Female Enemamates Are Not Hard To Find

After going through the ads on this site,I did not see any females seeking males for enemas.Why? Do I ask,where are they?How is a guy who enjoys enemas going to find a nice female to share his passion.

One way is first find a female who is attractive enough to ask her for a date,just get to know her,take her out to a nice place to eat and work on relationship,don't even think about enemas right now.If your friendship with the lady should become intimate,as time goes on and the lady really shows an interest in you,that would be the time to start talking about your interest of enemas.

Some of the best enema related stories on this very site have been between husband /wives and boyfriend/girlfriends which leads me to the question as to why so many men seek a female enemamate through ads for woman who could be hundreds of miles away.Why not a female where you live,any female can share enemas with you if you are willing to take the time and be patient enough.The best part of finding a female e-mate locally is it could be an everlasting thing.Try it,you might be surprised to find who is living in your home town.Perhaps an enemamate forever.

Hmmmmmmmmm, since when does whether a woman is "attractive enough" become a deciding factor on asking her for a date?

I would think when the poster has an opinion on the process of going on a date with someone. That the person be attractive enough in some capacity to interact socially and maybe sexual and perhaps even a mutual enema could occur.

Yes I think attractive is somewhat important. Do we want to be with and unattractive partner? How would a man for instance then get and erection if he is with someone unattractive. Your assuming the word attractive to be physically beautiful and I don't think the poster said that. The poster did not define what attractive meant.

I am an older gentleman who started a quest on the internet about 12 years ago to find a female enema partner after playing solo for over 40 years. Have been very lucky, but in most cases the women have not been local, but out of state but withing 2 hours drive, or out of the country.

Here are several of my observations:

Be a gentleman at all times, honest to a fault and do not play games. I am in fact married, play very privately outside of my marriage, and let the women know from my first message that a LTR is not possible in the normal sense. I take no offense if that is not their thing and say that in my first message to them. Hell has better rath like a women lied to.

Use to use the clubs and certain bulletin boards that existed several years ago to post to., but have closed down both on MSN and Yahoo. So there are a few forums like this one, nozzleville chat room, and some pay sites, like alt.com or adultfriendfinder.com to use to contact and meet.

Gentleman one line introductions don't make it, give the women an idea of who you are,

where you live, and what your interests maybe. Describe yourself with some physical description, and you can ask for the same. At a later date you can send photo's back and forth.

I have told them that a reply is appreciate even to say they are not interested, remember the best way to approach this is my rule of treat others how you would like to be treated.

If I get a reply I also say that I do not use any instant messengers on the internet but rather will email back and forth to a direct email address, after some time when trust and respect and a semi-friendship is established, suggest we might switch to phone calls, again here only with their permission and a time that they choose.

Then if we should ever decide to meet will always do so at a public restaurant,(NOT McDONALDS) where we can chat, have a meal and decide if the other person is who they said they are. You can both walk out the door and in a non-pressured atmosphere make up your minds that the chemistry is there, and you mutually want to take things to the next level.

Gentleman you need to romance the lady, they are shy, this is like dating all over again, and we are talking about some very intimate play here. Also I am only concerned that I find them attractive in my eyes, we can not all be Mr. or Ms. body beautiful or is 98% of the country and if you are over 50 well not all have worn well.

Its all about the other person being a nice person in general and if you have the right general relationship then the moon and the stars are possible.

I have even found now that I am picky in who I want to meet, not interested in just hoping into bed for play,. So as a result I have had some relationships now going on for over 8 years that are like the movie "This Time Next Year". The other women know that I see other women, and in some cases know who they are and are even friends.

I have a photo with me and four women who I have played with all together when we attended a e-fest meeting several years ago.

So I consider myself a very, very lucky man, it took patience and caring for the lady I have meet and been looking for. Follow the same rules even today.

So gentleman just remember, the women may be shy, but are interested even though they may not in all cases actively take the first step. Be nice and take you time and you may be surprised at what happens as I have been.

