Do you have Second Thoughts or Guilt about your MedFet Fetish?

@ready_for_surgery,

My thoughts are, if you can't express yourself sexually in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship.

I'm a firm believer in face to face communication. Know what you are getting into before one says Okay or I Do. Years ago at age 17 my husband (Then Boyfriend) had to make a choice.

We were parking at the Drive In Movie! And I remember every little thing as if it happened only yesterday. And he never had a girl looking any better than I did! Let's just say he could see Paradise By The Dashboard Light and it was up top him to make a decision. He did not have time to "Sleep On His Decision" All of his wrecking of the past had to be put on the back burner. I asked for a one word reply to my question. Will it be me or all the other crap that has ruined your life up to know? Guess What? He chose to find out what was under The Dashboard Light! It was actually in the back seat of a Ford station wagon.

That night and the word "Yes" sees us together and so very happy even after 51 years ago at the Drive In Movie.

@agracier, Catholic Church, School, Nuns and Confession etc were bloody beaten into my husband! It was a no holds barred brain wash of my husbands childhood. To those who were never made captive like yourself and my husband could not understand the who, what or why of the Catholic church. Today he sees the truth plastered all over the world. He thanks me for pulling him out of the doldrums. My MIL hated me because I was not Catholic. She hated me more because I had the logical power to finally pull my husband away from her and her caustic ways.

Granted, there are many good people in the Catholic Church It's not like it was.

So Happy You Are Here Enjoying Your Life!

Catholic Church, School, Nuns and Confession etc were bloody beaten into my husband!

Granted, there are many good people in the Catholic Church It's not like it was.

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I got lucky, After Catholic nuns in the US, my family moved to Belgium where I was sent to a Jesuit school. They were very strict when it came to doing homework, studying and thinking logically. They never inflicted physical punishments though and they never had a thing for all the paraphernalia of outward observance.

The difference between the two was like night and day. Was I happy there? hell no. Happy kids in school have something wrong with them ... ha ha. But they did teach students to logically think for themselves, even if it led down paths a nun would have been aghast at.

I'm happy everything went well for you at the Jesuit school. One of the nicest people I ever met was a Catholic Monk from Louisiana. He had a big Cajun drawl when he spoke. His name was Andri. He was about five feet tall. He reminded me of Eduard Delacroix from the Green Mile. He made bread and pastries. He was a wonderful example of a fine person.

Don't feel guilty.. I once knew a gay urologist who loved dick, and a straight gynecologist

who loved pussy.. Medical ethics allow for individuals to have varied sex lives. Doctors are just not allowed to fuck their patients, and are required to act professionally in public. As long as all involved are consenting adults and no harm is done, what happens in the bed room, or med-fet room, is private business.

I never feel guilt about it. I often feel what seems like the ridiculousness of it. Thinking about what I post on Zity can cause me to feel embarrassment and cause me to have second thoughts at times when I’m not actually logged in, but as soon as I’m here, I quickly get over any embarrassment. If anything, Zity is mentally therapeutical when it comes to facing doubts about my little kinks and fetishes.

If it causes no one harm, why would one feel guilt about it?

I sometimes feel stupid, but never guilty.

All my partners have been accepting of my fetishes, some shared them very strongly. No guilt there.

The only time I felt shame was with a girlfriend who reacted harshly when I touched her anus. We never got to playing doctor because she was so angry, accusing me of wanting to eat her shit, her words, just cause I explored her bottom. We broke up and I decided to ask her about her negativity about having her anal area touched and she said, I’m afraid I might like it.

I’ve battled back and forth with my medfet for probably 25 years. It started when I was young and found my parent’s medical book, then discovered latex gloves, and later gynecology threw me over the top. I’ve definitely felt guilt over it, even when single, and feel like I could never tell my vanilla wife, whom I love dearly. Over the years I have deleted or disposed of my stash of pics and equipment several times out of fear of being discovered, but immediately regret it, and regret it hard! It takes so long to build a good stash! I know it’s a part of me, and would love nothing more than to be able to act on it and play, but I don’t think that day will ever come. Cost of being introverted I guess.

