Submissive Men, What Turns You On?

I suppose it's difficult to narrow down precisely what about the experience is so erotic.

I'm not a fully submissive guy btw, but more of a switch.

I'd have to say what turns me on would be women who can teach me a thing or two...I'm kind of into the "cougars" or older women when it comes to submission.

Having her kind of tease me and play with me while forcing me to retain an enema is the ideal scenario for me. I'm her plaything and she intends to get good use of me...drool...

Well the things that turn me on is the use of control and exploring erogenous zones before and during enemas. My own experience is that the needs of our bodies vary so that every enema is different. Knowing that you get pleasure makes it easier to submit to your control. I like lots of affection with determination that discipline will be used if necessary. I like the uncertainty of the unknown. Safe surprises are a good turn on.

Here's what turns me on as a submissive. Being taken over a lap, for either a spanking, rectal temperature, or enema. Also mommy can keep me in a diaper if she thinks that is necessary.

My gf asks me if I have had "an accident". I look down at my shoes, not wanting to answer. She pulls me toward her and takes down my pants, noticing the wet spot at the front of my underpants, or the brown spot at the back. I am taken over her lap and my underpants pulled down, then spanked as she scolds me. Off to the corner I go, undies around my knees, as she prepares the enema. Back over her lap I go, and am given either 3-4 bulbs full or a big bag. Then made to hold it as my belly cramps. Off to the potty chair to release, since naughty boys don't get to use the toilet. Sometimes a diaper for catching leaks or just for her to call me her baby boy.

For me, it can be treated a a young boy who is in need of a mothers care. Being told not to make plans an be in all day. Being told what to do and what to expect in a nice but firm voice.

The other extreme is being reprimanded for bad behavior. The key is the sub must surrender all control. JMHO!

Louisville is a great town.

My wife & I would play a lot of anal games. Our house it was who turn this weekend. The weekend started Friday night before bed. At 9:00 PM one of would get a small cup of MOM the cup on top but no water. At bed time one of us would be given a small cup of MOM glass of water the easy way to take that awful tasting white MOM. Some time my wife new how much I do not like the taste she would put in a glass of water. The thing about that is she could give two cups I would not know. The one who received the MOM was surly going to have a runny BM in the morning. The morning would arrive I would role over you could here the water running around in my stomach. My wife would stop me from going to the pot as long as she could. Well when I did sit down the BM was like she had filed me with a 3-4 QT enema only it did not stop I would go for about 2Hr. after the large BM. That started the day of her telling me what to do like over the end of the big chair for a spanking of course she made my but wet so it hurt more. Then I was allowed to sit on a wood chair not move or back over the for more spanking. Sometime she feel my stomach ask how do you feel. I always said there is not a thing in there, well she would leave I hear water running O boy! She would be back with the 3Qt bad with the retention en on it that is the way she would make me retain the large enema. Well over a bench but up she would put the retainer bubble in me and off we go I would be so full after that enema, She would tell me to stand up. The next thing was corner time. She set the timer for how long she wanted me to stand there. By the was stand up no bending over. The time would be up she would follow me to the pot take the bubble out let me get that enema out. At this time It was about lunch. I still had the afternoon to whatever she wanted. Which I did whatever. The next weekend I was the one who made her do so the thing was we had to not be to hard on the other one because who turn is it now. To bad she not with me anymore it is had to play alone. The thing is the world is open it is fun to be give whatever the other one wants you to do. The thing is is also fun to be doing to the other one.

I love to role play. Among my favorites would be a teenager boy who was stealing your panties and pantyhose. When you came home from work, you caught me red handed. Rather than telling my mother, you make me be your slave. A good spanking, made to sit in my room all night wearing the pantyhose, taking my temperature rectally, several good soapsuds enemas using a feminine douche nozzle, butt plugs,anal beads, more large volume enemas, prostate massage, and finally using a strap-on on me would be my wildest dream come true. Servicing you orally and/or anally, and sucking your breasts would be wonderful if you allowed it. High heels, full fashioned stockings and a girdle on you would complete the fantasy.

