Can an enema giver refuse to be an enema receiver?

When I first told a female friend about my fetish, she wasn't sure what to think. She has IBS and just does not enjoy receiving, which was a little disappointing, but I am very grateful that she is just crazy about giving. She oohs and ahhs and wiggles and sqirms...and so do I! When she forces me to hold it while having sex, I go wild on her and she becomes multi-orgasmic. I must honestly say though, that my knawing >😢desire to give still won't go away.

My x wife was a receiver but hate to give.

Once while in the hospital she learned that they had given me an enema prior to a procedure.When I got home she mentioned that she hadn't had an adequate bowel movement in 6 days an needed an enema. At the time I gave her one and she claimed that she felt better.Still she refused to give me one when I was told to have prior to an IVP X ray.

It was interesting she detested giving them but always wanted one when she found out some one else had been given one. Once a neighbor told us about getting an enema prior to childbirth. When we got home she claimed that she was extremely constipated so I asked her if she wanted an enema ,and she said yes.Subsequently I filled the red bag with over a quart of warm water and a little soap. After she finished was saying how good she felt.

always a good receiver but detested giving.

I think that most certainly, a giver does not have to be a receiver, especially if the receiver is really into receiving.

Certainly. My wife is, for the most part, the giver but occasionally, like two nights ago, will take a couple of enemas when she feels the need for them.

I'd rather receive than give, though I've enjoyed giving a few enemas to some female friends.

People change.

I have always had a real enema fetish. My x wife always stated she detested enemas even though she complained of being constipated she would occasionally take a laxative or suppository for relief rather than submit to an enema.

Once after our divorce she offered to spend the night and take me to the doctor's office for a prostate exam/procedure because some one had to drive me home. I told her that prior to the exam I needed to have a fleet enema.I told her that I if I need an enema I would much rather have a regular bag enema. She never commented but can to my apartment anyways. Thinking how she hated enemas I figured I was on my own. The next morning when we awoke she was smiling saying " it's time time for your enema". She then went to the bathroom and came out with a full enema bag,some KY jelly and latex gloves on She then continued to give me a full enema and was smiling the whole time. After that she proceeded to tell than she always wanted to give me an enema but just didn't care to receive them.

After that she changed and in the course of some consequent conversations she would spontaneously state , when asked how she was felling " I need an enema."

I'm a guy that loves getting, but mostly have to do it myself. I've been given only a couple in my life but throughtly enjoyed each one. Gave a half dozen to my wife once and was widely stimulated by the giving as well. Just gave myself three faucet enemas and just feel great. I appreciate the right of each person to decide for themselves, but I just can't imagine turing down an enema. I would love for my wife to just keep giving and giving until I finally said "uncle". Would take a long time.

It is blessed to both give and receive.

I've been with enemates who only wanted to receive -- mostly subs who view receiving as submissive and weren't comfortable with giving and thus being "dominant."

I've also been with enemates who only wanted to give -- who didn't like the thought of or feelings associated with receiving, but who took pleasure in giving me pleasure.

Both type of experiences are satisfying, but not nearly as satisfying as both giving and receiving.

Personally, I derive pleasure from the feeling of the nozzle being inserted, and the enema solution flowing into me, and from inserting the nozzle and injecting the liquid into a like-minded enemate. Dominance or submission have nothing to do with it, but I recognize that to some others, they have everything to do with the experience.

Mark Avery

Why give an enema to someone who doesn't want it, or why take one just to please someone else? Sexual play is sharing in ways that pleasures both you and your partner, not just doing somebody a favor because it gets him (or her) off while doing nothing at all for you.

It does pleasure me both to give and to receive, but that is just me. I do like the balance of it, and so in the end, for me, it never works if a boyfriend is into just giving or just receiving because I want both.

I guess I am a little envious of those of you who have a mate to do either - give or receive - with. As a solo performer I must, when the rare opportunity for privacy comes up, do both. I would enjoy the whole process much more if there could be intimacy involved.

I like both equally well in the sensual sense (see my recent posts), but my preference is giving. I think it has something to do with my dominant side.

Turns me on like very little else to give (hard now, in fact, just thinking about it...)

Doc

Everyone should be able to pursue enema pleasure in their own way - What's the big deal if someone only wants to give or only receive - They do what they feel most comfortable with and enjoy the most

As i said earlier, i love to recieve, he loves to give. it works for us. I would NEVER expect anyone to do something that was against their wishes, if my husband ever told me he actually wanted an enema , i would think someting was wrong with him , like maybe he was ill. an enema giver can and should refuse to be a receiver if they don't like it that way.

