Can an enema giver refuse to be an enema receiver?

I have searched the Forum and not found this question specifically addressed.

I, as a male, find it extremely erotic to give a female an enema. I have also been extremely lucky to have found some very willing participants. In this process we have had many hours of pleasure and intimacy.

I, however, do not enjoy receiving an enema and avoid this as much as possible.

In reading in the Forum, it would appear (not a scientific calculation or conclusion)that females tend to be the givers and men appear to be much more reciprocal.

Is this true and am I being unfair to avoid enemas but enjoying giving them?

Of course you have the right to refuse.

If you give one to someone and chooses to negotiate receiving one...that is your choice but you are not obligated.

I personally haven't found a "liking" to taking an enema. But boy do I like to give them. I don't rule out the possibility that someday I will find them enjoyable, but right now. They just don't trigger the sexual buttons in my body. When I give them they do. So you are not alone in this. It is just how you are. Enjoy giving and your receivers won't be complaining.

John, I feel the exact same way myself! I HATE the damn things. They only make me NAUSEOUS AND WANT TO VOMIT sometimes. The ONLY time that I ever do anal stuff is when I try new equipment on myself, so I can see how to use it better! That’s it. I have NEVER had a woman do enemas to me! I would just say no! Fortunately, because I only play with girls, I don’t have any of them that INSIST on giving them to me! But, for some reason, I love doing them to women! Figure that one out!

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“I can remember as far back as kindergarten wondering what the teacher would look like with a hose in her butt.”

EXACTLY!!!!!!!! ME TOO!!!! Dude, I did that all through school!!!!! Except, I always dreamed about HUGE douche bulb nozzles and stuff. It’s always SOMETHING IN HER ASS! Enemas, toys, whatever! If women did not come with a vagina that would be just fine with me. Move her clitoris and her G-spot to her ass, where they belong!

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“My impression from the site is that most guys like to receive.”

That’s the impression I got too! Glad to see that I’m not alone in this feeling!

All the female givers can try the enemas in me!! i love to get enemas mutch more than the giving. i can not think about a male as a partner. i have found a few women that love the enemas and i do enjoy pleasing women witha good enema.

I enjoy both giving and receiving enemas, although I understand why some people prefer to give and not receive. For me, I don't want a one-way street. I want someone who is equally interested in giving and receiving...equates to maximum stimulation and pleasure for me.

Arianna

There are those who like to only receive.

There are those who like to only give.

There are those who like to give & receive.

I am of the last persuasion, as mentioned, I prefer a two way street. The final analysis is that many different people enjoy many different aspects of enemas, not exclusively one particular way. As long as you don't get any complaints,do what is right for you, and if a partner complains about you not receiving, then you might reconsider letting her give you one, and that depends on the nature of the relationship at the time.

GN

Me personally, I would think every "giver" should be a "reciever" at least once, at least to know who the other feels. Me, when I buy shots at the bar for my brother or friends birthday I always get pairs one for me and the other for them.

So, thats my stand point.

I was shocked when I read some of the posts. That some people (and it appears to be mostly men), only want to give and not receive. That makes no sense. The pleasure of an enema is feeling the water going up and up and deeper and deeper, etc. Giving is fine, and frequently one has to give in order to receive, but I still don't get it. What's in it for the giver if he's not going to get one??

I think one can be a giver without being expected to be on the receiving end, however, if you are only going to be a giver, you should be on the receiving end at least once so that you are well aware of what sensations the receiver feels while taking the enema.

"I was shocked when I read some of the posts. That some people (and it appears to be mostly men), only want to give and not receive. That makes no sense. The pleasure of an enema is feeling the water going up and up and deeper and deeper, etc. Giving is fine, and frequently one has to give in order to receive, but I still don't get it. What's in it for the giver if he's not going to get one?? "

Evidently, for you receiving is very pleasurable but from reading other posts it is clear that not everyone experiences receiving the same way...for some people it is uncomfortable and some people feel nauseous.

What is in it for the giver is being able to share the intimacy with the person who is receving...giving that person the experience they have decided upon.

I like to receive 100% of the time. I tried giving a few times and found no pleasure in it.

I have only receive them. But open to give an enema as well.

Of course...why not? If you mean being polite to reciprocate when asked, then that is something you should work out and get clear before you meet. I would think that most people into enemas would be interested in experiencing the full spectrum of play.

What's in it for the giver if he's not going to get one??

The satisfaction and enjoyment of doing something for him that he finds pleaaaasureable. He's anally oriented sexually, and enjoys being dominated just a little bit. I am not, and do not enjoy being the receiver. So in spanking, enema play, and anal play I'm giving him what he wants in bed. He has his own ways of pleasuring me.

