Do you have Second Thoughts or Guilt about your MedFet Fetish?

As if I felt guilty or compunction. I don't know how to get rid of it and I guess it's in me and I can't prevent it. Do you have the same problem? If so, how do you manage it?

I used to have something of a similar nature, but luckily that was many many years ago, when i was much younger and stupider.

I think what you need is the realization that after you have watched something and start to feel guilty about it, you should ponder that the world does not come to an end and that you are not personally stricken by any affliction or setback or tragedy afterwards. the world keeps on spinning, you keep on living your life and there are no apparent direct consequences to what you have done.

Besides, you are certainly not alone in indulging in your pleasures and those other people too are not afflicted by any punishment - divine or secular - either.

Remind yourself constantly that your longings and desires are normal and moreover do not effect anyone else adversely. They are there for your own personal pleasure. Not as a test to see if you can resist temptation.

Related to this is my utter rejection of religion as a factor determining how to live my life. That doesn't mean you have to become a Richard Dawkins or a strident agnostic/atheist, but it does mean I take no notice of what religious leaders say or pronounce or pontificate on. Especially to their ruminations on sexual matters. What do they know? They are supposed to be celibate anyway, the hypocrites.

I fear there is but one world, one experience at life and people had better make the most of it while it lasts. Some think this a grim thought. I find it liberating because you don't have to answer to anything other than the people around you and most especially yourself.

This discussion post has helped me a lot. I have an appointment with a play doc next week and I really hope that when I get off the table, I don't feel guilty about what occurred during the appointment. I have had a medical fetish for a very long time and I now hat the opportunity to experience it with a doctor that is just as into it if not more so than I am.

Thank you for sharing your feelings and talking about this. It helps!

I do. I feel embarrassed and ashamed. I do not tell anyone about my fetish. I have had this long desire for a in person play exam. My shame and guilt is a huge factor in why I have not met with a play doctor in person. I feel guilty. I worry that people will find out. If I could just get past this.... I think I would have an amazing experience

I sincerely hope that you can get past your embarrassment and become able to experience a face to face role play examination.

I imagine that it's a very big deal to actually meet a play doctor for the first time. Being safe and feeling safe is vital.

I reckon with the help of Zity you will be able to find a genuine play doc who will enable you to bring your fantasy to fruition.

If you can find the right playdoc you should have a fantastical experience.

Not guilty as such , i think if a person were to take advantage of medical care , and create symptoms or problems to get seen or examined from a real medical professional then that would be very wrong .

But really don't think anyone here would cross that line .

Yes there are times in the past I was feeling abnormal and isolated...

Not guilty, per se, but I do wish it were more mainstream or socially acceptable.

If you're sitting around with your buddies drinking beer and someone says how much he enjoys sex on a beach or wants to join the mile high club or fantasizes about a threesome with a couple of cheerleaders, no one thinks twice.

Say you want to have hot nurse give you a rectal exam while wearing a gown bent over a table and suddenly you're a freak.

That's the difficult part of living with this fetish.

Say you want to have hot nurse give you a rectal exam while wearing a gown bent over a table and suddenly you're a freak.

That's the difficult part of living with this fetish.

True, it's not something you can easily share. But on the other hand, there is a special pleasure in being atypical, someone out of the ordinary with different tastes than Joe Sixpack and his wifey.

I often like to think of being a sort of sex gourmet.

No I dont feel guilty. As long as no one is hurt, both parties are consenting and it is enjoyable, then for me the guilt does not happen. I would hope too that my partner would feel the same.

Guilty? Never! It's nobody's business how I get my pleasure as long as no harm is done.

