Why the shame around enemas?

I thinks it's because they are an extremely private and intimate activity. Most folks don't talk about ‘intimate’ subjects.

This statement might just close the topic, and appropriately at that. Yes, there are some things that are intimate and not meant for others to know. Enemas make that list, but there are others and I suspect a great number of us partake of them.

Good one LisaK.

I've made lots of replies here on this topic… adding to them; my shame/guilt was because I was masturbating to enemas and the sight of the enema bag -what could be more shameful than that!… if masturbating was not shameful enough, as in “he likes to play with himself"; then add to that the use of an enema and enema bag… oh, no, could just imagine people saying “what an effeminate little pervert sissy”!

Why should there be shame associated with a remedial act that's perfectly normal if it were viewed as a necessary method to alleviate gastrointestinal concerns

Oh that's right it might turn sexual therefore it's dumped in the fetish basket

Can't let the cat out of the "bag” can we now !!" lest we be regarded as behaviourally unsound

I could do it in front of a class with pride and no shame

Even as a fetish or your sex habits - maybe you don't talk about it but why be “ashamed” of it??

@mar1978: I used Google translate on what you posted below and here's what it came up with:-

I personally associate the enema with shame, as I was the only one in the family who had to do it. Now I talk about it more serenely, but when I was young I didn't talk to anyone about these things... Having to show my private parts for my own good made me blush just thinking about it.

@mar1978

When you say you were the only one in your family who got enemas - did you have any brothers or sisters? Were you singled out?? I felt my mother was more apt to give me an enema than my sisters…..

@Rigel I felt my mother was more apt to give me an enema than my sisters…..

Funny thing, I never ever remember my older sister getting an enema or even being around when I got mine. Seems I would get an enema at the drop of the proverbial hat. I was a very poor eater, whereas she not… perhaps that played a part. Even though we remain very close, this is something I'm am way too shy/sensitive/embarrassed to talk about with her. It would be funny if she has an enema fetish just like me😄

@reddevil I use to think my mother had somewhat of a sexual fetish with me. Enemas (although infrequent), walking in while bathing or toileting, etc. Now I think it was more of a control or dominance issue. Whatever, I still didn’t turn out normal. 😁

ETA: as to why I suspect my sister might have an enema fetish - I was visiting with her. Her husband comes home and I gather he had been to a pharmacy. She sheepishly asks him if he got it, and he happiily says yes and has a package in a medium size paper bag - it looks like what is the all to familiar shape of a rectangular fountain syringe box…

I thinks it's because they are an extremely private and intimate activity. Most folks don't talk about ‘intimate’ subjects.

@E42 Fortunately, we aren’t “most folks”!😜😜😜

Shame? Really? Sorry, but I don't feel any shame by taking an occasional enema. If disguising my enema cans is thought to be a matter of shame, it isn't. Disguising the cans is a matter of spoofing the casual observer and I get some comic benefit from that. No, there are some things that are personal and not to be necessarily made public. Years ago having my period was in this category. But hardly shame.

I grew up in the years when enemas were more common. The shame/embarrassment was not that you got an enema, but that you enjoyed it!

Growing up in the fifties an early sixties, enemas were a common everyday cure for a lot of different maladies. They were talked about by kids, teenagers, and adults alike without any shame or embarrassment. My siblings and I grew up sharing a bedroom until our mid to late teens, because mom and dads house only had two bedrooms. Nudity between us was an everyday affair because we shared a bedroom. Giving us plenty of opportunities to examine an investigate each others private parts. My brother and I explored our sisters girl parts and she explored our boy parts. On top of that, mom gave us enemas together in our bedroom laying across the bed. My siblings and I liked getting enemas from an early age and never really complained. Making it easier on mom, grandma, and our two teenage aunts. Being given enemas and seeing someone else get one was a normal part of growing up and we didn’t think twice about it. As a teenager, my girlfriend and I gave each other enemas during her period each month. This got started because she saw the douche/enema bag hanging in our bathroom shower and asked my sister to give her a couple of enemas one afternoon. She had started her period at school that day and was having some cramps. My sister gave her the enemas she asked for and told her, "Next time you need to ask my brother (meaning me) to give them too you. He does me whenever I ask, and I do likewise for him.” A month or so later, she did just that, starting a routine that lasted until we finished High School. Unfortunately, conversations about enemas have become taboo over the years. And conversations about sex have become more acceptable over the years, unlike the fifties and sixties, when the subject was taboo.

Funny thing, all the per-puberty negatives ( fear, dread, shame, embarrassment) all found their way into producing great pleasure post-puberty. Amazing how that played out!

It seems that for the people of the 1950s to 1960s it was quite common... how things have regressed...

@RedBulb99 The shame/embarrassment was not that you got an enema, but that you enjoyed it!

You hit the proverbial nail on the head. As a teen I felt my love of enemas was most shameful. Also, that I was doing/enjoying something that no one else did.

There is much taboo around everything that refers to the anus, especially the possibility of pleasure through it

@reddevil and @Rigel I have a sister that is 8 years older than me and I never remember her getting enemas when I was younger, maybe because mom was just very discreet about it but I know my sister was aware that I received them. My sister is now in her seventies and I’m going to when the time is right ask her If mom gave her enemas when we wer younger. My sisters ex husband and I were real close, we spent a lot of time together hunting and fishing and we would do like most men and talk about sex we had and he did tell me one time that your asked me to spank her which he said he didn’t, but it seems like my sister has some of my fetishes and desire.

