Does Bondage Hurt or Feel Good?

@ken14 said

It feels good as long as its not tied to tight just enough where you can move or get out

Ohhh, no, no, no, no, no.

When you are tied up you must be inextricably, inescapably bound.

You owe your release to the person who tied you up.

You are immobilized and restrained for the duration.

You MUST NOT be able to move or get out.

I get no pleasure watching someone work their way out of a poorly tied restraint.

Is a couple of silk scarves your idea of bondage?

Switch....

I have to agree with you here....bondage must be real.....unless the person being tied says otherwise expressly....I want them inescapable and helpless....their release depends on me ....they must trust me ....there is no D/s dynamic if they just escape easily.

Let me modify my last post a little.

Slight movement of the limbs is acceptable to prevent muscle cramping or spasm.

Looseness of the knots or restraints is not.

Bondage, in and of itself can become tedious. I look at bondage as a gateway to other things....just having a woman bound and set aside....that's ok for a while....but I like to discuss the purpose before hand....there needs to be a reason for her bondage....even if it's just to tease her

It feels good as long as its not tied to tight just enough where you can move or get out

Yeah, I have to agree with the other posters. If you can move or get out, that defeats the whole purpose of bondage. At least it does for me. The entire reason I like bondage is the total loss of control. I'm at the mercy of my Dom and they can do pretty much whatever they want to me (within pre-established limits, of course). I want to feel totally submissive and completely out of control of the situation. If I know that I can move or escape, that would kind of ruin it for me.

Yes, you want the ability to move just a bit to avoid muscle cramps, etc. But beyond that, no.

I suppose it depends on what you seek. I can restrain someone so they have no way of escaping or moving. I can make it as comfortable or uncomfortable as they or I desire. Its all about what is wanted or desired by those participating.

I prefer, when in charge, to make sure I'm the only one that can set them free and also make everything desired to play with accessable. My favorite choice, at this time, is restraints from ceiling to floor. Spreader bar at ankles. Wrists overhead, naturally. This allows 360 degrees of skin canvass to work with. Artists need room to work...lol

Faith

Oh it feels so good! To me anyway. I like the 4 point medical restraints. They go on tight enough so you can't get out but not so tight that it is squeezing you. I believe the rule is you are supposed to be able to put two finders underneath. They have ones that are cloth that close with Velcro. I bought a set from ebay that was made for use on the bed, it was less then $20 and it was marketed as a sex toy. They are not the same as what they use in the hospital but they feel the same around the wrists and ankles because they have the soft padding and the Velcro like the medical ones do. I have also been strapped down at the hospital non-consequentially by nurses. And even though it was non-consequential I really liked it. I trusted them. It's about trust. You have to really trust the person or persons restraining you. It felt really nice laying on that gurney in restraints.

I just love the way the restraints feel around my wrists and ankles and I love the feeling of being forced to stay on the bed and not being able to move much. I just love the way it feels.

I had a partner ones that was into it too, and she asked me to restrain her with the restraints I got from ebay. She layed in the restraints for a while before she asked me to unstrap her. I could tell it was something she really liked.

Depends on the bondage

Depends on the bondage

That is very true !!

I've always assumed that bondage shouldn't necessarily hurt, but shouldn't be comfortable either. It's an extension of your partner's control, after all. There are plenty of other ways to inflict pain that will elicit much more appropriate responses.

IMHO it shouldn’t be the bondage that hurts, it’s what they do to you while you’re tied up! Hopefully,it hurts so good!