Do you have Second Thoughts or Guilt about your MedFet Fetish?

I have enjoyed kinky stuff for most of my life, so guilty thoughts no longer enter my mind.

We do have periods of intense activity and then periods where we do much less play. It just works that way.

Then we have the periods where we can do nothing at all. We are at the age where we have a number of things that need to be fixed and we do keep our medical team busy.

Speed

I haven't suffered from any moral guilt about this board. It provides a very healthy outlook on a strong interest of mine. It is also a positive way to learn more about my interests. And, best of all, I have meet the love of my life on this board 😃. The only thing that I do, sometimes feel guilt about, is how much time I spend on the computer.

Lady Teddy

What's to cope? It gives you pleasure. Don't fall into any religious/guilt trip.

You might fell a little embarrassed if someone finds out because you left your stuff out (or if your mother saw you masturbating) but you shouldn't feel guilty.

When I was 17, my father saw me in the bathroom drying my hair and my Klystra/Sherema bag and colon tube were hanging on the towel rack behind me, which wasn't exactly drug store variety douche equipment. He asked if I was OK and it was never brought up again---so he learned I was a horny kinky thing at an early age.

You don't have to tell anybody.

The aspects of your sexuality are between you and your partner(s).

Live it up!

Guilt about being a medical fetishist has never entered my mind. It is simply part of who I am. I would echo almost exactly what Lady Teddy has said, this is a wonderful community of supportive, like-minded people who are willing to share of their expertise. I too have found a very special person via this forum, and believe me, that was a totally unexpected benefit.

When I play, either online or in real-time my goal is to play safe, play sane, play sterile, and to give my opposite, whether he be doc or patient, the most fulfilling experience I possibly can.

What's to be guilty about?

Play On!

LadyDoc

When I started getting into medical fetish, I went through this phase for years.

I would play, and play, and play, till one night I would have a play session that would result in an explosive orgasm and lots of enjoyment. But instantly after, I'd feel the guilt. Some nights I'd be crying, disgusted with myself. I'd hurriedly clean everything up, throwing away everything - every toy I'd gathered, and trying to prevent myself from doing it again.

It was almost like an addiction - like an alcoholic who drinks then feels horrible about it, only to drink again in a month. I'd stay 'sober' for some time, not playing, not even masturbating, and trying to deny it, but slowly I would allow the pleasures to build again. I'd allow myself one toy. After seeing that that one toy was fine, and that I could play with it and not go 'overboard', I'd allow myself more, and more, and more, till a month later, I'd go all out again.

Over the years, I noticed it took less and less time to feel better about myself, and I stopped throwing EVERYTHING away. It still happens, to this day, when I have a particularly intense orgasm, but the time span between explosive orgasms and recovery has dropped from several months to a mere few minutes.

Most of my guilt, in the first place, came from my fear of getting caught. I've been caught once, by my sister, luckily got away without much explaining. But still, I've always been scared of being walked in on. Now that I live alone, my fear is far less, and I'm able to play in comfort, but some of it still remains.

So yes, you will have some guilt, but keep going - this community isn't going anywhere...and over the years, you will get better.

Flyfisher,

My second thoughts,slight guilt,oddness about being turned on by medical procedures went out the door when I made the connection that the stimulation came from having very sensitive nerve bundles associated with sexual arousal being stimulated,it is a very potent stimulus.

Any further reservations went out the door when I made the additional realization as has already been posted of it being consensual between two people. That actually began first at an early age between the girl across the street I grew up with and myself. Hope you find my thoughts useful,if not,set them aside.

G.N.

The feeling of being guilty I think is part of the game and I would add that it makes things more powerful and exciting.

But I feel less guilty knowing there is a lot of good people as you on this forum sharing same med-fet passion I always had since I was a 6 yo child playng doctors with the daughter of neighbor friend of my mom.

I didn't get on line until my late 40's and to my surprise, surprise, surprise, I discovered others in the world that share the same passion. Nice to know we're not alone with our fetish.

LH 🌹

Same for me. I imagined myself to be somehow different until the internet opened my eyes to folks just like me whose desires cover the whole gamut of fetishes. The most fun is meeting someone and learning a bit about their real life and then fantasizing about people I interact with daily. The internet and age have made me fantasize about bringing things up with certain people I'm close with.

