Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

Cleanbean,

You have broached the subject of enemas with your wife. Good job! That is a huge break-through. But I think you need to emphasize the pleasure/erotic aspect of enemas. Maybe as a "naughty nurse" motif. Or maybe as from the bondage/submission aspect.

My wife and I enjoy enemas, but she always insisted I 'do' her - she would reciprocate, but not always, but it was my choice.

I would always prepare hers, so she was not very familiar with the recipes or temperature etc.

This past week, she finally 'flew solo' - she thoroughly enjoyed it, so much so that she did two sessions over three days. I think demystifying the process helped her relax and enjoy even more than she did before. I walked her through the process, and her to her own devices...

I have pretty much always given her about 2 quarts - sometimes a little more or less. But, she apparently thought she took 3 normally, and did that amount herself - she said she felt a little full, but she was relaxed enough that it was no problem, and she felt extra clean!

We both love our enemas, and each other!

This is really a tough issue to deal with. Partners tend to be very puzzled when this subject is brought up if they have

had no prior experience or pleasure from enemas. I have found younger folks tend to be more uninformed compared to those of us that deal with enemas during our childhood!

My wife now gives me weekly coffee enemas. We do it differently, with two cups of coffee in a 2 qt bag then filled with warm water repeated twice. She will not take enemas but gladly gives them to me. However, I have to tell her that it is time for my enemas. She will set things up. Not bad, a nice compromise.

I would like to know whether a menopaused woman can orgasm during an enema. Any reply from ladies will be much appreciated

My wife knows of my anally erotic side. She never volunteers to give me an enema, but never refuses. She enjoys what always follows, or sometime precedes or both. She also knows the difference between a good cleansing one and an erotic one. The nozzle used is a giveaway. Over the holidays, she asked for a cleaning enema. I was happy to oblige with 2 quarts of a warm sea salt solution. A few days later I got my cleansing, and when she went into a "I'm not sure all these enemas are good for you routine." it was a chance to point out that she had said how good and clean her enema a few days earlier had made her feel. I will always oblige, and don't mind always being the initiator of enemas and anal play, because the follow through is so sweet.

I am just now getting into the adventure and excitement of receiving enemas how do I get my man to understand that I enjoy these. And I want him to be able to give them to me willingly

Get him to give you one, for "medical" reasons. Then ravish him like crazy! Give him anything he wants sexually; BJ's, anal sex, etc. He will figure out how to get the best sex of his life, even if he thinks enemas are gross. We're not that hard to figure out. We will do almost anything for good sex.

Then, get him to give you a bag while he eats you. Once he sees the "grand mal" orgasms you get from that, he'll be a fan of the bag. Getting HIM to accept a bag from you will be a lot more difficult. But, one victory at a time.

I have the same problem. My girlfriend is into a lot of kinky stuff, but enemas are not on of them. I have been trying for years to get her to try it, or at least give me one. No such luck. Maybe one day she will give in. However, she really enjoys all the other stuff we do so I haven't pushed it too hard.

I can understand that your girlfriend red1126 isn't into enemas for herself (some people simply aren't "turned on" by them), but I don't understand that if she is into all the "kinky stuff" you say she is, that she won't at least pleasure you with an enema now and then.. That just seems odd to me. Oh well....good luck.

I am unsure what happened here. For many, many years my wife would have NOTHING to do with enemas. She would grudgingly assist me if I asked during an IBS flareup, but angry every time. She thought it unnecessary, and a barbaric treatment. No encouragement, no insertion, barely a word except, "its done." If I did a second bag I heard, "You're going to do ANOTHER??"

Grump!

Then two months ago I had a flareup of IBS which just would not go away. Cramps, pain, sleeplessness. I usually find warm baking soda enemas help calm the gut, so I got the bag out and started a three enema series. I was in the middle of the first when she walked in to the bedroom and found me in the Sims position on the bed with about 1/3 of the bag gone. She actually offered to help! She held the bag, controlled the clamp, and encouraged me to "take it all!" OMG! She watched as I refilled the bag for enema #2 and said she would do that while I used the toilet. OMG! For this enema she said it might be better if I got on my hands and knees with my bottom up since I have such difficulty getting a full bag in while on my side! She inserted the nozzle and controlled the flow while holding the nozzle in my bottom. OMG!

