Why do women like anal intercourse?

Interesting topic and one where the guy must be extra careful to make sure his partner is ready and wants. Before I did the first time I did lot of reading. The interesting thing is my wife is dominant in lots of things, but when it comes to sex is a submissive. She makes it easy as she keeps herself clean and so oral sex is a pleasure and timing was not as large a turn off as I thought it would be. I like the doggie position because of the added visual stimulation. I am a lights on guy and so I like it. She never indicated like or dislike other than doing it more than once. Bottom line no pun intended, I feel like men should be patient and understanding and stop if asked. Just my opinion may not even be the right thought for the issue.

INMHO for most women that have experience with anal sex, it is still a hit or miss option. Sometimes my wife doesn't want me any where near her ass; sometimes she enjoys a slippery finger during vaginal sex. And then there is that three or four times a year that she wants to be just completely dominated anally. She needs deep very slippery and slow tempo thrusts. I used to finger her pussy at the same time, but now I help her with the powerful magic wand and she has the capacity to be completely in the moment and her orgasms drive me to cum as hard as I can in her ass. After all of these years, she is not reluctant to talk about it. I always tell her that I love everything about her, but sometimes I tell her how much I love her when she feels naughty. I know I would not like it if she let me take her ass if she was not really into it. She is aware that I would like it more, but I have told her multiple times, that I don't want it unless she does.

There are some girls that like it some of the time, some girls that like it all of the time and some girls that ABSOLUTELY fucking hate it anytime. I know that very well unfortunately.

I enjoy, oh hell I LOVE anal sex, so many ways to play, toys, fingers, cocks oh my!!!! Anyway, always communicate, best advice! Talk about how you feel about it , what you like, how you like , if you like, comes down to just talk, and of course LUBE!!!

Play safe

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Think about it this way: as a guy, do you like having your penis played with? How about your testicles? If you don't want to exclusively pick between one or the other, you now understand how it's possible for women to like anal too.

Or the more fun answer as to why women like anal: because why should the woman always be on the receiving end? ?

I can also tell you that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. I don't always want it same as her; but I have thoroughly enjoyed a nice cock sucking while she hand fucked fucked me with a vibrator...and it is not a little one either.

The number of men responses to those of women’s is overwhelming.

This goes against the principles of sampling to be able to conclude that women in general love anal sex.

Does anyone know of a survey conducted on women to determine whether they like, dislike or are indifferent to anal sex?

In years past, before contraception was very poor or none at all, women liked it for a different reason. You can't get pregnant. So if she was "buggered" (the old term), she was free to enjoy herself without fear of an unwanted child. Maybe not the only reason then but it did fit into the picture.

Does anyone know of a survey conducted on women to determine whether they like, dislike or are indifferent to anal sex?

That would be very interesting to read.

Though I do hope there is also written why they dislike anal sex and even more how to persuade them to like it.

You can't get pregnant. So if she was "buggered" (the old term), she was free to enjoy herself without fear of an unwanted child.

Not true! That's where politicians and lawyers come from! 😄 😄 😄

The dormant @benja asked, 'As a guy, I used to think anal is my only way of being sexually penetrated; women have a vagina. So why do women like anal penetration?'

Because it's fun and I like it. 😈 Mystery solved.

And that Jim Jefferies 😁 😁 😁 he's the kind of man I'd like to have when all I want is to get off and then get on with my day. 😉 😈 But I have vibrators that do just as much and I don't have to wait for them to pull their pants up and let them out the door when I'm in that mood. 😁

But Jim Jefferies is spot on about responsibility for our own orgasms. I'm lucky to have lovers in my life who can be as my husband but who also can be a 'Jim Jefferies' when that mood or fuck is all what I want from a man. I think that was the point of it all in his video in that when I'm in the mood or he's in the mood for anal sex, then all I have to be is me AND there for him or us.

Wonder where all the gals are who liked it up the rear... I sure have not met any.... okay, a finger yes or maybe, but not my cock... Often wondered upon meeting someone new, how it would be if she cleverly said from the onset that she hates vaginal sex and only likes anal; would I then be begging for vaginal sex...

Wonder where all the gals are who liked it up the rear... I sure have not met any.... okay, a finger yes or maybe, but not my cock... Often wondered upon meeting someone new, how it would be if she cleverly said from the onset that she hates vaginal sex and only likes anal; would I then be begging for vaginal sex...

