Aroused by embarrassment?

Tink for is the embrassements and humilition is à turn on

Apologies if I wrote this elsewhere in another thread. My take on sexual embarrassment and humiliation almost seems paradoxical, but it's always been this way for me. In real life, non-D/s sessions, embarrassment or humiliation is very unpleasant, one of the worst feelings I know of. However, playing D/s with a trusted Domme ex of mine was/will be very different - the more intense the better the arousal. For example, my kinks are rubber, sneakers (more rubber), anal, enemas, bondage and D/s. Therefore, I really love wearing or seeing or participating in them and get extremely aroused, especially with a Domme running the show. if I put on a rubber suit and sneakers, an anal plug then an enema nozzle and take an enema, especially restrained, the kinks simply make me extremely aroused by themselves even without D/s, so I enjoy it. However, if we do the same kinks but now I'm acting submissive to the Domme, the arousal gets even more intense. The perceived embarrassment and humiliation of enduring those kinks adds a whole new flavor and level of arousal to the scene and the sex with her.

In the first case, I'm just wearing and sweating (which I like) under the rubber clothes and sneakers and enjoying the rubber kink. In the second, I'm feeling and thus acting highly embarrassed and humiliated that she's forcing me to wear this odd, smelly (good smell) hot rubber suit and sweat "against my will" while having sex with her. I'm very vocal about my submission and embarrassment and we constantly talk about what she's making me do as we go along. (I've been told I'm very good at beiing the sub and moaning and begging, to both our delights.) Since we trust each other (and switch roles sometimes), we can enjoy the intense domination or submission but it's over after we both have had enough D/s and mutual orgasms. This applies even more to me getting enemas from her as there's so much more to endure and thus be humiliated about. The odd part to me is that I can turn the embarrassment on and off but prefer to have it included as the interaction is so much more intense and satisfying.

I have thoughts about it which is strictly a theory, but makes some sense to me. I suspect that deep down in original feelings somewhere I enjoy sex and my kinks so much that I'm fearful that the other partner won't accept me for them and reject my sex life. So if she's the Domme in complete control and is enjoying doing all these "embarrassing" sexual kinky things with me it feels like she must be accepting of them and in fact will go as far as she needs to in order to wring orgasms out of me. And when we switch and I'm the Dom, she accepts whatever submission I'm giving her and thus also is accepting of my sex life.

My 2nd ex-wife and the last few GF's before her have been very accepting of my kinks and enjoyed playing and switching this way with all of my kinks plus their own. I'd like to find another lover like that.

Eric

Just to add a bit to that, I can make any of my kinks feel embarrassing or humiliating if I'm in the mood (tight hot sweaty rubber suit, snug sneakers, invading anal plug, enema nozzle lodged in my bottom with water filling me up, restraints so I can't get away from her, etc.). However the best kink for embarrassment and humiliation is definitely enemas, especially large (~3-5 quarts) ones for long hold times over an hour, sometimes with cramps, gurgling solutions in you. It's invading one of your extremely guarded and private places including both holding your anus open and filling your belly with heavy solution. It just feels like your partner couldn't find any more intimate a place to totally take you over and control you. It's extremely easy to be very vocal about any number of aspects of what she's doing to you, like too much water, too many cramps, urges to empty, belly pressure, bloating and distention, etc. and when I'm her enema sub I really make it obvious how helpless, dominated and humiliated it feels, which my Domme loves to hear. The more complaints and begging, the better her arousal, which is half the point. The other half is letting me enjoy the intense submission from being forced to hold a big enema. We both thoroughly enjoy our D/s enemas, in either role, though I especially love being her enema sub, with the other kinks (rubber, sneakers, restraint) added on for more submission. Among others, a particular time that the embarrassment is delicious is after I've been holding the first enema for over an hour being edged, restrained and sweating under my rubber suit, and then I get a second enema without releasing the first. Then she'll tell me something like

"Oh, by the way, you'll be holding both enemas a good long time, because first you're dragging your belly over to me on the bed, then fucking me and giving me orgasms and then waiting for my post-orgasm nap to be over. If you're really good at it I might let you orgasm and undress tonight, but I do so love watching you sleep still full of water under all your rubber, so we'll see - maybe tomorrow morning."

