I tried to stay off of this one but no way can I not .
Dr.Z thank you for you intellegent and accurate response .
MARRIAGE DOES NOT GIVE PERMISSION TO RAPE YOUR WIFE !
Plain and simple no gray areas its black and white . I am not talking about a spouse not wanting to put out . Having said that tho when a person says NO its no . The end .
Switchable Susie , what is the difference between two spouses playing out a S&M scene and one using a safe word ? Should the other spouse ignore the safe word because well its their spouse ?
Dont bother giving " excuses" because because there is none . What we should all teach our children is that no is no and thats it . If no is going to be ignored there are consequences, legal and otherwise .
. My husband is a fairly big guy , athletic , strong , works out , trained in martial arts and boxed for many years .
I did something that really pissed him off .He went into a rage , madder then I had ever seen him , first time in over our 20 yrs of knowing each other that I was truly frightened of him . He held me down , on my tummy , one hand around my throat , and forced himself on me . I first tried to struggle , him growling his anger at me, telling me I was his to do what he pleased . Then I just gave up , let him finish and I walked out of the room .
I was angry as hell , hurt ( mentally and physically, I had bruises) and most of all shocked . Thru it all I never uttered a word . I silently cried . I thought for a minute maybe I deserved it . Had I said would it have been rape ? Was is rape ? The next day when I came to my senses I knew he had NO right to do what he did . I told him if he ever did anything like that again he would never see the light of day .