Texas seems to have a lot of enema fans. It must be something in the water.

I've got to say that while some of your response sounds fun, I'm not really into age play, pantyhose, high heels and cross dressing. Everything else is doable. 😃

High heels are forever off my list thanks to a nasty break in my foot that will never heal properly. 😢 Getting cortisone shots through the top of the foot isn't fun, but necessary several times during the year. If only I could find a local foot fetishist to keep my feet happy in the between times.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. I appreciate them. 😃

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Hi

I'm a Bi male and submissive. To turn on a submissive male is pretty easy. You take charge and you decide what is to be done. He has no say. You probably should establish a safe word so things don't get out of control. You should watch him closely as you do things to him. You should notice different reactions and some will pleasure him more than others. A submissive would not expect to be asked what he liked. You should already have some idea what pleasures him before you meet him. You should do as you want and inform him as you go along what is about to be done to him.

Siissy Barbie

I like the soap stick and the hot high and hell of a lot enema.With encouraging and firm instruction to hold it in be a good boy.

It got so much better for us after my wife learned my limits.

Initially, her enemas were lackluster. Now, there is real submission involved because I am going to be filled to capacity, I am going to cramp, and I am going to hold it long enough to get the point.

Same concept with the spankings. Now, they don't end until I'm thorougly sore.

And, finally, pegging. The right sized dildo makes all the difference in the world (full matters).

Good luck.

Being told to strip unexpectidly having to submit to a very full exam very invasasve and especially if you like to be rude ie you are fat thin whatever . Talk down and dress up heels and stuff .

Conduct a detaild case history about sex life and posible wants .Make it embarising.

For me its not a punishment but i love goldenshowers i prefer this to be doen that i do drink everythig not spit it out and body worship you may as well enjoy your self.

in this contex enemas are perfict for slow pain but leave no marks . nothing has so many posabilaties for abject submision as enemas . Dont forget the posabilaties of pre meeting disaplin ie suposatries and laxatives .

i presume we are severl thousand mils away i am in london UK

goodboy

My husband loves to be my sub all day.

First we start the morning off right by him going down on me before we even get out of bed with no release for him.

Then making a breakfast with a nice shower after.

Then I have special sissy panties I dress him in so he can clean my house like a good little sissy.

Once the house is clean then its time for his enema.

I strip him down totally naked and give him a cleaner enema and then the real fun starts.

I blind fold him and put him standing up in the shower and start a nice coffee enema. Once he has about 2 quarts in I make him hold that while I start spanking his tight ass. Soft at first and slowly get harder. The spanking totally gets his mind off his full belly. Now I can start adding more coffee very slowly while I play with his hard nipples and dripping penis.

Once he has about 4 quarts and begging for me to stop I bend over the sink with my bare ass out so he can clean my ass with his tongue. After I'm totally clean then I let him release the coffee.

Then back into his sissy panties for more cleaning.

If he does a good job all day with his sissy chores he knows that I will take his ass with my strap on.

We both totally look forward to a sissy slave day.

Hmmm, a submissive, right? well, the discipline/doctor/patient type scenes are usually a hit. start out by taking him to the bed room, ordered to strip down to his briefs, bend over the bed and submit to your spanking him, hand at first then use a paddle.

then, after a good spanking, take him into the bathroom, ordered to sit on the toilet seat while you are filling up the red enema bag. you fill the bag and order your sub to assume the position and kneel forward, spreading his legs...

you slowly but firmly insert the long, curved, black and thick enema bone up his bum. slowly, forcefully moving it around a bit until it feels right. then, release the hose clamp. make him hold it for at least 5 maybe 10 minutes. push him almost to his limit and back off a little...

The thing about being the sub is what she is going to do to you no matter what or when to have her tell you what she will do with no order of when she start. You be spanked, be given laxatives, enemas. made to stand in the corner, tided up. The thing is knowing what she is going to do to me the week before, you have the week to play on you, One time she gave an enema cover my eyes made me stand up state gave me this awful stuff to drink which was a fast laxative. To me to have to take whatever she wants knowing that for two days she just makes life awful because she has all the control that is the hard part knowing that.

