Is it normal to feel embarrassed or guilty about your enemas?

Yeah, it definitely makes you feel like you're not normal, but I've always said that there are only two kinds of people in this world, there are strange people and there people you don't know well enough yet.

Yes it does make you feel strange but I think that is part of the excitement of enemas. Exposing and trusting yourself to another.

I feel embarrassed enough that I do not share my "hobby" with anyone I know.

Been given enemas by several women ....and a couple of tvs, lead up to the event is always hot, but often the givers dont get the angle right to insert the hose or fingers, so embarressment.......no, just a bit anoyed at their lack of ability and/or their sense of feel..

My first enemas as a teenager were taken in secret after the rest of the family had gone to bed. While preparing them I used to creep around the house as silently as possible so as not to wake anybody. Later on, when I had my own place, if I took an enema I would find myself creeping around making as little noise as I could, for no good reason at all. The old habits died hard. But today they’re long dead.

Up until a few years ago I used to feel very guilty and feel like I had a problem. All that changed when I joined this site and discovered there are a lot of people out there, all ages, both male and female that enjoy enemas as much some more than I do. Everyone on this site that I have contacted are friendly and don't mind sharing.

I totally agree with Eman in that I feel really guilty about enjoying enema play. This site is really helpful for me to understand and share with other people who enjoy being given an enema. Even as a 50+ female, I still cannot tell a partner that I want him to give me an enema.

I remember that I was upset and embarrassed at having to take an enema when I was a teen

I've never had any negative feelings about enjoying enemas.

In my mid-30s, I was sleeping with a college classmate and introduced her to erotic enemas by asking her to give me an enema before we took a bath together.

She asked why I wanted one and I told her it made my stomach feel good. She agreed and I filled the bathroom sink with warm soapy water while retrieving an empty fleet bottle.

I showed her how to fill the bottle, lubed my anus with some Vaseline and got in position on my hands and knees. I turned my head so I had a full view of her nude body and watched as she filled the bottle, twisted on the nozzle and gently inserted the nozzle completely.

She squeezed the bottle and then rolled it from the bottom to the nozzle. When she pulled the nozzle out, she asked if I wanted another one. I told her yes and to just keep giving them to me until I asked her to quit.

She smiled slightly, refilled the bottle and repeated. During my third bottle, she reached for her pussy and started rubbing her clit. She said, "You are making me horny."

I tell ya, enjoying the repeated fillings while watching a naked woman administer and masturbate herself is amazing.

I took six bottles before asking her to stop. I held my inverted position and watched as she put the bottle in the sink, spread her legs and begin to masturbate in earnest as she gazed down at my hips, asshole and nut sack.

Finally, I moved to the toilet and released as quietly as I could while watching her continue to masturbate herself to orgasm.

I finished, cleaned myself and asked her if she would like to try an enema. She hesitated for a second, asked me if I was sure it was okay, which I assured her it was. She got on her hands and knees.

I instructed her to put her breasts on the floor, which parted her ass cheeks so I had a clear view of her pink anus. I took great pleasure in lubing her anus and burying my index finger into her rectum. She let out a sigh, said it felt good and that no one had ever done that for her before.

I gave her four bottles of soapy water and excused myself so she could expel in private.

When she finished she opened the bathroom door and said her stomach felt great.

My first erotic enema mate was born. We enjoyed many enema sessions after that night and had the best vaginal and anal sex for several years.

We are still very close friends and I can tell when I see her that she wouldn't mind resuming those activities. We've just never had the right opportunity.

M13608's post is pretty much bang on as far as my feelings go: 'I feel embarrassed enough that I do not share my "hobby" with anyone I know.' I don't feel intrinsically guilty, or feel as if I'm doing anything bad or wrong, BUT... I've kept my enema fetish a secret from my wife (I think) for over 35 years, and I only indulge myself when I'm sure I won't be disturbed. If I were able to connect with a female enema lover, and I didn't have to hide THAT from my wife, I don't think I would feel guilty or embarrassed at all. I certainly didn't feel guilty about the few private sessions I've had with an "enema nurse". As others have said, it's great to be able to share thoughts & experiences with others on this site, who are pretty much always supportive and respectful. So, I'm too embarrassed to share with others who I don't think are enema enthusiasts, but I'm pretty guilt-free about sharing and doing with others I know to be "into" enemas.

Somehow, I glossed over this topic a long time ago. I believe it is pretty common for us to feel embarrassed when being subjected to certain types of procedures. We were likely conditioned to respond this way from the time we were young. Those invasive procedures that required us to expose our most secretive body parts, were likely to cause us to blush and even tremble as they were about to be undertaken. We believed that it was expected that we shun such things and cover up as soon as possible.

