I am an older gentleman who started a quest on the internet about 12 years ago to find a female enema partner after playing solo for over 40 years. Have been very lucky, but in most cases the women have not been local, but out of state but withing 2 hours drive, or out of the country.
Here are several of my observations:
Be a gentleman at all times, honest to a fault and do not play games. I am in fact married, play very privately outside of my marriage, and let the women know from my first message that a LTR is not possible in the normal sense. I take no offense if that is not their thing and say that in my first message to them. Hell has better rath like a women lied to.
Use to use the clubs and certain bulletin boards that existed several years ago to post to., but have closed down both on MSN and Yahoo. So there are a few forums like this one, nozzleville chat room, and some pay sites, like alt.com or adultfriendfinder.com to use to contact and meet.
Gentleman one line introductions don't make it, give the women an idea of who you are,
where you live, and what your interests maybe. Describe yourself with some physical description, and you can ask for the same. At a later date you can send photo's back and forth.
I have told them that a reply is appreciate even to say they are not interested, remember the best way to approach this is my rule of treat others how you would like to be treated.
If I get a reply I also say that I do not use any instant messengers on the internet but rather will email back and forth to a direct email address, after some time when trust and respect and a semi-friendship is established, suggest we might switch to phone calls, again here only with their permission and a time that they choose.
Then if we should ever decide to meet will always do so at a public restaurant,(NOT McDONALDS) where we can chat, have a meal and decide if the other person is who they said they are. You can both walk out the door and in a non-pressured atmosphere make up your minds that the chemistry is there, and you mutually want to take things to the next level.
Gentleman you need to romance the lady, they are shy, this is like dating all over again, and we are talking about some very intimate play here. Also I am only concerned that I find them attractive in my eyes, we can not all be Mr. or Ms. body beautiful or is 98% of the country and if you are over 50 well not all have worn well.
Its all about the other person being a nice person in general and if you have the right general relationship then the moon and the stars are possible.
I have even found now that I am picky in who I want to meet, not interested in just hoping into bed for play,. So as a result I have had some relationships now going on for over 8 years that are like the movie "This Time Next Year". The other women know that I see other women, and in some cases know who they are and are even friends.
I have a photo with me and four women who I have played with all together when we attended a e-fest meeting several years ago.
So I consider myself a very, very lucky man, it took patience and caring for the lady I have meet and been looking for. Follow the same rules even today.
So gentleman just remember, the women may be shy, but are interested even though they may not in all cases actively take the first step. Be nice and take you time and you may be surprised at what happens as I have been.
THE TEACHER-teach women the erotic aspects of enemas, electro play, anal play, and spanking, my desire is to tale you where you want to go.