Submissive Men, What Turns You On?

Being a large man 6'3" and 245lbs. I really get turned on at the thought of a much smaller Dominant person taking complete control and making me submit to their wishes.

The dialogue during the administration of a good syringing with the bulb enema is what does it for me. I like to told I'm being given an enema for pleasure, so relax and enjoy. That there's nothing to be embarassed or ashamed about. That my erection is a perfectly normal and expected reaction. That the goal is a strong prolonged orgasm. That this treatment will be very good for me. That I must hold tightly so we can build the pressure, because it's all about the pressure. That I will feel your hand on my penis thoughout the procedure because we have to be sure we're getting the appropriate response. That I need a just few more......

I also like her to tell me during the enema that she enjoys enemas too and would I give her a good enema when we're through. That she like to have her vagina massaged during her enemas. That the best tool for the massage is my firm erection........

A big red enema bag hanging above me, knowing I'll receive my fill if I don't perform to her satisfaction or just because she likes to see me squirm and moan. Mistress dressed in rubber (the best) or leather, and heels with riding crop or whip in hand. I may not always be interested in what she wants to do but given those those ingredients, I'm normally ready to do anything for her. Secondary items: a rubber hood with no eye openings so I can't see what she's about to do to me and being restrained so I can't get away.

What a delicious topic! I'm the 'take charge' guy at work who has many responsibilities that have to be met on a daily basis. After a long day dealing with a high-pressure, professional work environment, my greatest desire has always been to have a female partner who will take total control of my bowel and bladder functions for several hours at a time. I am especially fond of hospital-institutional type scenarios where my 'wet nurse' is dressed in a starched white uniform, latex gloves, surgical mask and long rubber apron while I am kept total naked throughout my 'treatments'. First, I'm catheterized so that she can take control my bladder. Next, I'm ordered into the bathroom where my nurse administers a series of very embarrassing and hard-to-hold heavy soapsuds enemas and bare-bottom spankings - requiring me to empty my bowels while naked sitting on a portable potty chair while she watches so that she can gauge my progress in 'getting clean'. Periodically, my bladder catheter is un-clamped and my nurse collects my golden urine in a clear plastic cup to be included in my next enema to add to my humiliation. All the while, my 'nurse' is asking questions: "Do you like it when I give you a bowel prep? / Are you willing to take a really big enema for me? / I bet you like it best when I'm giving you a hot, soapy enema where lose all control over yourself and I have to paddle your bare bottom for making a mess in the bathtub. Don't you? / Are you ready to go pee-pee for me? / Can you feel the water squiring way up inside your colon? / Do you need to go get on the potty chair?..."

Delightful fantasies - I just wish that I could find a long-term female partner and playmate to make then come true!

Being unclothed without hesitation, being humiliated, leaving a wipe over my belly before changing and walking away without saying anything, being felt up, being dressed, being dressed in sissy outfits, gently pinching the penis while changing pretending it may spray, penis jokes when touching it, griping while I'm erect and asking if I'm a boy or a girl, threatening to do things with sex toys if you fidget around being changed, threatening being nude, silencing with a bottle or paci or nipple, forced to speak only in baby talk, forced to call them by a specific name, being called a nickname that sounds embarrassing, being in timeout, bathing, treating diaper rash, force feeding, being forced to eat laxatives (rarely), reaching inside the diaper knowing it's not wet or messy to feel around, tickling when you know I have to wet or mess, hugging aggressively, diaper checks while adjusting the clothing, teasing sex then taping the diaper shut, being forced to give you a kiss, and all of the above with a friend watching it happen and laughing.

Much more fun stuff with actually sexual success.

Would be wonderful to meet a woman like you. There are two stories in the library that are my favorites, "karen give John an Enema", and "Jefferey and Jennifer". Both entail a female dom giving enemas to a male sub. They involve oral dominance, restraint, strap-on. I would add cross-dressing in silky panties and bra.

I’m the dominant one in our household, and it’s a household with many spankings and enemas. But, we have a “good for the goose” clause in our relationship, and I get one spanking and one enema each month. And, my wife has gotten very good at this. What I like about it is that I have no say or control in it.

Sometimes she will tell me days before my spanking, sometimes seconds. And it’s a much, much harder spanking than she gets. It’s always bathbrush on the bare, long, hard, and just this side of blisters. I’m very sore for says. And, I’ve nothing to say about it. She’s going to spank me when she wants, as long and as hard as she wants.

Same concept with the enema, which I got just last night. No discussion. No debate. She said it was time for my enema, and a few minutes later I was holding a very warm, very large, and very soapy enema. Ended up being crampier than I like, and held it longer than I like, none of which was really up to me.

What I like is the lack of control and discussion.

This topic turned me on. I noticed I made a comment earlier. Since then I have "play" over the phone and was a "top". Wow! I really like the idea and feeling of being in control. I am discovering a lot about myself and also about others. But, all told in the long run I would rather be administered to.