At which point I think both with dread and delight "Oh my God, I wonder how much longer she'll make me do this?", and feel an enormous satisfying wave of both intense humiliation and mild dread/arousal at having to endure it all even longer. But I'm also delighted she's so dedicated to satisfying us both. More to come with the next partner, I hope.

Eric

Yes its a big turn on for me also. When i was growing i wasn't really embarased at enema time, i was used to mother and my aunt seeing me nude, but there was still some funny feeling i couldnt identify. I was very imature both physically and emotionally growing up my being such a late bloomer only added to my feelings. Now i enjoy having others see me looking like that and having a woman in control. Guess thats the definition of a sub

The most embarrasing thing growing up , was to be exposed. The embarrasement made it hard to breath, I would swear . I would protest....but the truth be told it excited me. This was before I knew about excitment.

Embarrassment is SUPER POWERFUL ... And I totally believe in it's power to make any experience unforgettable!! I know that it is personally very embarrassing to be completely vulnerable and under someone's control... Especially if they have you strip naked and start (for lack of a better word.. fondling) your penis and balls.. and the icing on the cake is when they do all that in front of your mom!!

The embarrassment factor is a key component of it all for me. That is why the medical exam experiences that are most hot to me in hindsight are ones where a parent or brother was present or, in the case of school physicals, where other guys I knew were present.

I totally agree with Littletwink (below).

Having my mom watch the doctor give me a physical is both embarrassing and exciting.

When he tells me to take off my tighty whities I actually get a head rush.

Agree with you guys the embarrassment factor in hindsight is what made them super hot looking back. In the majority of cases it wasn't that the people present were seeing me in a different state of dress to what they'd seen before - my parents or brother had seen me in the house in my undies, and my friends in the changing rooms similar, although obviously the occasions when girls had seen us walking from the changing rooms to the gym for our physicals in our boxers was hot even at the time. But it's just the embarrassment about being examined that way that makes it exciting.

That is why the medical exam experiences that are most hot to me in hindsight are ones where a parent or brother was present

I was lucky to have examinations at the doctor where both my mother and older brother were present at the same time and got to see me examined as a kid stripped down to my tighty whities. The reverse was also true and I got to see my brother get examined stripped down to his boxers and the embarrassment for him to be examined in front of his little brother and his mother or father is also an exciting memory to think about. I just wish there'd been an occasion where we both got examined in front of our parents stripped down to our undies at the same time like some of you guys were!

I am amazed that almost every day more and more guys are writing to me to say that my posts are resonating with them and wanting to share their thoughts and experiences. We all get a "head rush" (as Michael Anthony put it so well) by having another person see us naked, but it seems like the most powerful head rush comes from being nude in front of a parent. It's mostly being naked in front of our moms, but some guys have vividly described how bonding it was to show their penises and testicles, especially once pubic hair had sprouted, to their dads. It is even more powerful when the dad was also naked. This all reflects a deep, atavistic reality for all of us. We were created from our parents' sexuality. We all come from our dads' testicles, penis, and semen. When either parent sees his/her son naked the parent feels an additional profound bond. Our testicles and penises are the way in which our parents can potentially be perpetuated, and especially when a parent sees a son's penis and testicles surrounded by hair, which indicates the ability to ejaculate semen and therefore to procreate, evokes an enormously deep sense of love, satisfaction, and connection with us that binds us together forever.

the most powerful head rush comes from being nude in front of a parent. It's mostly being naked in front of our moms, but some guys have vividly described how bonding it was to show their penises and testicles, especially once pubic hair had sprouted, to their dads. It is even more powerful when the dad was also naked..

