MARRIED MEN: How often do you masturbate, and where?

... It insures that I last longer on the offchance I get to make love to her.

Yes. I find I too often time my masturbation sessions with the prospects of sex. Far enough from the expected encounter to insure maximum arousal and orgasm, but close enough to lengthen endurance. If it weren't for that (considering DW) I suppose I would let fly with a wank far more often.

When my wife is traveling, I'll masturbate daily. When she's home it drops to a few times a week (usually in the shower.) While we'll masturbate each other, our solo masturbation is done in private.

Usually two to three times a week now and normally in the bath / shower which I find a lot less messy. Still married but I'm finding more and more that it's getting to be a case of "do it yourself" or not at all. I definitely subscribe to the "use it or lose it" mentality and sometimes it can be more of an effort than other times,

In the shower bout once or twice a week

Hankb, try taking L-ARGININE 2-3 times a day along with MACA.they are both safe, and can be bought in a vitamin store. I went from almost no interest, to coming once,or twice a DAY. 1000mg. L-Arginine2-3 times a day with 1000mgs Maca...

........try taking L-ARGININE 2-3 times a day along with MACA. They are both safe, and can be bought in a vitamin store. I went from almost no interest, to coming once or twice a DAY. 1000mg. L-Arginine 2-3 times a day with 1000mgs Maca...

Manybags, I'm 63 with ED from antidepressant and possibly aging, though my libido is better than ever. How long did you take Arginine before you saw a noticeable effect? Thanks.

Usually about 2-3 times a day.

Usually about 2-3 times a day.

Two or three times A DAY??

Where is your wife? Does she help?

I'm almost 50 years old and I'm constantly horny. I can cum 5 or 6 times a day if I really want to. My wife unfortunately travels a good deal on business so I don't near as much help as I'd like.

Usually daily.

Twice a week, at least, or when I have the privacy.

Mine started tapering off at age 45 and once I was dignosed and treated for T1 diabetes, I went back to more like my 35 years old self, every day, plus sex 1-3 times a week with wife. she even carasses my testicles with I stroke

Once a week. My wife and I have settled into a routine (which I very much enjoy) of having sex on the weekend when we are less stressed. I masturbate during the week to take the edge off and to make sex last longer on the weekend. I like to masturbate watching videos of women masturbating such as those on I Feel Myself. I work from home and have privacy at my computer but I'm careful to not let my wife catch me. I think she might be upset but I've never asked. Maybe she'd like to join in.

Once a day when I'm travelling without my wife (or she's travelling without me). When we're together, hardly ever, since we consider that it's best to have shared sexuality rather than selfish masturbation.

Out of curiosity, who among the married men here has a wife who disapproves of masturbation when she's in the vicinity?

I have a higher sexual appetite than my wife. I masturbate very little because I have female friends who have sex with me.

When no one in the vicinity I can masturbate 2-3 times a week in my bedroom. I do while my wife works in her office room. Sometimes while she sleeps.

Once a day when I'm travelling without my wife (or she's travelling without me). When we're together, hardly ever, since we consider that it's best to have shared sexuality rather than selfish masturbation.

Out of curiosity, who among the married men here has a wife who disapproves of masturbation when she's in the vicinity?

Masturbation isn't selfish unless you do it in order NOT to have sex with your partner when they want it. Even then, there might be times you want to masturbate and not have sex and the partner might just have to masturbate themself if the other want sex or an orgasm.

Masturbation is something you do for yourself. Only an insecure, immature person would object to their partner masturbating. It wouldn't be good if masturbation was used by one person to always deny sex to the other, but occasional masturbation, regardless of what the other wants is perfectly OK. That's part of being an individual. My husband can masturbate all he wants. I don't care if I'm home when he does it. I do it when he is home if I want to do it. When we want to have sex together, we do that too.

Susie--you got that right.

hankb

Well put Susie. Your silver tongue is alive and well.