When I first started learning, playing, and what not about my fetish, I, like everything else became very fascinated with it and sort of obsessed with it. Meaning that every spare second I had when I was not working or absolutely spending the the bare amount of time with my family that I had to, yes, I felt guilty. But I didn't feel guilty about having a medical fetish, I felt guilty because I was so obsessed with this new found world of mine, not to mention the new found "freedon" I found that I somewhat, I believe in my heart, neglected my family duties as a wife, daughter, and mother sometimes.

For about the first year, every available second I had I was on the computer learning, viewing, talking, and or visiting people who also shared my love for all things medical.

Also at first I was a little bit ashamed and felt guilty about having a medical fetish because I am a nurse. It took me about 6 months of total personal analyzing before I was able to convince myself that my medical fetish feelings and desires were not in any way shape or form associated or linked to my real job as a nurse. I knew that all along, but it's one of those things where you just really have to double check, triple check and totally make sure that my med fet life and my real medical job were not in any way inter twined or that I associated one with the other.

For me anyway, due to the fact that I am a medical professional, that inner struggle of having a medical fetish fought with each other for about a year, but in another sort of way. On the most simple basic level, being a nurse gives you a sense of power and being in control, however a lot of my medical fetish feeling and desires lie in the fact of just the opposite, that of being NOT in control of myself or the medical treatments being handed out to me ad often times against my will. That was my most basic need and desire at first, and foremost reason.

Then came the next hard question that I had to really look at my inner self and who I was to be able to answer. Did I become a nurse, paramedic, and lab tech because I have a medical fetish? Well, that one was a difficult answer to answer completely, openly, and honestly with myself. If I answered yes, then in my mind, that sort of made me feel dirty and ashamed of who and what I was doing as a provession. If I answered no, then I knew I was probably lyng to myself, but could probably eventually get over the guilt of being a medical professional, or could I? That question for me, was a bit scary to face open and honestly with myself.

So after a lot deep soul searching, self analyzing, self criticism, and a lot of self doubt, and feeling ashamed. I came to the following conclusions. A lot of both having a medical fetish and being a real medical professional can and do cross over into each other, the things that did cross were all very superficial in insignificant things.

Some of the same things that cross into both areas are injections. I love to give them in a real medical setting, and in a play setting, both are equally exciting to me but for totally different reasons. In a real setting I love to give them because I love that the shot I am administering if one step closer to getting my patient better, healthier, and hopefully is a small step into their rehabilitation care plan, which is where the "power" issue comes into play during a real situation. However, in a play situation, the "power" issues also comes into play because I am in charge, and I can and will make my play patient assume any position I want them to receive their injection in.

Another thing I like to do in real life and in a play situation is rectal temperature taking. In a real life situation, me getting or having to get a rectal temp means one of a few things, either my patient is dying and I need a real core temp, or because there is some other medically warranted situation causing the need for this. This also can fall into a "power" situation simply due to the fact that my patient is really sick for this to be happening, and I know that by me obtaining a real and accurate temperature, it will give me the knowledge I need to either help fix my patient, or be able to get the amount and dose of the proper medications that are going to help my patient out the most, which will either speed in their recovery, or make them as comfortable as possible during their passing. Either way, it give me the power to make a positive difference in my patients life or condition in the moment. In a play situation however, I still feel the power, but the power comes from being able to command my play patient to expose himself, as much as I am commanding him to do so, which in turn, automatically takes a bit more of my patients power away from the play patient.

Enemas are another thing for me that cross over into a play and real life setting. In real life, I hate giving enemas to my real patients. It's not because I hate giving them meaning the actual enema itself, but hate doing it to them because I know it's humiliating for them to have to be receiving them in the first place, and also because I know they are afraid of a possible accident they have, and because by the time my patient has gotten to the point that they need to have a real enema, they are not feeling well at all. But the power I feel here is knowing that while I understand their embarrassment, I also understand how sick they are feeling due to their current situation, and I have the power and will feel enjoyment with a few minutes because within a few ounces, and or, of a few courts of water I'm going fix them up and make them feel a whole lot better, and quickly as well. As far as a play situation, if they really need one then all of the above applies as well, however I have the power to decide how many, how fast the flow is, what nozzle to use, and what solution.

