50 Shades Of Grey

We saw the movie last night. I would imagine those who are into the lifestyle will find it somewhat boring or laughable - which is what most of them seem to be predicting anyway.

With my limited exposure (mostly from this forum) I could see that the BDSM aspect of the movie doesn't do justice. Despite that, I found the movie to be very watchable and modestly entertaining. The characters are likable and sexy. I think we need to remember that the movie is not a documentary on BDSM, but rather the telling of an erotic fantasy. In that context - I'd compare it to movies like 9 1/2 Weeks or Showgirls.

The final scene is kind of dark, but is obviously meant to create a setup for the next movie.

My wife enjoyed it and must have found it somewhat arousing, as she was pretty receptive the rest of the evening. While it didn't invoke any hidden D/s tendencies, it did allow me the opportunity for some very pleasurable "butt worship" including some light spanking. On a normal evening the same spanking might have shut down my chances for the evening. When we got around to fucking, she wanted fucked a lot harder than she normally does - I was happy to oblige and thrilled to see her getting into it.

I'd rate it as a good couples movie as long as one of the partners is still vanilla enough to be intrigued (and aroused) by the mystery/taboo of the fetish.

Maybe I shouldn't be weighing in on this topic as I've only followed the whole Fifty Shades thing with minimal interest. My dealings with BDSM are little at best. That said. If I recall properly, the author was a house wife that most likely never got involved with the BDSM scene. So her fantasies that she writes about would probably be naïve at best. Someone who writes from a point of never being involved before probably doesn't understand the technical aspects that are basic knowledge to a real kinkster. Sorta like the old cowboy/damsel (my god the guy actually wears spurs!) that was the kink stereotype of the fifties. So I guess what I'm saying is there should be some leeway granted for the attempt at the subject by an outsider. To the vanillas out there, even the light, awkward and possibly just wrong introduction this movie presents must seem over the top. From the women I know, there's a veiled deep interest that they discuss rather red faced . Watch out! Kink may go mainstream because of this flick......

Watch out! Kink may go mainstream because of this flick......

If so, so much the better. It's certainly better to be a bit more open about things like this than to lock yourself up in a tower of conservative/religious indignation. It won't be the end of civilization as we know it ... 😃

But probably, much like with the Emmanuelle movies of the 1970s, it will spark momentary interest, be written about and commented on, go on to make a decent amount of money for the investors and in a few years people will wonder what the fuss was all about. You know, like when the Beatles and Elvis and long hair were going to be the death of us yet ...

I don't know, but I may be missing something, I thought that the book was about a love story. Between a nieve girl and a "messed" up boy. Yes, it had a little bit of BDSM thrown in for color, but basicly a love story and I kinda liked it

I think its fascinating that when Hollywood comes up with a movie about sex it seems to give a lot of sexually conservative people permission to see it without being too embarrassed.

Ultimately that's slick marketing

I don't know, but I may be missing something, I thought that the book was about a love story. Between a nieve girl and a "messed" up boy. Yes, it had a little bit of BDSM thrown in for color, but basicly a love story and I kinda liked it

@stickitin2me2000 - You're pretty close. It is basically a love story, but the S/M is more of the "suspense variable" as opposed to just "thrown in". It's the element of the story that keeps you wondering what's going to happen next.

Hollywood could have made it so much better with a minimal amount of effort. Interesting the author was a housewife. That makes sense. I didn't think she was a gorean or anything, but I did think she'd done at least SOME sm.

The dungeon was super duper lame, not even a st andrews cross, very very timid. Some of the lame imagery, like the shot of the ocean painting over the bed, were such a cliche.

The single BEST element of the whole flick was the mural above the bed in the women's room. Whoever painted it for the movie did an excellent job for it held an image of a caged bird, happily fluttering in its cage, all the while the cage door was open. And it wasn't verbally addressed as all other interesting (albeit rare) elements were.

I was hoping so badly for the dungeon to be f-ing spectacular, like one I've see in NYC, with beautiful amazing wood, brass and leather furniture etc.