My favorite fantasy (and real life experience) is to be restrained and "forced" to submit to a 4 qt enema and e-stim, with a group of people watching. As I'm filling, and it seems to be too much water, I complain. In response, the top turns up the power on the e-stim and makes me take the rest. Upon completion of the enema, my right hand is freed and I,m made to masturbate to climax with the others watching.

As a submissive male in our sexual relationships I find it very satisfying to please my wife sexually in any way she likes or wants I find it to bring out the wild side in mrs L having her make me do things to her or to myself is awesome

I don't know about the rest of you but I do know that from my earliest age to now nothing turns me on like a mature take charge woman who can spank a naughty little boys bottom cherry red and give him an enema to match (cherry red bag of course). Must be female, caring, for fun only no LTR.

I would love to be in a hospital setting,and have to submit to Soapsuds enemas till clear from an older nurse.I would have to endure Large volumes,and cramps,and the nurse would make me retain them...

I dated a woman who was a nurse. We experimented with a lot of different activities and one day she wanted to be my domme. She made me strip naked and stand in the corner while she prepared for her role. She went into the bathroom and I heard the water running but could not see what she was doing. she came back into the bedroom and sat on the edge of the bed and called me over. She pulled me over her lap and gave me a hard hand spanking until my bottom stung like crazy. then she marched me into the bathroom where I saw a full enema bag hanging from the towel rack and a buttplug and tube of lubricant on the counter. She made me kneel by the side of the tub and lean into it with my elbows in the tub. She put on a rubber glove and pushed a lubricated finger into my anus, she repeated this about three times until I was looser and greased.She had the douche nozzle attached to the bag and pushed it into my ass and gave me two quarts of hot soapy water. i had to empty myself then she gave me another two quarts. the soap burned and made me cramp. She then rinsed me with clear water. I thought we were through but she gave me another warm water enema and put the buttplug in my anus with the water inside me. She took me back to the bedroom where I had to kneel head down on the bed so she could whip my ass with my own belt while I held the enema. she then took off her pants and panties and I had to go down on her until she was satisfied. Only then was I allowed to remove the plug and evacuate the enema.

We played other times where she either spanked me or gave me an enema as prep for anal play but that was the hottest session.

I've had at least 6 girlfriends give me enemas, not counting two wives. 30 yrs ago I had a nurse girlfriend who gave me enemas as foreplay,and I was to shy to tell her I wanted Clinical enemas like they gave in the hospital. There'sPLENTY of women who would love to get a good guy over their knee for a big Hot one!!!

One thing my wife did early on in our marriage was to strip me naked, had me sit in a chair, and then she blindfolded me. After that she had me start telling her some of the fantasies i had. She also asked a lot of questions about what i might agree to and what i wouldnt enjoy. Somehow being blindfolded and her rubbing my neck and shoulders while she and i talked seemed to make me more honest in telling her what turned me on and off. I believe even in a dom/sub relationship being honest with each other is extremely important.

My wife just changed the whole program on me. She has been giving me enemas for play and therapy for 11 years, but she was never very dominant. I had asked her several times if she would be more dominant, but that wasn't her. Suddenly, in the last 3 weeks, she became more dominant than I imagined that she could. I just posted the story of what has been happening over the last 3 weeks in the "Stories" section.

My fantasies have always revolved around the enemas I got from my mother, who was very dominant. She gave me punishment enemas. I wrote a story about how that started, but it is in a different section of this site called Mother's Punishment. It's in an s&m section under "How The Magic Started.

What turns on this submissive male? me being strapped to the bed watching my wife walk into the room wearing a white slip and dark nylons and holding a full 4 quart enema bag with a double balloon nozzle. yummm!

I have always wanted to be dominated by a woman. My fantasies are to be humiliated in public. and to have my cock and balls restrained, my ass plugged and abused in the outdoors with enemas and having other women seeing me naked and abused, wearing women's underwear etc.

The rapid pace at which women are advancing in society is a constant reminder of the superiority of the female, which is a significant turn-on. The realization that women are actually the stronger sex. The superior intellectual ability of women, as evidenced by the way women have passed men up in education. It is a woman's world, and that in itself is a rush.

I have had thoughts when I was young about Joyce. She was the lady next store. She was my friend Roger's mom. She had dark brown hair and big boobs and from what I remember a big butt.

When I was at rogers house one time I had to use the bathroom before I knew where it was so I opened the door and Joyce was preparing an enema bulb. There was vasaline on the tip. I told her I had to pee really bad. She told me I'd better not wet my pants and go, I remember looking at that enema bulb and wishing Joyce would put me over her lap.

That incident stayed with me and I don't know how many times I masturbated thinking about what could have been over the years. She would have been my Dom for sure.