For women, anal sex is an acquired taste. They acquire it in steps. First is falling in love with a man who needs it and wanting him badly enough to react positively. Then she has to be introduced to it gently and slowly, either by the man or experimenting on her own. Most important is a that positive attitude, which makes her anal-curious, then anal-receptive, and eventually anal-erotic. She has to learn to like it. When that happens, the object of her affections usually marries her. Over time, she may come to share her husband's desire for anal only, and all other men are out of luck.

I got lucky at 19, with a much older woman who had become completely anal erotic (and VERY receptive) in her former marriage. During pillow talk, she once confided that, between her husband and me, she had masturbated anally almost every day right after getting home from work and sometimes again at bedtime. Can't share any other details, because they might identify any or all of us. Hope you get lucky too!

anal sex for women is

For the same reasons that men do?

It is funny to see all the males answering in this topic when it was asked

So why do women like anal penetration?

It is funny to see all the males answering in this topic when it was asked

That's what I said a year ago.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=955513

Perhaps it's the right time to suggest that the male members back away from posting on this thread quite so much.

Let us allow the female members a bit of space to post their own views.

I like anal intercourse for a few reasons. I have liked the way anal stimulation felt since I was a kid, so there is just a lot of appeal in a guy putting his cock inside of me like that. Maybe I consider that my special place? It feels really good and also feels kind of naughty, and only naughty guys really like to do that. I think that it makes me really horny, possibly more than regular sex, and I like regular sex. I think a guy fucking a girl in the ass is just very hot, and I love to watch that kind of porn too. I also think that the prep for anal sex is nice and makes me excited too.

This thread is not addressed to women only. It simply asks a question that both men and women can participate in.

The issue might be that there are so many more men on zity than women. A click on Discussions Recent Unseen always shows far more men names in blue than women names in red.

This thread is not addressed to women only. It simply asks a question that both men and women can participate in.

The issue might be that there are so many more men on zity than women. A click on Discussions Recent Unseen always shows far more men names in blue than women names in red.

Once again, that is a myth. The approximate percentage of active female members is actually 45%.

All I'm saying is that the male members might give the female members a bit of room, and that way the discussion might become a little more evenly balanced.

Ok boys and girls - 3 years, 7 months, 6 days ago I posted this little gem of wisdom,

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=723090

Well now I have had a lot more experience with anal sex and I love it. It does not feel better than vaginal sex for me - because vaginal sex and an orgasm from the 'traditional' source for me just can't be beat. I love it. 🌹 But vaginal sex is not something taboo in the main stream of the world and talk shows, movies, you name it, don't 'gasp' when talking about regular sexual intercourse. Bring up anal sex in these same places and watch the eyes roll and the junior high giggling and fake modesty set in.

As much as I love vaginal sex - it is something I love for just being close to someone and can run the gamut from hot & heavy to soothing & sentimental and everything in between. But anal sex - boys and girls that is where it gets fun and naughty just because it is butt sex and how the rest of the world views it. Only special people can have me in my ass or people that I just want to fuck. Saying it another way - anal sex is for fun, and those I have anal sex with are people I love and / or people I really like but am not 'romantically' or 'emotionally' inclined towards. An example - Dave, of Ruthie & Dave, I don't take him vaginally anymore, but I do like him as a friend, and he is fun to fuck. I don't go through the day thinking about him and nothing particularly warm and fuzzy when I do think about him. He's just fun.

If I am having vaginal intercourse with you - chances are good that I do and will want anal intercourse with you. If I have anal intercourse with you - it doesn't mean you get me vaginally, you are someone I welcome, but there has to be more.

Also on the subject of anal intercourse - I don't really like it if I am being fucked so hard that I have to have two hands to keep from losing my balance. 😉 I want to be able to dedicate one of my hands to rubbing one off. 😁

While I'm not an anal virgin and have had and enjoy anal sex with my husband, I have to say that from what I've read here there is a lot more to anal sex than I've thought. I was that way about enemas when my husband "came out" and let me in on his "deep dark secret". My husband loving enemas the way he does got me interested in them to try so that I could see what the attraction was. Sure enough they do feel good and I am really into enemas now. In a way, enemas are one way that I can know what something feels like for a man, too, because when we talk about enemas what he describes, I also feel. 🌹

