Who prefers male gynecologists and why?

Just my opinion... but in my personal experience male gyns are generally more gentle and caring. They're thorough and seem to be more understanding of my concerns rather than just being like "Oh it's just part of being a woman...".

Just my opinion... but in my personal experience male gyns are generally more gentle and caring. They're thorough and seem to be more understanding of my concerns rather than just being like "Oh it's just part of being a woman...".

Yes definitely agree with zebraprincess, with the exception of one female gynecologist, the male gyn's I've had have been more gentle.

My first gyn was male and his response to every problem I had was "well, your body is changing and you're becoming a woman, [insert problem of the day] is part of becoming a woman." I finally dumped him after he told me that "it is impossible that taking 2 advil every 4 hours does not relieve your menstrual cramps, you're either lying to get attention or imagining things." My second gyn was a woman, she was ok but I left her after she got all snippy at me when I told her during my yearly exam that I had started actively having sex with women (as well as men). For the next few years I bopped around between whatever doc was convenient/on my insurance and didn't really like most of them- they don't really seem to know how to interact with and advise patients who are bisexual and polyamorous. Nowadays I see an amazing female NP for my gyn care, she is the absolute best. So, to me gender didn't really make a difference, but I prefer NPs (to MDs) for both gyns and GPs- I've found them to be more empathic and gentle.

My first experienc is with female doctor .very polite and very gentile .but with other female's popping in to get something out a draw. With a single assistant who held my hand

There is an episode of "Friends" where Rachel is pregnant and one of the men offers a piece of unsolicited advice to her. Her response: "No uterus, no opinion!" I love that quote!!

I used to see a female gyn but she didn't deliver babies. So when I got pregnant I transferred to her male partner and years later I have never switched back. She was great and I loved her; I just chose to stay with him because he had been with me through a brutal pregnancy and aided me to deliver a healthy baby despite my problems.

He was always compassionate and understanding. When I have talked to my girlfriends (at least 75% of whom prefer male GYNs) the general consensus is that the female docs are more likely to downplay female complaints. For instance if I were to go to the doctor with complaints of severe menstral cramps, a male would listen and do what he could to help me. A woman may herself be on her period and having cramps that day and would be like get over it...we all have cramps. So, no uterus, no opinion. 😃

In addition to this, in case anybody cares, female physicians have a different ego than male physicians. My career is such that I have to, for lack of a better way to describe it, tell physicians that they aren't doing their jobs right. (Not that I come out and say that obviously....I have to very delicately ask them to do something that they aren't doing in a way that makes them think it's their idea.) So my experience is that men are more likely to have a god complex and women are more likely to have an inferiority complex, even if they are more qualified than their male counterparts. It's a man's world, and even in 2015 we still make less money for doing the same jobs as our male colleagues. We often get less respect in the workplace and are still expected to carry the brunt of the child-rearing and household responsibilities. So when I have a female complaint, I want a man who doesn't understand any of this instead of a female who is going thru the exact same things, because misery loves company!!

Interesting viewpoint, Kes.

My girlfriend has a male gynocogist and she prefere's it that way she says he listens to her and is more comforting to her when he does her exams and all she used to have a female but she switched cause she didnt like how rushed she felt when she did her exam and didnt like her bedside manner so she switched to a male gynocologist and i dont have a problem with her seeing a male doctor just like she doesnt have a problem with me seeing female doctor

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I now prefer male doctors because I have had some bad experiences with female ones. I will not get on with a female doctor if she plays down my complaint or I feel she thinks I am being a nuisance for being there. When I chose a private gynecologist I knew I wanted a male one and it was the best decision I could have made. I do not really care about the sex of the assistants.

I agree with Amethyst 100 percent again. Most of you know already that I absolutely refuse to see a woman anything. I don't have time to deal with the automatic drama that comes when 2 women meet, and they are just in general rough and bitchy. And I'm sorry, in any relationship, male or female, I'm the bitch, and there is always only room for one. LOL, no not really, I'm just kidding.