I also enjoy the over all total physical itself in both real and play situations. In real, I have the power of my knowledge and skill set to determine with my eyes, ears, nose and via touch whether or not my patient warrents further medical treatment, which in turn could possibly save their life, or alert them to a condition that needs a more skilled set of eys or a higher skill set than my own. I like that power of knowing that I could possible save a life or make an immediate difference in someone's life. In a play situation, my enjoyment comes from being able to command my patient into any position I feel is needed, warrented, or just because I want to embarress them a little bit more while still giving them their exam.

So in short, the 4 things for me that cross over from real to play are injections, rectal temperature, enema's, and the actual exam itself. However, with this being said, real is real and play is play, and NEVER do the two cross, but both are enjoyed for two completely separate and very different reasons.

Having, accepting and acknowledging my medical fetish I whole heartedly believe has made me a much better nurse in real life. Partially due to the fact of where I have been employed as a nurse, but mostly because my boyfriend and only play partner is a real doctor, I have been given the opportunity to learn skills and knowledge way beyond 98 percent or more above my peers with the same level of education. The medical knowledge and skill set I have learned from a reliable source during my med fet journey has been priceless in making me a much better nurse for my real patients, and patients that are not mine as well because most of my peers know about my past med fet kink and know that I have the knowledge and skills above theirs so that when they run into a situation they cna't handle, are unsure about, or need help with, they come to me first for advice or whatever. They also know that if we have really tried to figure something out, I have the resource at my finger tips to find the answers we are seeking in just a mater of moments. Again, that's a priceless resource to have.

There are a lot of things in both real life medical situation and in play medical situation that will never have a comon place or groud with each other, or maybe a better way to put that is, in a matter of speaking, when I am at my job, and even sometimes in play when a real medical situation is found, play time ends immediately, my nursing hat gets put on, as a matter of speaking and I go into work mode. And there have been more than a few occasions during play exams that I have found real medical issues that have required a more highly medical trained person than myself, especilaly since it's against the law for me to diagose. When this happens, as I said, play time is over and my finding are discussed along with possible diagnoses', treatment plans and issues, medications that could possibly go along with probably diagnoses, and any and all information that I might have pertaining to the diagnoses' at hand.

Now there are a few things that absolutely do not cross over into real life and play situation, and some of those depend on what state I am in and the laws pertaining to the situation at hand. For example, if I am in a play situation in a different state than my own and my play patient has a huge black head on their back or something, a boil that's hot and ready, with their permission, you bet your paycheck I am going to aspirate that black head and or hot compress that boil till it comes to a head, deroof that sucker, not lance it mind you, but deroof it and get all that I can from either or, always using clean, sterile, and safe tactics to do so depending on the location and size of the area. In my state, I would never dream of doing either as they are beyond my scope of practice, but in other states, I'm a layman. Besides that, I am a picker and love doing that sort of stuff, lol. Personally it's really cool, and talk about instant gratification, lol. Not to mention, almost the second the core or infection is released, the "patient" is almost completely pain free because 90 percent of pain associated with both of those example is due to the pressure under the skin.

So there are two sides to the med fet/real life coin in this case. But because play is play, and work is work, there are many things I really do not care to do in a play setting that I love to do in a real medical setting, as there are many things I love to do in a real life medical setting that I hate and dread in a play setting. The main and quick example I could give you for this is the basic ABC's. Airway, breathing and circulation. I love to deal with all three in a real medical setting because if any of the three are compramized, I have the skill set, knowledge, and back up to save my patients life. In a play setting at no time should I ever have to worry about any of those, and while I still have the above mentioned to handle any and most situations, I sure would hate to have to.

So, the two basic questions that were asked at the start of this post were, "do you have any second thoughts about having a medical fetish, or guilt because of your medical fetish."

Again, the only guilt I have is that sometimes my family has had to suffer a bit because of my medical fetish, and not because I make them my listen to all my banter about the topic, but because I love to learn, and when I really enjoy something, can learn about it, and it happen to make me better at the job I love, sometimes they have had to take a back seat, that is my only feeling of guilt as now the girls are 17 and 19.

