Submissive Men, What Turns You On?

Being turned over a warm, secure lap, face down and bare bottom up for a long, thorough spanking. After the spanking remaining in place for a rectal temperature and more spanks if I don't behave while my temperature is taken.

E girl what turns me on is being placed over your knee for a bulb enema!!!

There is an Italian saying ( I do not speak Italian) that goes something like " Momma's poor little baby" being sarcastic to grown men. I had a girl friend who used to say this to me! Yes it still turns me on!

Although I can switch, I am a natural sub. I'm currently in a relationship with a 'power top'. For me, what is exciting is knowing I have to do what he wants. I do it without hesitation even if I don't want to and that's exciting.

Another thing I love is the security of knowing that part of his role is to protect and care for me. As I told him the other day,

I'll be your bitch but you'd better treat me right

I am, he does, and I"m pretty happy with him

I can't really say that I'm a submissive male, but what I do enjoy (or would enjoy) is for a female enemate to simply take control, and do what she wants to do with me when it comes to giving me an enema. That scenario has lots of appeal for me.

Being treated like a naughty toddler who needs his system cleaned out. A long bulb session, preceded by a temp taking over the lap of a dominate woman. Great way to stimulate the prostate.

I'm turned on with forced chastity and enemas. And my fantasy is: locked in the chastity cage and double-bar d ex in my ass. I'm getting the 3 qt hot soapy enema. Two or three tablespoons of Dr. Bronner’s Peppermint soap in enema does a trick 😃 Then taking the enema with my hands bounds on my back, I have to lick my wife's hairy pussy. I'm only allowed to expel after her orgasm. And I have to say it takes a very long time to bring her over the top only with my tongue, without helping hands 😃

Great topic. Thanks for starting it.

I am a sexually submissive and socially dominant guy. She can rough me up in bed, but I won't use my tongue to clean her toilet.

Turn offs include humiliation, punishment (no guilt here, just me loving who I am), mind fucks and the like. Apart from saliva, bodily fluids and excretions disgust me but that's just a personal gut level reaction - to each their own.

Turn ons from tame to moderate:

- tie me down for some tease & deny, tickling, edging and the like.

- a serious over-the-knee spanking with the bishopric clamped firmly between her thighs. Slap-squeeze-slap-squeeze OMG!!!!!

- she lifts and carries me, across or over her shoulder.

- playful erotic / fantasy wrestling. Fantasy meaning she is always the aggressor and I just do my best to resist.

- she pegs me

- she forces me to an involuntary orgasm.

THE PERFECT SCENE starts with wrestling. She does judo and/or jiu-jitsu, and she wears a mini kimono over sexy feminine underthings, an eroticised judo gi, in effect. She throws me about at will and puts me in intimate holds, boob smothers, crotch in the face head scissors, between her thighs arm bar. Mild to moderate pain is AOK.

For the absolutely perfect session her dominance turns her on and she frots herself to multiple orgasm on various parts of my body. She incorporates spanking and L&C (2nd fav throw is shoulder wheel, 1st is hip toss). She pegs me hard then ties me down for the sensual stuff.

GWG.

As most here know, I'm a dyed-in-the-wool switch, but that definitely includes intense enjoyment of being submissive to the right woman. Among other things, I'd love having a domme or partner assume command of my sexuality for an episode or evening and forcing me to

-dress or be dressed in her selection of rubber clothes (single/multiple layers) and shoes, including kinky accessories like gas/diving masks and gags,

-be tied or cuffed in her position(s) of choice,

-listen to her talk to me the whole time about her plans for me including timeline and extent of submission, with whatever vagaries or details she knows will increase my submissiveness and sexual tension and arousal,

-be denied orgasm until she allows it,

-endure extensive anal play, stimulation and enema(s), designed to increase and prolong arousal,

-speak and ask questions only according to her rules,

-obey her demands for bringing her satisfaction as desired including her orgasm(s), usually before any climax I am allowed,

-extend my period of rubberization/enemas/plugging/orgasm denial or repetition as she sees fit including possibly overnight.

Any and/or all of those above, plus her imagination for more.

Not too many details, but a nice framework to start. My ex-wife #2 did this once or twice without warning and I'll never forget them. ??❗❗❗

Eric

Sounds good Eric. It's the control that makes it work

Sounds good Eric. It's the control that makes it work

I know this is an old post but other people might have the same interests.

I would say the most important thing to consider, is it seems hard to find a domme that will experiment at all. Personally I don't want to make suggestions to her about what I want to try. That seems like the dommes main job but most don't do it. They wait for suggestions and then say "yes, go do it". Not interesting at all. Also hard to find a domme that will keep her promises. If you suggest something and the sub starts thinking about it happening but It never does, it's depressing. It just gives the impression that you're not really even paying attention to the relationship and don't care what the sub wants. If it's not fun for the sub, it won't be fun for you. I've had dommes tell me for years that something is going to happen but it never does because she doesn't give it any thought at all.