@Trythatonforsize, This is so saddening! If you have never talked with your wife it might not be to late to try? Perhaps she has similar thoughts like you do?

I'm sitting here thinking about what I have and what I do and most, if not all has come behind heart felt conversations with my husband. May I suggest that you will never know why until you try?

Medical fetish and gynecology fun with your wife or lover is not wrong! It's not sinful nor bad! It's a way to open a love affair with you wife or lady that makes loving very intimate and special. I'm no believer in or have ever practiced adultery. I've taken my marriage to a special level by learning how to give my body to my husband in a very beautiful way. I promised to him, "All Of Me" And I do believe that the fun we have had has helped to keep us together for all of these years.

Please know you are in my thoughts!

Not at all

100 People have 100 different fetishes and interests

Lieve and let lieve is what i say

Yeah, I think I do. I am on the early ends of my twenties. I have often wondered what causes my fetish. Sometimes I am unsure if it is not really a fetish and just an intense fascination. As I have written about on here in previous posts, I had a very complicated medical history and spent the first few years of my life in and out of the hospital. I don't really remember much of that experience but I have I guess glimpses of it from time to time. I was always terrified to go to the doctor. I guess you'd say I was a precocious child and liked to treat it all like a game...just to bring some kind of fun into after all. I was blessed to have the sweetest pediatrician ever. If he hadn't retired, and I hadn't been about to age out, I probably could've had him be my doctor forever. Words I can say will not do enough justice to describe him. Let's just say that he set the whole thing up to where no doctor will ever be the same. I think he was probably one of the last of his kind. If there was a pressing issue, he would stay and listen. When I had some scary medical sh*t happen, he would coach me through it. Sometimes I had other doctors that I would have to see and it would not be the same. I was just another name on a clipboard. Not a person. Just a chamber holding body parts I guess. This transition into adulthood has not been an easy one. Now reading all of these posts just reminded me of another thing... My mom had this Norman Rockwell medical painting book that I was always fascinated in. I think another part of all of this, is that I kind of wanted to be a doctor as a kid, but had some physical stuff happen that would render that impossible. I often wonder what causes this craziness to happen...not that medfet is crazy...sometimes it just seems so weird to me. Anyhow, I am unsure if anyone can relate to this but I hope someone can.

I don't feel guilty for having this fetish.

But I have deleted my account here, twice, because I thought I was spending too much time on the forum and it was becoming more of an obsession than a fantasy. I hope I can control myself a little better on my third go-round.

And I do feel guilty for sneaking around on my wife for the occasional play exam with other males. That's something I will have to take to the grave with myself.

I don't feel guilty for having this fetish.

And I do feel guilty for sneaking around on my wife for the occasional play exam with other males. That's something I will have to take to the grave with myself.

You don’t feel guilty about having a fetish for play exams with other males. But you do feel guilty for acting out that fetish. How do you separate thinking about it and then acting on it. Own up, if you feel guilt for acting on a fetish you must have some guilt about the fetish. I masturbate a lot and do enemas behind my wife’s back. No guilt about wanting to do it or actually acting on it. But my situation is complicated. No judgement here. Just don’t understand the separation of the two.

I can absolutely relate to this :- My M/M exploits are totally unknown to all my friends, family, wife and colleagues.... do I feel guilty ? yes

And I do feel guilty for sneaking around on my wife for the occasional play exam with other males. That's something I will have to take to the grave with myself.[/quote]

if you feel guilt for acting on a fetish you must have some guilt about the fetish. No judgement here. Just don’t understand the separation of the two.

Having a fetish, feeling the urges and desires is an innate part of a person't character and personality, it is not something that is consciously arrived at. It happens often enough (in childhood) without people even knowing they are developing a fetish. It is just something they suddenly or gradually realize they have.

As such, they are not responsible for having that particular fetish. It is something acquired without their will or consent.

Acting on the fetish, however is a conscious act, something that must be actively decided ... it is voluntary.

