Significant Other - should I tell I'm a DL?

My husband is a diaper lover also. I'm not however. But he finally came out with it and told me. More or less because I stumbled upon what I call his "diaper porn" in a photo bucket account that he created. To be perfectly honest, I was creeped out by it at first. I still kind of am. We've talked about it a lot, and I've done some research on it on my own. Looking on here has helped a lot. I'm not 100% comfortable with it yet, but now that I understand more, I'm getting better about it.

I guess what I'm getting at here is that it would be better if you told her. And not just tell her, but talk to her about it. When I found out about this with my husband, he wouldn't talk to me about it for a long time and I felt hurt. It was like, I'm supposed to be a part of his life.. but not this part of it. When I finally talked to him about it, we realized that it made things better. I think that if you try to hide it from her, it might make things worse in the long run. She's bound to find out sometime no matter how careful you are about trying to hide it. But remember to actually talk to her about it, explain why its appealing to you. maybe that will help make things easier on her.

I met my wife through an ab friend of mine. Needless to say she was a bit of a "mommy" figure and starting out our relationship thats what she was, but as we spent more time together and talked we became much closer. She's not that much into it as she was and I'm still kind of conflicted about that, but she was really wanting to treat me like a newborn kind of......just not who I am. Also she was terrible at diapering lol but anyway she accepts who I am. The only thing we are trying to work through is the "when we have kids" issue.

Have been a DL for almost two years and it seem it is one of the most importent secrets I have and the only other person that knows about it is a really good friend of mine . now down to the real point of this post I live with my parents and they are uber strick and never live the house. my dad is a former U.S Marine and he would not understan why i like to wear diapers and if he ever found out about them he would kill me and my mom is almost the same way (she thinks that looking at pornographic stuff is like the 2nd worst thing that you can do other then merdering someone) just the past few months i found a old friend from high school and we stated to date she is my 1st GF and I am deeply in love with her and i don't know if i should tell her or not and if i did i'm afraid on how she would react so what should i do

Dont say a word to anyone. do your thing keep it to yourself get a job save up and get out on your own. once u are in your OWN home do whatever u want. You live under their roof and so would be subject to their perception.

I don't understand how people can be married, let alone in a relationship without telling their significant other about a major part of their life.

Well toons imsure if you do ahve kids we will say your not going to be the one to do the potty traing for the child LOL!!! thats like teaching a student when your a dropout LOL!!! not to say it cant be done , it just takes more time for some of us to get potty trained LOL

I have disclosed to both of my spouses, the ex wife accepted it but our relationship didnt last and my current wife knows but wants nothing to do with it.

I told one girl and now she is gone

Tell her slowly.

don't throw it to her.

If your partner isn't into it, you are not with the right person, or you will want and need persons on the side to satisfy you. Makes sense, right?

I told my gf and it did not go well. Then we sort of didnt talk about it for a while unti she found one of my diapers hidden and that wasnt good either, mainly because of the secrecy thing.

It would be wonderful to be understood and share this with the people closest to you but i would say it is definitely an acquired taste and not too many people are open minded enough to even give it a chance to understand it.

A few years I told my girlfriend (I was a bit drunk). I told her I had a secret that I must tell her.

At first she freaked out because she thought I was going to tell I had suddenly found out I was gay, or that I had met someone else, in a word she thought I was going to leave her.

Anyway I told her. She was dumbfounded at first. Then she understood there was no harm in it and asked if I wanted to seek professional help (psychology or so). I explained her that I had no problem with it, that I enjoyed diapers just like others enjoy making love in front of her mirror.

Since then she sometimes makes a joke about it, but rarely. Mostly she does not care, she is just not interested and does not want to play diaper games with me.

Overall I am very happy I told her, it helps, and I think she understood that telling her was a proof of the trust I have in her.

Arnaud

I have a friend that I am really intimate with. I got really drunk and when I do my mouth decides to open up and share a lot of personal details to him that I normally wouldn’t share. I might share them to him at a later date but not at that moment.

Well, one night I admitted that I like to wear diapers. I thought he was going to leave but he didn’t. He doesn’t really get why I like them and doesn’t want to assist me in diapering me up (which I would really enjoy, maybe a nice fingering before taping me up at night) but I understand and I am grateful that he knows that I like to wear them. I haven’t gotten up the courage to wear them at night when he is over.

I only wear them when I’m alone, but really want to start to wear them more often.

I don't what to say, I have had some relations in the past and all knew ahead of time about my diapers, (because medical needs) but all left after awhile because diapers leaked sometimes, now living with my cousin and his wife she baby's me and I have my own room she is fixing up as a baby room because I told her I want to be a baby and not just disabled in diapers the only one who understands I have no sexual relationship with except she lets me nurse on her breast

My exwife accepted it and even loved it after intraduced my current girl is disgusted by it and it breaks my heart cause I truly love her but she doesn't compleatly accept who I am so I believe marriage will not be an option with her. But the point is that you never know how your partner will react Untill you bring it up

Always be honest if you expect the same in return!!!

Hi lebeau13, For your sake I hope that you have thought seriously about your drinking and possible consequences. You told us that you had been hospitalized for emotional disturbance, drinking, (especially excessivly), is a red flag for danger. For your own sake talk to a doctor or therapist about this issue soon. Good luck.

Ya i agree it always better to be honest

My Fiance knows about the fetish, and while she generally doesn't like it, she accepts it is part of who I am. She lets me wear around her occasionally if we aren't going to be snuggling or anything, but not in public, and not if we plan on getting undressed together at any point. She generally prefers to "ignore" it as much as possible.

