In thirty five years my wife has had five male gynos and only one female. She only went one time to the female. I would have to say she must be most comfortable with male doctors.
I have had both male and female gynecologists and have had issues with both.When I was pregnant with my third child I had specific requirements. I had one vaginal birth and one emergency C-section. I wanted my third delivery to be a vaginal delivery and had expressed my desire during my entire pregnancy to my physician. He had stated that he had no problems with that until I went into labor At that time he stated that he did not believe in attempting a vaginal birth after a Section and if I did not agree I needed to find another physician and none of the other physicians in the practice would go against his wishes. I realize that this is NOT ethical but at that point there is not much that can be done.I have had a situation where a female PA tried to pressure me to her opinion and refused to order tests that would have confirmed another physicians suspicions. I eventually needed the first physician to order the tests and seek information interpreting them from another gynecologist.So I really don't have a preference as to the gender of my gynecologist, I just want to be comfortable with them and have them value my opinion.I believe that your healthcare should be a joint affair You are honest with your physician and tell him everything they need to know and they provide you with options. Together you come to a decision regarding the plan for your health.
The wife has had a number of family doctors / gynaecologists / proctologists / urologists and even ultrasound technicians and with the exception of only two the rest were all men. Her preference is for men although she can't really explain why other than the fact that the two women she went to were "total bitches" in her eyes. I can't help but wonder if we heterosexuals are "programmed" to feel more comfortable with a member of the opposite sex rooting around in our nether regions especially when we are younger.For the most part i can presume it was business as normal although the wife is attractive and does have a rather large labia which is a huge turn on for me and many others I'm sure.I do find it hard to believe though that at some point in time the during the pelvic exam portion that even a doctor doesn't feel something when working with a young attractive woman willingly laying there in an exposed position allowing the Dr's fingers to work their way around. Perhaps it's a guy thing. But having said that she does go for her pap / pelvic exam every year like clockwork around her birthday. There was one time though that our GP was out of town and a locum was sitting in for him. It was a young Dr. as my wife described him must have been fresh out of Med School. Anyway he did the full exam, smear / pelvic / anal and breasts and sent her on her way. Two weeks later the Dr's office called and asked her to come back as the pap tests were inconclusive so she had to book an appointment again with the same new Dr. for a repeat pap test. Strange I though but oh well...An another note the only time she admitted somewhat of a turn on was during a pelvic ultrasound. Although her lower area was covered she was initially exposed for the technician when he put the probe inside her. The turn on of course came as he wiggled the probe around inside her vagina. When she came home and told me about the experience she jokingly added the only thing missing was batteries......
There is obviously a split among women.There is one group that says women docs are more gentle and another group that says men docs are more gentle.
La Fille: Friends of mine have made exactly the same complaint against female gynecologists:- they tended to be judgmental about lifestyle (I don't know details, probably about sexual activity)- as you said, they tended to dismiss complaints as just "nothing".I guess it's a case "I'm a woman, I've been through that and I know it's not painful, so you're just a wussy", disregarding that different people may have different pain reactions to the same act.
Have never been to a gyn only G.P.s Difficult for me to decide I know a girl who went to a female gyn and found her to be a total bitch. She now uses a male.
My girlfriend prefers to be examined by a female. The last few time though she has been examined by male Drs. Just worked out that way.
My wife sees a male gyn. She says it's because she feels "weird" being examined by a female.Is this "weirdness" similar to guys who say they don't want any guy "touching and looking at my junk" or something else?
I prefer a male Gynaecologist even though I don't get Gynocology exams. I have only had one done in 35 yrs by a nurse practitioner and she gave me a fully naked complete exam and she had No personality at all. Then I almost saw a female dr once but she had an emergency so they cancelled my apt, but they never called me, I found out because I called before I left to go to ask where they were located and that's how I found out. Boy was I mad, never went back, and I found out she's got a nasty reputation.
I have had both male and female gynecologists. I prefer males any day. They seem to be more friendly and enjoy their work more than females. The male doctors I have had seem to have a real good touch with their fingers. They take more time doing my breast exam and insure everything between my legs is in good condition and responding properly.
For me, my bf is the one that wants me to see a male ob/gyn. From my first one on he's always pushed me in that direction and so that's what I've always done. He likes seeing a male telling me to undress and the examining me like that. It is a turn on for both of us now.
Great post, Britney. I imagine that is a very big turn on. Has anyone ever been expecting a female gynecologist and then, for some scheduling reason, etc., a male shows up to perform the annual/pelvic exam?
... and enjoy their work more than females. The male doctors I have had seem to have a real good touch with their fingers. They take more time doing my breast exam and insure everything between my legs is in good condition and responding properly.Very interesting observation. Takes my mind places.
In my experience, I've found males to be more gentle when they are feeling around down there. The females I've seen, have an ohhh this doesn't hurt for me, it shouldn't hurt for you, kind of attitude. Not speaking for every female doctor out there of course.I'd much rather visit a male gynecologist any day
Love to see my attractive wife in any medical situation....or massage scene. Particularly if she is partially undressed and being handled by a male Dr. She likes the situation of young attractive doctors examining her....as I do. The more intimate the better.
@germangoddesss I of course have heard exactly that same thing from many women as relates to female doctors.
@germangoddesss you sound like a straight woman and one who doesn't feel pleasure instead of pain.My sexual orientation has nothing to do with the fact I feel female doctors are less gentle than male doctors.@germangoddesss I of course have heard exactly that same thing from many women as relates to female doctors.Thank you Doc Rob! Glad to know I'm not the only woman who thinks this way 😃
The point I was trying to make is that as a bi woman, I'd rather a female examine me. I bet there are other bi women and lesbians who are the same way. I do not want a male examining me in a professional medical setting. I have had many wonderful women give me pap smears and all things related to womens health. They apologize for any discomfort.
Obviously a few women's bad experiences with female doctors puts a bad stigma on female doctors that shouldn't be there.
Bad experiences, as long as they are a one-of thing, should not give a doctor a bad stigma. Nor is he experience of one patient always representative of all patients. Every experience and every doctor, and every patient .. is somewhat different.Doc Rob
Well again, this is a question that begs of each other's opinion. Simply stated that I preferred males over female doctors.
It has always been interesting reading the different opinions from both the male and female members regarding this thread .I think the choice is down to personal preferences personally , but I think that its the skill, experience , expertise and qualifications as well as their bedside ,caring manner and approachability, its what's important. People should not dismiss someone based on gender, yes it can be a bit embarrassing and awkward, but ultimately its your health and personally I firmly believe you should get the best qualified person irregardless of their sex.
It has always been interesting reading the different opinions from both the male and female members regarding this thread .I think the choice is down to personal preferences personally.Well put, RN 😃
Good points all and bedside manner is key. I was lucky with caring females. It's my luck and my opinion. I do enjoy a good debate now and then. This story has two sides and I posted mine but know there will always be another.
I've had a male gyno only a short time in my life. I will never have one again. It has nothing to do with the exam. Man, woman, both would be better. (I'm bisexual with a huge medfet.) The issue is the lack of experience men have with being a woman. When I was bleeding for weeks on end or every three weeks, my male doc pushed me off, telling me, let's give it another month and see. Men have no idea of the discomforts- cramps, chafing, moving funny to keep the pad from shifting or the anxieties- is the pad leaking, do I smell, etc. A woman understands the experience of being a woman. A man can't.I know I'm generalizing, but I don't care. I have a woman doc I like. That works for me.