Incorporating this fetish into my sex life involves no guilt for me. It's role-play, it's fantasy, it's the business of consenting, sexy adults. But during real medical exams, I do sometimes feel guilty if I steer the situation or conversation into a sexual place. Even if I do have a legitimate concern about my health, I feel like I'm taking advantage of this professional. But I think this guilt only comes about when I am too dominant during the exam. For example, during a physical a few years ago, I told the doctor that I found a little hard speck on the under shaft of my penis, where it meets my scrotum. I had in fact discovered a speck, but it wasn't actually concerning me. But I was really excited by the idea of the doctor having to find it too, especially because it was only really discoverable when I got hard (it's still there today). He checked it out and took some time examining it while I was hard, and in the end said it was nothing and natural. I did think about that moment a lot - whether I liked it - and I have mixed feelings about it. I loved it because it all went as planned, but I did feel like I had directed him in a way that was not kind. Overall, I have a much better experience during a real exam if I am more on the passive side - following doctor's orders, just like how I used to do as a kid.

No, never. Sure it was awkward discovering this fetish. But guilt? It is... how do I put that... a victimles 'crime'.

Meeting with a play doctor to live some of your dreams. You don't inconvinience anyone else.

I, however don't make my fetish public to everyone who want's or doesn't want to know.

I keep it relatively privat or share it just with likeminded people, such as here.

there is a special pleasure in being atypical, someone out of the ordinary with different tastes than Joe Sixpack and his wifey.

I often like to think of being a sort of sex gourmet.

Delightfully put, agracier! I aspire to feel as you do - especially apropos my mouth and dental fetish, which further sets me apart, I guess, but with minimal guilt feelings these days.

- Ken

Oh, yes.

I've been a medfetter since my early childhood, in the early 80's, before I knew what fetishes were. My very first medical fetish was seeing a girl go under the "black beauty" anesthesia mask. But fairly quickly, it morphed into seeing a girl be required to wear a mask because of her immune system.

In 2006, at age 30, I was on deviantART and saw a girl doing modeling while wearing a half mask cartridge respirator (like in my avatar, but very dark blue. Almost matte black). Reading her bio, I saw that she had cystic fibrosis, a terminal disease of the lungs and pancreas. I knew that patients with CF had compromised immune systems, and so usually needed to wear masks in public (at least that's how it seems to be in America).

I very sheepishly PMed her and explained that I like her photos of her in her mask, and that that's actually a fetish of mine, and that I understand CF from documentaries (which invariably contained girls in masks). I gave her my AIM address and within an hour, she chatted me up. We chatted for a while, and talked about masks and such, and planned out a commission. She was quite comfortable with it.

Later on in our friendship, I even traveled to meet her at a party held to raise funds for her transplant. She was wearing a white lace "fashion mask", which is supposed to be rated N95, and then later on she switched into her big respirator. Both were stunning, but I liked her respirator better. I think in a way, it actually looks kind of like the "black beauty", but with big cartridges sticking out the sides, and big black straps to hold it on her mouth.

I Can Breathe "fashion mask": https://icanbreathe.com/products/icb-honeycomb-mask-with-classic-coconut-activated-carbon-filter

North 5500 cartridge respirator: (from her modeling site ) https://img00.deviantart.net/5396/i/2006/348/4/a/guilty_as_seen_by_spirit_of_kina.jpg

As for anesthesia or oxygen scenes, I don't really think about how it affects the professionals. As for te patient, yes I do think about it. I think about how the girl has no choice, really, but to be masked up in public, and she may not see or understand the sexual side of that, and is probably a bit embarrassed by having to wear a mask into, say, a grocery store. So I don't make any comments on pics that would make me stand out.

I still think about the girl I met to this very day, even though she passed away a few years ago, and we had fallen out years before. My most intense fantasies still involve her. Sometimes so intense, it's a bit painful. A real feeling of having to suppress my fetish. Sometimes looking at pics helps, and sometimes it hurts. Like, "why can't I have that girl?"

No. And I don't need 8 paras to not explain it.

Absolutely no guilt at all.

It's fun, it feels good and I like it.

If we weren't meant to enjoy these sick perverse debauched disgusting pleasures Odin and Thor would not have given us sex organs and sick minds.

No guilt, only regret that I took so long to know myself, and pluck up the courage to do something about it!

Advice?

Do It Now!

