50 Shades Of Grey

Well, Elle magazine has published the web address for fetlife. Imagine they'll be flooded with vanilla hits. TG they didn't stray here!

Thanks Elle! #NOT

The social director of the local kink club that my partner and I belong to tried to get a group of people together to go see the movie the night it opened. Not surprisingly, not a single person was interested in going. Like many others, we felt that this movie is less about power exchange and BDSM relationships than it is about "mommy porn". If it sparks a conversation and exploration, that's wonderful. I suspect that many of us in the lifestyle feel that after the initial interest, it will all blow over.

It's funny that Elle has published the address for Fetlife. I am a member there as well and we anticipate an influx of new members. They'll either find something that interests them or realize that they are in way over their heads and quietly bow out.

I read the books and I enjoyed them. Clearly she could have gotten into it further but it was a love story. Not a fetish book. I am not into BDSM full force but I do enjoy it. I'm a lightweight and I'm not into pain. I am very much like Anastasia but a bit more adventurous.

I didn't expect that the movie would go too far either. I haven't seen it yet. I would expect the same thing of the movie as the book. After all it wasn't meant to be porn. I do think it definitely has opened the eyes of many of the vanilla people in the world. A friend of mine knew I was into it. She knew it was something I had enjoyed for years and years yet she never got it and kind of teased me about it. Somehow after reading 50, it changed her perception of things and I might be mistaken but I think she's begun experimenting but hasn't told me yet. Not that she needs to but somehow it would make me feel validated. There's that part of me that just wants to say "SEE! I wasn't crazy! Now you understand!".

somehow it would make me feel validated. There's that part of me that just wants to say "SEE! I wasn't crazy! Now you understand!".

Sometimes that's what I wish people would say to me too ... that I'm not crazy for liking what I do ...

I personally thought the books and the movie was hilarious.

God awful writing, cringey play, and everything about it made my vagina pretty much close up.

They had some nice coco de mer furniture in the movie though.

I read all the 3 Book look the film, and is ok and very good.

I think the book and the Film was the same, I like ist very much.

I can't even give that garbage the satisfaction of downloading the torrent. Marketing hype and everyone fell for it.

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Went and saw it with my best friend. She and I both enjoyed it.

I have no desire to read the book, as from what I hear and what little I saw flipping through it in the book store the writing was pretty lame.

Every day we watch movies, read magazines, listen to radio, and watch television, and most of what we take in is pure crap. Why be so down on this movie? Vanilla people aren't going to get BDSM. Portrayed accurately most people will find it either repulsive or boring. Most portrayals of vanilla life could be described the same way. (That whole "living lives of quiet desperation" thing)

I viewed it as l love story. There were definitely places the writing could have been better, and I'm sure whichever screenwriter penned the line "I'm fifty shades of fucked up" thought he was being clever (I actually let out a groan when that line went by) , but when you manage to not look at it with a critical eye for accuracy, and suspend disbelief for a bit, it was actually a cute story. (Side question: can BDSM ever be considered cute?)

I may go see it again! Hope they do a good job with part two..

Not read the book. I have seen the movie, its boring aimed at those without any imagination or experience. Exploitative drivel.

Viz a viz Stephens post I can't agree more. Sorry to say that I couldn't hack it. I found the Grey character so implausible that I walked out about halfway through.

Ok. I forced myself to read (well, skim..) the book. In my previous post I blamed the screenwriters.. Turns out I owe the screenwriters an apology. It was the original author that wrote the line "I'm 50 shades of fucked up", not one of the screenwriters. That line, delivered in that scene in that way, is still a groaner.

Well, this silly book and movie are insipid and limp compared to THE STORY OF O from the 1960s, by Reage (a nom de plume), and to JUSTINE by the Marquis de Sade.

Maybe an interesting Belgian movie about a true event having to do with real life BDSM - SM Rechter

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1289432/?ref_=ttpl_pl_tt

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1289432/reviews?ref_=tt_urv

I haven't seen this movie yet, but the reviews make it seem interesting, all the more so since it is based on an actual court case and events. It might be interesting for anyone having seen this movie to possibly compare it with 50 Shades and its portrayal of BDSM ...

