Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

I'm still trying to work up the courage to try with my wife. She knows I take enemas occasionally. She will give me a prostate massage now (as of 6 weeks ago). She knows I take an enema before for prep but I haven't quite made it over the last hurdle. I truly don't think she would be into it but might eventually give me one to make me happy. Any thoughts or suggestions?

My wife has occasionally given me an enema (fleet kind) when I was constipated, and I gave her one once. All were "medically necessary". I recently had a prostate biopsy. The nurse called my wife to schedule it and stuff after my PSA and 4K were elevated. My wife called after talking to the nurse and told me that my test results were borderline high and that they were going to do a biopsy. Later she told me that I had to have an enema before the biopsy. We discussed enemas more then that we had ever discussed them and I felt completely normal discussing them with her since it was actually medically necessary. On the morning of he biopsy, I grabbed the enema bottle and looked around the house until I found her and said "do you know what time it is? It is enema time". She followed me to the bathroom and gave it to me. We haven't discussed enemas since.

I really want to get my wife interested. She suffers from frequent constipation and I happen to like ass play.

I have thought about getting a starter kit as well.

https://siliconenozzles.com/25-liter-Enema-Bag-36-CT-63-Colon-Tube-Combo-Set-ENECMBO-63Fr36-EZ-EM-920-935.htm

Is this a good kit?

I really want to get my wife interested. She suffers from frequent constipation and I happen to like ass play.

I have thought about getting a starter kit as well.

https://siliconenozzles.com/25-liter-Enema-Bag-36-CT-63-Colon-Tube-Combo-Set-ENECMBO-63Fr36-EZ-EM-920-935.htm

Is this a good kit?

That is a great kit but you can get a good quality 4 quart bag from eBay for twenty bucks and then add a nozzle and a colon tube. It is a great kit but rather pricey.

I also wouldn't start with a large "fetish" type nozzle. That could easily scare her off.

Get a kit with a nice soft rectal tube and fill it with a quart or so of water.

It makes me wonder if he is from the company that makes those bags. I think he might be doing it as a way to sell them.

It saddens me to see that spouses don't indulge in some of the fetishes. Some guys sit with us through 2 hours of ballet or go to the art museum with us. Just like sit there while you guys fish or watch sports with you. Some of these fetishes are what I call vanilla and I don't see why a spouse would not participate like giving someone an enema. Yes they are some that are extreme like Roman showers and this would be gross to some if not many. I just think many spouses are spoiled and selfish! There are some aspects of medical play that I don't like but I am will to indulge my husband with it and be enthusiastic about it. Did I go and look for a boyfriend that share my fetish? No. I did not know I had a fetish until I was married.

How do I as a straight man, get a woman, single or married to give me an enema? My ex wife told me that it was so perverse that she couldn’t even consider it!! Any suggestions out there?

Many women and men find enemas of any sort, let alone for sexual use, to be distasteful, unpleasant, perverse and anything but erotic. However, there are obviously others both from my experience as well as from reading Zity, that find them pleasant and arousing. You just need to find one who likes or can be taught to enjoy them. It also may depend on your desires and needs as far as whether you present it to her as a part of sex or that you just want to enjoy it without involving your and her sexuality. For me, enemas have always been sexually stimulating, so that's how I presented it to my exes, most of whom who decided to enjoy them like that with me.

Eric

A good wife enjoys an enema !

A person's psychological baggage prior to approaching them about trying enemas will determine if they are willing to give it a try.

If a person is very open sexually and adventurous, they will likely give it a try because they are curious as to how it will feel and want to explore new ways to become aroused. A sexually vanilla person who is comfortable only doing things that they have been doing for years likely won't want to step out of their comfort zone.

If a person is already into anal eroticism, they will likely be willing to give enemas a try.

If a person associates enemas with BMs and has strong sense of privacy because they view pooping as smelly and disgusting, they will likely have a hard time making the leap to seeing an enema as sexually arousing.

That is why I think it is important to put all your sexual fetish cards on the table at the beginning of a relationship in order to expose your partner's psychological baggage. In the long run, it will pay dividends well into the future.

Hey ProV1 (I used to use one of those!), I think you're right. Some people just won't try because it is distasteful to them. My wife seems to go back and forth. She is totally OK with giving me enemas, and usually she will take one if needed. Sometimes though I have to scare her with my jack hammer before she will relent. I don't get it. Some people are strange. (Funny to say that here!!!)

Not inthe cards for me; just not. But the play with someone else has its own charge, of the unknown, the adventure, the exploration. I wonder if wife play would tire more easily as sex in general tends to do with time.

The worlds biggest turn off is a person who is not comfortable with the way they are, complemented by a lack of confidence.. Just let your partner see your enema bag hanging in the bath room. Perhaps give him or her a bath.. Tell them with confidence that you enjoy having enemas.. Explain the pleasure and intimacy that comes with enemas.