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THE TEACHER-teach women the erotic aspects of enemas, electro play, anal play, and spanking, my desire is to tale you where you want to go.

Waterman, you are a true gentleman. I have posted elsewhere in the forum to take the time and "look into a persons heart". Once you have seen into her heart and you like what you see, it makes no difference what her her outward appearance may be, you will make your connection. Once that has been accomplished, you will walk down any street with the most beautiful woman in the world. Someone, greater than any of us on here, once stated "seek and ye shall find". Believe in that and you will find your mate 😃

Waterman, you deserve a "pat on the back" for your wisdom 😄

Female enemamates are out there...they just need to be found and romanced until they are ready to let you into their most intimate of places.

In my view a woman can be pretty, or she can be attractive, or she can be both. Attractive has little to do with pretty. Furthermore, a woman who is pretty could be very repulsive.

Any woman with a nice behind is attractive to me...she then becomes extremely desirable and sexy if she is into anal play inculding enemas. Getting is not mandatory, but knowing how to give one is paramount for me. If she does like to receive, so much the better.

It is actually hard to find a perfect match. Whatever, you define perfect match to be. Instead of looking for a perfect match, perhaps we( both male or female) can look for a match first, some common ground to start up. As the time passes, if there is a click( or a spark) between two, both sides will try to do things to please eachother, and perhaps get to enjoy same things together,and that leads to or becomes perfect match. If neither side is willing to please eachother, it may not be a good match, it just becomes a good experience.

NO, they actually are hard to find IF you are looking only for an enema partner. HOWEVER, if you are looking for a relationship, then the pickings may be longer in coming, but more realistic.

Looking for a female emate may be a tall order but there are some to be found on the adult personal ads sites such as alt.com , adultfreind finder.com yea i know they are pay site but if you are into some bondage i recomend collarme.com its free and once u set up your profile u can find all kinds of emates thats part of the profile it shows if they like enemas or dislikes them 😄

LOL...I guess I have been on this site long enough now to see just how many nut cases there are, and to be quite honest, I can see why a lot of you are having trouble finding a partner to share enemas with.....and then some of you are just so negative. Who wants to be with someone who whines and sits on their pity pot all day? I'm not pointing fingers.....you know who you are!! :😃

Waterman is telling all of you guys the way it has to be done...I've been very successful, using the same aproach..I also think that the fact that this "meeting" is for enemas and enema exchange is important..Most of us, male or female can get regular sex at home..Thats not what were meeting for..Sometimes that is difficult to understand.Enemas are about "enemas"...NOT SCREWING..That in itself is enough to turn some of the women off...Remember its all about Enemas....

Michael2

It is not as easy as one might offer on these pages. It is especially hard when a guy is in a marriage with a wife who is not at all on good terms with enemas.

John

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I agreee with you too and that's coming from a woman.

I am a female. Here are my personal observations. I think there are quite a few guys on this site who get it - some have commented on/started this post!

You can find a female enemate...but there has to be a "connection" somewhere and I agree with the guys who mentioned this, being a gentleman and not some crazy single-minded, pushy enema horn dog certainly aids in the process. There's also an element of luck...right time, right place, right mood sort of thing.

I joined this forum to share ideas/experiences, not to find an enemate...but for me, it's first about connecting with someone who is intellectually stimulating, considerate and honest. Then, I have to have something in common with a person besides enemas - could be career/business, a creative outlet, whatever. Age and appearance are certainly secondary, but if I said they didn't matter at all to me, I'd be lying.

Another aspect is physical location - closer is better, obviously.

Arianna

Guys, you need to listen to Waterman. A little goes a long way to getting what you want.

Arianna said it right: You need an element of luck.

But, you may spend half a lifetime working on your female partner who is not aware of

your kink, gently and not pushy, etc. etc. until you may or may not get results.

May be another approach - trying to get connected when putting forward your expectations would work? True, from two hundred one may turn out, however, you have made an important shortcut. If there are women who are interested but are inhibited or shy and experience the same difficulty as men, why not try this approach?