For me it would be the embarrassment. I love the idea of a woman in a position of authority ordering me to undress, etc.

Love to be taken over the knee and administerd a punishment enema

I like being treated like a naughty toddler that is being punished for wetting my pants. I then get an enema for wetting put in a diaper with pink rubber pants and made to pee and poop in diaper. When in diaper nothing more then diaper and pink rubber pants. After I mess in diaper I get spanked for being naughty in my messy diaper. I am made to stay in diaper til mommy says she will change me.

I would like to be submissive to a female who would demand that I completely undress, have her take me over her lap and spank me. Then give me an enema. This is followed by me giving oral sex as ordered. I like the concept of male chastity and would like to be kept caged and locked through entire session.

Submissive here. Seems most respondents are giving their fantasies and not necessarily being a submissive. To me a true submissive is someone giving total control to the dominant person. I believe you should find out what your submissive would consider loss of control. Experiment with different things. Find out what are their limits. For me, I enjoy certain things. Having them done to me is not necessarily being a submissive. Enemas? Love them. Being given one is not being submissive to me. If the domme had me take one in front of someone else, different story. Although I am a humiliation sub, I usually don’t enjoy being humiliated at the time. It may excite me, but I wouldn’t readily submit to one in front of an audience.

Pushing limits to the point of saying ‘no’ is true submission to someone. Making me do something I am not comfortable with or that I really do not want to do is being submissive. When I started being submissive I was told to do things that took me outside my comfort zone. A lot of things were done online with an open cam. Really uncomfortable with that, but did so. That was being submissive. Would never do that on my own. Examples of things I did on an open cam: shave my pubic hair, masturbation and consumption of ejaculate (usually licking from the floor or a plate), enemas (all kinds of liquids including alcohol), anal insertions (golf balls, Ping-Pong balls, vegetables, fruits, dildos, eggs), testicle abuse (spanking, squeezing, pinching, wearing a humbler, having them tied or locked), cross dressing, strutting around over exaggerated as a woman. None of these was bad for me in front of the domme, but in front of an audience? That pushed me to my bounds and let both me and the domme know I was truly their sub. I was also told to submit to others that contacted me online after a show. That was really humiliating. That made me a submissive twice over, once to my domme and also to the person who contacted me. Sometimes I wouldn’t or couldn’t do things requested (so not being a sub in those instances).

I’m sure any of the items I listed would push others to the edge of their limits. The turn offs would be a domme asking me what I wanted prior to a session. That is getting what I want. Being told what I am getting or just doing it makes it submissive. Big difference even if I want it. Denial is also a big turn on during a session. Know what they want and deny it. Loves enemas? Have them do total preparation, equipment out, bag filled, naked and ready to go. Then have them hold the bag high, release the valve and watch the flow drain down the sink. I think what brings me back is the element of surprise, the unknown, not knowing what is going to happen. That is the excitement for the submissive in me.

Confidence number one that the Dom exudes in attitude and skills .

Creativity

Able to set the scene room temp,music,candles and mirrors.

Ability to reach you mind body and soul !

I enjoy being treated like a little boy that has been purposely holding back. The drama revolving around the use of the suppository first, the preparation for it, then the warmth of her lap as I am lying across it awaiting the cold feel of the suppository making its way inside of me...and of course the think finger following it along to ensure proper depth. Then of course the enema must follow. A warm soapy enema of at least 2 quarts, given while either in the knee chest position or while lying in the sims position in bed. Hearing the preparation of course if the biggest turn on, Her talking about the suppository and how it should have worked better, and how this enema is really going to do the job.

As I’ve seen mentioned throughout this thread I would have to say the anticipation of it all as well as being mentally dominated and put in the zone.

I've been a DOM with Women over the years involving Mild B/D,Spankings,ENEMAS,Ass Play,Toys,Oral/Anal Sex,etc.! However i have also had a few Bi-Experiences in past years and found it to be quite exciting as the DOM! About 2 years ago I decided to try the SUB Role with a DOM Bi-Guy! I was Amazed at how much I Enjoyed being His SUB! He Spanked my squirming bare Ass RED! Then He gave me a Slow/BIG ENEMA and made me suck His COCK during the Enema! When the Bag began to drain Empty into my RED/HOT ASS His COCK Erupted with a HOT LOAD of CUM in my Mouth!! Never before or since have I ever been so Aroused with my Ass/Mouth being FULL at the same Time!!

We had several more sessions like that over a 3 month endeavor before I moved from Seattle to Florida! I've yet to hook up with another Bi-Guy here yet but I hope to find another DOM? SWITCH? Bi-Guy with similar interests to Share/Explore Our Kinky/Erotic and Sensuous Desires/Fantasies in a FUN and Discreet endeavor?? I would love to Chat/Swap Photo's and if we click? Meet/Play??

