Submissive Men, What Turns You On?

I'm considering taking on a submissive and would love to hear your ideas. He's brand spanking new to being a sub and unsure of what he wants. I've dabbled as a domme, but have never taken a scene too far. What would make it the perfect scene for you? What turns you on? What turns you off? What would keep you coming back for more?

I swing both ways, but I love playing patient to a dirty nurse. I like a good cleaning out, then a deep rectal exam from that nasty nurse. toys and speculum can be fun!

Just the saying of "I'm going to give you a nice enema" whispered in the ear repeatedly....Barking out "Pull down those drawers!" and making the man spread his own ass cheeks for you to examine him...These are all real turn ons. Long, thick ,well greeased, colon tubes , properly coiled up his ass will send him to heaven.

Dianne

And here i thought you were going to let me be your next little enema submissive! There are so many possibilities, are you going to let him choose? A strict mommy, nurse, auntie or school teacher all come to mind as wonderful possibilites. As far as activities to enjoy durring the enemas session spankings, temp takings and toys all come to mind. And i hope you insist on him being shaved smooth as a sign of his submission. Hope this gives you a starting point

If I take him on, I fully intend to give him lots of anal play, no worries about that. Spankings, plugs, enemas, prostate massage and toys. I have a bit of an obsession with men's bottoms so you can always expect that from me. I'm not keen on razor stubble and no matter how thorough people are, they can never be completely smooth, so I prefer a natural look and feel.

Jamie, you're so sweet. I'd love to have you as my sub. I'd love to have you lying across my lap for all kinds of pleasures and pain.

This fellow used to be somewhat Dom in his relationships, so I'm looking forward to turning the tables on him. He's never met a woman like me. Most men have never met a woman like me.

I would hardly consider myself submissive or dominant, but I certainly have my moments of both. On the submissive side of things, I love being blindfolded and restrained. Perhaps the biggest turn on is to simply have her initiate the fun. I absolute *love* having a woman crawl on top of me and just take control -- the fewer words the better 😜

The important part is that YOU get what YOU want, not what HE wants. Trust me, he'll love it no matter what 'it' is 😃

What turns me on in a sub role is a strict but encouraging Domme....."I knew you could do it..good boy"

One of my favorite things to do during roleplay is to lay naked on the floor in front of my seated Mistress and massage her feet to her satisfaction, that gives us both great pleasure.

I also enjoy having my cock/balls on a leash and being led around blindfolded.

I have a toy like this and its a lot of fun to wear as a sub:

http://www.adultsupermart.com/adult-sex-toys-862.html

Of course enemas are frequently part of the play as well.

Hi, My names Don(Donald). I tried/love every fetish anyone could imagine. What would be a turn on? How about a strip search,then a nude physical with lots of positions and anal things, enemas , supervised bathroom play, diapering,spanky,clothing play,watersports. Role play scenes such as teacher/student, Mom/son, mistress/slave, nursy/patient and etc.

I guess I'm a TLC type--but having the lady in control--I just need to not feel like its up to me---

one of my recurring fantasies is a nice barehand spanking followed by a thorough enema and some other play---

and I am perfectly happy returning the favor----

badger

The phrase repeated in a variety of ways...Ï think you need a good enema"....go in the bathroom and get undressed , you are going to have an enema...I think you need a good enema...I want you to take a nice enema for Mommy...as soon as we get home I am going to give you an enema...you ought to have a good enema...you need and enema and that's what I'm going to give you....you had better take the whole enema or else we'll have to start all over again". You make me stand naked in the bathroom as you fill the open top red bag and put a full cake of Ivory soap in it. You of course are dressed in a severe Teacher like outfit. You grease the nozzle with vaseline explain that you are going to "put it all the way up" a knowing smile playing across your lips.

It turns me on to have 'slave' written across my ass in magic marker and being forced to have it there all day. After an enema being forced to ask permission to shit is also fun.

i actually masturbated about ]Ms. Diane spanking me. ummmm. I'd love to wear some black thigh highs and panties and kneel at her feet, could you imagine?

I'd like to wear pantyhose and stand in the shower and pee for Ms Diane! I'd like to be spanked until I cry! I'd like to wiggle my ass and dance for her! I'd like to kiss her feet and tongue her pussy until she's satisfied!

As someone who is very into receiving and being submissive, I would have to say the most important thing is the lady (so far my wife) taking full control. You should consider being fully clothed, while sub is fully naked. You tell him what to do, what position to assume, etc. If he is into anal play, I think it is helpful to be forceful and not gentle in the required initial anal exams. It took a while, but I finally convince my wife that she can really put her fingers as far up as possible, and it was all good. She now works up to three, and it is rough, but exactly what a sub should like.

