Bizarre sex - she/he wanted What?

What can you say, Honey, I'm a cranky old broad and I speak my mind. Probably more than others would like me to do. It's part of my charm. LOL I don't mind taking hits sometimes if I can be a voice for the voiceless. I get private messages from enough people to know I'm not the only one who feels certain ways, but that I might be the only one to actually stand up and say something. Of course, I get things wrong sometimes, but you know, we all make mistakes. We just have to take responsibility, learn from it and move on. What this has to do with bizarre sex, I don't know. 😃

I have gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender friends and I'm bisexual myself. I can't speak for all of them, but I have to say that from my experience, the appetites of the LGBT community is pretty much the same as the heterosexual community. There are prudes and extremists in both communities. There may be greater communication in the LGBT community as there isn't that whole gender gap to worry about, so maybe they are able to explore more fantasies than the hetero community, but I don't think they are that much different as far as tastes. There is a lack of communication in the hetero community as well as a lot of repression, guilt, shame and secrets, but the feelings are still there. They just don't get acted upon.

That's why you find so many men looking for enemates and only a few women. Because pretty much, if a woman wants a man to play with her bottom, he's going to think he's won the lottery. But if a man asks the same thing of a woman, she may think he's a disgusting pervert or homosexual and freak out. So some men keeps their fantasies inside and either act them out with professionals, have extramarital fun or resign to live out their lives in shame and misery.

In my experience, the men with the kinkiest, most elaborate and extreme desires were Conservative Republicans who oppose gay marriage because it ruins the sanctity of marriage and is an abomination in the eyes of the Lord. Yet, they feel fine about copulating with women they are not married to, drinking their blood and urine, cutting them with knives, whipping them until they bruise and bleed and choking them until they lose consciousness. And did I mention the all-gay, all-bareback orgies they go to when they tell their wives they're working on a project all night and probably won't be in until later? Or the man who likes to have his cock sucked by married women and wants them to wear bright red lipstick and stroke him with hand so their wedding bands show as they suck him off? Hey, I know not all Conservative Republicans are like that. But the ones I've run into have had the darkest desires. Sanctity my ass!

I don't understand the mentality of always looking for more extreme than what you have. Normal sex is perfectly wonderful if you do it right and with the right person. It doesn't have to be marathon sex lasting days or with dozens of people. It just has to be feel good and be emotionally, physically, spiritually and intellectually satisfying. People keep looking for something more, someone else, and on and on and on. If they would just slow down and enjoy what they have, they'll realize they have all they'll ever need. At least if you've found the right person. If not, they should try to find the one, but they don't have to fuck anything that moves until they find it. Intelligence, discretion, respect (and self-respect) go a long way. Sex has more value if you share it with someone special rather than give it away to everyone who wants it. I mean, sure, you might be able to get more for your money if you eat off the dollar menu, but wouldn't you rather have a seven course dinner of all your favorites made especially for you? Quality, not quantity.

People need to learn to go back to simple pleasures and give up the whole extreme living idea. There is beauty and joy in simplicity. Not so much in seeing a woman covered in excrement, wearing mouse traps on her bruised nipples and lit candles in every orifice. Really, people? Has it come to this? Again, this is directed at no one in particular. I'm just disgusted with society in general. Give me a night with good old-fashioned massage, oral sex and hot lovemaking anytime.

Egirlky, I could not agree with you more,. I think the porno people are always trying to come up with something new. I am concerned that the younger crowd sees this stuff thats in the anal videos & thinks that it's the thing to do. Anal sex of any kind should be very gentle [at least to start out], I am appalled at some of the things that are in these anal sex videos. Not only are these practices dangerous but they are they degrading to females everywhere.

There is a story in the book Emergency: True Stories From the Nation's ERs by Mark Brown, M.D. that makes me wonder about the how far some people are want to take their sexual experiences...

This true story is by Richard A. Oyler, M.D. from Mobile, Alabama:

"A thirty-five year-old female came to my Emergency Department with a complaint of mild abdominal pain. The patient had a colostomy from a previous gunshot wound to the abdomen. While reviewing her social and employment histories, I saw that the patient had stated, "I work the street." I asked her to clarify what she meant. She replied, "I get money for having sex - twenty-five dollars for a guy to do ME [points to her vagina] and ten dollars for a guy to do IT [points to her colostomy]." He didn't mention whether or not the abdominal pain was due to letting men has sex with IT. Hopefully her clients practiced safe "sex."