My significant other (wife) is aware of my fetish but she doesn't want to have any part of it. I opened up to her about it many years back and she just didn't get it... I don't blame her for that it's hard for those not familiar with ABDL to wrap their heads around it.

Occasionally she will stumble across some diapers I have stashed in the house and she just rolls her eyes and sighs :-).

Recently I have been in contact with a pro domme and she says she is understanding of the fetish... we'll see. Typically I find most dommes that claim they understand this fetish see in a slightly different flavor than me. Let's be real, it's a complex kink with many facets.

It's always best to be as honest as possible. Before I started dating my girlfriend, we basically laid everything out in the open. Nice thing is that if one of us really had a problem with something, it was out in the open and we can go from there. I actually didn't start out as a diaper wearer, but I had another secret I was keeping. I identify as being female even though I am male, i.e. I'm transgender. It got to the point where I started to tell my closest friends and that's when I told my now current girlfriend. To my surprise, she was strangely alright that this burly guy was telling her that he really wanted to be a woman, and even more strange to me was that she too had a secret she was apprehensive to tell me. She admitted she wore diapers for sexual reasons and comfort. At first, I admit it was a little strange and I didn't quite understand it, but mostly because that was my first exposure to such things. I offered to diaper her and share in that experience; mostly because I really wanted to support her and I was generally intrigued. At first it was a little strange to me, but the more I took care of my baby girl, they more I saw that it made her happy and the more I started to enjoy it myself. One night she asked what I thought about her diapering me. Honestly, I had thought about it, but I didn't think I would. I said yes and got the wonderful experience of having my first diapering with a real mommy and I even was feminized, so IT WAS FANTASTIC. At that point I realized why she loved it so much and it made me appreciate diapering on a whole new level. I was more inclined to diapering on both ends and I have been a huge diaper fan since.This just shows that it's best to talk out these things with the person you truly care about, because if your both open and honest, you should try to encourage and support each other as much as you can. Who knows? You may get attached to each others quirks like me and my girlfriend. And the other side is that you must respect other peoples wishes; you can't force something upon anyone, either have to deal with that by accepting that they won't participate or you are going to have to have a long conversation about it and where you both want to go from there. I hope my little ramble is some help to anyone, as I am the one she admitted this too 😃

That's really nice, I'm happy for the two of you. Karma point for you.

That\'s really nice, I\'m happy for the two of you. Karma point for you.

Thank you 😃 I got really lucky with who I'm with, but that doesn't mean that other people can't get to a point of happiness and understanding with their SO, it just takes a lot of time, effort, and communication from both parties.

I only recently discovered diapers and how much I enjoy them, and so far have not told my partner. It's kind of a bummer, because it really limits how much fun I get to have with them. On the other hand, there is a little thrill in having something all to myself. Am I being dishonest? Maybe. But then I also can't imagine what it would be like if he knew. I mean, I'm not sure if diaper time is something I want to share with him, or something I want just for me.

Well after a tragic relationship with a abdl girl I thought it was gonna be impossible to find the right one. I met my current girlfriend in class at college and soon after dating I told her I wore diapers full time. She was perfectly fine with it and soon after tried herself. She loved wearing diapers after that and has worn every night since then. We've been living together for a while now and she has been exploring her ab side and has really latched on to that. I pat her butt, giver her a bottle of juice, and cuddle her every night to sleep. She's so tiny too she's barely over five feet tall and 100 pounds.

Don't tell if you at the start of a relationship.

My wife knows I am dependent on nappies and has no problem with it at all.

Don't do it on your first date

Well, if you loved diapers before you got married, that's when you should have told her.

But since you didn't, hmmmmm, it might be too much to come right out and tell her everything in one shot. Maybe the thing to do is to try to ease her into it? Maybe tell her you love smelling her panties when she's leaked into them a little bit, then maybe trying to get her to wet them for you, then slowly get her used to the idea that you like pee. Then if that goes well, tell her you've read online about people who are into wearing diapers and that you'd like to try it.

I've told two girls about my diapers. The first one, years ago, wouldn't let me into her pants because she wanted to save it for marriage, but she was OK with me wearing diapers. Then a few years later she decided she wanted to have sex with me. Then as soon as she started letting me into her pants, suddenly she didn't want me wearing my diapers anymore. It was "Now that you have this, you no longer need those!" So I think it was something she allowed to keep me happy while she wouldn't give me any pussy. But once she did, my diapers had to go.

The second girl, of course, is the one I married. By then I'd decided that there was no way in the world I could ever get married to anyone who didn't know about and accept my diapers. When this happened I was in my late 20s and by then had decided that I was never going to give up my diapers and probably would never get married, so, I had nothing to lose. And, lo and behold, she was OK with it.

So you just never know. I have noticed, though, that girls who love kids and want to have babies are--in general--more accepting of us wanting to wear diapers. I once had a girlfriend who had no intention of ever having kids because she "didn't want to have to deal with those disgusting diapers!" So I never even bothered asking her. I knew that idea was dead on arrival. And that's one reason why I eventually broke up with her. Poor thing, I wish I could have told her the truth, but, that probably would have gone over worse than just telling her that I didn't want to go out with her anymore.

Anyway. Good luck.

I have had to tread carefully. My wife knows about my wearing diapers for need in case of bedwetting at my age. But she doesn't know about my emotional need for diapers. I approached to topic when we were first married and she sort of accepted it, but once the kids were born it was a no-no and I had to go secret. Now that I'm well into the prostate age, it's OK for need but I think she'd think I'm daft if I shared my feelings. Sometimes one has to live with better judgement.