Why do women like anal intercourse?

For some of us anal sex is all about an urge to get dominated, used, humiliated, hurt, raped. (And having one's excremental-passage interfered with is crucial in terms of humiliation - punishment - being put back into one's rightful place).

All of which some would say is not a healthy urge for a woman to have, but...that's the way it is,

My wife likes both vaginal and anal although I think her orgasms are more intense from anal. We don't have a plan but sometimes it ends up anal, sometimes not. I do very much enjoy her bottom.

Why ask why? Just be grateful for the ones that do!

Back when my now wife and I were dating, she was slightly curious about anal sex, but had never been penetrated anally before, neither sexually nor medically. She was apprehensive for a while, but we started small, quite literally. First a well lubed and gloved pinky to slightly penetrate her anus, after a few times of that the pinky went in all the way. Next was the index finger, first partial insertion then full insertion. We stayed with that for a while until she was very comfortable and relaxed, even aroused by anal penetration by a finger. Soon she wanted me to give her anal sex. The first time I entered her with my condom wrapped and well lubed penis, I entered her VERY slowly. Once I was in all the way, I didn't move for a moment, until she gave me the go ahead to thrust away. But I moved out, and especially back in slowly until she told me to go a little faster. After that first time, she wanted me to go at that faster pace from then on, which is still slower than when we have regular vaginal sex. We both come during anal sex quicker than when we have vaginal sex.

I don't give her anal sex often, she wants it only occasionally, but she does like me to finger her ass often while I tongue her clit, rubbing her g spot through her rectal wall. It drives her wild, and she has quite powerful orgasms from that combination of stimulation!

Maybe same/similar reason men are anal erotic and like plugs and pegging? Lots of nerve endings and feels good? Just my 2¢ since I'm extremely anal erotic. Also, for me, throw in enemas, though that's more extensive and complicated than straight anal eroticism.

Eric

I admire and praise women that will admit to loving anal sex ! and i envy all you couples that do each other anally , as for me being a male , orgasming with a toy in you up against your prostrate is such an intense explosion and feels so good and being able to experience that with a female lover is a special kinky sex act !!!!! I wish one of those special nasty girls would contact me and tell me how they would do me and abuse me !

I have only experienced anal sex a total of 4 times and that is over the past 2 years.

Just from my experience, I think women/girls like being taken anally is because for me it feels like the man behind me is in control and it is really up to him how gentle or rough anal sex is going to be. On one end of intensity one of the guys who took me anally mostly held me by my hips and it felt like he was giving me a gentle massage... that is after the initial pain. On the other end of intensity one of the guys who took me anally was much more rough. His treatment of me once he is behind me was I felt he was going to take me no matter what. He grabbed my hair into a ponytail and pulled my head and neck back so that I would not struggle or try to move away and if I did he would just pull back harder. But in the end, I felt much more sexier and sexual for the guy that was rougher with me. Anyway that is how I view anal sex.

Kathy

So many nerve endings there, so sensitive...and the whole taboo thing about it!!

My wife is not comfortable with any penetration larger than my index finger, but she loves some anal attention. Last night after preorgasm vaginal action, while I was still inside her, she rolled over on her side, presenting her back to me. Spooning, we continued to stroke. When I slid my hand down her back, she responded very happily. We both enjoyed my fingering her anus, even with little anal penetration. I am sure this will become a regular way to finish.

It's a different experience than traditional PiV sex. When I experience anal penetration it feels sort of wrong and taboo along with the unique sensation. I will admit that a lot of my enjoyment is psychological: when I have PiV sex, we are both into it and work each other toward orgasm. When I submit to anal penetration, I feel more used. Like, my partner knows it's uncomfortable and I'm not receiving the same pleasure, but they like it, so I must grit my teeth and endure it (which, in itself, arouses me).

The answer as to why women like anal has many answers, some that are obvious, others that you might not have thought of. They would include but are not limited to:

1) Desire for unprotected sex without the worry about an ill timed pregnancy.

2) Laying on your tummy exposing your inner most private parts and the feeling of total submission to your partner/spouse)

3) It really feels good as he passes slowly past your threshold sliding slowly up into you.

4) The getting ready ritual (an enema series to assure you are clean back there) that is even more exciting if your partner/spouse gives them to you while fondling various parts of your body.

5) It is a great encore to regular sex (never do anal first)

6) It shows how gentle and loving your partner/spouse can be to you by very slowly and patiently first entering your bottom and slowly pushing himself high up into you while you push back to receive all of him.

7) The warm feeling inside as he reaches his peak and releases all those millions of little fishies into and realizing they are all swimming in competition towards the promised land not realizing that the prize is next door!! 😃

😎 Hey, did I mention it really feels good and according to my husband it is awesome as things are much tighter around his manhood than regular sex particularly after having multiple children.

9) It really is something special and erotic!!