I am probably a switch and am comfortable in either role. But as a sub I like being partially dressed, i.e. maybe shoes and socks and a t-shirt. I actually feel more vulnerable when half dressed. I would like my dom to talk to me and tell me in detail what will be happening.

I like parental type enema fantasies. I like anticipation and being a "little boy" but it takes some "fore play" to get into that role. I am a naughty little boy being taken by a large matronly "mother type", to the bathroom for an enema. I have to stand with my pants and underpants around my ankles watching while "Mother" prepares a large 2 quart enema.

I simply feel more in tune with the world when I am in the control of one that is dominate to me. The anticipation of things to come, the not knowing what is coming next, knowing that I will not say no, I will simply accept those things that are done. Being so venerable and defenseless. There is something very wonderful about all that. I desire it almost constantly.

Wow, lots of great replies. Here what it is like for me. Pain causes a release of endorphins. It does not require a lot of pain but some. Usually my dominatrix spanks me. She knows not to cause marks, so she concentrates on using a lightweight leather paddle. Light strokes that are not of themselves painful become so when consistently applied to the same spot!. She will warm up one side and then proceed to the other. After both my cheeks are red, she stops for a bit. We next move to the bathroom for my first enema. This us usually about three to four cups of clear water which I have to hold for about 5 minutes. After expulsion, back to the playroom for more spanking. My next enema will be about the same amount of fluid but with soap added. Held for about 5-10 minutes depending on my abilities for that session. Then more spanking. My final enema is two quarts of clear water and I am encouraged to hold it but mercifully allowed to expel when I need to. The idea is to stimulate my pelvic muscles and nerves.

Now I should be clean. Mistress insists on checking. I am bent over and wait while she makes a show of donning gloves and lubing one hand. The drama and anticipation is palpable and a big turn on for me. I have a love/hate relationship with being penetrated. She puts one then two fingers into me and often massages my prostate. She often at this time also plugs me.

Electricity is next. We use a tens unit. She puts electrodes on top of my penis just below the glans and on the underside of my penis just above my balls. She may also put an electrode on my perineum and also just at the top of my gluteal cleavage. The penile electrodes can be made to gently vibrate my cock or she can cause sudden sharp pain that feels like the end of my cock has just exploded. She gives me a little bit of everything. The electrodes in back can cause my sphincter to clench and unclench around the plug and I actually get a fucking. She often stops several times during the process and works on me some more with the paddle.

When she has me really worked up and begging for her to stop, then she is ready to reward me. She may masturbate me or demand that I do it myself or there may be vaginal intercourse with her in charge and on top. Sometimes she wants me in her ass. It all depends upon her mood and she makes the decision. What is about to happen for me is that I am going to have an orgasm while the freshly released endorphins are running through my brain. These orgasms are a powerful whole body experiences for me and often leave me just barely conscious.

I prefer with another man takes charge of me. I don't want anything abusive, but I am turned on by having another man in control especially with something as intimate as giving me enemas and spankings.

I want to be bent over a couch, chair or Ottoman and have my ass lubricated and penetrated by a finger. He or she will make my cock hard, and make me beg for more. She will suggest that i should lick and suck on the throbbing head of his cock, if i want my cock to be cared for also. So i turn around and open my mouth to take his thickness between my lips and begin to tongue the head, as she coo's encouragement into my ear. She says, yes, baby-suck it for me, show me how much you love to suck him for me. I do as she asks and am rewarded with the sensation of her pussytoy pushing into me from behind. She loves to see me suck his dick and i don't dissappoint her. I take her toy up my ass and enjoy the feeling so much that i begin to moan and groan, giving up my true feelings. Damn! I just know that i'm going to have to pay for that in the near future!

Without a doubt humiliation and pain. Within a few weeks of meeting my wife she had me dressing at every opprtunity. Then came the introduction of pain, not as punishment, but purely for her pleasure.. Now even my bodily functions are in her control. We are so lucky to have each other

To be honest, verbal and physical humiliation. being ordered to do things i would never do on my own. being punished and spanked, paddled, caned, or any pain is a huge turn on. not being in control.

When I got home I would be told to go up to the bathroom and take a shower. When I was done and drying off I would be told not to get dressed and lay the towel on the floor. I then would see a full soapy enema and to get into the knee chest position. I would be lubed and given the enema

What turns me on most is getting painful injections in the bare bottom from beautiful nurses, ideally while bending over the lap of a lovely mini-skirted receptionist. I often go to a dominatrix nurse for such treatment.

As a submissive I like my Dom to take initiatives without asking for my permission. I always like to please so I am obedient most of the time. I like to behave like a girl and if you buy me lingerie to wear I would gladly do so. I like to be clean and attractive to you. I would like to be naughty at times so that it gives you the cue to punish me. You could spank my bottom while my tummy is straddled on your lap and then you forcefully give me an enema which I resist. Hope this gives you an idea of what a passive man would like as a start.