For enema #3 she said the OTHER nozzle might actually be better to get the solution in. That would be the douche nozzle!! (She does not douche, so no danger of cross contamination.) So she swapped nozzles and proceeded to fill me up in the knee-chest position!

Who is this woman?

Every night for the next three nights I got the same treatment! On the third night our latex bag tore at the neck and broke. She volunteered to go to Rite Aid for a replacement, but I told her they don't carry enema bags at our store - not even the combo bags. She actually shopped in our Walmart, CVS, Walgreens and found no open top enema bags over the next week.

My bride then actually went on Amazon and ordered a clear silicone 2.5 quart bag! Really OMG! Who is this woman??

We left for vacation just two weeks ago and she said, "Don't forget to pack the enema bag and baking soda in case we need to fix you up!!" I can only say it was used three times in two weeks and this was a great vacation!

So I do not know what happened, but I am sure enjoying the change!!

So I do not know what happened, but I am sure enjoying the change!!

@jekyll doctor - I hear that 😄 , and I don't know what is changing, but I am liking it. I hope to have more - in the near future, but I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth.

Glad your wife - and you, are finding life sweet!

Lora

Been married 42 years and my wife will still not touch my asshole or allow me to touch hers! In all other respects she,s a fine wife and mother but this aversion to ass play really is a drag. Enemas? Completely out of the question so you guys who have ladies who enjoy the enema experience,especially giving,consider yourselves lucky! Thanks,Jim.

My wife of 31 years used to be willing to stimulate my ass when making love, but health issues over the past few years (physical & mental) have brought that activity to a halt. However, when it came to playing with her butt at all....FORGET IT. She didn't like me to even touch her rose bud. Frankly, I think it was more psychological on her part than physical. I always had this sense that she considered "ass play" somewhat deviant, and it was something that the average person simply wasn't supposed to enjoy. She'll tolerate fairly frequent and chronic constipation, but won't even consider an enema, because I think she views them as something that's simply awful. Yes, it's been a major disappointment in my life too.

Wonderful news!

I've been with my girlfriend for a year now. I had planned at sometime to share my enema/anal fetish, but never got around to it. We're deeply in love, and I proposed to her last night.

About a year ago, The first time she came over, she went to the bathroom. I noticed she was in there for what seemed like a really long time. We had a great night after that, and I thought nothing of it. Later when she was gone, I used the bathroom. While I was sitting down, staring at me right in the face was my shower curtain, slightly adjust, behind it, my 4 qt rubber enema bag with higginson pump in full view! I was so mortified, and went this ling whatbut saying anything. She continued to live me just the same. And I forgot about it.

About 3 weeks ago, when we moved I together, she said somethjng like, "I hope us moving in doesn't cramp your style as far as how you're private with yourself" I decided that my fiancée deserves better than to be in the dark about what turns me on in addition to things we've already done in bed. I wrote her a love letter, describing how I've always been so secretive and feelings of shame (I now know needlessly) have had for so long. And that she doesn't deserve to not know everything about me. I said that if it want something she didn't want to engage in, that's okay but if she's open to these things, id be happy to share them with her.

She wrote me back the most loving reply, and how she's not scared or put off by any of it, and she even said how she has peaked through my shower curtain a year ago and thought, "now, that's kinky! Lol" but didn't want to embarrass me.

Case in point- be upfront and honest with the ones you love. It will never not pay off if done with tact and sensibility. I feel like the world has been lifted off my shoulders.

How do you bring up the suject

To girl friend that you want to give her one

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Houses73 said

Wonderful news!

I've been with my girlfriend for a year now. I had planned at sometime to share my enema/anal fetish, but never got around to it. We're deeply in love, and I proposed to her last night.

It has been a year since your post.

Are you still together?

Sorry- I’m back!

Yes, we are now married! Happy than I’ve ever been in my life. She lives the power of washing me out before playing with my ass. I couldn’t be luckier.