Mashie

I agree with Amethyst 100 percent again. Most of you know already that I absolutely refuse to see a woman anything. I don't have time to deal with the automatic drama that comes when 2 women meet, and they are just in general rough and bitchy. And I'm sorry, in any relationship, male or female, I'm the bitch, and there is always only room for one. LOL, no not really, I'm just kidding.

Mashie

Most of my consultants and specialists I see at the minute are male . As I've said before they have a better bedside manner , are more caring and are definitely more willing to listen to your complaint and address it . I have a good relationship with my main consultants and we are serious but do laugh and joke too.

I currently have one female consultant during this hospital stay. Her and I clash big time . I really dislike her coming to my room as she always comes with a male dr too. She seems to have all the power. I tolerate her just , but only because she has a job to do .

I have to agree with Mashie the female Drs are generally rough and bitchy .

Nikki

Hello niknoks and Mashie I think men can have the same problem with male doctors so it is a same-sex competitive personality problem.

My husband has told me when he was a boy he had male doctors who were unsympathetic when he came to see them with injuries.

He has posted as well about when he had an injury to his testicles and a male doctor stethed his heart and took his blood pressure. This doctor tried to scare my husband into thinking his heart was beating too fast and seemed to be smirking when he said it. But my husband was just worried about his injury. I could see he was worried because I knew him but anybody else would think he was relaxed. I remember it well. My husband was very quiet when he responded but it was obvious the doctor's nastiness made him pissed off. Now my husband is a really nice man and almost always calm about things but this doctor really pressed his buttons. I was angry with this doctor as well because he seemed to enjoy trying to worry my husband. He did apologise for saying my husband had a fast heartbeat but he should not have done it at all, I was glad when a nice lady doctor came later to examine my husband's injured testicles. She was very good with him and my husband could be nice back to her.

Males, they are much more apt tot listen and speak frankly and answer your questions to your satisfaction. They also have a better "bedside" manner. Females tend to be a bit moody and you never really know what they are thinking.

It's very rewarding to hear that many of the women here find male doctors to be more apt to listen, having better bedside manners and a more gentle touch etc...

I am sure there are equally as many female doctors with the same attributes … but as a male it's nice to know our gender is so appreciated by the female patient.

Thank you to all the women who have responded here.

Doc Rob

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This pattern might suggest that, at least in some cultures, an opposite sex doctor can have a calming effect on the patient. It also suggests that to be seen by a doctor of the same sex can lead to friction and personality clashes. Difficult to validate this meaningfully with such a small statistical sample, and it is probably a far more complicated picture anyway.

Still, it would have been interesting to discover how well I would have got on with the female doctors my wife (Amethyst) had so much trouble with. I wonder if their attitudes would have been different.

I prefer a male gynecologist because in my personal experiences they're a lot more gentle and thorough 😃

I have no preference on gender and like Andie said its best qualified I prefer. I have a friend who once talked about how she was late as wanted a female dr over the male consultant and so waited for junior female colleuge to see her.

Why if could have consultant care for you would you choose to see a junior member of the team. Not doing your self any favours.

In my experience have found males made more of an effort with modesty and comfort though.

Molliewhite, your last statement that you have found male doctors tend to offer more comfort and modesty, I have also found to be true.

I for one before I met Doc ONLY went to male doctors. I have been to a woman doctor or NP twice in my life, not including the midwives I had during my first pregnancy. I couldn't stand any of them, and for multiple reasons.

I am just more comfortable with a man for just about everything. I grew up with two older brothers and all their friends and I just seem to relate better to men in general. Women medical professionals are sometimes not all that concerned with your modesty and I am guessing because they have that mentality of, "we all have the same thing so what does it matter" type of thinking. While I really don't care about modesty at all, it isn't their choice, it's mine and mine alone. The level of modesty should always be determined by the patient and what is comfortable for them, not the other way around. I have noticed with every single woman medical professional, even some nurses and some STNA's and what not that they are not as gentle to each other as men are. Some of that has to do with how women and men are wired.