A thoughtful person will understand they cannot change their innate character. Therefore no guilt should be felt. It is useless and counterproductive to feel guilt for something that is not your fault and about which you can do nothing or little.

You don’t feel guilty about having a fetish for play exams with other males. But you do feel guilty for acting out that fetish. How do you separate thinking about it and then acting on it.

It's the same thing as masturbating to thoughts of your neighbor and actually having a sexual fling with him or her. At least it is in my eyes.

If you don't see a difference between thinking sexual thoughts and potentially putting your marriage on the line for a sexual liaison, then we are very far apart in our positions and opinions on this.

No feelings of guilt ever on my part...as long as you play nice, respect each other and never do anything that could harm another person this is a healthy outlet for enjoying the pleasures of kink.

I am very fortunate to still be here but the fetish has always made me feel odd. I respect medical professionals immensely.

I’ve never felt guilty, per se, but sometimes I do feel a bit weird. Like, it’s a fantasy that terrifies me and turns me on in equal measure. Coupled with my real life trepidation, I think the medfet thing is sort of a coping mechanism. So while it is sexual, its also about healing, and intrinsically about control or lack thereof.

That being said, my husband is aware, to some degree. One day we’ll act on my fantasies. If I could ever muster the courage.

Very interesting topic and it centers on ones very inner desires. I come here as a result of years of thoughts with no possible chance of resolution. In the last two years I have had two or three very thorough examinations. I felt very vulnerable and anxious about them not sure I can explain why

I feel no guilt whatsoever. I’m lucky that my wife likes to have play exams with me. We keep our exams as realistic as possible, only having sex after the exam is complete. Once in a while we will mix it up and use positions for the genital and rectal exams that would land a real doctor in hot water. For example, I will have my wife assume the knee/chest position on the exam table for her pelvic and rectal exams.

When we go for our real physicals, I use all my willpower to keep my excitement at bay while I am examined, and while I watch my wife get her exam, which includes a Pap and pelvic, and rectovaginal/rectal exams. I would never put the PA that examines us in an awkward situation.

The only way I would feel guilty is if I participated in a play exam with another woman behind my wife’s back, which I would never do.

Answer: not at all, these days. l find my fetishes and the sharing of them here on Zity quite energising, as l meanwhile try to live in a supportive and caring way towards most other people (though not the ratbags, except in a minimal degree!).

I've been helped by agracier's very sensible remarks on this thread (e.g., post #135 ).

- Ken

I thought I was a freak until I discovered enemas for fun and read all the stories. I was able to figure out my kink once I got to zity. I don't have any regrets.

I thought I was a freak until I discovered enemas for fun and read all the stories. I was able to figure out my kink once I got to zity. I don't have any regrets.

You are a freak. Just a good one. 😄

Do I have any guilt? None what so ever! Do I have any second thoughts? Yes...and third thoughts, and fourth thoughts, and fifth thoughts, etc., etc. The thoughts never stop. All of them involving MrsFn and how I can pleasure her.

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I have no guilty feelings at all. I love my enema kink and my spanking kink. Both keep me sane and balanced. I could have worse addictions like doing drugs or being an alcoholic.

None whatsoever. It is a fetish that is enjoyable and if both people want it then why not?

I do not feel guilty about any of my fetishes and enjoy them when it's with the right person. I enjoy enemas slow warm and at times punishing. The feeling of being filled and restrained is lovely. I enjoy the control over me while it's being done to me. And the retention of it also under control although I squirm and beg.

Up until my mid-40's I went thru cycles of guilt where I'd swear to myself that I was giving up taking enemas and I'd then proceed to throw away all the enema equipment I had accumulated. After doing that, with a few weeks I'd be out buying new bags; beginning the cycle all over again. I wish I had all the bags I had throw away, how dumb!

At first I had a touch of guilt and then I realized that there may be others like me so I just went on doing my enemas and enjoying them.

After finding this site, I know there are many others like me. I enjoy my enemas, masturbation, my nipples pierced and other areas that I enjoy a bunch.

So I give myself enemas and masturbate and enjoy it all. My wife doesn't care nor does she participate.