In my case, I only like to give. I was imprinted by mom who was an R.N. and had my illiterate Grandmother from the old country living with her. That old lady bossed my mom around something fierce and believed that children needed an enema a week. By the time I was 7 or 8 they were on to younger siblings but I was kinky for life. I can remember thinking how fun it would be to give my kindergarten teacher an enema. I married vanilla and suppressed my urges. I have given the wife one or two in 40 years which she hated every minute of. A hysterectomy killed her sex drive 2 decades ago and a crisis made me realize life was too short. I have met a few ladies on the site and have not looked back. I met Petal ans saw her exclusively but she passed away recently. I miss her greatly.

Been married 15 years to a totally vanilla wife. Sex was boring. The kinkiest we got was a mutually enjoyed foot fetish. We went through a "dry" period for about the previous 3 years. Then, about 2 months ago our sexual interest in each other was reignited. One night, after a play session, I thought what the heck. I told her that I would love for her to role play being a nurse and give me an enema and prostate massage. She giggled, but was not put off. A week or two passed and I got an email from her. It was an "appointment reminder" with my "nurse." I was to arrive at her office (our spare bedroom) at a specified time. I was to be prepared for a cleansing and prostate check. When I went to the "office" I was told to undress and lay on the massage table in the sims position while she prepared things. I heard the preparations taking place in the adjoining bathroom. Soon she appeared dressed in a sexy white nightie wearing lace thigh-highs and open toe pumps with a bright red pedicure. I sprang to attention before I even realized she was holding a bulging 3 qt enema bag full of Dr. Bronner's peppermint solution with a 30 inch colon tube attached. In real life, my wife is an RN. She expertly inserted the entire colon tube ( a first for me, as I was never able to do it in solo sessions) and delivered the best enema I ever could have dreamed of. After evacuating, I spent plenty of time worshiping her beautiful feet. When she was thoroughly excited, she ordered me to the knee-chest position and produced our new toy - an n-joy wand. I was then driven to near-insanity as she milked my prostate for over 30 minutes before taking me to a mind-blowing orgasm. I never came so hard in my entire life. My sexual dreams had come true. She now loves to do this and will often tell me that I will soon be seeing my enema nurse for a treatment. I can't believe how lucky I am.

My wife is a total missionary, scheduled Tuesday night sex person. We have finally started to use some toys and lotions. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to explode but not the fun way. I determined to change that this year. She doesn't have a problem with me giving myself enemas or even getting colonics. She is okay with me getting massage and etc... I think in her mind she is happy. I've made some comments about how I'm going to the her up etc... She acts a little excited, but I tried it recently she she had a fit. Grrr. The worst part is she has a younger sister who is into it. I was at her house a year ago and found her bag out. I asked her and she told me she likes to stay clean. Immediate boner! I told my wife about it and she told me that this sister got caught giving her younger sister an enema when they were young.

I've got to turn this around somehow or I will go nuts!

I've tried bringing up my desire to receive enemas with my girlfriend for the last year but i have had no luck. Considering trying to do it myself but i haven't ever had one.

My husband and l have been enjoying enemas for years now. I have always enjoyed enemas for l grew up in a medical family. So they were always part of our regime. My husband and l are swingers as well as l am bi. So l have had enemas from both men and women, sometimes at the same time!!! I have convinced several men and women into taking enemas for the benefit of unbridled sex afterward. It usually works!!! Nothing like sliding a nozzle into a virgin bottom and then a tongue into a wet slit at same time for a combination of feelings that end with an expulsion/explosion of one kind or another!!! More times than not, after that they are hooked!!! Not sure if to the nozzle or my tongue!?!?!?

Sounds fun. I'm in a multigeneration medical-related family and didn't get many enemas, so it doesn't go with the territory necessarily. Then again I yelled, hid and fought against them, so maybe if I hadn't I would have gotten more.