Yeah, I'm going to side with Suzie on this one. The saying goes "you can't love someone else unless you love yourself." It would be selfish NOT to let someone 'love' him or her self.

It would be selfish NOT to let someone 'love' him or her self.

I suppose it could be a Dom/sub thing to an extent, but I don't know much about that.

Susie: In our couple, we find it more appropriate to "ask for it" before starting to masturbate when the partner is at home. That is, if I'm feeling randy, I'm not to start selfishly all by myself, but rather to ask my wife. If she feels she would like to have sex shortly or masturbate me herself, then we'll do it that way. Only if she feels neither will I indulge in self-masturbation, but that's rare (she tends to prefer vaginal sex).

The reason for this arrangement: early in our relationship it happened that one of us wanted sex but the other had already "discharged" the sexual tension by masturbation. This frustrated the other partner, thus the "selfish" impression.

I think the arrangement between your and your wife's desire for mutual engagement is not particularly uncommon PN, and I respect it. It's really rather cute and considerate in it's own rite; don't get me wrong, it sounds like it works for you two.

Nevertheless, there is a level of respect in many a couples' understanding that each party wants to be a little monkey once in a while and enjoy rubbing one out solo on occasion.

Cleanbean: We see no inconvenience in a spouse relieving his or her sexual tension when the spouse's away. ;-) (My wife has a dildo and has suggested that I buy some kind of Fleshlight for such times, but I've not done it. Yet.)

My wife & I have a good, active sex life. Occasionally she will ask me to masturbate while she watches; and other times she will masturbate while I watch. To us, it's all part of a happy, open sexuality.

If by masturbation you mean auto sexual stimulation, then it would be at least once or more times a day, depending on where I am and what needs to be done during the day's activities.

But if you mean stimulation that leads to ejaculation, then hardly ever, maybe once or so a month. Why? Because it is more fun for me to be in a state of mental and physical arousal, then it is to be replete. There is a romantic French concept of orgasms being 'la petite morte' and my take on it is that is is a temporary death of sexual desire. Which is really rather depressing. Sexual recuperation takes too long to my liking, so I prefer to forgo a short orgasm to the sustained fun of being constantly aroused.

Bad for the prostate? I suppose, but no trouble yet and besides, I've long surpassed what doctors predicted for me several decades ago. I outsmarted them all ...

If by masturbation you mean auto sexual stimulation, then it would be at least once or more times a day, depending on where I am and what needs to be done during the day's activities.

But if you mean stimulation that leads to ejaculation, then hardly ever, maybe once or so a month. Why? Because it is more fun for me to be in a state of mental and physical arousal, then it is to be replete. . . .

If I'm going to be in a state of arousal doing "auto sexual stimulation" when masturbating, there is no way in hell I'm going to stop until I have an orgasm. My husband wouldn't either. I'm taking masturbating the distance until I orgasm.

If I'm going to be in a state of arousal doing "auto sexual stimulation" when masturbating, there is no way in hell I'm going to stop until I have an orgasm. My husband wouldn't either. I'm taking masturbating the distance until I orgasm.

Well, I consider that gobbling the whole cake down at one sitting, instead of enjoying it over several days ... ha ha.

Seriously though, if I could change my recuperation ability, I would change my masturbation habits too. But it is no fun being bereft of desire and arousal for days on end. That is what happens when you get older. And my way, is a way of trying to compensate ...

And even when younger, I was always intrigued by the Tantric yoga thing, controlling orgasm by force of will. It seems a very useful ability to have, being able to have control of your mind over the body.

It doesn't HAVE TO be the case when you get older...

I'm 62, and masturbated twice yesterday and once (so far) today to orgasm. Just gotta get those fantasies organized in your head! 😃

Well my answer is far more simple than those... When I was still married, it was only when allowed by the ex and always in front of her.

Malesmoothy, your post is very hot. THanks for the share.

Mashie