I posted a longer treatise about 5 months ago here detailing a lot of what I wanted a Domme partner to specifically do to me to check all the boxes on my and her kinks and needs. In addition to the scene posted earlier, I think perhaps the most important thing overall (and her reinforcing it multiple times as we went along in an evening) is constantly being aware that she is going to do whatever she tells me until she gets the result she wants, no matter what it takes. In other words no matter how many layers of sneakers, rubber and sweating, or how many enemas, or how much enema volume, or however long a retention, or how many orgasms she needs, or how many hours it takes, I'm getting what I deserve from her. Only then after she produced as much submission from me as she wanted, would I get an orgasm.

This conceivably may be at least in part because of something I have wondered about for many, many years; this is whether a good deal of my intense need at times for kinks and submission is a compensation for essentially at an extremely deep almost subconscious level being afraid of, or embarrassed by, or even not worthy of sexual expression and gratification. Thus having a Domme in reality or fantasy gives me an "out" or excuse for or reason to allow myself intense sexual expression, (i.e., "she's making me do it so I can relax enough to orgasm"). I began to feel that might be possible decades ago when I first noticed I would have trouble orgasming unless I was dressed in sneakers or rubber or had something up my ass or imagining my other kinks to stimulate me. On thinking about it now, I'm not sure what the difference would be between being subconsciously afraid of or embarrassed by regular vanilla sexual urges as opposed to feeling that sex was more acceptable as long as I "had to" do it because of kinks and fetishes, but there it is.

Understand this is a very deep longstanding issue for me and I am not stating or implying that kinks and fetishes in everyone or anyone else work this way for the same reason. I'm just speculating on my personal idiosyncrasies. In any event, my description in my first paragraph of what I want or need from a Domme partner is the same; that I'm going to be required to do whatever submissive embarrassing things she wants from me until she's satisfied with her dominance. And the more she does and buttons she pushes, the more likely I am to be able to orgasm. And when we do it that way, it really works for me and we have a great satisfying time. Queries or discussion, public or by PM of course welcome.

Eric

The humiliation...losing control...being talked to as the enema is prepared.....seeing the other person fixing the enema bag....Soo many things!!

Always been a versa top ,always giving more then i receive but now would use the road of .a sub to be a better dom

The humilation giving control to somebody ,sharing intimicy

For me personally it’s the loss of control,handing it to the Domme she’s in control of everything from what I wear to how I speak ,what I eat (healthier choices)... sex when,where and how,being disciplined and having chores and structure.

I have always been the agressive guy at work [ a foreman of a small crew] and at home having a quiet wife and making me the discipilarian of the kids. It is a turn on to me to be a sub to a dominant woman. One photo that turns me on is seeing a early teen boy arriving a a dominate Aunt's hose and as he enters, she is sexily dresses in a short skirt, tight blouse opened at the top and seeing her with a riding crop in her hand knowing he is in for a sub experience.

as a child I was a very wired kid and was constantly reparmanded by my Mom with bare butt spankings and enemas. One time an Aunt came buy and helped with my enema .

Also one time I had to help my Mom give my brother an enema. I had to hold the enema bag while standing on a chair and he was in a bassinet while he screamed and hollered while he got the enema. I got yelled at for not holding the bag high enough.

the idea of being a sub to a dominate woman, forced to wear panties, spanked and given enemas is a turn on.

I’ll chime in, though I think I’m more of a switch than a submissive male. I have had a wide range of women friends over the years, mostly developing relationships thru trading massage, and taking that activity one step further if it turns out that we both enjoy sensual massage, tease and denial, enema play or med fet scenarios. I recently began trading with a young woman about 30 years of age, who gives sensual body rubs, practices nude Yoga, and is a self admitted “sensations slut.” (She is half Asian, and has a healthier view of nudity and sensual expression than most of my women friends) All of the body rubs that she performs are done in the nude. She is absolutely comfortable in her skin, (and nothing else) greatly enjoys an exchange of body rubs/sensual massage, a trip to a local hot springs, and just about anything that involves nudity and touching. When it’s my turn to receive, my massage is mostly as clinical as any salon massage might be, with the exception that my therapist is completely nude. Once I turn over, and I am face up, she begins to tease me, with some sexy dance moves, and then begins to massage my cock and balls while biting my nipples. She continues that activity with just a bit of pain mixed with pleasure, and it isn’t long until I reach orgasm. Those sessions are some of the best turn ons for me!

I see I responded to this nearly 10 years ago! How time flies! On review, I left out one thing. For me, I need to submit to (be overwhelmed by, be totally controlled by) femininity. I'm turned on most by girls and women who even in role-play situations remain as much themselves as possible, rather than putting on exotic costumes or personalities. Having my pants taken away is essential, and I appreciate seeing a lot of the woman I'm submitting to – being spanked nude by a nude woman would be an incredible turn-on – but most women I know look very feminine to me in the things they choose to wear every day.

Get the brush, or paddle! I am going to spank you! Yes you have been good, I am going to spank you because I can and because I want to! Do you know what is going to happen when we get home? yes i am going to be spanked, Little Boy, Big Baby, Stand in the corner, holding your spanking brush, facing the corner till I am ready to spank you..................