Those are just a few of the reasons that I like anal sex. I can think of others too and I am sure other women can think of many other reasons. Based on my experience with my husband, I think men like anal sex too since they can both give and receive!!!

With regard to Suzy and all the anally-oriented women who enjoy anal, I would very much appreciate your reading my additions to "Techniques that Heighten Enema Pleasure." My focus is on the cerebral and emotional drive that women have to be satisfied by extensive and innovative anal, rectal and enema treatments.....especially treatment by ENEMA. Please know that all of my comments are based upon years of my administering to women who strongly need this on a regular basis....even if they do not have a partner and all they can do is think about it and do it to themselves. My mission is to let you know how the women I have treated, being totally focused on anal and enema stimulation, have achieved and experienced the heights of satisfaction, especially by application of many different enema techniques, whether they be carried out by: bag enema; long tube enema; pump (Higginson) enema; large bulb enema; curved, 8", black douche nozzle enema; seated (JBL Cascade) bag enema; hours-long fast drip enema; or strap-on dildo enema. Please let me have your comments and feel free to message me. Cheers.

With regard to Suzy and all the anally-oriented women who enjoy anal, I would very much appreciate your reading my additions to "Techniques that Heighten Enema Pleasure." My focus is on the cerebral and emotional drive that women have to be satisfied by extensive and innovative anal, rectal and enema treatments.....especially treatment by ENEMA.

The topic here is -

Why do women like anal?

The word "anal" refers to anal intercourse.

This isn't a discussion of why some women enjoy enemas. That belongs elsewhere, probably on this thread instead -

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=33778

We do need to be clear on what (and who) this thread is actually about.

To some (or many) members, anal sex and enemas might well go together, but it should also be remembered that for many women, anal sex is something they can enjoy without also having any interest in enemas. My wife is an example of this.

I happen to be one of those women that enjoy both enemas and anal sex, sometimes simultaneously. However I have never felt the need to do an enema prior to anal sex. Had I felt I needed to tho I would not hesitate to do so.

I do want to clarify though that there is a huge distinction between anal play, wether it be with enemas, toys, fingers, or tongues it is just that, anal play. It is not anal intercourse.

I understand DrZ’s reasons for wanting to separate the two as with any other topic, all posts should and must be kept in the correct thread.

I love it because it feels so gooooood! I love it because it feels so naughty!

I like how so many MEN are saying why THEY THINK woman like anal.

Why don't you guys let us TELL YOU instead of making suppositions.

Ok I am going to go back to the OP.

It feels amazing! It's naughty, it's taboo, it's something some of us were taught that good girls don't do. Its erotic, it's sensual it's hot! For some of us it really is such an erogenous zone, one little touch and it gets my juices instantly flowing.

While I have never used anal sex as a form of birth control ( it really isn't anyway) I always thought it was something so intimate. My first time having anal sex was with my husband and many years into my marriage. I have only had anal with one other man and thankfully he was so patient . For me it's not the first go to and It's never a quickie. It takes some prep work to actually get full penetration but oh the fun and deliciousness of getting there makes it so worth the effort. I don't orgasm easy and always figured I could never orgasm from anal alone....I was so gloriously wrong ! ?

Why don't you guys let us TELL YOU instead of making suppositions.

Right on, SwitchableSusie!!

I like it because when you get ready for anal, the man has to most likely finger you back there, and you can’t see what’s going on and you also have to give up that private part of you to all of his control, in how fast or hard he does it, same with penetration back there. Also you are exposing yourself completely back there, especially if he makes you bend over.

I like how so many MEN are saying why THEY THINK woman like anal.

Why don't you guys let us TELL YOU instead of making suppositions.

I'd prefer to have my wife SHOW me.

I love it because I feel as though the sensations I experience back there are far more powerful than vaginal. Also, it’s become ritualistic for my husband and I. We start with me over his lap while he plays with my ass and gets me ready. The fact that I am turned around, facing down and in a far more submissive position turns me on too. I like the feeling of powerlessness. It used to feel “taboo” to me but we do it so often it’s kind of turned in to a vanilla thing for me. Maybe French vanilla. With a kick. 😉

I prefer anal sex for many good reasons which are of course based on my personal taste. To name one, because anal orgasms are so much better, more powerful and all consuming.

I must agree with @Annalea. An anal orgasm is the most intense feeling I think I have ever experienced. It doesn't happen every time, but when it does, it is simply breathtaking.

Deb

Deb,

For a woman, what do you mean by anal orgasm? Orgasm strictly from anal sex or penetration alone, or an orgasm from other stimulation like clitoral but with an anal plug or enema in? I've had something akin to an orgasm from prostate massage alone, but I'm just trying to clarify how you mean it for a woman. Thanks,

Eric

@ericmacson, what I mean by an anal orgasm is what I would characterize almost as an anal spasm that is very "electric". For me, it is quite different from a vaginal/clitoral orgasm in that it is centered in my rectum and G-spot and radiates through my body (likely similar to the one you described as a result of prostate massage). Hubby has remarked whenever I've had an anal orgasm that it feels as though his penis has been completely consumed inside my rectum. They are rare...but then, that's what makes them so special!