Another reason I will only see a male gyno is because there is no power struggle. Let me explain. When men walk into a room they scan the room to see where in the male pack they stand. In a few moments they have summed up all the males and they know where they stand. Women do the same thing. When I walk into a room I take a look around and I can get a pretty good idea of what types of women are there, what their agenda's are, and who if any of them are my equal or stronger from a personality stand point. I know that sounds very cocky on my part, and it is, but it is how we women are wired and how we work.

I have a type A personality. I am very strong both physically and mentally speaking. I walk and talk with confidence at all times. I am very nice to people, I flirt my ass off in a very subtle way with men, I am not at all shy, I speak my mind, and because I am like this I intimidate most people. Again, I am not bragging at all, this is very typical of type A personalities. However, when I am one on one with a woman, again we both are summing each other up from the moment we make eye contact. Some women may not realize they do this but they do. I will know in less than a minute who the stronger willed person is. Without a word spoken on that topic, we both know exactly who the stronger one is and then we act accordingly.

When I am one on one with a female doctor as I said earlier, in less than a minute we will have summed each other up. Now here is where the problem lies, as a doctor she has my respect, as a woman, there is a power struggle there. Most female doctors are also type A personalities and we instantly know that we both are which is when and why the power struggle happens. A lot of it is on a subconscious level and unless you are a type A personality you may not even realize it's happening. Other personality types are usually never in charge and given the chance to challenge for the top almost never do. But A types are very different and we have a very different mind set. When two A type personalities get together on equal ground it is usually okay and we are both fine with being equals for the most part. But when two type A personalities get together and one of them is automatically in charge, as in a doctor patient situation often times it gets a bit chilly. Again, a lot of people don't even notice it happening but it does. I know I have to let her be in charge of me as she is the doctor, but she is a woman too, so it's a bit of a conflict for me.

Now, when it comes to male doctors it's a different story. Like when two women get together and one is an A and one is not, usually the one that is not doesn't try to trump the A because she already knows her place. It's the same with me and male doctors. He is a doctor, he is a male, he usually is a type A personality as well and A personalities of the opposite sex often compliment each other very well. I need a male doctor with a type A personality because if he doesn't then I will run all over him and I will be in charge, which isn't in my best interest at all, medically speaking.

That's where Doc comes in. He and I are both type A personalities 100 percent. It takes a strong man mentally speaking with a type A personality to keep me in line, put me in my place, and make me do what I need to do. Doc does this for me. When I walk into a doctors office with a type A personality I already know my place and I act accordingly. Which is actually what's best for me at that time.

Last but not least, I do not go to the gyno anymore because unless there is a severe problem a primary can do probably a better job than a gyno does, and it's a lot cheaper.

Mashie

I prefer a male over a female males I think are more gentler than females. They also have a better bedside manner than females. So my gyn has always been a male.

I used to always go to female gynecologists but recently switched to my male gp who takes care of my medical condition and truthfully I have found him to be far more gentle and to have a much better bedside manner and I had to get over the whole I know this guy and he's seeing my privates as we all know if they've seen one they've seen them all. The health of my whole body is very important and that includes my intimate regions and believe me my doc is completely professional and I don't fantasize about any fetish stuff as I see him nearly on a daily basis at work. I keep my play life and my work life completely separate. And real gynecologists aren't all about the vagina as a lot of them see some nasty stuff as do most ER docs. In the play world we can keep it pretty and sexy lol. Anyway just my spin on the subject.