When I don't know what to expect turns me on. I learn fast.

I am still fairly new to enema play, but one thing that would be so hot to try would to be humiliated by having to use the restroom and collect my piss in front of you. When I collect 2 -4 qts, your decision, you would make me prepare an enema and then you would administer my own piss in a golden enema that I would have to hold for an extended period of time, perhaps while you sent me on a short errand.

My reward for completing this would be to have the honor and privilege of being able to carry your piss in my bowels in a second enema. I am so aroused at the thought of taking your hot pee into my bowels and being allowed to carry it there until you allowed me to expel it.

Okay, another vote for the nurse fantasy. Something about the uniform, the caring, and skill with bags, bulbs and nozzles sends me to heaven.

This is such a rich topic! My partner, who actually likes to top from the bottom, likes to have me control all of his functions; urination, expulsion of enemas, ejaculation, you name it. This certainly opens the door for all kinds of fun with suppositories, enema administration, catheters and bladder irrigation/retention, and genital stimulation.

As he likes to say, I "own" him for the five or six days that we play together. This has been a difficult transition for me because I can be very submissive too. You know what they say, "practice makes perfect"!

Play On!

LadyDoc

In all the years I have been married, I am the one that has to come up with different ideas of things to do to try and keep the sex form getting hohum. Unfortunately she doesn't like to stray from the norm. It would be so much fun I think if I could just once be the sub and have to do whatever I am told. To be controled and not have to make the decisions.

One of my favorites involves a former female supervisor. I'm late in my late 20's , she her mid forties. She had a large bust and a very cute tight ass. She was fairly flirtatious. In the fantasy I take her to dinner after work. She has a bit too much to drink and when we arrive at her apartment she asks me to get an asprin from the bathroom. Hanging on the door hook is a red open top with an adult enema nozzle still damp. I see the outlines a soap bar in in the bag. When I ask if she is has been ill, she says no..that enemas are an everyday health ritual. What follows is her insistence that I have an enema as a part of her inservice training program for me.

I will tell this story on my husband and how his little kink about enemas came to be.

Some years ago, we went out for supper on a Saturday night. He had had a bad week at work, his round of golf had been a total disaster that morning, his college football team had gotten beat by 30 some points and our meal that night was just awful. So we stopped at a local bar on the way home where he began to take it all out on me. As he now had to much to drink I took the keys to the car, drove home and told him when we got to the house that his little problem would be addressed.

Arriving home, I went into the bathroom and filled up the bag with warm water. Removing my skirt and top, I motioned him into the bathroom to remove all the crankiness that had built up over the past few days. When he saw me standing there holding the bag dressed in a black bra, black long leg girdle, stockings and heels, I thought he was going to have the big one. Needless to say when he became very meek and submissive, I knew I was on to something.

Since then, my outfit has basically stayed the same when it's time either for his enema or laxative. A black long leg all in one girdle, black hose and heels.

One time my wife tied my arms to the bed. She then in had a blood pressure cuff inflator with a tube. On the end of the tube was a rubber balloon. She pushed the balloon through my well lubed anus and into my rectum. She repeatedly pumped me and let the air out. Slowly at first with a small amount of air. The pressure was great in my rectum trying to push open into the sigmoid colon several times. After about eleven pumps it pressed through into my descending colon, what a feeling. She then went up to thirty pumps. The proceeded to kiss and bite my nipples as she continued inflating and deflating the balloon. My belly would distend very visibly as the balloon would press out from the inside of my colon, and then my belly would shrink back to normal. Then she made me climax! I shook uncontrollably. Oh the memories 😃

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The above would most certainly rock my world!

