Significant Other - should I tell I'm a DL?

I am a Diaper Lover, male in mid 30's, married and loved to wear diapers when I can. Nobody knows about my love of diapers at this point. I have thought about telling my wife but afraid to.

Has anyone had the same thoughts and done so? Good or bad result?

If you did tell someone, what did you say or how did you bring it up.

AG

😄 Hi, there,

I see my self as being very fortunate, I have been married for 24yrs, we met on a blind date and were married some six months later, right from the start we vowed to be honest with each other about our past lives and everything else, we were discussing things over a bottle of wine, cuddled up on the sofa, it was for me, now or never, so I found the courage to confess about my nappies and the fact that inside of me was the little boy who never grew up, after chatting for a long time, she just said I do,nt care I,m marrying the whole package, and at least you have been honest enough about it, so here we are 24yrs later, and as I write this post I am sat in my night time nappies, a disposible with splits another disposible on top and a tightly pinned terry nappy with teddy bear print baby pants,we still have a normal relationship, both in and out of the bed room, but when ever I need to be babied and cuddled I have my lovely Wife/mommy to turn too, I just wish that many others were as fortunate as I am.

I've worn plastic pants off and on all my life.. I've been married for 27 years. I told my wife about this desire about 5 years ago.. I've got her to try it a couple of times and at times they seem to be a real turn on for her as well.. I think she doesn't want to admit it.. She let's me wear them whenever I want and as I said, She get's really turned on by the feel of the plastic during intimate times.. I'm lucky as some people have to hide it all their lives.. Until the internet came along I thought I was the only one.

I have loved and worn diapers for many years. I have never told anyone in my personal life about. Like the previous post, I too felt as though I was the only one in the world with this desire.......until the internet came along. Best thing that ever happened to adult babies (the internet). I am really fearful of the perceived rejection I might receive were I to tell anyone that I know. I do discuss this on a regular basis with my therapist and she provides a great outlet and perspective on my intense desire for diapers.

I told my wife abouty my nappies in the first few weeks of us seeing each other and she was fine with it. She didn't take an active part, but was happy to let me wear whenever I wanted.

Since we split up (nothing to do with nappies), I have told girlfriends and other female friends, they have all been fine with it. I have never once had a bad reaction to it, okay maybe a giggle at first.

My last girlfriend wore quite often, would change me and let me change her.

I would honestly say that most women will accept their man wearing nappies, so in my opinion be honest and tell your partner.

I told my girlfriend about my attraction to diapered women, she still loves me. Though our relationship is built on honesty and trust and the fact that i am honest with her probly means more to her than anything else. The only concern she had was that since she isnt into it, i might go secretly find a woman who is becucase it would break her heart if i was with anyone else.

I dont believe in keeping secrets from the one you love most of all, especcially not when that person would cross the world for you, they will love you still ya know? I am not a expert but for me and my girlfriend, the fact that i was honest with her and let her know meant she had one less secret to worry about, its when you keep secrets from each other that the feeling of security begins to fall away and for her and the typical female that feeling security is very important. its when she knows the best and worst and still loves you....gosh....you cant beat that feeling.

If you are going to tell your wife or s/o it is best to be honest and up front about it . before I got married I told my g/f and it is the best thing I could have done.

We have now been married for over 20 years and she supports me with my diaper wearing. She even got me a case of Abra Form x-plus for Christmas.Sometimes she even puts my diapers on for me.

wetpants55

I think it is important to tell a s/o about such things. They may be more angry with you for hiding things. Who knows they may enjoy such things, or give you the space to do these things on your own. I feel in a long term relationship openness and honesty is very important.

I was concerned about my partner not understanding. I do have a medical need, but I do "LOVE' to wear diapers. He has been very suportive of my wearing diapers 24/7!

Alright i don't know bout diapers but i can say that i have told many people bout my embarrassing secrets and i didn't get any bad responses except 4 a few guys at school but what can u do

I told one of my girlfriends once and see didn't really like the idea at all. Then again she wasn't a very good person in the end anyways.

I don't know if I will tell anyone about it. I wish I could, but not right now.