Of course. Actually, i wish there were more "givers" out there 'cuz i'm a taker. Where did U say U are ???

Yes it's in that person's own right to refuse to take it, but a lot of the time, enema's taken in a sensual way will be between a couple. Relationship's are based on equality, so i'd say it should be second nature for the giver to take, from time to time

You don't know what you are missing. I love both.

For me, it's the other way around. My wife won't consider receiving one...oh well, maybe someday.

I've have to put myself in the camp that answers the question with a resounding "yes!" If the giver gets a kick out of giving, but not in receiving, and the receiver gets a kick out of receiving, but not in giving, why mess with it?

I can see that a problem might arise if one enjoyed equally the acts of giving and receiving, but their partner were exclusively a giver or receiver. Maybe this is a little Pollyanna of me, but in that case, I would hope they would communicate about their desires and ultimately be able to work out a compromise that will ful"fill" both partners needs/desires.

^^^^ Ellesse, you are absolutely right. There are no rules. As long as each person in the relationship is fulfilled by the circumstances they encounter, the relationship will succeed. If one likes only to give and the other only to receive, the relationship works, if they both like to do both, that works, the problem arises only when one partner is compelled to do something they don't want to do.

Unfortunately I am a solo practitioner like many others,but I would much prefer a partner (female)to add both the elements of sharing and intimacy. I feel that would increase the pleasure manyfold.

When you're honest, I don't think there can be a "fair" or "unfair" choice. All the fun of enemas is about choices. If you choose to always be a giver, find someone who only wants to receive!

My partner always gives to me. I have given him 1 in 9 months. He said it was ok. It's not his thing. I'm ok with that! In fact, I love it cause I get what I want and so does he!

Probably its the feeling of power it gives and the teasing and knowing that one is probably causing considerable sexual stimulation. I am sure a lot of people, nurses included, are very keen to administer too. I think they often feel wet between the legs when they get the chance to give one. Are they excited because they might be about to get one in return?

You are right. More men than women like getting.

Women not as much from my experience.

You have been very lucky

I have much more experience giving. But I LOVE receiving....

I enjoy doing both - my wife enjoys neitheer. Oh Well

That comes down to the difference between "can" and should!

It is a question of your own ethics.

Yes, an enema giver can refuse to be an enema receiver. I could quite happily give until the 12th of Never, but I prefer not to receive. I do occasionally receive from my partner, but only from him. I dislike an enema just as much as MissStress. I consider myself in quite good company.

Carry on!

LadyDoc

I don't think there is any moral or ethical reason for "if you give, you must also receive."

I still believe that there are no rules for giving and receiving enemas. If one likes only to give and one likes only to receive, that's perfectly fine. If both people like to do both, that's great. A problem only arises when both people don't agree on who gives and who receives.

I do firmly believe that when experimenting with recipes, you should experiment on yourself first, before giving something new to your partner to see how the body reacts even if you do not want or like enemas.

I do firmly believe that when experimenting with recipes, you should experiment on yourself first...

I dislike an enema just as much as MissStress. LadyDoc

Ok, I want a piece of this... YES. I have to agree with LadyDoc, susie, and anybody who espouses the concept of 'free choice', and/or free-will. He gave the right of free choice to each of us; and, no one should push another, especially against their will, on the concept of receiving, if they are not predisposed to accepting an enema.

Now, from the other side of the coin, an enema can be a uniquely sensual, stress-reducing, intimate & cathartic experience, one that can portend gr8 pleasure, and be freeing on a personal basis, even exhilarating. My point being, is that it would be my pleasure to introduce any of you kind & caring women to the finer points of the sensual enema, et al... 😉 And, the "quiet room" would be a suitable setting in which you could experience such...

Moving on to susie's post, it is my thought that she is 100% on target. I've never done anything to a woman medically, wherein I did not perfect my skills on myself, or in a properly supervised medical training experience. And, yes, save and except for the area of female genitalia; however, my medical textbooks are very thorough on those subjects, and my first patients were knowledgeably about my level of experience, or lack thereof, in the beginning... They were very kind in allowing my exploration, and all worked out fine. And, nary a drop of blood did spill.

Play safe; and, be kind to one another. Now ~ go out and make it a gr8 evening!

I have read of a few girls wanting to get but not give. Not much fun there. My wife is diabetic, and hates recieving but dont mind giving them to me with a very happy ending every now and then. We got a thing, if she keeps her sugars well controled, its my ass on the table, if she dont, Its a couple of quarts hot and soapy up her's. Right now, its double or nothing. 2 large enemas, one soapy one not. I dont think she will ever come round, but for now, maby she will be motivated to control her diabetes better.