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Egirlky:

What would Always ignite my sub side would be the start of many a session I had as a child, where Mum would start by asking when was the last time I had, uh, gone poo... and, regardless of my response, things would start to unfold, with my panties being checked, my bottom being examined, my temp taken (rectally of course), assorted enemas being administered, DREs when you feel you want to (Mummy Knows what he needs), ending with me being bathed and put to bed in diapers (just to protect against further leaks from my enemas, of course), with having had a pair of aspirin suppositories administered for my 'fever'. And, of course, too much whining or fussing at any time by sub (maybe more than once 😉 ) may invoke the use of a spanking implement on his bare bottom. A spanking for having dirty underwear was not unheard of... (the infamous panty check :😃 ) Adult adaptations could include additional anal exercise (with various toys, veggies, etc.), butt plugs of various sizes and times (Mummy knows best! remember), maybe diaper checks, maybe taking him out shopping, or just to the mall, while he is in diapers...

(Needless to say, my wife has Never considered any of this.)

Good Luck, and Happy Waterings...

Cos.

Actually, you know what? Simple answer here, and not to belittle or minimize in any way the previous replies/responses, (oops! sorry, a little disclaimer and apology on my part if I have which was purely unintentional), which in fact led me to an additional aspect as well.

Just ask and start discussions with the submissive. In advance if at all possible, starting with those early, tense emails on a Saturday afternoon, right?

Well, ok, back to the subject at hand here. Start those discussions early. Begin the process of letting him/her open up to you, like that first person you met during 7th grade Psych 101 class. You remember the classroom, the one with a black and white sign in the back of the room stating: "You are not paranoid if you think they are out to get you!" Ha!

Anyway, with discussions begun, you begin the necessary dialogue, and more importantly, start to build trust. Communication, especially of the intimate variety, such as here, is facilitated on so many levels beyond the written word. And, sometimes people insist on talking to a person prior to meeting. I think this blows the necessary tension, and dissipates any sense of suspense/fear/and anxiety. Don't do it...

And finally, find out what the submissive likes, what he/she prefers, when, and who much. They'll tell you quite a bit. Obviously, the rest of how this comes together, is up to you.

As a submissive, there are a number of things that are enjoyable for me, but it is really much more about the one that I am with. It is extrememly important to me, that I am pleasing to them. That is priority one. I do love medical oriented submission, allowing my self to be used for things like cathing, enemas, needle play, etc. I also enjoy being bound, and enduring different punishments and types of play for the one I am with. I am drawn to those that wish control over me. It is most wonderful to simply turn myself over to someone that is dominate to me.

I agree that not having control over what is happening is the turn on. The DRE or the enema itself allows me to relax and just accept whatever.

In real life, I am not typically submissive. Gals I've had affairs with over the years have been happiest for me to "be in charge," even when fantasies have been discussed. For as long as I can remember, I have longed for the "tables to be turned" and for the woman to take charge of me and to have her way. Unfortunately, this has remained my unfulfilled fantasy.

There was an experience, in the days of snail mail, when I did set up a date with a dominant gal, although this was a one-time experience and she was otherwise connected. For a brief interval, I was in seventh heaven. She stripped and collared me, then proceeded to whip my butt (not my thing, although I stoically submitted). Next, as I kneeled, she shed her panty and ordered me to kiss and lick her (very clean) asshole. This was an instant major turn-on for me. I'd previously enjoyed rimming a very special former GF while 69-ing, but the experience was intensified enormously while in a submissive role. Subsequently, I received an enema, but she did not excel in this department.

Another time, I paid a "professional type" who featured enemas along with her bag of tricks, but, again, this was a one time experience and was quite unsatisfactory.

Elusive as it has been for me, the idea of a GF who "reverses roles" and takes the initiative to dominate remains a powerful fantasy.

I went to a dominatrix who administered a suppository, and ordered me to look her in the eye while pooping it out. She went "ooh" while hearing the plops.

I am a natural submissive anyway. For me, I don't think it's any one thing that turns me on so much as a dominant woman in general. I like women who let me know they want me by ordering me to give myself to them, in the way that they want, or they will punish me appropriately (spanking, for example). In other words, desire expressed with a certain amount of forceful disrespect.

The specifics of what she does with me sexually are less important then that she uses her dominance to get it from me.