As far as having any regrets about having a medical fetish, my clear answer is absolutely NOT. Having a medical fetish has brought for me a happiness and an inner calm I can't explain finally after all these years. Because of the skills I have learned not to mention the volumes of knowledge I have learned and acquired from my play partner of the last 4 years who is a doctor, which in turn has made me a much better nurse, which in turn has also made my skill set and knowledge of all things medical far above over 90 percent of my peer with the same educational background, and last, but definitely most importantly, my medical fetish enabled me to find some good friends who completely understand me, (most of the time anyway),and brought me to, and allowed me to meet and fall head over heels with the love of my life.

So do I have any regrets or second thoughts about having my medical fetish? Nope, not really, actually couldn't get much happier about the entire situation to be quite honest with you.

Mashie

Now that is what I call a post! Excellent thoughts Mashie. Thank you so much for sharing your personal feelings on this. Karma to you.

No , I don't have second thoughts about any of my adult fetishs . If it brings you or your pardner pleasure , just do it. I don't advertize what I like but but my fantasys are alive and well. If you want to pleasure yourself or someone , you better do it , life is terminal .

Well thank you a lot for your kind words Jimmy J. That means more to me than you know. Sometimes you have to wonder when someone rambles on as much as I do usually if anyone actually even reads them. So karma back to you for letting me know that sometimes someone actually does get to the end of my always overly long posts, lol.

Mashie

Regarding injections, you need not feel guilty, Mashie, because you are certainly not alone. I have known several nurses who, whilst not confessing a fetish, freely admit that giving buttock injections turns them on. When bending over with my pants down for a shot, I once asked the nurse if she was enjoying herself and she replied, "I shouldn't admit it, but this is my favourite part of the job".

Nick

As a teenager my medical equipment consisted of a 'Dr Kildare Toy Stethoscope' ( it looked quite realistic and you could hear your heartbeat) and a pair of Marigold rubber gloves! Alone in my room I would pull on the gloves and spend hours just listening to my heart. Also I would pretend to examine an imaginary patient on the bed. This felt great while I was doing it but afterwards I would feel really embarrased about what I was doing and feel quite guilty, however this feeling would soon disappear and I couldn't wait to start again. Every so often the embarrasment would be over-powering and I would throw the stethoscope away------only to go and buy another one a week later! I learnt to live with the embarrasment, eventually buying my first real stethoscope and really started to enjoy my 'fetish'. My wife now joins in with me, our examinations are totally external, and I am now happy that we aren't doing anyone any harm so what's the problem?

One of the most liberating things about meeting someone for med-fet play, but probably also one of the hardest things from the patient's point of view, is admitting to a stranger that he/she enjoys this fetish. It's not something 'nice girls' are supposed to enjoy. However, the implicit admission makes the situation even more exciting and erotically charged.

Hi Gentleflow,

Well, if medfet is one interest that nice girls are not supposed to enjoy, I must not have received that message. As a, "nice girl" myself, I love all sorts of medfet and I am not afraid to admit it! Okay, maybe, I am a bit of a "naughty girl".

Lady Nurse Teddy, who can be naughty or nice 😘

I think the importance of this site is creating a safe place where people can go and realize they are not alone. That need to feel accepted is universal regardless of the interest. The continued candid exchanges here are important to those who come here.

It seems so easy to get caught up in feelings of 'guilt' about just about anything and everything. No matter what kind of personal preferences you have in just about any matter, let alone sexually, there will be scores and scores of people and groups and organizations very willing to criticize your choices and preferences.

The most effective way of accomplishing that is to pile on the guilt, make you feel ashamed or selfish and then hope that social and peer pressure will do the rest into making you conform to the elusive 'Norm'.

I suppose it's natural to have second thoughts about just about anything. But for medfet and medical things, I have come to terms with my preferences and care not a whit what others might or might not think. This is just a personal inner world that I experience on my own. It doesn't impinge on anyone else and so shouldn't really be pondered on overly much.

Very well said, agracier! I just gave you another karma point as well. Almost anything can make one feel guilty if you are so inclined to think that way. I feel that it is better for one's soul to admit that life is short and that we are here on earth to enjoy it!

My medfet interests harm no one and make some others very happy! What is there to not like 😃.

