For a few years, and not all that long ago, Handjobs comprised about 75% of the sex I had with my wife. Often times, I had to request them and they were performed without a lot of enthusiasm. But since I thought my sex life was on a course of inevitable decline, I counted my blessings that at least my wife felt obliged to comply. Having someone give you a handjob is much more satisfying (most times) than masturbating alone. Since handjobs - or "baby oil rubs" as my wife refers to them - were the staple of my sex life, I learned to enjoy them to the fullest. They were the reason I first started shaving my privates, to get the most out of the sensation.
My wife's goal was to make make me cum as quickly as she could so it would be finished. Conversely, I learned to delay ejaculation in order to enjoy the sensations and extend the pleasure. A valuable learning experience that would carry great dividends later on.
Fast forward to the present - my wife is finally past her perimenopausal stage and her libido has returned with great force. Because of my years of "hand job training" I'm in pretty good control of my orgasms. In the right circumstances, I'm even able to achieve whole body orgasms without ejaculating. Achieving this usually involves having something inserted in my ass while my wife administers a generously lubed handjob. Once I reach that state, I'm completely helpless - flopping and moaning to every motion.
Long live the handjob!