In one of his books, former FBI criminal profiler John Douglas discussed a case where a woman was stalked by someone in her Bible group, who repeatedly stabbed her and raped her. Semen was not found in any of the usual orifices or on the surface of the body. It was found deep in the stab wounds of the victim. Obviously, that is more extreme than even the most hardcare BDSM enthusiasts would take it, but I can't figure out what would drive a person to do anything like that. With all the extremes out there now, it worries me to see what the next trend will be.

Men has a woman ever made a sexual request that you were unwilling to grant? It's a given that men will often request acts from their partner and will be refused. But I'm wondering if men find themselves in the same situations. I'd also like to know if you reluctantly agreed to do what you didn't want to do and if you were pleasantly surprised that you enjoyed it or if it was as bad as or worse than you imagined.

I'm happy to say that most of what I've asked from men I've been given or allowed to do. However, I've made a few requests that were refused.

One lover refused to let him give him oral sex because he was too sensitive down there. (Yeah, that's kind of the point!)

Another lover refused to perform anal sex on me. He said that he was perfectly content to be pleased with mouths and pussies over the 40 or so years he's been sexually active and had no desire or need for anything different. (Party pooper!)

One lover refused to even discuss enemas with me. Well, more than refused. He screamed like a girl, shook his head violently and said, "No way! No how! Never!"

As far as the reluctant partners who gave in to my requests:

One lover who was shy and too embarrassed to be rimmed didn't put up much of a fuss when I had him on his back, with his legs over my shoulders, giving him a killer blowjob. I just raised his hips up higher so I could dip down to him bottom and give his virgin asshole the licking of its life. I later asked him about it and he said when I first did it, he was going to try to stop me, but the second my tongue touched him, he lost all thought and control and never wanted it to stop.

Another lover was of the "exit only" variety, but during an intense blowjob, I did my little paintbrush trick on his cock and asshole and licked him silly. He tightened up at the thought of penetration, but my tongue and fingers finally coaxed him into letting me in and while sucking his cock, I gave him his first and only prostate massage. We lost contact after playing together for several months. He recently saw me on a social networking site and said after ten years, he still remembers the intensity of it, thinks of it often and is open for a repeat performance any time.

I can't think of any reluctant agreements that have gone wrong, but I'm sure there have been a few. So tell me about your experiences.

The entire subject is contained in one simple Benny Hill skit: he stands next to his assistant, and both are wearing army uniforms. Benny turns to him with a scowl and rips one of the chevrons (hash marks) off his sleeve. He turns and rips another one off. And a third. Then he turns to him with a truly sick smile and says "now you do it to me."

If what ever you are doing with your partner is enjoyed, mutual and agreed upon by both I don't think it could be considered bizarre. Now if you/they are restraining and/or forcing the other person against their will, that's bizarre and kinky.

Kinky and bizarre are just degrees of what SOMEBODY ELSE thinks of your activities. For the people who are doing it, it's just another exciting they do.

I am no longer a guage for what is normal and what is kinky. I was having oral and anal sex and mild forms of BDSM while still in high school, so my idea of what's normal is some people's idea of full-on hardcore kinky sex. What's "normal" anyway?

I don't think of things as kinky. If it's something I haven't heard of, I might find it curious or interesting, but not necessarily kinky. I like to get the backstories of fetishes and desires and find out what a person likes, why he or she likes it, what attracts them to it, what they get out of it and what it does for them. If it's something I'm not into, I don't usually label it. There are some activities that I find sickening and dangerous, but the rulebook for what's kinky and what's normal was torn up and thrown away years ago. There are just things that are for me and things that aren't.