I really can't see much in the way of bonding happening. Not in any case when I was growing up. If anything, the idea and the few occasions where it happened were very off-putting and still make me cringe inwardly when I think about them. Nothing untowards happened of course, but the memory is disconcerting and more than vaguely unsettling. Ugh ...

I can definitely relate, embarrassment is a big factor for my interest in this. Very Well written posts in this thread.

Yes, embarrassment is a big part of forming my medfet. As a child i was always very nervous and embarrassed at the doctors. It was a strange feeling because i hated it but also secretly liked it. I still get super nervous and embarrased at the doctors and still hate and like it.

Tara, can you elaborate on what your exams consisted of?

Generally those were routine pediatric physicals-throat, ears, heart, lungs.. Sometimes there was also blood presure taking and scoliosis check.

Generally those were routine pediatric physicals-throat, ears, heart, lungs.. Sometimes there was also blood presure taking and scoliosis check.

And you were embarrassed?

This plays a big part in my fetish. Embarrassment is definitely a Turn-on and it’s something that should be differentiated from humiliation. I get Embarrassed just from being undressed in front of my dr but I dont Need them to do anything to elicit that feeling.

Embarrassment has never been an issue for me in the medical context. Be undressed in front of a medical professional —male or female — always felt normal, but perhaps that stems from the time when I grew up. I do wonder if those with body self-image issues. or those who grew up with the understanding that certain parts of the body were private, are the ones who more acutely feel embarrassed in a medical setting, or crave it in a med-fet setting.

I agree - the embarrassment definitely plays a role in my medical fet interest. I would also say vulnerability or sort of giving the control over touching your body to another person also plays a big part. I find having to strip to briefs a big turn on - much more so than wearing a gown...

I agree - the embarrassment definitely plays a role in my medical fet interest. I find having to strip to briefs a big turn on - much more so than wearing a gown...

I definitely agree that embarrassment is a major component of my medfet turn on as well. The greatest embarrassment for me is having to reveal my genitalia on command. I am in agreement with you about the stripping to briefs being more embarrassing than wearing a gown for several reasons. First, wearing briefs only places almost your entire body on display for the entirety of the exam and also the period of waiting for the exam to commence. It definitely emphasizes the power of the fully clothed examiner over the subject. Also, briefs make it pretty obvious what kind of size is sitting between you legs, giving the examiner a sense of what is going to be placed on display if he chooses to give that most dreaded command to drop them. Also, if you are naked under a gown, it is pretty much a given that the examiner will plan to examine the genitals. When you have on briefs, the faint hope exists that they may stay up the entire time with a genital exam omitted. I also find it more awkward and embarrassing to have to drop the briefs for the genital exam rather than just lifting up a gown to provide exposure.

Agree with you exam doc that embarrassment is a big turn on. When I'm at the doctors and asked to strip down to my underwear for a physical, it's not a big issue for me as I'm only striped down to the same level of exposure as if I were shirtless and wearing shorts or at the swimming pool, but at the same time it's showing who's in control with the doctor fully clothed and you almost, but not quite naked, with it being obvious from the shape of the bulge in my boxers what my stuff looks like, especially if I'm getting excited downstairs, and the doctor at any moment likely to tell you to remove your boxers and have you completely naked.

it being obvious from the shape of the bulge in my boxers what my stuff looks like, especially if I'm getting excited downstairs, and the doctor at any moment likely to tell you to remove your boxers and have you completely naked.

If you want to increase the embarrassment factor, try wearing tighty whities like I do (just for physicals, by the way). The examiner will get a much clearer idea of what is awaiting him when they go down.

If you want to increase the embarrassment factor, try wearing tighty whities like I do (just for physicals, by the way). The examiner will get a much clearer idea of what is awaiting him when they go down.