I’ve never been ashamed or embarrassed when the subject of enemas came up.

Lucky for me, the casual mention of enemas in conversation has led to some wonderful enemates.

This is especially true with women older than me. I‘m figuring that‘s because they grew up in the enema golden years and they miss getting enemas from their mothers.

If I can get them to open up about their enema histories, they will usually share what they like about enemas, how they like receive, how they like to give and the million other little secrets they hold in their memories.

Once you get them this far, it’s a forgone conclusion that you have a new Enemamate. Play your cards right and good frequent sex will follow.

I‘ve always been over the moon with sexual relations with older women and having them open up about their enema past makes me hard as a rock.

Our only arguments have been about who gets their enemas first.

As a child, in a childish environment, this was a very shameful topic. Peers especially laughed at the child who was given an enema. Although it did not turn into hatred. This does not apply to younger children. My sisters easily told even their girlfriends that I was or would be given an enema. It always made me blush.

While I don’t see the shame in enemas I was “in the closet” for a long time about my anal fetish. Since becoming active on this site again I have been able to tell my family what I do. I have even sent pics to my youngest sister of my play dates. I have had a few conversations with some patients at work about my fetish while giving injections. It actually feels liberating! 🍑💦🌡💉

I can agree with what has been previously noted, that any embarrassment from giving or getting an enema comes not from the fact that you got one, but that you liked it. Even back in my early years when enemas were more common, I would not admit to anyone, other than my sister, that I liked getting one.

While I don’t see the shame in enemas I was “in the closet” for a long time about my anal fetish. Since becoming active on this site again I have been able to tell my family what I do. I have even sent pics to my youngest sister of my play dates. I have had a few conversations with some patients at work about my fetish while giving injections. It actually feels liberating! 🍑💦🌡💉

@chelle300 You're an inspiration! 😘❤️🌹

@mike45 Thank you kind Sir🥰

I guess it depends on how you define being “open” about it.

I wouldn't hang an enema bag in my living room or put Fleets on the shelf next to the Bourbon and vodka and then invite friends over.

Of course they are shameful for most people.

Everything is a process.

If you started getting enemas as a young child, you may not have liked them, but it is a matter of course. Being too young and havjng no authority, you accept this, many begrudgingly. This is the first power play. At the same time you are taught not to show yourself beliw your waist, don't lift your dress, show your underwear, or touch yourself, especially in public. What is between your legs is private and you must not touch nor show it to anyone.

Then as you grow, somewhere a long the line modesty kicks in. Maybe at different times as you age. You become aware of things, start putting things together. My first time, I remember having a tinge of modesty around 7.

You may also realize touching yourself between your legs is immensely pleasurable. (You feel to have found this secret that no one knows about. AND your parents are telling/teaching you not to show it or touch it. Hmmm...something is up here. )

You butthole is so close to your vagina for girls and your junk for boys. Girls might be more modest. Getting an enema is still a totally naked butt on the bottom or just panties pulled down. For boys, you are probably getting erections. How embarrassing! A nozzle up your backside gives you a hard-on. What could possiblybe going through that preteen or teen's head? "OMG, I have a hard-on, do they see it, do they know, how embarrassing, am I gay?" You don't know this is a normal bodily reaction.

One can only imagine (as a female) what is going on inside a boys brain.

So now you are a teen. Everything and anything you do that does not conform to your "social norm" with your peers is kept hidden. (Rightly so, you are taught not to talk about such things.) If it's odd or different, if you bring it up you are at best ridiculed, at worst ostracized. Sex is not talked about in polite company. Hell the way people act and talk you'd think no one is having sex.

Everything in life (society) is against you going against the grain. Dancing or marching to your own beat.

Between family norms, society's restraints, religion (which to me is the worst oppressor from which ALL other draconic constraints stem from) the structure in which we grow does everything to squelch any 'off the grid' or fringe thoughts and or behavior.

So I don't necessarily believe (and I could be wrong) that the shame has all to do with SCAT play (although I do find that yucky). Having never explored good clean, safe, careful butt play, lots of (vanilla) people just find regular butt play weird or gross, super straight (vanilla) men think is it gay. (Butt stuff relates to defecation and urination for most so they think it's dirty or wrong.)

A personal anrecdote. I've never wanted kids, and was viewed as an oddity by some of the men I dated a well as people in general. I didn't for the normal routine. I never shied away when people asked how many kids do I have. My answer was always "Zero, and it was the best decision I ever made." That shut them up quick. Some people (that was me) are just not cut out for having children. I just realized it sooner than later.

I have given enemas to a lot of girls I have dated. I have never discussed it openly. I mean like, "hey who has had enemas?" I am easy to talk to but still. I think it is the fact that what all is involved keeps it a closed topic only shared by the ones who partake in t. Even then it is not open. It is something that takes time to talk about.

I see no shame in enemas sure would like to find a guy in the grand rapids area that would enjoy getting a good massage and a nice enema. Seems like guy's are embarrased aboutthe subject. Very open here, hit me up if you have interest in this.