And whoever can engage in whatever and with whomever they wish as long as they are safe, SANE, sober, self-aware and it's consensual. I specify sane because I've seen a lot of really damaged people engaging in BDSM activities as a response to something that happened to their psyche years ago that they haven't acknowledged or recovered from and it can only damage them further. Abuse does not need to be physical to damage them. There are many ways of damaging a person without ever touching their bodies. AA meetings, S&M dungeons and morgues are full of people who have never been beaten, but who bear the reminders of acts committed against them. Not every person who is in the BDSM culture is damaged goods. Some of them are there because it feels good, they like it and it's fun. You just have to be really careful giving yourself over to someone. You have to know their intentions and motivation as well as they know yours because there are some things you just can't come back from.

There are a lot of things my husband and I do that aren't necessarily safe, and many would not consider many things we do to be sane, either, but we have a hell of a time doing them, and we don't plan on stopping. But we know the risks and we work things out so in the event of a mishap, the effects are minimized.

As egirlky said, you have to be VERY careful who you give yourself to in submission for all the reasons she mentioned.

I might add, that for those who partake in anything more severe than "sensual" S&M (fleesy, furry cuffs and silk scarfs as restraints), that you always remember that your S&M scene is NOT real life, and corporal punishment of any kind in S&M should NEVER be for something that happened in real life. Corporal punishment in S&M should be a bit of fantasy come to life, but real life disagreements, arguments or shortcomings of the partners should never be brought up in an S&M scene. Doing so is a recipe for disaster.

You bet, it's all relative. The mind set you have going into it is what counts - and of course the agreement of your partner if there is one. A lot of people out there would think it "sick" "bizarre" "weird" and who knows what else that my partner and I have really good sex while I'm giving him a 3 quart soapy enema. But so what? We know what we're doing and being responsible the whole time - for ourselves - and hurting no one in the process.

For example, I can't begin to imagine what his parents would say - you can bet all the words above and a lot more. None of them would be tolerant or open-minded I assure you.

Susie, I'm so glad you didn't take any of what I wrote to think it was meant towards you. It wasn't at all. I understand and respect the BDSM community when done responsibly and appreciate the teachings of those more experienced. Although I am quite vocal about things that are done that I would find distasteful or humiliating, I under scening and being with someone with whom you share love, concern and respect and who you can trust with your body, your spirit and your mind. It sounds like you and your fellow have found that with each other and doing what feels right for you. And when you play, it may not be 100% safe, but he makes it as safe as he can and doesn't do it maliciously. Just as part of your agreed upon scene.

There are far too many people out there who are willing to give the power over to someone who doesn't understand the delicate balance of a BDSM relationship and how to make it healthy and happy for each other. Some don't understand the amount of power that a serious mind fuck can have on them, should they find themselves playing with the wrong person, and just how much it can damage them. A lot of people underestimate BDSM and think it's a few spankings here, nipple clamps there, a little ice, candle wax, blindfolds and silk scarves. Nevermind the bruises. They have no idea of the depth of a power exchange and what can happen to their psyche. One of my dearest friends thinks he's "into" mild BDSM. He thinks he is ready for it. To him, BDSM means that a woman ties him up, blindfolds him, tickles him with feathers, lightly scratches his skin, gives him a few spanks and "does whatever she wants to him" and there is no way he can stop her. He's thinking that maybe he'll be "forced" to give her oral sex or that she'll give him a blow job and bring him to the brink of orgasm time after time before allowing him to finally cum and that there is no way he can stop her. Bless his little heart. The psychology of BDSM is what draws in the serious crowd. The weekend adventurer is unprepared for it.

And for every poor fool who wants to explore their "dark side," there are thousands of men and women preying on them for their own sadistic desires. They hunger for power and feed on the sobs and screams of their victims. They don't care about what they're doing to others. They don't care that they're destroying their bodies and minds. They don't care about the aftercare and comfort. It's not scening to them. It's a game to them. But they play for real. There is no backing off and giving "mercy." There are no safe words. There are no limits. Once their victims give up their power, they're toast.

For example, you take a plus-sized girl who feels she doesn't measure up to America's standard of beauty. Add a cheating boyfriend who said, "Well, at least I won't have to look at your fat ass anymore," as he slammed the door to the trailer for the last time. Add an alcoholic stepfather who hurled insults at her as much as he hurled his belt across her ass. "He doesn't mean it," says her Mom. "He only gets like that when he's had too much to drink." Put her in a low-paying job where she takes orders from people younger, prettier and who have better educations, better cars, nicer clothes and whose snickers she hears behind her back.