Hope that helps describe it in a more definitive way.

Deb

I am not a woman to answer that and can only speak from experience.

I think the majority of women like anal sex to please their partners. There are still many women who prefer vaginal sex that will give them orgasms.

Women who also like anal sex have an edge over other women in that they will be preferred by their partners over others for this.

The women who like anal sex would always like to have vaginal sex to orgasm before they have anal sex. They would have been satisfied by then and very relaxed to receive anal sex. I do not think men should not do the reverse.

Appreciate all women to comment on my post.

Thank you

Thanks, Deb.

Eric

Personally for me I love anal intercourse. I think it's because of the lead up to it and the anticipation just as much as the act itself. My partner takes his time preparing me, using his tongue to get me excited, lubing me up and slowly opening me up with his fingers or a small toy. By the time he is ready to penetrate me I'm totally relaxed and eager. I don't have any orgasms this way, except when I'm doggie style and using a vibrator on my clitoris.

Some women like the sense of being dominated.they like the humiliation and pain of anal sex.for some maybe the idea of anal as something "nasty" and "forbidden" is a huge turn on.

anal is fun,try it ladies!

I dont have the answer but I’ve wondered about it alot.

I’ve had anal intercourse with 4 women. In each of those relationships anal sex ended up happening alot more often than vaginal. At the time I never thought to ask Why do you like anal intercourse? Although we did discuss our desires.

The first woman was like me, anal obsessed. It was for her utterly taboo, naughty. Her family was very strict and religious, she was the black sheep. She had such a fetish and desire to have her bottom exposed, spread, rimmed, fingered and fucked and loved talking about it before during and after. We never again had vaginal sex after we first had anal. And she loved returning the favor, loved spreading and exploring and penetrating my bottom.

The second woman was quite different. When we first began exploring one another, she usually lay on her stomach or straddled me 69, so her bottom was often what I was looking at. Her enjoyment was very physical, she wasn’t into the naughty or taboo aspect, talked easily about bodily functions, and was perfectly comfortable letting me explore her anal area early in the relationship. Rimming and fingering made her very happy but having a thick hard cock pumping in and out of her anus made her groan in a guttural way. She would play with her clit and always tried to time her orgasm with mine.

The 3rd woman had zero anal sex experience or desire before she met me. She later told me she’d shamed a previous boyfriend for touching her anus during sex. The night I met her was very alcohol fueled and we had drunken messy sex that we didn’t much remember when we woke up. Fortunately we laughed it off. Very hungover. Half asleep on her stomach I looked and realized what a gorgeous ass she had and started caressing it. She moaned and said it felt good. Don’t know where I got the courage but I put my thumbs along her bottom crease and said “can I have a look in here?” gently pulling her cheeks open. But before I got a look she pulled away saying “no, not there!” in a teasing way. She must have thought about it and realized it was something exciting because the next time I saw her we were totally sober, skipped dinner, headed straight to the bedroom, and not long after removing all our clothes she handed me a vibrator and said in a lusty voice I still remember “I want you to put this in my ass.” For the next year her bottom was never ignored in the bedroom and usually ended up with KY and my cum in it. To this day I’m still not sure why she switched her opinion about anal sex.

The 4th was a very sweet, conservative looking and dressing woman, a librarian actually. On our first date I wasn’t even sure a kiss was even a possibility. How looks can deceive! The first date ended in bed to my surprise but I was still a bit hesitant. On our 2nd date she asked for a massage when I drove her home. Naked and facedown on the bed, she seemed to be enjoying my hands and very slowly I began massaging her very cute bottom, gently stroking her cheeks and spreading them because I wanted to look at her anus. Something I didn’t even consider at the beginning of our first date. She moaned louder. I remember holding her bottom wide open at one point asking “are you ok?” “Mmm yes” she said. “Cause I can see pretty much everything right now” I said. “I know” she whispered. Not long after I began to rim her for the first time which got us both more excited. I straddled her so we could fuck and began to push my cock into her pussy. I wasn’t thinking about anal intercourse since we’d only had vaginal intercourse once before anyway. As I started to push into her she said “no, in my ass”. “Really?” I had to ask (I was surprised plus we had no lube just the saliva and pussy juices). “Yes fuck my ass” she said panting. We were both quite worked up at this point. When the time came I asked if I could cum inside her and she said yes. That was the first of many such times, though she never said why she liked it so much. And she said no one had ever touched her asshole although her former husband had wanted to have anal sex but she didn’t at that time. We had vaginal sex occasionally. She loved cunnilingus. But having her bottom licked and fingered and fucked made her very happy. Usually she liked having me “prepare” her by fingerfucking her anus with 2 fingers and vaseline. She would always ask me to do that with a big grin on her face.

In the end, why we have our desires is always pretty mysterious.