Lady Teddy, who enjoys having a good safe, sane and fun time

I can't tell anyone how they should feel or why they feel a certain way, but from my perspective (for what it's worth), medical fetish is a harmless manifestation which, for whatever reason, works for various people. There is a very clear line between fantasy and reality in regard to anything, and medfet is no exception. Some women are turned on by rape fantasies, or hostage fantasies, but we know, of course, none of them actually want to be raped or taken hostage, either would be a horribly terrifying ordeal. Yet, as a fantasy, it's just that and nothing more, a little spot in the minds' playground, a mere psychological trigger for the pleasure equation. Undergoing a play exam is thrilling for my "patients", because deep down inside, regardless of how they may try to psych themselves up, they know it's just fantasy and that it's "safe". Actual medical exams and procedures are on an entirely different level, and often are anything but enjoyable or titillating. That said, I can see no reason for anyone to feel guilty simply because they find medfet boosts the libido. It's really no different than men looking at Penthouse or the ladies enjoying a night at a male strip club, it's just image and imagination to help get the juices flowing, so to speak.

Absolutely no second thoughts. Keep in mind this board and its members are fetishist and are into role play situations and it isn't in any way insulting or demeaning to the professionals in the medical community. This fetish is a desire and personal preference, no different from a favorite ethnic food..its a desire driven choice. As long as the fetish brings you and your partner(s) joy in a healthy fashion, you are doing yourself an injustice by NOT partaking in the fulfilling opportunities of Medfet.

I have no regrets of my fetish wouldn't change anything

No guilt.

Doctor and patient are in the same exam room for the same reason: enjoing the role play.

Where there is joy there shouldn't be a sense of feeling guilty.

I don't have any second thoughts about my fetish.

Not in the least!.

As a PlayDoctor, I am meeting and examining Young Guys who WANT to be examined by a "Doctor", thereby fulfilling the fantasy and desire of both themselves and the Doctor.

Their limits should and must be respected and Doctor must appreciate just how far he can take his patient out of their particular comfort zone to conduct a thorough and authentic exam.

Its not like I was trying to force or seduce someone into my fantasy so No, definately no second thoughts from this "Doctor"!

I wish I didn't have this fetish, not out of guilt but neverending frustration. Since I was a teenager I have fantasized about procedures and exams performed by pretty female physicians and nurses. It is probably the hardest fantasy to realize. I have been to some of the bdsm facilities in my area some of which have passable medical facilities but finding a skilled medfet domme who can perform realistic exams and procedures is quite rare. Almost all of the viewing material online (pictures and videos) are nothing more than ridiculous porn with no realism at all and it appears that it all comes from a handfull of sources with the same people. As I said, a hard fantasy to realize over the years and therefore very very frustrating.

I have no guilt about having this fetish. I think that even in our "sexually liberated" age, most people understand sex very little. Fetish is one of the interesting and complex aspects of sex. It ties deeply into who we are and what our life experiences have been, and ties deeply into our vulnerabilities.

What I do with this fetish is something that I struggle with. I ask myself how appropriate roleplay is if it involves someone I'm not in a relationship with. I also wonder if too much of my energy is devoted to exploring this aspect of myself.

Hi.

I must admit I do still feel guilty to a certain extent as my wife is very much involved in my fetish. Although she's beginning to like it more after 5years she still struggles a little with it and now the basics just ain't enough, I really want to go more in depth with her and I know she likes it because how much I get off on it. However needing and wanting more seems to be pushing the limits. But I really can't help it its all I think about every night and day.

As for you feeling guilty and ashamed at times I get it. I dont think there are many people in the world with fetishism that don't feel bad at some point.

However if you look at it in a different way your profession makes you aware of safety and correct procedure which is very important. So it's not a total down side.

I hope your coming to terms more with yourself and feeling more positive, you deserve to not feel guilty about what you enjoy. Just try not to take it into the work place and you'll be fine.

I don't know much about medfet but it seems very interesting.. And although I have my main fetish I do like to learn about others.

Although nothing can come close to the excitement relief and arousal I get from my fetish.

Hey all, so I wonder if there is anyone else with the same problem as me.. Every time I watch some video or pictures about medical things, which turn me on and I cum I feel so guilty and immediately turn the browser off and do something else like it would never happened like I wouldn't have fetish at all... As if I felt guilty or compunction. I don't know how to get rid of it and I guess it's in me and I can't prevent it. Do you have the same problem? If so, how do you manage it?