We believed that it would be wholly inappropriate to find any degree of enjoyment in such things. Even if an involuntary reaction somehow felt good, we should never reveal that we found the procedure to be comforting or downright stimulating. I think this is where the guilt feelings came into play. After all, how could anyone find an enema, RT, or suppository insertion anything but disgusting. How could we even express that a long awaited BM somehow became such a desirable thing. Speaking of gas and farting, have you ever been on your best behavior and saved it up for an extended time? I have, and was extremely uncomfortable until I could let loose. It's a good thing an ignition source wasn't nearby.

Thank goodness that guilt and embarrassment can diminish over time. I figured out a long time ago that I missed some golden opportunities because of guilt and embarrassment. As I've aged, I realize that my own imagination can play tricks on me. With some positive experiences and interactions with others, I've come to realize that many people like to be more open as long as they're not subjected to being judged for their unusual tastes. Sites like this provide discretion and safety, but personal interactions can be far more enjoyable.

I may still blush, but don't have the guilt feelings as in the past. I've become more bold and hope that others can become more open and willing to share such simple pleasures and procedures. After all, life is too short to be all bunched up most of the time.

I think that in most cases, not all, that the embarrassment comes of the nurture process while growing up. We receive all kinds of input from our parents (especially Mom) and relatives, friends, neighbors, classmates and society in general. It most likely could be considered normal to feel a bit of guilt about almost anything. I am of the opinion that if whatever you are doing is consented to by all and not designed to harm anyone, then there shouldn't be a problem.

I told a psychologist once "I think guilt is ego-distonic." He sat up like he'd been shot: "NO! You love guilt!" Spot on -- too many of us were raised in insane asylums, where nothing was ever right and nothing ever could go right. It turns out that somebody talking about what's wrong everywhere is actually saying "there's something wrong with me." So the kids get blamed by the crazy adult for her craziness, Naturally it all comes gift-wrapped with a load of guilt. And of all the things I felt -- or were made to feel -- guilty about -- the enema was top of the list by far. Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can make you feel guilty without your permission." Wish I'd known that as a kid.

I don't have guilt, but I don't talk about my enemas because I consider them private.

I think it is perfectly normal to feel guilty due to most people's upbringing and society's brainwashing. Try to overcome that, since it makes no sense, and enjoy what is an enjoyable and harmless experience

I do not feel guilty, because that implies doing something wrong, but certainly embarrassed if certain others would find out about my secret pleasure. The general public does not think enemas are fun. Can you imagine this scenario? - The director of your church group asks what you did yesterday, and your reply is, "I gave myself a couple of huge enemas while waiting for my husband to come home from playing golf with his brother." I think not!

My husband knows I like them and if I sweet-talk him I can get him to participate sometimes, but he is not into them like I am. My cousin who taught me about enemas knows but does not say anything to others. Admitting you like enemas is not something you do. I have friends who will admit resorting to a Fleet for relief of constipation and I suspect a couple of them even would use one anticipating a big night of sex that might include anal play. Heck, I did the same myself. But very few people I know will admit they like their belly filled to nearly bursting with the old fashioned enema bag. Most times the reaction to someone mentioning an enema is, "Yuck, I hate them." We try to blend in but we here are not "normal".

I have the perfect excuse to take "legit." enemas. My bowel resection and radiation make me have many B.M.'s a day, so I stop these by enemas. My recent hospitalizations showed me that my nurses thought that this was perfectly acceptable and as one RN said, "Sounds like an effective way to handle your gut problems."

Would I go around telling people that I have a colostomy to take care of, or hemorrhoids to deal with? No, it's too much information, just like talking about dysmenorrhea, vaginal infections and so on. But guilt, no. Not me, not anymore.

I never felt "guilty" for liking enemas, but I must admit that I thought for a long time that I was the only soul in the world who enjoyed them, particularly from a sexual standpoint, hence leaving me feel a bit different or weird perhaps. After reading about the enjoyment of enema in many sources, Zity included, I came to the realization that there are millions out there like me (us) who enjoy the same thing. Do I feel guilty? Hell no! Just satisfied after a good enema and an explosive climax.

Nmagirl17 makes the clear distinction between guilt (no) and embarrassment (yes) but as we all here share this interest--even embarrassment should not be accepted. Surely we all can seize the opportunity to work it into our conversation as a "normal" thing. The worst is a reaction like "yuck" etc. but even that is a chance to carry on the conversation. Anybody who is going to drop you as a friend or otherwise turn away isn't much of a friend. Friends respect each other.

I say test the waters and bring it up!

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I get embarrassed walking past the enema supplies at the drug store.

Being embarrassed is a perfectly normal reaction.

