What is the kinkiest thing you ever did?

Like so many others have already expressed....I find what is kinky for some is just normal for others. It is a very subjective topic. Also, things I once thought were kinky or extreme years ago are things I gladly indulge in now.

I am really enjoying reading this thread. I hope it will continue.

I am, I suppose, a bit fixated on sexuality; mine and others' and the concepts around it in general. Imagine that?! ?

There are so many ways to explore this question. It is primarily (though not exclusively) a sociological question I believe.

The discussion has centered on the idea of an increasing kink factor from the "normal" center. Perhaps a sad and even frightening thought is that a large section of society has a sexuality that declines away from the "normal" sexual center arguably toward asexuality.

("Anti-kink?" |shudder| but as we say, to each their own.)

That 'vanilla' center point of reference is an ever moving target as has been expressed. But who sets that zeitgeist? And are some elements of sexuality more heavily weighted in the equation than others?

As for myself, I am a great bit kinkier than average society, but I picture myself as rather 'middle of the road' within a general kinkster world. Even if my fetish preferences were more 'extreme' might the kinky community consider me less kinky than average because I only share a few 'kinks' with my wife and currently fly solo with the 'wilder' stuff? That 'average' within in the broader kink world is a large and perhaps even undefinable set because people within this community tend to be so much more open minded and accepting in many regards. In my mind, my position on the scale slides with almost every post or comment I read here.

I am both fascinated and exasperated by labels. They are necessary toward communicating and understanding, but so often fall short of their mark.

And being at one with one's sexuality is not kinky, per se.

I used to think I am pretty Kinky, but after exploring some rather shall we say "colorful" sites and being with my lady for over a year now have found that I am fairly vanilla!

Interesting question that makes you evaluate not only your perception, but the perception others might have of your practices.

In my own mind, I am "kind of kinky" with the curiosity to become "pretty kinky"

In my wife's eyes, my practices would be rated "very kinky" or "too kinky" bordering on perverted - with perhaps a slightly less critical view from the general population.

On this site, I imagine members would probably see me as just "kinky enough" to get along with, but pretty niave in the overall landscape of kinkiness.

HELLO,,, I am pretty kinky,,, I love to have my toe nails polish red and I love to have my hair braids in pigtails with ribbons and I love having body wrap to head to toes like a mummy and I love to go in hospital supple store and try on leg braces and neck brace the some time and I love go to ladies stores and try on dresses for Halloween and I love to wear diapers with ladies P'J and I love to try on a straitjacket now that kinky,,,, that is true

Well after thinking about it I guess I'm kinky. Not as much as some, but more than most

The only kinks that I seriously have are rubber, sneakers/running shoes, anal play, enemas, D/s and bondage, but I can get very excited by either D or s roles involving any of those kinks. Especially as involves rubber, anal, enemas and bondage, and to some extent sneakers, it can get very involved and prolonged and intense to the point that many might call it extreme. If a ? partner wants to do MedFet, I'd be delighted, but it's her kink, largely not mine. I once went to a Domme to sample her enema talents and had a lovely few back and forth visits with her. After my second visit of being very submissive and getting three large enemas from her, she spontaneously asked me to switch and Dom her sometimes, which was a complete delightful surprise. On another visit to join her at a Domme friend's play party, her Domme friend asked me what I'd like to do I'd not done before, so she did my first and so far only suspension bondage to me. She also put my first "parachute" on me, which was new but extremely fun and arousing. So I'm open to new kinks. About my only hard limits (as far as I know) are children/underage, animals, scat, cutting/blood, serious pain or injury. There are also things I currently think are unpleasant and would rather avoid as well. I'm likely to be "Pretty to Extremely" kinky I guess. Oh, and just for completeness, I'm straight as an arrow - to each their own, but for me, the only person who can ever arouse me or give me an enema is a woman. I must be old school these days!

Eric

Kinky men are hot Eric! Just so you know.

Mashie

I'm really kinky, just not into giving or receiving pain. Otherwise I'm up for about anything. Enemas anyone? LOL. 😄

It's all relative as Einstein might say.

Comparing myself to my wife, I am probably very kinky since she is quite vanilla. But compared to the folks here on zity I am mainstream or maybe even a bit pedestrian. I am very anal erotic and into all things anal including enemas. I like to give and receive on the anal side and I would view myself as heteroflexible.

So I am I kinky? Probably so.

I've never really thought of myself as kinky or weird or into doing odd things. I do like to collect things though, old medical devices, books, images.

However, when I talk with friends under the right circumstances, I am often a bit surprised to find out they think I am kinky or rather unconventional when it comes to thoughts and ideas and opinions. In fact when it comes to gossip and the grapevine, I've found out that some of my friends are vastly more active in the multi-partner and fornication department, some are like butterflies flitting from sex partner to the next.

And yet they see me as the unconventional one ... if they really knew they'd be disappointed in me I fear ... 😃

Vanilla kinky I guess. I like anal play, enemas, bdsm and so forth but that's about as far as it goes.