Now send the girl out into the world and see what happens. She has no self-esteem to speak of, no money, no education, no resources for a better life for herself. The only thing she wants is to be loved. She's read the books, watched the movies and deep inside her, she has hope. The only thing she has to give is her body, as pathetic as it is. So she lies back and accepts any warm body that will touch her body and make her feel good. If only for a moment. He leaves soon after and she's left sticky, dirty and lower than she felt before. How is it that the highs last only seconds, but the lows linger so long? Maybe if she offers more next time, he'll stay longer. Maybe if she's good enough, he'll be the one. So she hones her only skills and puts them out there like an SOS. Save our souls or same old shit. Which do you think will happen?

A stain on a woman's blouse can ruin a woman's life for 24 hours. An unflattering haircut can cause months of bad hair days. A rape that's over in minutes can have irreparable damage to a woman for the rest of her life. What kind of effect do you think a lifetime of emotional, physical and spiritual rape will have? A bad scene can last minutes, hours, days, weeks, months. Repeated insults like repeated blows to the head can leave a woman scarred for life. If they hear something long enough, they get brainwashed into believing whatever they are told. Even the strongest prisoners have a breaking point. What chance does she have? You see the titles of some of the photos here. "Nasty slut getting what she deserves." "Stupid bitch should have known better." "Fat girl taking it up the ass like a good whore." I'm paraphrasing, but you k now what I mean. Constant negative feedback wears on a person's soul. In the hands of the wrong person, one way or another, that soul is lost.

And guys on line wonder why women are so reluctant to meet them?

Defining acts that are "kinky", "weird", or "bizarre" are meaningless. An act that one individual considers as being strange or unusual may be nothing more than act or activity that the observer simply had never considered,therefore it is unusual to the observer.

Consider the act of flying an airplane,at the turn of the last century, many observers considered flying to be bizarre, an unnatural act. Today of course, no one things that it is anything more than a understandable scientific endeavour.

Engaging in activity that has a known risk is a perfectly rational decision if the participants recognize that the activity has risk an then CONSENSUALLY engage in the act.

When someone is forced to participate in an act against there will, the activity may well have passed into the realm of dangerous or even criminal behavior.

BRAVO egirlky, well written and right on point. For the men in the group,the points she makes should be taken to heart. Lets treat women with respect and dignity and maybe,just maybe we will find it a little easier meet women.

I have never been asked to do anything that was vanilla. Seems like most of the ideas to try this or that come from me. I have been turned down for some things by many. Won't even try it. Sometimes I have to "push" the limits and sort of make them let me. Never anything that is going to injure them in any way. Mostly rimming or circling with a finger around the anus. Had a gal that didn't like to give BJ's but sure liked for me to lick hers. I told her i scratch yours, you scratch mine or else. I believe I have only been with 2 women that truly enjoyed swallowing. Only one that loves anal and the only women I know that love enemas are on here. I seem to have always dated limp, unimaginative women in my life except for the one. She will try anything once. I have talked to her lately about enemas and peeked her interest as to how they can be sensual.

Egirlky, it didn't even occur to me that you would be writing anything specifically towards me or anything I would be offended by. I too was involved in sex, BDSM and anal sex as far back as high school, only in my case, it was they guys who were getting it up the ass! 😁 😁

You are right about what you said regarding BDSM, its mystique and what people THINK it is. It can be soft, sensual and ticklish or it can be extraordinarily severe and painful, both physically and emotionally. Newbies to the scene should do a lot of reading on the topic by respected authors in the field [generally shrinks are NOT experts because (a) they are shrinks, and (b) they consider it a perversion they would never become involved in] and newbies should talk with people involved in the activities to get first hand information and experiences before embarking on anything more severe than furry wrist cuffs and silk scarf bondage.