Like so many important questions - there isn't one best answer to this. so anyone who says YES, without qualifying it, or No likewise.

this question demands detail and sensitivity

so you have to get to know your partner real well. only you can judge what the strength and style of your relationship is. there have been enough positive real stories posted here to show that for people with wide or deep enough connection, it is less of a problem and sometimes a positive.

in nearly all the negative stories we don't hear much about the partner, the picture given is more skimpy, so we have no real way of knowing how strong the relationship. as a good number of these end with an end to the partnership, that suggests the relationship wasn't strong enough to take it.

if this makes sense to anyone, it is saying that whether you tell your partner or spouse depends on how well you already relate. can it grow with your news? or will it spoil it? you can answer this if you do an honest review of your relationship.

loves allows (for) many things.

babyplasticpanties

YES i knew my now wife for about 10 years we werea love at first sight thing. over the 10 year period we did have other partners but always ended up together. When i decided to take it a step further i spoke to her about my nappies she laughed but not in a bad way we were having a drink in my flat so she asked what i had and where i kept it as she had never seen anything around the flat.Feeling brave i went and got my things out along with some 'Forum Magazines ', She looked at what i had and asked if i wanted to put any of it on as she wouldn't mind, after some coaxing by her i went to the bedroom and changed.on my return she said ''feel beter now hunybun''. I asked if she had looked at the magazines while i was changing her reply was ''why? they are old ones, You would like this month one more''. Wow she was a reader of the mag i read okay it was at a female friends house and her husband bought it. Here i waited 10 years to open up fully to someone who was not as sheltered as i had first thought.Keeping the best to last, the next day we stopped by her flat on our way back from a day out i went to make the coffee and almost dropped the cups as she came out of her bedroom wearing a pair of towelling under pants covered by Pink plastic panties. NO she had not bought them that day they were in her bedroom all the time. The more you open up to a partner the more you may find out about them

Told a girl friend once and it was great for a time, we played together takeing turns dressing each other and decideing who was going to be what. then the relationship went south and she started useing it against me. be careful of you tell about your private life or it may become public knowledge.

You will feel much better if you are open with your partner about your love for your diapers. I have a medical need, but my partner is very accepting about both my diapers and baby things. He has even bought me baby bottles, plastic pants, pacifiers and even some footed blanket sleepers. I was sort of anxious about reveiling my desires for the diapers but have been glad that I am not hiding anything in our relationship. It is hard to hide the fact that you wear diapers anyway. The laundry is a real tell tale sign in our house. There always diapers waterproof pants and plastic panities in our laundry basket.

Yes, I told my GF the day I went out and bought them. I actually had a diaper on under my robe and came out of the bathroom. I told her I was a bad boy. She looked at me and said now what. (I am kinda kinky). So I opened my robe and showed her my diaper. She is very tolorant of my little quirks.

[quoteI wanted to say Hi to everyone and not be a lurker etc. I am a Diaper Lover, male in mid 30's, married and loved to wear diapers when I can. Nobody knows about my love of diapers at this point. I have thought about telling my wife but afraid to.

Has anyone had the same thoughts and done so? Good or bad result?

If you did tell someone, what did you say or how did you bring it up.

AG][/quote]

I told my wife after we were dating for only one month. I knew I had to. I really like Sally and I didn't want to lose her...so I thought it would be better to lose her now than later. I was actually trippin' on some ACID and while I was coming down (done peeking) I knew what I had to do...It took probably an hour for me to tell her. I told her I had something to say....I couldn't get it our until finally she said..."Jack...I think I love you so just tell me what it is!" I told her...I said " Sally I like to wear diapers" and she said..."That's it? You like to wear diapers? Ok."

We've been together ever since...8 years. It was the best thing I ever did. I understand this could have come out bad. I took a chance and it worked.

I'd like to give advice to some folks. Tell your partner...if they don't like or don't understand...get rid of them...date like normal...don't go out to seek just an Ab/Dl...find someone you like and tell them...chances are they won't care. Most people just want companionship...if they trully like you everything will be ok.

My wife supports my AB/DL side...I wear diapers everywear but work and band practice because Sally makes me...She didn't know about AB/DL's untill I told her about me...I think alot of people find their "life-partners" that way.

I told my sweetheart, Kathy, probably about 3 months after we had been dating. I did the usual, kidding at first, testing the waters, so to speak. I didn't want to waste any of her time if it wasn't something she would be into. She had revealed to me that she likes wetting her pants now and then, because it is "naughty", and I thought "hell, this is going to be easier than I thought!". I told her I had a thing for wearing diapers for the exact same reason, and we just took it from there...