Not so kinky as to have a whole bunch of props & implements, a dedicated room, a whole motif laid out somewhere or some whole elaborate display.

But i can kinky mentally. Power exchange, cause & effect of touch or other action, how to affect how someone's body feels to them, to put someone in a position to feel something about what's being done to them or happening to them. Similarly the reverse. What triggers ecstatic response in me, how & what can be done to me to trigger an ecstatic response, etc.

I think the imagination plays a great part in keeping the interest in sex alive. And if allowed to let the imagination run, on some level, the kink bridge will inevitably be crossed.

It's extremely relative, I think. I believe I'm not kinky, just curious and willing to try.

However, I've been labelled as very kinky by people who havn't tried what I have.

So the label of 'kink' is subject to overuse, when all kink really means is 'an eccentricity of personality', which I'll admit to, as the explorations of social boundaries is what makes me, me.

'Kinky', meaning, 'sexually bizarre', is something I won't admit to, as I don't class my explorations as bizarre.

Anything beyond missionary can be considered kinky. It is all your state of mind. Some people have really creative thoughts and that can be considered kinky. Anything beyond vanilla sex and thoughts works for me.

Pushing the limits to explore most any sensation with your partner that brings pleasure. Any body part. Is Not kinky. Sometimes you meet a partner that the limits know almost no bounds. To some anything than lights out missionary position is kinky. What is NOT Kinky to me is oral, giving and receiving, spanking, light restraint, blindfolds, anal. Oh masturbation. THE most normal non-kinky thing in the world. Why were women given an organ who ONLY purpose is to provide pleasure. To me that is all pretty regular. It is all your frame of reference.

Let's see what I think is kinky or not.

not kinky: masturbation (mutual or not), vaginal and oral sex (I know some conservatives consider masturbation and oral sex as perverted and debauched, but come on)

kinky: anal sex, plugs, enemas, rectal thermometers, spanking

Some would probably consider me very kinky; others pretty tame. I'm not sure that the 'kinky scale' has been calibrated as an international standard.

That said, there are lots of things that excite me when I read about them, perhaps see porn shots of them, etc. Many I haven't had the chance to try in real life; of those that I have tried, a few have worked, and some haven't.

So, in short, I'm pretty much open to trying anything, but without expectation that it will be as exciting in real life as in concept.

I don't think I'm terrible kinky ... but my kinks are not in the mainstream and I guess most non-kinksters think them bizarre. I mean age play, desperation and wetting aren't even on the kink register of most people (those who use 50 shades as their handy reference manual won't even have heard of them ...)

But I don't do BDSM, I don't do threesomes, I don't do medfet, I don't do many of the things that this site has opened my eyes to. Nothing against those who do, of course. But on the whole, no, I don't think I'm terribly kinky.

I need to find some one kinky to play with. That way I will know If I am kinky of just think I am

Depends what you compare it to but I tend to consider myself as very, very kinky.

Kinky is using a feather. Perverted is using the entire chicken. I an some place between.

I don't think I'm that kinky I do have my fetishes though, mostly all have to do with my ass. I'm not into pain, getting tied up I like to have my own control over things.

If you don't think you're that kinky, TELL ALL YOUR VANILLA FRIENDS, CHILDREN AND RELATIVES WHAT YOUR "ASS FETISHES" INVOLVE!

Tell them you're bisexual, take enemas, are curious about anal sex and play with toys and dildos, etc.

You may not be the kinkiest woman on the planet, but you're pretty kinky!

Woody Allen once said "the most erotic thing I can think of is plunging naked into a vat of chilled Roosevelt dimes."

Always remember one thing, it's only kinky the first time.

I'm not kinky - just a little more advanced than, well, most people I know.

My mother remembers when cunnilingus and fellatio were considered kinky.

Now everybody does it.

Now in their middle 70's, my parents still have an active sex life. My mother and I have had some really intimate discussions about sex in recent years, especially after she found out my husband and I are into S&M, which I can clearly blame on my older brother. I had apparently dropped a DV8 business card from my purse and my mother found it. She tried to return it to my brother, but he told her it was mine! While my parents weren't into S&M they did have a wild sex life according to my mother where she was often the instigator/aggressor. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. So, thank you mom for being a horny whore for my father!! I have said it before here and I'll say it again, I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall to watch them when they were my age or younger!

I would consider myself kinky based on my proclivities and fetishes. Sure I like giving / receiving oral sex and missionary sex just as much as most mainstream people, which I consider the norm. But add my predilections for anal play and sex, performing gyno exams (and the plethora of equipment I have), bondage and discipline, some watersports, role play, and some other erotic scenarios, this is where I define myself as kinky compared to the majority of my friends and peers. I embrace my kinkiness as a part of my being, but I don't make it known to others unless I am with a sexual play partner.

Yes, 'remember when 'Licking! and 'Sucking! were Perverted!!!! Well, depended on how you "Looked" at it?? I'm in my 70's too so I "remember!!!!!" ..."when"... The Pendulum swung "Both ways!!"

with a "Click!!,"

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