Just a quick note. The example I gave above about a plus-sized woman with no self-esteem is not autobiographical. It's more or less a compilation of several plus-sized gals I know, what they lived through, how they felt about themselves and what they allowed others to do. I used to run a few BBW groups and talked to the gals in ways to show them the positives in their lives and to give them hope and courage for the future. Most healed, but a few stayed with what was known and therefore "comfortable" to them. It breaks my heart, but what can you do? You can only help people who want to help themselves. Change is hard and they were so far gone, they couldn't manage the struggle anymore. I wish them well and hope they all find happiness. It's out of my hands and is in the hands of men now to tell other men they won't stand for that kind of behavior towards women any more. Men need to step up and take care of their own.

A stain on a woman's blouse can ruin a woman's life for 24 hours. An unflattering haircut can cause months of bad hair days. A rape that's over in minutes can have irreparable damage to a woman for the rest of her life. What kind of effect do you think a lifetime of emotional, physical and spiritual rape will have? A bad scene can last minutes, hours, days, weeks, months. Repeated insults like repeated blows to the head can leave a woman scarred for life. If they hear something long enough, they get brainwashed into believing whatever they are told. Even the strongest prisoners have a breaking point. What chance does she have? You see the titles of some of the photos here. "Nasty slut getting what she deserves." "Stupid bitch should have known better." "Fat girl taking it up the ass like a good whore." I'm paraphrasing, but you k now what I mean. Constant negative feedback wears on a person's soul. In the hands of the wrong person, one way or another, that soul is lost.

And guys on line wonder why women are so reluctant to meet them?

egirlky,

I read the entire post and couldn't agree more. I have over the years learned to understand and accept that there are those who engage in BD/SM and DOM/SUB play although that is definitely not my preference or interest in any capacity.

This is exemplified by the first part of my profile as it exists on the enemas4themind website using the same nick/handle I use here..."I am s/w/m/ 55/, I like to give & receive warm, sensual, gentle enemas with women who think like in kind in S.E. Michigan....no men,s/m /bd/doms"... If I could find a way to make such an entry here I would.

The point is, from the time I became sexually active to the present,while being sexually curious and willing to try all manner of variety, there are boundaries. It is real simple,I have always had a mind of the following..."Anything goes as long as it does not bring or cause emotional,physical, or spiritual harm to the people involved".

There is too much pain and hostility in the world as it is without my adding to or participating in it by choice. That is why I have that information as it appears in my profiles elsewhere, that is why I selected my nick/handle for all the enema rooms I am a member in, that is why if it will be hurried and not gentle, I would rather do without...period. Well said egirlky 😃

G.N.

Sorry you had so many unwilling partners. your desires and feelings seem very reasonable to me. I love annilgus on a woman who is receptive.

The only time i ever was surprised was when a long time girl friend of my first wife visited us, and in bed with my wife she said: lets go 'jump Peggy' (her friend). I was very young and although all you hear is men who want a 3-some, I must admit I was taken by surprise and didn't suggest we do so. Perhaps if she had said something like Peg and I have discussed this and we would like to do this, then I would have.

In retrospect i should have been more open.

Most of my lovers loved going down, so it wasn't much of a problem for me. If they didn't go down or didn't know how, I was happy to encourage them and teach them how to please me. If they didn't go down, they didn't last long with me.

A girlfriend and I planned a covert threesome once with my communications professor, unbeknownst to him. She attended class with me and we were going to approach him afterwards and invite him to come home with us. However, immediately after class, another student came in the room and asked for a makeup test and he had to stay after with him. Such a shame. He was so hot! The poor guy has no idea what he missed.

My ex didn't like me going down on her, and I never figured out why. I've never had any complaints from anyone else so I have to assume it was a problem with her, not me. She sure could give some dome though... Another one of my ex's like to grab my hair and 'direct' me. That is *hawt*!

I've never had someone make a request I didn't hesitate to fulfill. The opposite, however.....

Men has a woman ever made a sexual request that you were unwilling to grant? It's a given that men will often request acts from their partner and will be refused. But I'm wondering if men find themselves in the same situations. I'd also like to know if you reluctantly agreed to do what you didn't want to do and if you were pleasantly surprised that you enjoyed it or if it was as bad as or worse than you imagined.

I can't think of any reluctant agreements that have gone wrong, but I'm sure there have been a few. So tell me about your experiences.