Totally understand...It has taken me nearly 20 years to understand this is how the God I serve wired me and that it does not define who I am in Him. That guilt is also why I've been on and off this site so many times.

Guilt, no, but I feel like I must be a little weird. It’s my first post here and glad to have found some like minded people so I feel a little less weird!

No guilt at all. Consenting adults is the only rule that matters to me, so if I like other 'weird' things, it's not hurting anyone.

But a lot of ppl do feel guilt and shame and hopefully great communities like this can help them realize they aren't alone, and don't have to hide their true selves and interests.

No guilt here!

I think it’s hot, and choose to find others that also think medfet is hot. The power play, and the intimate nature of a medical scene is so amazing.

Just wish I had more time to play ?

Maybe guilt is s fetish to some people, they might enjoy that.

just a brain fart

None.

Zero.

Zip.

Nada.

Except one. 😕

Why did I wait so long?

I am not a medical professional and I have no second thoughts or guilt about my little kinks. That being said, if I were a medical professional, I might. I am pretty sure the people paying me and the people who entrust me to care for them would probably not approve.

Before I retired I did have a professional career and their were some things I did not do because of how it might possibly look. I always used the logic that there was a lot more to lose than to gain. Of course now that I am retired I can do pretty much whatever I like. And the job enabled me to be where I am now.

I felt guilt during a long time, like the guilty you feel doing "forbidden" thing.

Now it's a bit better, but I still feel frustrated that I never found a play partner.

Being married and unable to share (and not willing) that kink is I think the most saddest part of it.

Anyway ...

Not a chance of guilt or second guessing. It has given me the opportunity to not only broaden my horizons but introduce it to and share with some wonderful women. The only reservation I have is that the web wasn't around sooner!

No, not at all.

I used to feel abnormal when, in my 20s, I fantasized about such things as getting spanked by my girlfriend or getting an older lady's gloved finger up my behind. I later met my wife, who has compatible fantasies, and the guilt largely disappeared.

When I was single, I embraced it. Never talked about it with anybody, but I never felt badly about my mental fantasies, and it was the form of sexual play I'd seek about above all others because it was such a turn on. Those efforts were unsuccessful more often than not--but what a rush when I was able to connect with someone!

Since I've been partnered, guilt figures in more. He's not into it. (And honestly, having someone I'm romantically connected indulge this kink of mine doesn't interest me--the lack of familiarity with the play doc was always part of the rush.) For as much as I thought I'd forget about medfet and role playing after pairing off with someone, medical play is still something I think about a lot. When I was single, I liked it because it was kinky, I had a bit of an exhibitionist streak in me, and there was no actual sex involved, so it was about as safe as play could get. But, I think my kink and exhibitionist inclinations were (are) maybe stronger than I gave them credit for. (I used to IM with a role play doc and he told me point-blank that these feelings would never go away--I guess I should have listened to the doc.)

He's also been dealing with some severe depression issues over the course of the past year. Although I'm finding I'm getting into a funk myself the more I keep my sexual interests on moratorium, bringing the subject up right now is a flat-out bad idea. And the idea of bringing it up with him at all comes loaded with feelings of guilt as well.

Great topic, glad someone picked it back up.

Having escaped fundamentalism (took me 35 years), i've experienced a lot of shame and guilt in my life, but also processed through it. i think it's important to trace the roots of the feelings we have. In this case, where does the guilt originate?

Often, there's a dominant group who ends up making the rules about good and evil and it's so culturally engrained we take those rules as 'natural.' Religion has played a big part. From my experience, the religious are just people like me, no better or worse equipped to discern stuff. However, the religious often try and play a trump card, the "God" card, appealing to a higher authority. But the truth is, the people who claim that "God" makes the rules of morality are still just people who have come to that conclusion. To date, i have never encountered anyone who could actually produce a God who could affirm their beliefs.

To me right and wrong are pretty basic. Funny that the fetish we're talking about is a profession that endeavors to follow the creed: "primum non nocere" (first, do no harm). If we are talking about activity that is between consenting adults, i don't see the "harm" and have no guilt.