Masturbation vs. Sex

I love sex! I love having a warm man up against my body. I am not into masturbation. I love the kissing, hugging and caressing. No solo for this woman!

I think that people are by nature social creatures and that therefore sex should ideally be shared with another person.

However, that's not always practical, and I freely acknowledge that masturbation is valuable, for release of sexual tension when it is not otherwise possible to do so and for understanding one's own sexuality. Both are important. So masturbation is also important.

They are both soooo good. However, masturbation kept me from being promiscuous as a teen and as a young adult etc. Solo is just fine if you own it and there is no one around. But having someone ‘do’ all those wonderful things to your body is most desired.

In my case sex any day. Just love being with another person and doing wonderful things to their body and having such returned.

But having masturbation as a plan B backup is not a bad option either.

Once I found out that those wonderful feelings could be reproduced over and over again and again. I fell in love with women. Masturbation as a child was great but it was spurred on by the visualizing myself exploring a girls body. I used to peruse the catalogs that came to my family home especially the ones that had women in girdles or garter belts, scantily clad, short skirts, etc. So after my first encounter with a real woman (4 years my senior) I WAS HOOKED! One of the things I learned through her teachings, through that older woman, was how to please a woman. I learned well. One of my greatest assets when dating was my willingness to make sure that whether it be just making out or hot and heavy sex, my efforts were always pleasing her, catering to “her” needs, and leave her wanting for more. I have been told that my mind seems to work a little different than most men and has some similarities to the way a woman thinks, how she needs to be pleased, and when she is pleased hold on to your hat because she will reciprocate ten fold. I still know what to say and how to make any woman feel like a goddess. A lady in the living room and a temptress in the bedroom.

As much as i like sex, sometimes it is nice just to knock one out.

As much as i like sex, sometimes it is nice just to knock one out.

Yes, masturbation takes the edge off until the next great fuck.

Your never have to see what mood your left hand is in …

I prefer sex over masturbation. Although I can imagine any scenario while masturbating, I'd rather have the real thing.

I prefer sex over masturbation. Although I can imagine any scenario while masturbating, I'd rather have the real thing.

For that matter, you can imagine any scenario during sex. I close my eyes and fantasize about different scenarios and/or partners all the time during sex.

Well sex of course. But sometimes you gotta do what ya gotta do.

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From a mans perspective. Anyone wanting more info just message me.

Sex every day of the week, literally

I'm married and have regular sex with my wife, but masturbation is still there. We do mutual masturbation while kissing as a foreplay.

She also enjoys seeing me masturbate and cum on her and even gives me a nice hand job at times and I also love to see her pleasing herself. This is actually a big turn on for both of us. Needless to say that it leads to an awesome oral sex and pleasurable intercourse.

I have desire for both but I find that I need my wife to masturbate me more. She uncovers hidden emotions in me and satisfies needs i am sometime not aware of. Sometime when she is done, it feels like I have more life energy.

I have had experiences during both sex and masturbation where it felt like my entire life flashed before my eyes in one second. And, to quote American Beauty, "that one second isn't a second at all, it stretches on forever, like an ocean of time….And then it flows through me like rain, and I can't feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life."

Some have commented that sex has a whole other emotional side to it, but as you can see, there have been times during masturbation when I have experienced the intense emotions as well as during sex. Although sex may be more likely to involve intense emotions, it's not guaranteed. Anyway, I think that for me, as long as the physical side of either masturbation or sex becomes intense enough, the emotions hit me as well.

In fact, I have also had experiences with both sex and masturbation where it wasn't that great at all, and was kind of disappointing both emotionally and physically.

So, the fact that I've had times during both sex and masturbation where I was in awe of the universe, and times during both that were disappointing, makes it difficult to compare the two acts. Either one can entail such a range of experiences…

…Another reason why I am not sure if I can compare these two activities is that there is so much overlap between the two. So much of masturbation involves fantasizing about sex, and whatever activities I would enjoy with a woman. So much of sex involves yielding to a mood, such that the emotional and physical sensations ultimately take place in, and take over, the minds of those involved.