As I said in another response elsewhere, if you do not 'fess up and expose your AB/DL world/life BEFORE you make a permanent committment, and have acceptance by your SO, you will most likely NOT find acceptance AFTER the fact. Like any type of sexual "variation", to expose someone else to it with no prior knowledge about it, it most likely will NOT just be accepted and welcomed, unless you have a very open-minded partner. Of course, you should KNOW about that, or have some idea of what the partner is like BEFORE you commit yourself at the altar. Secrets come back to haunt a person. Lack of revelation can doom a person to never being ABLE to reveal, let alone find acceptance/participation. And ABs are going to have a harder time than DLs. That has to do with the scope of the involvement being asked for of a partner.

Good day

I have been a silent plastic pants lover forever. Because of fairly good career I have enjoyed, I have a deep seated fear that if my "interest" were to be discovered, I would be ruined and considered very abnomal. Many times I wished that I could share this enjoyment with my wife,sometimes leading to bouts of depression. It's like having to make a decision ..tell her and hope she understands or stay quiet and all will be okay in a while. She is a very beautiful, head strong woman, loving but committed to high ideals and no room for darker musings.

In the first week of our marriage, I was feeling a bit promiscuous and turned my wife over my knee for a good ole fashoned spanking. She promptly rose and said in no uncertain terms that there will be no kinkyness in this marriage. I love her very much and would never compromise what we have developed over a long life together.

Doe this sound like a "broken record"? Any suggestions?

Zeke

Telling is only half the picture, especially if you are in a new-ish relationship. you don't want to tell everyone. if you don't know the person very well or for very long, you should be cautious.

i'm going to suggest that for those who want to bring it out with a new-ish partner that you play a "let's share a secret" game. that is to say, get your partner to reveal a secret to you too. that way the exposure is mutual and you run less risk of being outed when/if that partner splits from you.

I left my notebook open to a fantasy I had written down and wound up separated from my wife and children.

I have also told my current gf about my desires, but she misunderstands my desires as pedophiliawhich I have tried to dissuade

So I have had no luck there.

I only wish I could get her to read the introduction on the main page, so that she might understand my desires a little better

Was married to wife about 2 years and finally decided to tell her about my diaper desires. at the time had found penthouse forum magazines that had stories about diaper wearing individuals. introduced her to the articles and then told her of my desires. she basically said it was fine with her and now after 35+ years of marriage she picks out flannel fabric she likes to see me in and sews my diapers among other DL activities we engage in. so for me it has all worked out well.

My wife found out before I could tell her. I lived with my parents while we were dating. She came over late one night when I was already a sleep in the basement. I had on my diapers and plastic pants. She came into bed with me and felt what I was wearing. We talked that night and she was ok with it. We are still married 25 years later, I still wear my diapers to bed.

JUST DO IT! 😎 I told my partner right after we got together and he fully accepts my need to wear diapers. 😳 I do have a need but he still accepts that I really do love wearng them.

I wish I knew. I've been 'trying' to do it for years :'(

Let me tell you how I did it, after the first time we had sex I reached in my top dresser drawer and pulled A pair of Bittner plastic pants out and handed them to her,and of course she looked at me real funny,it wasn't funny to me, I was shaking like A leaf,any way I explained the fetish deal to her, she wanted to know more, I thought she was ok with it,she said she would never stop me from wearing! NOT.Its been holy hell,any way we have come to A mutual agreement finally and I can wear when and where I want, Finally

I really can't tell you what is best for your situation, I can only tell you what has and has not worked for me!

My experience is that lies and deception are very destructive of any relationship. My first wife and I were both hiding things from ourselves and each other. After 20 years together our mutual discovery helped destroy the marriage.

I have now been with my present wife for 20 years, and we have been very open with each other.

There ARE some things we chose not to share, but we tell each other that "yes I am interested/own/do/whatever, but I would rather not share that at this time". It has worked for 20 years - so far LOL.

13 of those years were living together on a sailboat as we sailed around the world. It sounds romantic (it IS!), but with 200 sq ft of living area and only one other human being for 100 miles around you can't keep much secret from each other!

Couples who do that tend to be either very very close or split, there are very few in between. You really do depend on each other for your lives!

Oh yes, if you really feel guilty about something and you don't understand why, then a shrink can help you sort out the feelings.

In my case I was raped when I was 4 years old and blamed myself for "letting" it happen. It was pure hell to deal with that discovery, but nowhere near as bad as the guilt that I laid on myself for 40 years.

You have done the hardest and most important thing though - you have started to talk about the situation!

We are so very lucky. We share everything! We both love diapers and love to play together. He told me first and now we take care of each other. I am so glad he told me because it is something that only we share and it is so much fun and SEXY. No one else will ever know and they wouldn't be as accepting or understanding if they did know.