Guilty,never but I do think being embarrassed is normal in some situations. I know I dont talk on these topics IRL as openly as I do here.

I used to feel guilty. That was when I thought I was the only one who enjoyed enemas. If I thought anyone knew of my use that would be embarrassing. On occasion when someone other than my wife administers to me, I find the embarrassment adds to the excitement. There's nothing more embarrassing than having someone seeing and touching the most private part of my body and knowing they know how badly I need this treatment.

I can easily separate guilt from embarrassment.

I have no guilt that I enjoy a good enema.

There would be embarrassment if the fact that I enjoy enemas were to be known by the general public. Enemas as we know them are not considered "acceptable" these days. I can imagine the firestorm on the various social media.

I think as we age, less and less embarrasses us. We realize how insignificant our personal behavior is in the larger scope of things. That being said, I am a very private person. I would probably be embarrassed if my kids found my enema equipment. I cannot even browse my Amazon Prime account for sex toys, because I share it with my son -- I would hate to give him indigestion -- but I would get over any embarrassment very quickly. Gotta get a grip.

Yes. I feel awkward about this. It's something that is very private for me so no one knows. Still, it can get in my head from time to time.

I don't remember feeling guilty. I'm not committing any sin. Enemas were part of my growing up experience. But embarrassment, yes. As a teenager and young man, I would have been mortified to have anyone find out I actually enjoyed enemas. The conventional wisdom was that enemas are to be disliked. However, getting to know through the internet that others enjoy enemas as much as I do has helped reduce the embarrassment factor. Also, I absolutely agree with Mathgirl that as I age (I am 72), less and less embarrasses me, and that includes other areas of life besides enemas. My wife and several professional doms know that I enjoy and get turned on by enemas. If the rest of the world were to find out at this point, I guess I would say they could understand it or not and I wouldn't give a rats ass.

I don't know if it is normal, but it is certainly something I also experience. I have a partner who will occasionally indulge me, but I worry a lot about being disgusting and I feel guilty about asking him to do something he does not enjoy. It makes it hard when I want to do something slightly challenging. I feel a lot of guilt in many areas of my life, though, so it isn't surprising that I'd experience it here.

Most people feel guilty from time to time. Sometimes for valid reasons.. I hurt X's feelings by being insensitive. Sometimes for less valid reasons... I turned around and accidentally knocked over someone running past me. And sometimes for seemingly logical reasons to ourselves... I washed my lucky socks and my team lost. The same could be said for embarrassment... These feelings can be helpful and good, but too often they can get so overtly developed as to be crippling.

No one wants a sociopath with no empathy but to feel constantly guilty or embarrassed is an opposite extreme. My hubby would put me closer to sociopath than guilt ridden, but I will say I feel like crap if I have upset him though I may not admit it (stubborn streak). Your level seems toward the unhealthy side.. With me and others a good spanking dusts away the guilt well. But in a person with feelings of guilt too deep I worry it might lead to a spiral of more embarrassment and guilt.

I was raised in a tradition that focused more on grace than guilt, that said many were raised to feel really bad about themselves. There are a lot of people who probably should hear your not as hot as you think, but there are a lot of people who need to hear you are not as bad as you think you are... I think the original poster was in great emotional pain and I wish I could give them a HUG and tell them guilt and embarrassment are like pain to live without it is bad, it's a disease called leprosy, but to live in chronic pain is crippling and bad no one should have to live like that.

EDIT: I was generalizing rather than talking directly about enemas but still think it's applicable... For though to me this play seems harmless as a game of cards for some it is obviously troubling which in someways may be part of the appeal for the them.

One should never be ashamed about what makes you good about. Years ago I was at a family reunion and as usual were those relatives who always brought the same stories. As I made my way to another table were my sis in law and some nieces. They were discussing their recent colonic therapy treatments. So, my niece looked at me and said have you ever had a colonic before. I said NO! My thing is enemas. Enemas, nasty. I've been into enemas since a young child, what? Isn't funny you can openly discuss colonics and not think it's nasty, but enemas are. First, I don't have to pay $150.00 for 3 sessions. The enema bag cost me $8.50.

And I enjoy it. My niece said my mother never gave us an enema only grandma.

Your aunt my mother gave me weekly enemas growing up. Really, and the more she gave me an enema, the more I enjoyed it.

They left, but my sister in law stayed and was speechless. You mean my sister knows this, your sister loves them. I introduced her to enemas prior to marriage. What! I have a confession I enjoy them also. But, you know my husband hates the thought. And your open about it. Why not, it's natural, good for you and frankly it turns us on. Wow! Let's talk about this another time.

So, there's nothing to be embarrassed about.