Jenny It is difficult to sympathize with you. I am not saying that you don't receive annoying messages here.
Oh, but I wish that you could. If you did, it would mean that you are sorry she is bombarded with messages from rude men who give your gender a bad name and who lessen your chances of women giving being warm and friendly at your attempts of contact. It isn't a case of quantity that matters to women, it's quality. I wish men could appreciate and understand that. It's no good to bait for a sockeye salmon and catching chum instead. (Poor analogy I know but I really don't know my fish.) Women would rather hear from four worthwhile quality men in a year than ten time-wasters a day.
On the other hand I receive NO messages from women interested in enemas. I would wager that the same is true for most of the males at this site. As you indicate, if you must weed through messages, so be it. You have a surplus of options; in regard to possible female enemates I have none.
Women like to take time to know people. Men are into instant gratification. Men are comfortable meeting someone after talking to a women once. Women have been victimized by men since the dawn of time and especially since the dawn of the Internet (Slavemaster John? Robinson, The Craiglist Killer.) We require more time to get to know you and get comfortable with meeting you.
So you are rarely going to find a woman by cold-calling her via unsolicited IM, email or chat. The best way for women to get to know you is on the message board and if you only use it once every few months and only to gripe about the lack of women and being a negative nelly, you're not going to get a warm reception from them. Quality men care about more than a woman's kinks, though they are important, too. Women like to be asked about more than just their bodies and what they can do for a man. So again, intelligent, fun, polite and respectful are appreciated.
If we find out that our personalities are agreeable to each other and that we share the same interests and values, then we can talk about the rest of the stuff. Again, the kink can wait. We would rather be opened up slowly like a rose than feel like we're being attacked by a weed-whacker.
Would I mind a barrage of personal kinky questions from an interested female? NO! NO! NO! egirlky has phrased the questions in the most insulting, hostile way.There are different ways to ask intimate questions. Moreover, many of them are irrelevant to the subject at hand: enemas.
I used dysphemism to make my point; just as Jonathan Swift did in A Modest Proposal, to give an example of the invasive and intrusive line of questioning some men use when writing women. I did it to show you why we're reluctant to come forward and express our deepest desires to a complete stranger who doesn't care to get to know us as people but as their sexual fantasy, as well. While I and other women do enjoy sexual attentions from the right men, we don't want to be displayed and used by others. We don't want to be objectified.
If one wants a serious response, she (or he) should use more felicitous phrasing. As there is such a shortage of women here, however, the issue is moot.
If you say so. I mean, at least we know where you stand so you personally being contacted by women may be a moot point. Being negative, whining and complaining about women rarely makes us take notice and gives us the desire to know a crab apple. We'd rather talk to patient, intelligent men who know that we're worth the wait and are willing to take as long as necessary for us to find our comfort zone. And those men are richly rewarded. I hope someday, you learn a lesson from them and can find your local enema giver. Until then, perhaps you'd rather use a different venue such as Craigslist or Backpage where you can get anything for your $ since all you seem to care about is the physical need of an enema and not the caring and emotional need of a woman to share your bed and your life.