in the middle of our living room. She proceeded to lay face down across a large pillow on the floor and asked me to penetrate her from behind. As her passion increased, she turned her head back toward me and stated ever so clearly, "Tonight, I want you to give me an enema." It is hard to describe the feelings I had upon hearing those welcomed words. We rose from the pillow, she took me by the hand and led me to our bathroom where she retrieved our combination bag, hose and douche nozzle, handed them to me and said "Please fill it with warm water and I will be waiting for you face down on our bed." That evening provided me with a vivid memory I can clearly recall to the present day.

Just got back from a week vacation. We were in a nice hotel with a very good bathroom. Just want to report to all of you lucky enema sharers out there that every day in that room, I lamented that I/we couldn't spend an hour or two having enema fun. My wife is completely repulsed by the idea of enemas. Once many years ago, she was pretty constipated, so I suggested that a Fleet enema would fix her problem. A fleet isn't my idea of the best fun, but it's better than nothing. She reluctantly agreed, so I ran out quickly and bought a couple Fleets. At home, she complained about me looking at her anus, and I was only able to inject about 3/4 of the bottle before she had me stop while she shuffled around for about a minute before sitting on the pot. As you likely guessed, she made me leave while she evacuated. If she were out of the house for a couple of hours each week, I would enjoy enemas weekly, but alas.........it ain't happening.

History was made last Monday.....my lovely wife (45yrs) decides that only by massaging my prostate will i be able to overcome my ED issue and reach an orgasm ......well, that of course requires enemas til clear, right? after several hours of enemas I'm clean enough for her...So out comes a Doc Johnson strap on dildo she had bought for the occasion, SURPRISE! She then climbs into it, over her O B girdle.

So she lubes me sufficiently and mounts up and really gets into it and so do I. God is "pegging" a great experience. hopefully this will continue "until death do us part"!

By the way I could have been shear gratefulness...she just had 6 orgasms and maybe felt she owed me at least 1!

It seems like certain "health issues" can a basis for spousal involvement...other than constipation!

Good for you charlie oneal. Maybe you'll get lucky and never quite get over your ED issue. Then this procedure will have to be continued.

My wife is not an enema fan, but we love one another, and we've both compromised and found a way to make it work. I'll prepare my enema, then bring it into the bedroom hanging on an IV pole. She lubes me up as well as the inflatable retention nozzle, then inflates the nozzle. She'll then lay back on the bed and spread her legs while I position myself between them. After making sure she's taken hold of the hose and pinched it off, I'll release the clamp. At that point, it's on.

I love going down on her, and she loves it even more. The idea is that I give her an orgasm while shes give me my enema. Generally, our technique is that she'll release the water for a few seconds at a time, then pinch it off again. Sometimes, though, she'll tease me the whole time I go down on her and not release the water until she comes. Either way, she always comes and I always get a full, warm enema and a raging hard on.

Appropriately, then, our next order of business is a thorough shagging in doggy position. She'll roll over and present to me, and I am more than happy to oblige. I fill her pussy and then begin stroking in and out while I hold my enema (again with the aid of the inflatable nozzle - learned the hard way that was a necessary precaution). After I come, unfortunately, I usually have to make a hasty retreat to relieve myself - dragging behind me the IV pole to which I'm still tethered. We both would prefer to snuggle naked for a while, but that is part of the compromise.

I'd love to give to her, but she is just too hung up about it to enjoy it. She's been a sport and tried a few times, but only when she was really constipated. Between the discomfort of taking an enema in that condition and the fact that she's coming into the experience pre-squicked, those experiments did not convert her. No big drama or issues, but she was definitely just glad they were over and got no pleasure from the experience.

So, she'd rather enemas weren't involved at all, and I wish she would both give and receive a couple of times a week, but we've both compromised and figured out something we both quite enjoy a few times per month.

Consider this situation and supply some empathy for a fellow life long klismo; I finally get my wife to embrace enemas as a foreplay method for me and even a little strap-on fun...cuz i'm flagging more and more in that arena OK GREAT NEWS>>>well the last session is based on the famous german artists drawing of the nurse breast feedding the male while giving him an enema and satisfying his member........couldn't ask for anything better.......except .........NOThING WOULD WORK..........it turns out that now that I get what I've dreamed of for 45years...........my severe spinal stenosous has gotten so bad the nerves to my equipment have died off.....$%^&*()!!!!!!!!!!!!!!_...........hopefully this won't happen to my fellow Klismos out there. 😢

I just got out of a relationship with a woman who had very negative experiences as a child with enemas. SO, naturally, she wasn't into any of my askings or fantasies. The most I got her to do for me was a couple fingers here and there. She complained of the fecal matter being her problem for giving them to me and that her bad experiences would never let her receive. Kinda hard to stick with someone whos fantasies are fulfilled and that person not being willing to explore yours as well. I have not had good luck meeting someone on the same page as I am. Thats kinda why I'm here. To make new friends.