By the way, I realize the OP was more interested in replies from women. I'm sorry to share one more man's point of view even though you are interested in women. I wonder if what I have said here, and in my comment above this one, will be interesting or even relevant to some women.

Can I like both equally?

Honestly sometimes I just want an orgasm without the work of having sex and sometimes I want my husband to take me to the next plane of existence and everything in between.

I am also bisexual so thinking about a cute girl while masturbating is easier to do than thinking about that cute girl while a penis is inside me… so I guess its complicated.

Hands down 😉 … Masturbation! I have been single for 15 years and nobody does it better!

Obviously, they are both great and I rarely turn down an opportunity to enjoy either one. As many have previously wrote, I feel they are are two totally different experiences and incomparable. I mean, for me personally, they both provide a pleasant physical sensation to my genitals, but entail very different physical, mental, and emotional involvement. All that said, masturbation currently gives me a better orgasm.

I know the question's only rhetorical, but honestly, you can't possibly choose one. I need both – for me it's like breathing and eating.

I see sex with a partner and masturbation as two separate ways to have an orgasm but the circumstances in which both take place are quite different.

Masturbation is always available and can be either quick or more drawn out with other enhancements- toys, enemas, etc. You are in complete control and do it just like you want to do it. And it always results in an orgasm.

Sex with a partner is a bit more complicated. Both have to be available and in the mood as well as having the time to dedicate to a nice sex session. The sensation of having two warm bodies wrapped together and working in unison to culminate in orgasm is extremely intense and pleasurable. Experiencing your physical pleasure with the moans and groans of your partner's' servers to accelerate your own pleasure.

So is one better than the other? Tough question. Both are intensely pleasurable. Would I trade one for the other- NO. If you are single and don't have a sex partner, then you are only masturbating but if you do have a sex partner, I would think both would masturbate in addition to having sex with each other. I think it all comes down to the more ways you can give yourself orgasms, the better.

Another tough question.

IF my sex partner was a guy, I would prefer sex with him vs masturbation

IF my sex paertner is a woman, I prefer masturbation.

In the case of my sex partner being a man, I would still want to masturbate though, in fact, I would probably masturbate on the same day we had sex.

At our age and my wife experiencing pain during intercourse, we have been mutually masturbating each other for the last few years and she has always said she loves my touch and some times will say ”how do you know how to touch me so well?” And I really enjoy her finger up my bottom and she strokes my cock. Sometime I ask her to let me watch her touch herself while I masturbate. so now at this stage of my life I would choose masturbation over sex.

Im a guy, I prefer sex with wifey. however I love masturbating and porn and she is fine with that. We both need release and sometimes in a busy life it is hard to find the time to get our bodies together so we masturbate when we can't connect. If I didn't have to choose one though then I love anal mastubation and wifey is not overly fond of anal and so that's how I get my anal fix

I would first choose intercourse with my loving wife. But. Don’t get me wrong, I love the feeling of ejeculation so I do take matter in my own hands since my wife only wants sex once per week. her sexual drive is decreasing mine is about the same as years ago. I even want to just lick her between her long legs or massage her and she has way les interest today than just 5 years ago.

For me masturbation and sex are two different things that are both equally beautiful. Masturbation is always associated with fantasy and imagination. It is a convenient but also a great way to get sexual satisfaction. Everyone can certainly confirm that - it is uncomplicated, simple, with a few movements and not really physically demanding. Sex, on the other hand, is something completely different. It's a shared experience. Sex makes affection for a partner tangible. It is a sharing of intimacy dedicated only to the partner and begins with tingling, touching, kissing, feeling content. Sex is a ritual that involves several sequences. Each of them is exciting and leads to another climax. And everyone again and again is better, more beautiful, more exciting. To the absolute climax. But what do I like better now? I think I prefer sex.

For me masturbation and sex are two different things that are both equally beautiful.

I can't agree with this statement because masturbation is also a variant of sex like cunnilingus, fellatio, intercourse and much more. Masturbation is sex with yourself, from tender to wild, with or without fantasies. Masturbation is like a small snack, but it can also become the sexual main thing when a partner is temporarily or permanently absent. For me, it is a certain form of sex and therefore has its own value without applying a certain ranking.