Once we broke through the "enema taboo barrier" both of our thoughts rolled around to "what if?" when it came to our asses. What would feel good and all of a sudden a trip with him to the hardware store or the car parts store had some possibilities. 😉 😈 And what we tried on each other with wrench handles, screw driver handles, squeegee handles, and you name it, and it felt good back there for both of us. 😁 BOTH of us had a question in the back of our minds, "what if we did me in my ass?" I had to think about it a little because my husband is a big guy, but he wasn't so hard to convince. 😉 😕

Then after a few enemas and some warm up, that first time with my husband behind me, me on my elbows and knees. Having him put things in my ass from our play was not a problem and I loved it, but this was him, and it felt so damned good. 🌹 I got goosebumps and there really isn't any comparison to my husband's penis in my ass to any toy OR tool we played with. It was all him and all in me and it was like the last thing or missing piece of the two of us totally experiencing each other. 🌹 It was official; he had me in every place available. I like that. 🌹 But it isn't for "quickies" and is more for some play time planning and we usually make a date of it. The enemas, the teasing him so he can be really hard and build up the pressure 😈 and a lot of me "visually stimulating" him with going bottomless and "accidentally" brushing up against him when he goes to work. Yeah, think about that big boy when you are working! 😈 😁 😁 😁

I'm putting these links in here because I want to remember where they are. They are good to read and the women who wrote them put a lot of thought into them, especially the last link. But mostly, I just want someplace I can go to find the quality of writing and how they feel about anal sex;

@Lora_C, https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1020401

@bridgette, https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=955696

@Denise, https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=946743

@egirlky, https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=434024

@SwitchableSusie, https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=414413

@SwitchableSusie, https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=415059

@Dahiana - since you are soooo much younger than some of 'old farts' here, I have to say that you did a nice post. I am flattered that you liked my post - and even put it in your list, and most of those were very good about why women like anal intercourse. But why that last link?

Or should I put that in a PM?

This thread is not addressed to women only. It simply asks a question that both men and women can participate in.

The original post says

As a guy, I used to think anal is my only way of being sexually penetrated; women have a vagina. So why do women like anal penetration?

The ones with the experience to answer this are the women. Men can speculate and they can share what partners have said. But women can give their personal experience and opinion as to why they like anal penetration.

@Dahiana - since you are soooo much younger than some of 'old farts' here, I have to say that you did a nice post. I am flattered that you liked my post - and even put it in your list, and most of those were very good about why women like anal intercourse. But why that last link?

Or should I put that in a PM?

@Lora_C put it wherever it makes you feel the best. 😉 😁 😁 😁

But seriously, I didn't mean to put that last link in there and I know it does not pertain to women liking anal sex. My bad. Excuuuusssseeee me. 😁

If someone has a butt hurt over the last one, tough. I put it there because there was apparently some jerk commenting about anal sex and that @SwitchableSusie called him (or her) out on it. There's another one, above that and two others above that, which I liked. It does have to do with women and anal sex, but indirectly I suppose. It was for my reference.

It does make a point as to what you and others wrote about anal sex though, in being taboo. That last link kind of summed it up for me.

Does that help?

Thanks for the statistics @DrZ

That’s surprising given how the male to female replies on my Recent Unseen Page are often much more skewed to men than 45%.

Thanks for the statistics @DrZ

That’s surprising given how the male to female replies on my Recent Unseen Page are often much more skewed to men than 45%.

I think you're surprised because you are assuming that most women in a mixed group will discuss sex as much and as openly as the males.

I think you're surprised because you are assuming that most women in a mixed group will discuss sex as much and as openly as the males.

Sex is just another thing you can do with your body---just like eating, breathing, playing tennis, watching tv, riding a bicycle, etc.

Maybe it's this. Probably most female penetration begins with the vagina. Apparently enough women then become curious what the other opening feels like too!

I think it's awesome that women have such a option!

Okay my two cents. What’s not to love about anal? It’s a taboo thing maybe, but for me it feels like I’m being taken. It’s the slapping of the balls, it’s the position. It’s the intense feeling like you have to go, then not, then yes... it’s the pressure. Plus it’s knowing the person giving it is usually having a good workout and enjoying himself. Besides it’s not always about an orgasm, it’s sex it should be fun! Sometimes it’s nice to explore other areas.