I agree with tcuplvr who said that there was a scarcity of women doctors. That was true for me, too. I got used to male doctors examining me. They always brought in a female nurse to witness the exam and prevent improprieties. One of my doctors was confident enough under his nurse's supervision that he felt comfortable teasing me. When feeling my breasts for lumps, he grinned and said he liked breasts that were a generous handful. I'd had two children already, so that didn't faze me. I joked right back. The one female doctor I visited another time wasn't any fun at all.

One of my doctors was confident enough under his nurse's supervision that he felt comfortable teasing me. When feeling my breasts for lumps, he grinned and said he liked breasts that were a generous handful. I'd had two children already, so that didn't faze me. I joked right back. The one female doctor I visited another time wasn't any fun at all.

Sally, I take it the nurse was not small breasted. What was your joke back to the doctor?

Another reason I will only see a male gyno is because there is no power struggle.

I really liked your post @Mashie when you said this and I was nodding my head at everything you said. I have had some bad experiences with women doctors who I just had personality clashes with. I was made to feel like I was being a nuisance for taking up their time and I thought they were just dismissing what was concerning me. I have disagreed with things they have said and there have been awkward silences and a lot of friction. So I now only ever really want to have a male doctor and I picked a male private gynecologist. I think this was the best decision that I could have made.

I have a lot of type A personality in me I think so I will not let other women walk all over me. I think some women who are doctors do not like that and they try to get the upper hand in a power struggle. I had to be type A really when I was at school in my teens because I got a lot of unwanted attention from older boys so I had to learn to handle it well and just get rid of them. Boys who were my own age were intimidated by me I think and a lot of men are intimidated by me now.

My husband is type A in a lot of situations and he is a real alpha male. He is just what I need in a husband and I am a lot less type A when I am with him. He is nearly always the alpha male in a room with other men. When with other men who are a bit similar to him they just seem to see that, respect each other and become friends some times. I think women can clash more than men when that happens.

I am a rarity I believe but was actually hired on by a female gyn. She is a little younger as far as doctors go and a little more progressive I think in her vision of what benefits a male PA might have. So far its worked out great, some women just dont want to wait forever to be taken care of and some actually prefer a male, but like the reviews of her practice they find online or a million other reasons. Always surprised by the amount of patients I actually get to see in a given day lol.

My wife doens't care about gender of gynecologist, andy more than she does of proctologist, or surgeon, for that matter. For me, I don't care which gender puts their finger up my butt for prostate check. It's just business for both of us.

I prefer a male gynecologist to a female gynecologist the reason is because it seems a female gyn is more rougher when they do their exam on me, thats the reason I never went back female gyn. I found a male gyn and he treated me a lot better off. In fact I think that he was more truthful than my other gyn, he also had a better bed side manner which I liked and I also found that he was more gentle than the woman gyn I had. He even was my surgeon when I had several ovarian cysts that had to be taken care of. He also did my surgery when I had a twisted cyst on my left ovary where he removed the ovary and my tube. So over the years I have really come trust him. And I feel very comfortable with him I can tell him anything.

I have always found male gynecologists to be more empathetic and to have better bedside manner. The female gyns that I have seen seem to dismiss small complaints more than their male counterparts. Perhas I have just had bad luck with females, but my experience has been that they try to use their title to coerce a specific treatment plan or to guilt patients in to following their advice. I will note here that this is not just my experience with my own care- I also work in a field where I interact in maternal and perinatal healthcare and see this play out frequently.

For my own routine care, I see a midwife and find this to differ from my experience with female gyn. They seem less rushed (which makes sense based on their practice model and patient load) and therefore more thorough.

I have had both male and female gynecologists in the past, but my current gynecologist who I've seen for several years now is male and I'm quite fine with that. He is attentive, takes time to listen to concerns, answer questions and is gentle and thorough in his examination of me. I also have a male Internist who I see as my GP. I switched to him last year after seeing a female Family Practice doctor for many years.

So while I didn't think I had a strong preference either way, I have to say that I do prefer my male gynecologist. Looking back at the male and female gynecologists I've been too, I have liked the male gyno's better.