I suspect a person's early experiences play a big part. Before much radio entertainment, enemas were played with more, than afterward as news and drama and talk started getting our attention. When my family got the first TV, enemas were all but forgotten, almost. Now that TV has started playing to the younger set, the older set of people are reclaiming some older pleasures and "studying" memory lanes with a happy red bag full bringing back fond memories of momma and grandma, and cousins each wanting to entertain and claim a special spot.

So if the wife was only treated for serious illness as a kid, she might be getting a sick feeling when the red bag is laid out. Try getting something that don't fit her stereotype, with an entertaining knozz. Then save it for her, or wrap it up with a bow for an anniversary get away surprise. Try to let her feel in control, which seems to be the ultimate fem high, aye?

My biggest mistake was in letting her watch me solo, even though I'm a purist wanting to focus on the enema alone, without diddling myself at all.

My ex-wife hated enemas. No chance she would have given

My wife is not into enemas even though I have suggested it and she really did not want to pursue it. She knows I like them and that I like anal play which we do engage in when we are having sex. But enemas never really got her excited. I think it may go back to how people view BM at an early age and thinking that it is a very private act not at all associated with sexual arousal. My wife seems to link BMs with enemas and thus not a turn on at all. Many years ago I did give her an enema but it was for constipation and unfortunately it really wasn't an erotic enema. So my enemas have been and are solo affairs.

I see a pattern of the wife having her husband set things up but then she will give him the enemas. That is the way my wife operates. She will give them to me but refuses to take them herself.

Do you know why she won't try it ? Have you asked ? When receiving did she enjoy your arrousal ? Do you let her share your arrousal ? Do your way of taking enemas afraid - surprise her ?

My girlfriend knew from the start I was into giving enemas. She wasn't too warm to the idea at first, though she was curious. We eventually set up a first session, combining a small bulb and the stimulation of her g-spot (I can multitask alright) during which she masturbated. She's been hooked up ever since, claiming her orgasms are much stronger while receiving her enemas. We even made it a Friday-night routine!

My wife was born in the 30s and thus enemas were a common event in her life. She never associated them with erotic pleasure until we were married. Within the first month, I be her she couldn't take two quarts and hold it for ten minutes: winner won $10.00. After the time was up, she released and we had sex - the first time she came more than once.

The next time, I took the enema and she "made" me hold it while I licked her to orgasm. The third time, she took a bag of really hot soapy water which she held with the help of my penis up her ass and my fingers on her clitoris..

So started the flow which lasted twenty some years: all kinds of enema play with real pleasure for both.

I like enemas

My wife doesn't like enemas and thinks I'm weird because I do. however, she goes to a naturalpath who does muscle testing to determine health issues and the two visits prior to this last one a couple of days ago, he determined that her liver function was a zeor or maybe a one both times. I got her to agree to allow me to give her a couple of coffee enemas prior to this last visit and he determined her liver function to now be a five. We all attributed this better level of health to the enemas. He suggested she receive one a day for the next two weeks We'll see?

I've done solo so long, I don't know what I would say or do if my wife suddenly wanted an enema.

She is not anal oriented in any way. I cannot even imagine what it would be like if she wanted me to give her one, or assist her.

How do couples get to realize each other likes enemas? Many posts on the forum discuss couples and their enema adventures. Where did it start? Visiting their parents, seeing the enema bag, and commenting about it later? Fingers that stray "out back" and lead to further discussion? Hard to image a detached chat between engaged couples: "by the way, enemas are a turn-on for me." Lots of comments here about how their partner "hates enemas." What's the key? Toss of the dice?

I'm continuing to work on broaching the subject. In the last year or so my frequency of indulging in enemas has increased exponentially. About a month ago, while giving my wife a nice long hug, I said "I bet you could use a good enema."

Her response was a puzzled, "What?"

I said, "Sure, it'll make you feel good, help you detox."

She shrugged it off with a laughing "I don't think so."

I left it at that.

last weekend, while I had been in the bathroom for quite a while, she called in "what are you doing in there?" I think she figured I was masturbating. I was caught off guard, but figured what the hell and blurted out "I'm taking an enema."

Unbelievingly she asked "No, really."

I said. "Really, I'm giving myself an enema."

"Why?" She drawled.

At this point I was starting to lose nerve and the only response I could muster was, "Poop."

When I came out of the bathroom she looked at me with a slightly curious but moreso accusatory furled brow that translates to 'weirdo.'

I went into the kitchen to do some dishes and nothing else was said

Everyone in the household is catching on to my fetish by a number of means and on various levels. I'm playing it nonchalant for now. Just trying to make it seem natural. I hope it progresses into my wife's greater inclusion or acceptance soon.