I think talking is very good too. No giggling, just ordering and telling sub what you are going to do. Encourage him to take it and scold him when he whimpers.

Finally, I find it really exciting when my wife simply uses her hand to hold me in place, the more weight on my back, the better, so that I feel pinned down and even more hopeless.

For someone who spends all day having to control situations and being "the boss", it is really ecstasy for me to cede all decisions to someone else. Creating the atmosphere where the sub has no choice is the ultimate goal IMHO.

KINKY WOMEN light my passions !!!

He's right a little pain with my pleasure that's what turns me on. two or three one gallon enemas in a row while being forced to wear a bra and open bottom girdle, then on to anal stretching, I would want you to train my ass with the ultimate goal of the mistress being able to reach her whole hand inside me when she is done, that's what I would want done to me.

To me there is a great difference between being submissive and one who loves the feeling of a nozzle with the flow of warm water. So, for those who are solo enemates, does this mean you are submissive? From my experiences the one in charge is the person receiving the enema, not the giver. It's the receiver who calls the shot as to when to go and stop. It's actually a reversed roll, the giver isn't the dom, the sub is the dom instructing the giver to follow his/her directions. What turns me on is when you meet someone you can totally trust and will do as you say to experience the best enema results.

I'm not sub or dom in any of my real-life relations, but I love submissive spanking & enema role play. Don't know how typical I am, but what turns me on is * being helpless, powerless, completely dominated; light bondage is good, or just being ordered / pushed / spanked into submission; * no reasons given; at most, get me to agree I deserve a spanking, but don't tell me why; just because you say so; * let me be a baby, moan, whimper, cry; * make the enema intrusive in lots of ways; * get my bottom messy and slippery; * challenging anal play; * anticipation is good, as others have suggested ("you're going to get it tonight!") * sex slave: I'd do ANYTHING for you if you treat me like that! Anyhow, good luck and enjoy!!!

I have a fantasy of receiving a rectal temp, several enemas and concluding with an ejaculation from an older woman aquaintance. I lay ocross her lap as she takes my temperature. then I sit on the toilet while she preparea and enema in a bulb. I lay across her lap again as she spreads my cheeks and inserts the nozzle sliding it in and out several times before injectin me with the warm soapy water. This is followed by a bag enema with a larger nozzle, then a rinse, all across her lap. My temperature is taken again afer I am cleaned out, then I lay on the bed with my throbbing erection in plain view. She askse me if I need some help and I nod my head, she then gets on the bed and leans back against the head board spreading her legs. I lay between her legs and nurse on her nipplees as she teases my nipples while watching me masturbate to orgasm.....ANd I excplode, hitting the ceiling with quite a large amount of semen.......

Nice fantasy purple.

What turns submissive men on i think the humiliation.

Paul

Receiving an enema satisfies a lot of the needs of submissive men. Feelings of helplessness, vulnerability, and lack of control, as well as a woman who has access to the most intimate parts of my body.

My most recent relationship involved a woman who kept me dressed in her panties (briefs) and who would first place me over her knee before pulling down those panties. She would start off using a rectal thermometer, followed by gentle massage with her finger(s) to relax my tight pink hole. She would use a bulb syringe to administer a somewhat small enema, and then insert a plug sufficient enough to help me retain the enema. It was the combination of sensations...of feeling "full", of the close contact with her body, and the feel of her silky undies against my skin...that all served to excite me and make me feel even more submissive to her. She also would use a double balloon rectal catheter nozzle to allow me to hold the enema much longer for her.

She at one time suggested giving me a "piss" enema - using her own pee to fill my bottom. Though she never got around to doing so, the thought of it is something I still fantasize about. Has anyone ever had any experience with a piss enema?

A firm caring TLC enema nurse. I'm going to give you an enema because you can't go potty. It will make you feel better. If one enema doesn't make you poop eneugh I,ll give you another enema, so we need lots of enema water.

When a child I was regularly constipated, often didn't do my "pooh-pooh" for two, three or even four days ... which meant my nanny would inform after my third or fourth failure to "do my duty", that that afternoon I "had a date with the enema bag". Also received enemas perhaps once a month on Saturday visits to my Aunt. She always spanked me a bit before the enemas and was fond of saying, "All one needs to raise little boys is a paddle, an enema bag and some TLC."

What turns me on the most is the feeling of vulnerability and helplessness that comes from having a woman in such complete control of my bodily functions. There's an incredible amount of mental and psychological surrender that, for me, is liberating in a very intense and intimate manner. Having to spread my legs or my ass for her as she takes control - in a very matter-of-fact way - is extremely humbling. But humbling is not humiliating. I give up that control to her because it feels good to do so...and because I trust her. As my partner also uses sounds and catheters on me, as well as enemas, plugs, dildoes, and even a speculum on occasion - the pleasure that I get, simply from "letting go" for her is almost immeasurable.

