MARRIED LADIES! Why does it seem like women eventually stop wanting sex?

Sex is the great leading indicator of the health of a marriage.

I think each relationship is driven by key factors that could lead to a sexless marriage- too many to list really. If you see sexual frequency and intimacy (physical and emotional) in a marriage begin to drop off, that is a sign the relationship is in a state of deterioration. So if you are in a marriage and the sex begins to decline, you likely have some idea what factors are causing the decline.

The larger challenge is trying to turn it around, which takes a lot of effort on both sides. If the will is not there to make changes, then the marriage will evaporate down to two roommates living together or divorce.

Sex is very important to me and my husband as well. We have normal bedroom sex with extensive foreplay 3 or 4 times a week and an occasional bend over slam bang thank you mam quickie whenever the mood strikes. I don't recall ever saying no to my husband. More often than not, I instigate sex by verbal or provocative behavior. Bluntly, I am always ready for sex. I think it is genetic, my sister and I are both the same way and I know my mom is as well. On weekends, I keep my diaphragm in all day so we can do it without any interruption for me to get ready. If we are going to dinner, I always put my diaphragm in after my shower. I rarely get out of the house without a protein injection. I keep a few condoms in my purse if the desire strikes when we are out and about.

My feeling is that frequency of sex is a learned behavior to some extent. It is like a training thing. If you have sex frequently you desire it and you have sex frequently.

I rarely get out of the house without a protein injection.

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May I ask what that is? Surely you don't actually inject something into yourself with a syringe every time you leave the house? I really don't understand what you mean.

May I ask what that is? Surely you don't actually inject something into yourself with a syringe every time you leave the house? I really don't understand what you mean.

She's telling us that when she and her husband go out to dinner that she often has a load of semen inside her (vagina)...and the injection tool was her husband's penis ejaculating into her.

If you're into such things as a couple, it can be incredibly sexy to both knowing that the semen is dripping out throughout dinner or whatever. My first wife and I used to do the same thing. The difference was my wife was on birth control pills and if I wanted to take a lick, I didn't have to deal with spermicide associated with the use of a diaphragm.

Married sex can and often does become “Wham! bam!” rather routine sex unless both parties work mutually to keep it alive, though quickie sex does have a valid place I will agree. The other issue I think becomes women dealing with kids in those “childhood years” when women simply tend to be too worn out for sex itself. I would think that any woman on that sort of overload who experienced consistent caring, support, affirmation and help with the routine daily tasks of being a mommy from the daddy in the picture would be able to dedicate some of her energy to wanting, even craving sex from that sort of guy. The lack of that kind of thoughtful man might be a factor in why some women eventually stop wanting sex. Call it an investment in your woman and your family you hormonally driven guys! Be consistently caring, supportive, affirming, and helpful and see if it helps!

May I ask what that is? Surely you don't actually inject something into yourself with a syringe every time you leave the house? I really don't understand what you mean.

It's like a girl in the northern states who marries a canuck, she's French by injection.

It's like a girl in the northern states who marries a canuck, she's French by injection.

And the movie about it would be called The French Injection 🌹

I want sex more now than ever before, just not with my husband ?

I never had that problem and I lived in a home with a husband and 4 sons. The difference I see is attitude on everyone's part.

I always worked full time and sometimes also went to school full time while working. My husband and I always shared the household chores and when the kids were old enough they also had chores to do so everyone had work and leisure time. Because of this when my husband and I had time off work we had time to do fun things with the kids and by ourselves. While I might have felt exhausted at times I also knew that others were working just as hard not only me.

I came from a very affectionate family and brought that to our marriage. My husband and I were always outwardly affectionate and the kids got used to it. We held hands, kissed, hugged etc. So we never worried bout the kids seeing us being affectionate it was normal.

Sex may have become harder to find time for but we always felt loved.

I think life is all about cycles. I’m a very sexual being but I do go through phases of wanting nothing to do with sex (at the most one month). My husband on the other hand wants it every day, twice a day. It would be hard on me physically and mentally keeping up with that schedule because I do have a burn out point whereas he doesn’t. So, as long as I get to recharge my batteries 😉 I’m good to go. And honestly, I think our sex life for the past 10 years has been very strong.

I do have to add that outside of the bedroom we are best friends and get along really well and there’s tons of respect and trust and kindness (and equally sharing in the domestic duties). It’s hard to continue to be attracted to a husband who doesn’t offer these things outside the bedroom.

I think your married friends need some kink in their lives. The shared kink my husband and I have keeps our married sex hot and alive. Medical play, enemas, anal play, spankings, being tied up and etc. can keep married sex on the edge so that married sex does not become boring and die off.

I think life is all about cycles. I’m a very sexual being but I do go through phases of wanting nothing to do with sex (at the most one month). My husband on the other hand wants it every day, twice a day. It would be hard on me physically and mentally keeping up with that schedule because I do have a burn out point whereas he doesn’t. So, as long as I get to recharge my batteries 😉 I’m good to go. And honestly, I think our sex life for the past 10 years has been very strong.

I do have to add that outside of the bedroom we are best friends and get along really well and there’s tons of respect and trust and kindness (and equally sharing in the domestic duties). It’s hard to continue to be attracted to a husband who doesn’t offer these things outside the bedroom.

Good-one,

You sound like you have a wonderful marriage for many reasons, the kind I wasn't successful at maintaining. Mostly my own fault. I'm very glad for you and others like you. God Bless you all.

Eric

But i loved it daily... I want to romance sometimes... Sometimes kinky naughty sex... Hardcore i love... But my hubby don't allow or give me hardcore

For us the slowdown did not come with marriage but with children. When you're tired and always dealing with cries, diapers and so on, there's less sex on your mind, and if it is one your mind it's highly likely that at least one spouse is tired. Things gradually came back as children become older and less demanding. My wife's profession now requires more traveling and evening conference calls so it changed our schedule.

But yeah, my wife is attached to penis-in-vagina every day, or nearly so.