Hi,

I too do not like receiving enemas, but to me, giving them is another part of d/s stuff and my subs don't like to switch so them giving enemas to me would not satisfy them or me

Bill

I think you should know before you begin who is going to what to whom, whether its the goose/gander situation, or not? Maybe there is a different trade off-if I get to do this to you, you get to do that to me.

I would like to give as well as receive. It would be something that you share mutually with your partner and would bring you even closer in your relationship.

I like to give and receive I enjoy it very much. I still say that yes the person has the right not to receive one maybe they are not up to it at that moment. Next time will be different

Of course, you can refuse. It's all by private agreement. The important thing is that you keep your promises.

Another way that I look at my only giving is, why waste that wonderful pleasure on me. I don't get that pleasure(I've had over 100 enemas for medical purposes. I've had the experience of being filled, just not in a sexual context.) so let my sub have the fun for me. I'll get my fun the best way I know how. 😉

My first wife and I shared enemas both give and receive.but my second wife will only give me an enema,but not receive.She doesn't give for her pleasure,she knows how much I enjoy them.I can live with that because my wife has so many other good qualities.Let the good times flow. w/m72yrs/W.MA

If give one I would be prepared to expect on in the end.

kw

You can absoluty refuse an enema. I am a 56 year old male andlove to be on the recieving end, and most of the ladies that have given to me do not want an enema and I don't push the issue, just am thankful that I am getting filled

I don't understand why there should be a conflict between giving and receiving in some people's minds. Most seem to equate giving with dominance and receiving with submission. With a little change in semantics, the receiver could be the "TAKER"-the dominant one- and the "giver" could be the one in submission. Just consider a robber saying "give me your money=give me an enema" as dominance versus "ok, don't shoot, I'll give you my money=ok, I'll give you an enema" as being submissive. It's all in how you look at it.

It is up to each person in a relationship to partake in the roles they enjoy. All you need to do is find a partner that accepts what you enjoy, be it giving or receiving or both. That solves all the problems.

First of all, why would one want to refuse to receive????? I just can't understand that at all, but then...that's me. I disagree with switchablesusie however in that some of us want to be able to give just as an act of love and I would hope that if we are lucky enough to be with a wonderful partner, they would want the same for us. I guess it all depends on how you look at it but I for one, cannot fathom the so called "Dom" and "Sub" roles. No offense intended but it just isn't something I understand.

1--If you want to do something out of an act of love to, or for someone who doesn't want it, like giving them an enema, making them accept it, is not an act of love to them.

2--You reiterated my final statement--everything is best when you find a partner who enjoys and allows you to do all the things you want and does not expect you to do what you do not like. The trick is to find the right person.

3--I don't agree with the Dom and sub roles either UNLESS you are in an S&M scene, which now that our two daughters are at sleep-away camp for the next eight weeks, my husband and I will be partaking of LOTS more S&M.

I'll miss the girls, but YIPPEEEEE!!!! Summer time is the time when we get to have wild and screaming sex whenever we want it without any interruptions. In fact, I may rape my husband when he comes home tonight before we go out to dinner!

I have always fantasized about both, particularly about having a woman who wanted an enema. The reality: my wife (common law of 15 good years) enjoys administering, but not keen on receiving. She has had a few enemas, but not a real thrill. Every now and then she enjoys a rectal exam or thermometer, but really likes administering. The first time she stuck an enema nozzle in me she whispered "I want a picture of this." Since we are now getting along better than ever, I told her last week I would no longer sulk around waiting for her to offer, or hope she would read my mind, but simply tell her what I wanted. Next time (intimacy now on hold due to medical issue) I plan to tell her I want an enema, and ask what she would like. If she wants to administer but not receive, fine with me, much better than fantasizing or waiting . And I will try to give her what she wants -- usually oral. Will see what happens...

I never thought to ask my husband, but I am POSITIVE he would have said no.

I asked...he definitely said no, and not just to enemas...there's no playing back there for him period...and he's lurked here on this board, so by now he has to know that it feels good...

And I think the biggie is that we have to respect our partner's boundaries.

I perfer to be the giver..I love to be in "charge"..I do ,however, enjoy a nice warm soapy enema..So its probably 85% giver and 15% receiver...

I used to have an enemate who was not into taking. She would put on something sexy and bottomless and then dress me for action, and fill me to like ten months gone, whereupon I would give her face music till she would cum, at this point I got off, and she would help me into the bathroom to expell. I LOVE recieving. Giving is a turn on, but not necessary.

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