I tend to wear white square-cut CK boxer briefs, especially when I have a physical, which have a short leg on them and tend to show off my stuff nicely, but I can see where you're coming from. Also the embarrassment of feeling like you're a kid again.

If you want to increase the embarrassment factor, try wearing....

If you want to increase the embarrassment factor, try wearing a jockstrap. With your exposed ass framed by straps on display. And the pouch exploiting your bulge, arguably a little better than briefs.

Embarrassment is a big part of medfet play for me, and a major source of the erotic energy that makes it fun. In my opinion, a good play doc is first and foremost one who knows how to heighten and toy with these feelings in a patient - embarrassment, exposure, and loss of control over a situation. From the other side of the coin, as an occasional play doc and also just watching vids of exams, a bit part of the turn-on for me is to see a patient who is reluctant and embarrassed to go through his exam, but has to comply anyway.

Embarrassing memories tend to be especially strong and we continue to process those feelings for decades in some cases. I guess it's not surprising then that so many of us track our medfet interests to specific experiences where we (maybe unexpectedly) felt extremely embarrassed about our bodies, at an age when our sexuality was just developing.

Through my 20s and especially 30s, I became much less shy about my body or embarrassed about it being seen than I used to be. I used to hate changing for gym class, even though we weren't required to shower or change our underwear. Gym locker rooms and showers don't embarrass me any more, but exposure at the doctor is different feeling, because the nudity isn't communal, fleeting, and incidental, but sustained, one-sided, and part of a power imbalance. This is around the time when I started seeking out medfet play experiences and playing with that erotic embarrassment for real rather than just in fantasies. When you strip down for an exam, there's no pretending that any detail of you body is going to escape notice or examination.

Yeah i have to say embarrassment is probably big part of how it started for me.

What i thought was purely embarrassment as a young girl was also a dose of being aroused.

Embarrassment. Fear. Lack of control. Submission. Somehow medfet lets me conquer my fear and allows me to reassert some control.

Embarrassment. Fear. Lack of control. Submission.

These things along with a big blush are very arousing to me as the giver. The red cheeks and little smile as she waits are all very hot.

Embarrassment. Fear. Lack of control. Submission. Somehow medfet lets me conquer my fear and allows me to reassert some control.

These things along with a big blush are very arousing to me as the giver. The red cheeks and little smile as she waits are all very hot.

The reactions of the patient do it for me every time.... it's the look, the body reaction, and even the sound... that makes such an enjoyable experience for me.

It has certainly become that now. It has been a slow process over time beginning with feeling shy and awkward going for a physical. Definitely an anxious thing when seeing the pediatrician but during later adolescence, it became a mixture of embarrassment and awkward arousal. No longer able to just stay flaccid, the process of being examined caused moments of blushing and loss of control as I reacted. No matter how reassuring the doctor, it was still a very personal experience generally reserved for the privacy of my room. The examining of my genitals and being taught the importance of a self exam did little to diminish my developing erection facing the doctor. Enter adulthood and by now having become acquainted with the DRE, the exam was clearly a very intimate process no matter how far I had been told to undress. At some point, my penis and anus were on view and examined. The notion of any control was long gone and awareness of vulnerability and sensitivity took over. It also became associated with strong thoughts prior and after an exam and wondering how other males dealt with this. Eager to hear stories and with internet options, one could learn more and see more! At this point, the embarrassment is crucial to arousal though more often it's something that fuels my self gratification. For me, the process has evolved and wonder if it is like that for others?

[...] For me, the process has evolved and wonder if it is like that for others?

Thanks Nick321! Yes, and some of us have been talking about this on at least one other thread lately. Embarrassment is typically a major causative factor behind many fetishes - the fetish itself offers compensation. Moreover, although the seeds are often sown in childhood, it's the onset of puberty that sees the fetish take off! At that time it may become noticeably sexualised and with added features - it has 'evolved', to use your word.

Is that a fair observation? 😉

- Ken