But people who are submissive all have different things that "turns their crank." If a woman (or man) has dominant tendencies inside, and wants to nurture that dominance, all she/he needs to do is figure out the what it is that turns that crank. For some its a memory, for others its the equipment. But whatever it is that turns them on, it's because of the 'feeling' they get inside because of the association.

You guys are much naughtier than I imagined. I haven't responded before now because I honestly had no idea what to say, and I still don't. I'm just taking it all in and letting the ideas simmer a while. I doubt that I'll take that guy as a sub now, but I'll file everything away for when I find someone I want to play with.

The current guy is a bit too flighty for me and his personality is well, um, I'm trying to be polite... Let's just say he has some personal issues that no amount of spankings or humiliation could ever take care of. Not that it wouldn't be fun to try, but punishment without behavior modification occurring (as I doubt he could ever change) is like beating a dead horse and I'm not into necrophiliac bestiality.

I am, however, into other activities and am looking forward to finding a sub to enjoy. And thanks to you guys, I have a better idea of what is and is not desired and accepted. It sounds like I could go much further than I thought. Oh yeah, I see some serious fun in my future.

You should try Cacique microfiber panties from Intimates from Lane Bryant. It's super soft and feels very silky. The first few months I wore them, whenever I'd take off my pants to undress or to pee, I became tremendously aroused by the feel of them, so soft and sleek - almost like touching my own skin. I would rub my hands up and down them and shiver just thinking how sexy they felt and how sexy I felt in them. They would always be damp after I wore them. It was difficult not to be aroused in them. So now it's the only kind of panties and bras I buy. I love them. Here's a link to their site: http://tinyurl.com/6a97cj

As a long practicing submissive i know that many things turn me on and they started with panties when i was in my early teens. As i have gotten older i have discovered so many different kinks for me. Lingerie, diapers, strapons, enemas, golden showers, spankings, public humiliation - the list goes on and on.

😮 While having our special date my SO and I were engaged in several special activities that included sex and other special events. I have ED and so I take a medication that makes my erections sustain even after the event and I sometimes don't have an ejaculation. My SO helps this along with her special touches and to my surprise today she had something that I have told her I dream about. She was helping me along and she gently moved me into the Sims position and she was rubbing me toward the event when I realized that she was touching my rectum and before I could imagine she had inserted an enema nozzle into me and she began to give me an enema. Well... My surprise turned to to pleasure and I saw fireworks as I exploded into best "O" I have had since my teenage years. Wow! She smiled and said, "Welcome to your fantasy." After the fill she accompanied me to the bathroom and massaged my tummy until I was empty. She then smiled and said, "My turn". The rest will be for another time.

What would turn me on in an enema session? If the nurse begins a relaxing conversation while I was waiting for insertion, alternating it with her directions and some friendly but firm slap on bare ass on surprise to face any resistance, even if momentary and absolutely not on purpose, and even to prevent it.

We have played with spankings for years, with my delivering the vast majority of them. But one day, not entirely on purpose, my wife REALLY spanked me. I mean wanting it to stop spanking. This transformed this part of our life dramatically. It's amazing the transformation "real" has had.

Can play it either way.

Perhaps this is obvious, but in addition to the anal play, almost every man alive loves a lady in stockings and heels. A six strap garter belt, FF stockings held up high next to your pussy, and classic 5" pumps with perhaps some cross straps accompanied by an ankle bracelet. YumYum!

Great question, Dianne!

Difficult to answer in brief, since so many things turn me on!! Your very question has me feeling somewhat agitated...

Silky, slinky and slippery fabrics/garments turn me on. To go shopping for something by myself or with a lover is exciting, involves revealing my feelings publicly. Others see me browsing, and then at checkout, buying... The used clothing stores usually have more variety. One can also reflect on others' choice of clothing--first to buy, then to relinquish.

My ambivalent feelings about enemas turn me on, simultaneously wanting one and knowing it will take some time, involve a few unpleasant sensations.

I connect the two by having a particular item of clothing (a black slip), that I usually put on, that act signifying that I will go through with the ritual. The build up is as intense as the enema.

Without a dominant lover atm, I take the role myself: "Put on your black slip!"

Just as starting and interrupting the flow of pee is pleasurable and good training for the prostate muscles, I find stopping and starting the flow during expelling is a turn on.

Enema plus handplay is a turn-on. Using lube and without going too far, I can be at a high level of arousal, for an hour or more. A few strokes, pause (beg! whimper!) a few more, etc. Incredible sustained hotness.

Enjoy your play together! Hope you will find things to say to him, and ask of him, that get his heart pounding.

Update: Okay, he's not the guy. Well, someday soon... maybe one day I'll find someone to give me some heart-pounding discpline.