They spent hundreds of thousands of production dollars on helicopters and gliders and neglected their money shots.

If you can't wow me with story-line and you can't wow me with superb writing, at least give me some gd money shots. Nope.

Film critique has not been so kind as it's lost direction insofar as what really constitutes erotic...Though recently I have read that there had been an upsurge of female interest in visual pornography over literary works due to 50 shades...Hopefully I may find that article & link--thinks www.ranker.com

Said article below is fairly generalized & overlooks films such as Amelie,The Postman Always Rings Twice, Blue Velvet,Secretary, Sirens,Emmanuelle, Pret A Porter,De Sade, Dangerous Liasons,The Story Of O & several others...maybe even The Decameron.

www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/05/classic-movies-sexier-than-fifty-shades-of-grey_n_6955310.html?cps=gravity_2246_9160216474182766107

Does anyone know..,Are there any representations to any play dr stuff on the movie or book...???

It is a movie that we might in time go see, but if not, nothing will probably be missed. Just for fun, put on our trench coats, hit the Carmike, get a popcorn and sit on the back row. Might turn out to be an interesting movie that way.

Said article below is fairly generalized & overlooks films such as Amelie,The Postman Always Rings Twice, Blue Velvet,Secretary, Sirens,Emmanuelle, Pret A Porter,De Sade, Dangerous Liasons,The Story Of O & several others...maybe even The Decameron.

www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/05/classic-movies-sexier-than-fifty-shades-of-grey_n_6955310.html?cps=gravity_2246_9160216474182766107

The movies in the article are supposed to be sexy movies? There are lots of good movies in the list, but sexy? I don't remember many, if any real sex scenes even. I guess we must be in the New Victorian Age then ...

Thinking about it, I'd maybe say that some TV series have better sex scenes than movies. Like Boardwalk Empire and Rome for instance, and Masters of Sex - though less than you'd think with a title like this 😃

And maybe a few movies like Henry and June and the utterly depressing, but well acted Daisy Diamond with Noomi Rapace in very explicit scenes. Maybe a few older French movies - la Dérobade (which I haven't seen in a long time) and some others that are in my memory hole ...

^^^^ Hence the added comment as to whats sexy...but yes you are on the right track in thought...There were a number of films with the likes of Catherine Deneuve,Charlotte Rampling,Isabelle Adjani,Lynne & Vanessa Redgrave,Sophie Marceau,Victoria Abril,Virginie Ledoyen featured, that were really very sexy / kinky...but titles elude at present....then of course there was Eyes Wide Shut with our own Nicole Kidman...The Devlis...Vampire Lovers (Dungeons)..etc.etc. most had some form of erotic twist represented & done well !!

You could put together a very good sex mag with nothing but screenshots and stills from Boardwalk Empire and Rome ... ha ha.

And thinking a bit further, what about series like Californication and Spartacus (with Lucy Lawless)? I haven't really followed these, but with Lucy Lawless it's almost guaranteed, clothed or not ...

And how to forget Eyes Wide Shut? Shame on me ... and actually Fur with Nicole Kidman was also rather good in the sensuality department.

Have a look at www.ranker.com mmm! didn't cast a wide enough net I'd say.

I almost forgot about this website:

http://elles-se-mettent-nues-pour-nous.fr/

If you're looking for nude shots of an actress, or from a particular movie or whatever, use the functions on the left in the site and you'll be offered a whole choice.

I have no intention of seeing this stupid sensational movie. I tried to read the book and hated it. It was banal and revolting. I suspect the movie will be even worse. I was especially appalled that the readers were largely women. As H.L. Mencken said, the "boobletariat". One can never go wrong underestimating the lowest common denominator.

Saw the movie recently, It was very much Dom/Sub situation.

Agracier^^^ Thanks 4 the link--Some erotic "classic" pics....quite a file & ty.

F4101^^^ Sub being the operative word--Substandard !

Fantastic!! This thread is really written by expert reviewers.

BTW. The author on some talk show readily admitted that the writing was sophomoric.

Junk book on all grounds.