For a girl or woman, don't start with the enema.. While in the bath tub,Use a clean or unused anal pipe, hang the bag high with bath temperature water, and let a gentle yet firm stream of water flow over her clitoris. Be gentile and have finesse. ( not the shampoo)

When I bring up giving an enema to my wife I get an immediate NO. I can talk her into giving me a series once in a while. She does a wonderful job, thoroughly lubricating me, slowly filling me and finally a prostate massage with a super hand job. I wish we had more privacy for more of these sessions that we call a "Royal Flush." I really would like one right now, since it has been quite a while.

Unfortunately I was always the giver, sometimes to my dismay.

Just be honest!

"Honey why don't you help me mix this one?"

On another enema a few days/weeks/months later,

"Honey, can I get you to hold this one for me"

It's a process!!

You can also wait for her to start "Fat talking" and offer to give her an enema.

That was me, the fake reasons, but once she saw the erections I got following an enema, my wife never had a problem giving. I'm lucky

You can also wait for her to start "Fat talking" and offer to give her an enema.

Lisa,

"Fat talking?"

Eric

If you want to get your significant other involved with doing enemas with you, especially as regards giving them their first few enemas, however you approach it, it's probably worth at least an attempt. Before our marriage, my ex-wife and I had discussed the fact that among other kinks or fetishes, I enjoyed enemas and wanted her to accept that and give them to me, hopefully with enjoyment on her part. She did and really enjoyed doing so. But curiously enough, and luckily for me, it wasn't until several months into our marriage that one day she confided in me that her most secret deep sexual desire was to be sexually submissive and for me to return the favor and give her enemas (something she was never able to confide/admit to her first husband). I was of course delighted to hear it and we started doing so right away, but it was certainly a surprise to me that I really wasn't expecting. You never know unless you try and bring it up. I hope I'll be as lucky myself if there's a next time.

Eric

@ericmacson - I think LisaK is referring to women looking at themselves as "fat" and the misconception that enemas or laxatives will help slim them down to "where they should be"

Having come from a family where there were some eating disorder issues I would not be comfortable doing this.

@ericmacson - I think LisaK is referring to women looking at themselves as "fat" and the misconception that enemas or laxatives will help slim them down to "where they should be"

Having come from a family where there were some eating disorder issues I would not be comfortable doing this.

Moliere,

That was going to be my guess, also. Thanks for the clarification. I hope she was kidding about offering her an enema for fat reduction..............

Eric

My wife has never shown any interest in enemas at all, but yesterday she was complaining of gas and constipation. Last night over dinner she came out and said if she wasn't feeling better by tomorrow afternoon then maybe I could help her with one of "my" enemas. You can bet it took me some time to pick my jaw up off the floor. We will see what happens today, who knows?

With any luck she will need your help and come to realize how helpful and relaxing they can be!

I've always had good luck getting enemas after complaining of persistent digestive issues. My wife, knowing of my IBS has seen enemas as a helpful remedy for that. Regardless of a scientific basis or lack there of for such an assertion, I like the enemas that come as a result.

Just seems that there must be some sort of “heat” going on first. As in, foreplay. I would suggest pillow talk after a few dates (encounters). I’m guessing that getting her/him all revved up and shouting “Let me give you an enema”! Might be a huge deal breaker. Patience and observation......

First I think you have to kind of think about the person you are approaching and have a good sense of how open they are with sex in general- very vanilla or adventurous. And if they are already into ass play for themselves or with their partners take that as a real positive sign- I feel like you have a decent shot at getting them to try enemas.

If someone has a lot of negative baggage regarding any type of anal stimulation, then I feel you will be trying to push a bolder up hill trying to get them to try enemas.

I finally got my wife to give me an erotic enema last night.

I’ve been married for over 30 years and had occasionally been able to get my wife to give me an enema when I had pretended to constipated. She finally told me that she wouldn’t do it any longer because removing the nozzle from my butt was gross and smelly.

A few months ago I purchased a remote controlled prostate massager that had a penis ring attached. A couple of weeks ago she finally agreed to insert it into me while we had sex. I told her that I would need to be cleaned out first and that she wouldn’t have to remove the nozzle. That was the key!

Last night she agreed to give it a try. I suspect because the penis ring attached to the prostate massager would stimulate her clitoris when we had sex.

I prepared a 2 quart enema bag that had a pump bulb attached. I then placed the bag just high enough that she would have pump the entire bag into me. She then gently inserted the nozzle and released the clamp. The water was not flowing so I explained that she would have to squeeze the bulb. Every time she squeezed the bulb I let out a slight moan of pleasure. The next thing I knew she was reaching for my balls and stroking my cock while squeezing the bulb.

After expelling the enema my cock was still rock hard when she inserted the multi-rib prostate massager. She then played with the vibration settings and then we had some of the best sex ever.