I had an experience in late 92, when i was 39 that I believe answers your question with respect to myself.

I had a lover/e-mate at the time I had known for 7 years and we had been living together for a year of that in my home. Over the course of our relationship, we had engaged in all manner of lovemaking ranging from conventional to enemas and a variety of anal/vaginal play with and without toys. All done with complete discussion,understanding and acceptance of boundary definitions.

Our sexual activities had always been consensual,non dominating either way,respecting each others boundaries,knowing where the stop points were. It was always gentle,tender and respectful, with no Dom/Sub overtones whatsoever, always switching back and forth in mutual, tender, give and receive.

One Friday night, with no commitments for the weekend, we got into some very passionate activity on the living room floor with quilt,candles,music,lubes,toys, towels and the like. At one particular point, I was spread eagled face down on the quilt after we had enjoyed some very erotic clean out enemas. I had my legs spread as wide as I could and my buttocks thrust up while she had been thoroughly lubing my rectum with her fingers with Surgilube.

When the time was right, she picked up a lubricated dildo/vibrator the length and diameter of my penis and gently slid it deeply into my totally relaxed rosebud, with me grabbing it reflexively rectally to pull it in further, I had total trust at that point. When it was almost all the way in, she switched it on and began to stroke me to a supreme state of arousal.

After a very short time of this, I was in such a state of excitement that I began to shudder bodily climbing the ladder to a rectally induced orgasm all the while minutely crawling

across the quilt because I could not remain still.

At which point she started roughly and painfully twisting and jabbing the dildo in me. She said in a deep,husky,hostile voice "now I have you where I want you!". I looked around and saw a maliciously evil person looking back at me with full intent of doing harm to one who she perceived as at her complete mercy and powerless to do anything about it.

At that point, I whipped an arm around, grasped her hand and pulled the still vibrating dildo out, got up, cleaned myself with paper towel, got dressed, told her to do the same and pack a bag,I took the house key back(later changing the locks). I drove her to a friends house and dropped her off, with the statement "when you find a place to live, I will send your things to you", which I did.

There are some lines with me you do not cross no matter what...no DOM/SUB...no B/D...no PAIN/PLEASURE....period.

For the next four years, she would periodically contact me claiming one such change or another...etc, I would go and pick her up for a date, going to public places, no change, in 96, I told her not to write or contact me again.

I am fortunate to be mature and educated enough to recognize the situation for what it was, as being an isolated event with one individual, not the entire gender, and put a stop to it before psychological harm occurred, thereby still keeping alive something very pleasurable.

Dear gentlefolk, remember, no means...no...period. If you violate that, all doors to the possibility of future,willing,unreserved experimentation with that particular individual are closed.

Sincerely,

G.N. 😃

In addition to my above post, 3 hard lines for me:

1) I don't urinate on others & don't on me...period

2) Rimming:

Even though I know full good and well how sensitive the rectum is, no matter how clean it is inside and out; the rectum still has active microscopic bacterial pathogens in and around it that can & will be transmitted by orally stimulating the area with ones tongue. I don't imagine a woman would want a tongue that has just been around her anus being put into her mouth or vagina, and I certainly don't want one that has been at mine put into my mouth. Saliva,moist medium = method of transmission...no thanks.

There are other very pleasurable ways to stimulate the rectum. Lets see.... 8 fingers, 2 thumbs,a pair of "soft touch" gloves, good lube, appropriate insertables, a tender gentle caressing touch......you figure it out. 😃

G.N.

Getting back to the original topic - bizarre sex. 😉

Many have asked, "define bizarre." Obviously, it's subjective! For me, when I first had anal sex at 18, I don't know if I would have categorized it as "bizarre," but I thought it was kinky. Now, as time has passed and I have become more experienced, I don't consider this kinky in the least. And, I don't consider anything I do "bizarre."

Maybe the question is....what would you consider to be bizarre sex? Necrophilia and bestiality would definitely fall into this category for me...and something I would never do or consider, of course.

Arianna, I have to agree with you. Everything comes down to perception. Everyone has a different way of seeing everything. The definition of bizarre as well as the definition of normal are both ruled by perception.