I enjoyed enemas from as early as I can remember. When I got married I looked for an enema or douche bag in my new wife’s things but there was none. I bought a bulb enema syringe and put it in the bathroom vanity. One day when we happened to be in the bathroom together she held it up and asked, “Is this what I think it is?” I said, “Yes, it is an enema syringe.” “I much prefer an enema over a laxative and I like the way they feel.” Her response was, “Oh, really?” She put it back under the sink and changed the subject. She seemed quite dis-interested. A short time later I bought a new combo bag and put it next to the bulb. I know she saw it there but never said a word about it.

I had previously slipped a finger into her butt without any resistance. In fact, she seemed to really like it when I finger-fucked her ass while “eating at the Y.” So, one evening I whispered in her ear that I wanted to give her an enema. She said, “What?” “Why would I want an enema?” I told her I had read in a magazine that some couples find enemas exciting when done together and I would like to try it. She asked how filling your ass with water until you have to shit could possibly be fun. After a few questions she admitted that she has never had an enema herself but her best friend told her she got enemas as a girl and they were gross and disgusting. I told her everyone was different so she should not say she didn’t like enemas until she tried it herself. She said, “Maybe some time, but not now.” After several requests over the next few weeks and getting things like, “Not now”, and, “I don’t understand this fascination you have with enemas”, I gave up asking.

When my wife would be out for a while I would use the time to give myself a good enema. One day my wife said she was meeting her friend for lunch and then they were going to check out a couple of new shops in town. Perfect! Out came my enema bag and I prepared a nice warm enema for myself. My favorite place was on the bedroom floor which I covered with an old towel and there was a convenient place to hang the bag behind the door. The warm flow was just beginning when I heard something in the kitchen. By time I realized someone was in the house and before I could get up or do anything she was at the bedroom door. There I was, on my back, nozzle in my ass, with my dick pointing straight at the ceiling. She asked, “What are you doing?” I told her quite truthfully that I just felt like having an enema. Then I asked her why she was home so early and she replied, “Pam got a migraine so we cancelled our plans.” I had shut off the water and as I lay there trying to decide what I should do she sat down on the floor next to me, grabbed my dick and said, “You really like this enema thing, don’t you?” She said, “Don’t stop your enema.” “I want to see what this is all about and why you like them so much.” As I opened the clamp again she started slowly stroking my dick being careful to not make me cum. I could see through her thin summer top and bra that her nipples were becoming erect. I reached up for a hand-full. She stopped stroking me long enough to remove her top and bra. About that time the bag was empty, and as much as I wanted to continue what was going on, the pressure was building and I had to get up and head to the bathroom. When I was done and flushed the toilet she met me at the door holding the empty bag. She was now naked. She said, “Do you want to fill this thing and show me what an enema is all about?

I just learned, from reading here, that Petal has died. What a wonderful person she was, and a great writer. I will miss her. Rest in peace, sweet thing. --I'll be joining you soon enough.

the boxcar

It has been difficult getting my wife very involved in my enemas. Although she has given me a few enemas quite some time ago, she did not really seem to enjoy it much. Also, when I gave her a couple of enemas after we first got married, she said she did not really like them as they made her too uncomfortable. After that when I wanted an enema she would just tell me to go do it myself. I try to do a good cleansing enema treatment at least once a week, preferably twice. My enema schedule has sometimes been complicated by privacy issues as my daughter, son-in-law, and grandkids live with us.

Anyway, I have not had an enema for the past 3 weeks as I am recovering from shoulder surgery making self administration a little difficult. This weekend my daughter son-in law and the grandkids are gone and my wife surprised me saying she would give me my enemas! I can't wait since I always enjoy my enemas but they are much more exciting when she is holding the bag and controlling the flow and my holding time!

While my wife doesn't have the least bit of interest in anything anal, she's perfectly happy acomodating my fetishes. After I got over my own inhibitions, I told her that enemas had always been exciting to me and were a great stress reliever. Whenever I'm feeling extremely horny, I just ask if she would give me one of her treatments, she's happy to help out...beads, plus, whatever. Great topic!

I was seeing a lady after four or five times I left my bag in the shower,she brought it up as I hoped and she said she used enemas. We have been playing ever since ! Could have went either way....