It would be nice if "alternative lifestyles" such as portrayed in "Fifty Shades" would be accepted just as LGBT and the like are accepted! Imagine that?

It would be nice if "alternative lifestyles" such as portrayed in "Fifty Shades" would be accepted just as LGBT and the like are accepted! Imagine that?

It depends on where you live. In the bigger cities, it is. In the country, not as much.

NotForMee, your comment reminds me of this article, so you might find it interesting:

Beyond 50 Shades: The Reality Behind 3 Myths About BDSM

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/01/myths-about-bdsm/

There is NO medfet in the 50 Shades movie. There is literally a slap on the ass once or twice and the 6-stroke "finale" which is a #YawnFest. Bored shadeless.

For those in the know it is probably a very vanilla and inaccurate movie. If you want real BDSM or medfet, there is only one place to go and that is on-line.

But I still think it's a good thing this movie is generating so much commotion, especially among ordinary people. It's a first step into an exploration of your own sexual desires that go beyond the vanilla and everyday type. It will make it somewhat more 'acceptable' to talk about with friends or acquaintances, and may be a way to get a spouse or GF/BF to do some initial exploring with you ...

Whatever the reasons, I think it's better that this movie be a box office hit, rather than the war porn that is all the talk of the nation presently.

And for a lighter side of the discussion, may I place a link here to the original 50 Shades of Gray:

http://bantarleton.tumblr.com/image/110998327130

Agracier^^^ "It's a first step into an exploration of your own sexual desires that go beyond the vanilla and everyday type"...Yes, something it has done is generated not only discussion but a substantial increase in women interested in pornography (refer post # 40) what types of... article does not say...nor am I aware just where/how they came to this conclusion....Wonder if they canvassed all the porn video libraries & resellers around the globe...nice job for the journalist....haha

But either way it's a win win......The film itself is making millions so there's more than a few wishing to explore....Now all they need is some first class (zity) scriptwriters to show em how it's done......50 Shades Of Zity...lol.

I saw the movie,but do not fully understand this behavior. There are many that would not find any interest in my kinks either. Is BDSM about power and control or just cruelty and pain? My state had the largest sales of pre release movie tickets. Mississippi.R.

I read the book and it was laughably horrible. The sex scenes were boring, the relationship was unhealthy - overall I thought it was good for a laugh and that's about it.

I just saw the movie today, never read the books and never plan to. I have to take exception with most of the opinions on this thread.

This is a deeply disturbing psychological drama. The protagonist is an impossibly rich young man who tells us at several points in the movie that he grew up with severe child abuse. He is a damaged man who, regrettably does not use any of his great wealth to find help to resolve his severe antisocial, anti-feminine thoughts, beliefs and behavior. He states that his behavior is "what I am", an admission that he is aware of his severe flaws. This character should be a lesson to each of us that child abuse may have very serious, long term behavior, and that we should never allow ourselves to fall into abusive behavior toward any child. We need to learn to take any action available to us to stop child abuse, protect children and cause the perpetrator to seek medical help to realize his or her personal problems. This protagonist is in a position of great power over the heroine and indeed all people he touches.

The heroine is a young woman from troubled background of her own. She is just finishing college and has no solid career plans. She has no real power to control her life, indeed she has no path in mind. She has multiple male "friends", each of whom wants to get into her pants. This young woman is thrust into contact with the protagonist totally unprepared to deal with such a strong personality and overwhelming wealth. She is attracted to this mans physical appearance, (almost always a mistake for any lady,) and lets herself be taken in by his wealth. Being a weak character, she finds his "dominant" behavior to be attractive up to a point.

Both of these characters suffer from the loss of each other and part with a longing to come back together but without enough personal growth to realize their flaws and seek help.

I see a sequel coming in a year or two.

StephenS^^^Sequel is already in production at the time of writing...according to the blurb I have read...While you make valid points in regard to this debate...There is & remains a vast difference between basic simple discipline & outright sadistic abuse....Bear in mind, it is after all Hollywood dramatized fiction--aka: la la land.