My 2 main feelings on this are: 1. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. 2. Have fun 😄

Enemay1,

That is indeed good counsel. Also, looking back at the posts, Ginnie makes a very good point and reminds all of us to be safe.

A.

Everyone on this forum who has enhanced their sex activity with enemas has acted in a bizarre and aberrant way. At least that's what the majority would say. Some would even go further by calling anything but sex in the missionary position for the purpose of pro-creation as vile and bizarre. Webster just tries to define the word in generalities, but it is the individual that adds the type of behavior he or she thinks was meant by the definition. To some it could be as simple as a change in the way that sex is performed or how it's played out before or after the actual act of coitus. To others it means something more severe and extreme like what Arianna has mentioned...bestiality and necrophelia. These sexual variants are so complex that they've received their own definitions and countless studies by medical professionals. When the average person hears the words kinky, bizarre, abberant, far-out, sick, odd, etc. as it relates to sexual behavior, they lump them into any activity that doesn't neatly fit into their box of 'normal' sex. The individual doesn't define the meaning, only what might fit the definition.

My just dearest out of the blue asked me to go down on her right after regular sex. I was reluctant at first but she really wanted to try it so I obliged. She loved it and had a monster orgasm and I found it not bad as well. Its now a regular part of our repertoir. Its best with a shaved or at least trimmed pussy. Guys, if you really want to please your lady try it!

Oh, you lucky people! I'm married to Miss Plain Vanilla. What I'd give to get an enema from her! Trouble is, there's no hot fudge, whipped cream, banana, nuts, or cherry on top.

And NO negotiation!

Well.....quite a list egirlky. Let me think..... .. .... .. .. ..

Rimming: Gived and received. Have been declined when asking for this but I never said No when it was me being asked. My wife let me do this once and found she really enjoyed the feeling of a warm tongue playing over her rosebud.

Anal Sex: All my partners have given and received this from me. I include anal massage, fingers and toys in this catagory. My greatest sexual experience EVER was going camping with an old BF and his longtime partner. I was so excited at the prospect of making love with both of them, I asked whoever was driving to find a deserted road to pull off on because I couldn't wait the 5 hours it would take to drive. They both ended up taking me in the backseat while the other stood lookout.

Watersports: By accident, I found this turned me and my wife on. She was laying on top of me, letting me lick her out after a few glasses of white wine when she emptied her bladder. I ended up actually swallowing most of it.

Bondage: Yes. I found more of my same sex partners liked it than my opposite sex did. The best is when using it as just a warm up for sex but sometimes it is nice to tie your partner spread-eagle and tease them until they are begging and pleading for you to 'finish' them off.

Oral Sex: I really don't think this is too kinky, except the first time you perform it.

Food: Grapes. Think about it. 😉

Discipline: Light spankings mostly. I find real pain to be very unsexy.

Groups: Had sex a few times in the presence of others, mostly just listening in but a few times actually watching the others.

When I was younger, I was too shy to pee in front of anyone. I had a lover who wanted me to pee on him, but I couldn't even try. He even encouraged me to pee on him while he was going down on me, but I couldn't. Another lover wanted to pee on me, but I was completely opposed to that.

I'm not so shy now, so if a lover wanted me to pee in front of him or on him or whatever, I'd give it a shot. I'm still too squeamish to allow anyone to give me a golden shower, though. I don't really get the appeal of GS, but I'd like to learn more. I read something once a few years ago that made it sound kind of appealing, but I don't remember what it was. Maybe some of the GS folks here can explain what they get out of giving and getting GS.

Another request I've refused is to have a man ejaculate on my face. I might be old fashioned, but I find it insulting if a man wants to come anywhere except inside my body. I don't care if it is in my pussy, my mouth or my ass. They are ready and willing to take what my lover gives. But if a man wants to ejaculate on my face or my body, it says to me that he doesn't think I'm worthy of his sperm and is the same as a slap in the face to me. Cum inside, gentlemen. Cum inside...

Dianne, I think the cum on the face was invented by & for those phony sex videos.

I don't know if its considered bizarre or not but it sure was fun. A few years ago during spring break I did three guys at the same time triple penetration. I still shiver when I think of the orgasms I had