It all depends now where do you live. Is there a viable way to make it known (by means of advertising) without breaking the law or making unnecessary a fool of oneself. In my environment this won't work, (alas).

Great thought process...but..its not "that" easy----

That was going to be my next comment...open mindness..to finding an e-mate is a must. Yes there must be some attraction but..lets..look past looks and look deeper into our common intrests and pleasusres!

Tailor the session to meet her needs, you said!

Exactly! I gotta say, we male enema givers can easily forget what it must be like to be a female, and on the receiving end! If I had to show up, and let a dominant woman have my ass, I’d be nervous as hell! I would hope that she would be kind, and considerate, and give me the time that I needed to get comfortable! And, that’s exactly what I do!

The first thing that I say is: “You don’t have do enemas here today! I won’t be the slightest bit disappointed or angry with you. Take all the time in the world!” Then, I do a back massage to try to help her relax! I don’t blame her one little bit if she is nervous! I have her fill out a list of desires that she wants to do. She always gets her EXACT fantasy, without me pushing her any further than she wants.

My post;Female Enemamate Are Not Hard To Find is not about finding a super model that is carrying a sign for an emate,the post is about you guys being positive finding someone you would like to meet and perhaps have a relationship with that person if you like her enough.Enemas are secondary,the relationship comes first.

Too many of you guys focased on the word ''ATTRACTIVE''.When you meet a woman for the first time and decide that you would like to ask out,there is something about her that you like,that is what attractive is.Let the good times flow.w/m72yrs/W.MA

You are soooo right, twobagger. When I look at personal ads, I am often intimidated by the descriptions men give of who they are looking for......seems like they all want a 5'7" blonde that measures 36-24-36 and an IQ of 80.....I don't happen to fall into that category, but I sure can keep my man happy with lots of enemas, oral sex, prostate massages etc, and guess what?? I can cook too!! I have a good education, and can think for myself!! I am far from perfect, but have found the perfect man for me!

Perhaps I've been lucky, my neighbor is a 40+ single mother with 3 children in care, she's been constipated since after pregnancy and taking enema often.

It´s true, the enema ladies are hard to find. But i insist there must be a lot of more ladies which will be interested in such stuff.

I don't mind chiming in. There has been a lot of common sense stated in the earlier posts. My biggest problem is geography. I think there are women out there with whom I could find a really enjoyable enemate relationship, perhaps more. Without a compatible sense of connection (smarts, common interests, experiences, even some proximity in age) the experience is not as rewarding. I'm in my late 50s. I wouldn't mind exchanging with a 20 something, but we might not have much in common to talk about and I think sharing something as intimate as enemas calls for sharing more than enemas to feel really connected. I have had difficulty doing that in the Pacific NW because there are not other women posters from my area. All the discussion about getting to know the other person is spot on. It makes the ultimate sharing better. So just flying in from out of town is a bit lacking as well. Good friends find more fun in sharing.

RL

There are a lot of femail enema lovers out there. probably as many as male. They are just very reluctant to identify themselves.

I'm in the Pacific NW; I have lived in the LA area. There are more people in LA metro, then the entire state of WA.While it is great advise to just walk up to a stranger and ask for what you want, in a small town ( and to me, a small town is anything less than a half million) and you could be in jail

Waterman and Namvet65 you are both true gentlemen. I so wish I could find somebody like you in England. My fantasy is to receive my first enema from an experienced, gentle and older man. Somebody to teach me.

However, after reading some of the raunchy postings on this site I'm starting to think that it may be easier to find a woman to guide me though my first time. A girl-on-girl initiation sounds kind of nice too.....

Susan

Hi Susan,

Though there may be some that come across as raunchy, there are quite a few men and women here that are very knowledgeable and kind. Don't lose heart.

Ditto what she said Susan. No need to rush things, there are experienced men here on the forum, some from England, maybe you'll nail down a suitable candidate - just take as much time as you need, get to know a few people first.

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