Despite all of the negatives, the movie got my wife HOT and started some dialog and spanking experimentation with her for the first time in thirty years.

Despite all of the negatives, the movie got my wife HOT and started some dialog and spanking experimentation with her for the first time in thirty years.

This 😃

I've read the trilogy twice. Saw the movie this past Tuesday and it was just okay. Nothing like going with your completely vanilla sister who was like "WTF, I would never let a guy do that to me". In my opinion, there were lots of important parts of the book that I feel they left out. And my sister who hasn't read the books was very lost.

I have yet to see the movie. I have seen previews and I have heard friends and co-workers talking about it but I have yet to view it myself.

To be honest, I'm reluctant to be seen at a theater showing it. I will probably have to wait for the DVD.

Despite all of the negatives, the movie got my wife HOT and started some dialog and spanking experimentation with her for the first time in thirty years.

So things are lookin "Peach'y"...nice to see

I never read the books. I did go to see the movie a couple of weeks ago. It was a Monday matinee. To my surprise, if not shock, there was exactly one other person in the theater. From what I have been told and read about the book, the movie was somewhat toned down (not surprisingly). I thought it was an interesting character study.

This is my first time in this section; I'm always in the "Enema Group" butt had to share this joke with you.....

Old Ralph and his buddies usually stopped at the bar after work for a couple. Then Ralph told his guys that he would have to pass. After a few days he then showed up, much to his friends' surprise.

"Hey Ralph, what the hell...how did you get your "Liberty Card"?

"Well, my wife and her girl friend saw '50 Shades Of Grey' and when I got home she asked me to tie her to the bed...legs, arms and all. She then said, "Do whatever you want."

--so, here I am"!

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Having read all three books and seeing the film recently, I was surprised that the film was more tasteful than I had expected. Whilst obviously it was sexual, personally I thought it was portrayed very well. A good couple of hours entertainment in my (limited?) opinion

Boxcar, I give you a karma if I knew how

Great joke especially for us old farts

I watched it, thought it was shallow and tasteless we, as a society, should be able to convey these thoughts in a more tasteful way.

Course,

I agree that the 50 Shades movie is shallow and tasteless, even though I have only seen the preview. But there is plenty of pop culture out there that is really great, and a lot of it depicts BDSM from time to time. It just might not be as sensationalized as 50 Shades is, as a portrayal of BDSM, because usually the entire show/movie/book does not revolve around it. The Sopranos, for example.

It just might not be as sensationalized as 50 Shades is, as a portrayal of BDSM, because usually the entire show/movie/book does not revolve around it. The Sopranos, for example.

The Sopranos shows instances of BDSM sex? I think I must have missed that somehow ... I know all those wacko wise-guys are into power trips, manipulative and domineering, but aside from just being creeps in general I don't remember anything. Have any instances you could point to?

Agracier,

To answer your question, here are some specific instances of BDSM/kink in The Sopranos- to support my point that quality pop culture also contains such themes:

Tony's sister, Janice, was always down to fulfill the fantasies of the men she slept with. Janice's openness to explore, in itself, is interesting as a form of beyond-normal sexuality. As for her partners: Richie, her fiancé at one point, liked to hold a gun to her head while they fucked. Then there was Ralph Cifaretto, who preferred for her to fuck him with a vibrating strap-on and tell him that he was her whore. Those two examples were clearly forms of Dominant/submissive role play.

And from time to time, Carmela (Tony's wife) felt conflicted about the fact that she was excited by her husband having sex with other women. She clearly had a certain kink about this.

Anyway, those are just the examples of kink in The Sopranos that I can think of offhand. I have not watched it in over a year, but it is still one of the best shows that I have ever seen.

I've not read the books, but I did think about going to see the film. It's pleasing that quite a few here who have seen it (or, rather, whose wife has seen it) found that it spiced up their wife's interest.

Unfortunately for me at present, whilst I am slowly developing my wife's interest in more adventurous sex, when I suggested that we go to see the movie she quickly and adamantly said "No". I think it would be counter-productive to ignore that reaction.

Boring as hell !! it was for vanilla kinksters

Well i think anything that you read or see that titillates you to some degree & inspires you with ideas has gotta be a good thing.