Does Bondage Hurt or Feel Good?

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I have to agree with you here....bondage must be real.....unless the person being tied says otherwise expressly....I want them inescapable and helpless....their release depends on me ....they must trust me ....there is no D/s dynamic if they just escape easily.

Let me modify my last post a little.

Slight movement of the limbs is acceptable to prevent muscle cramping or spasm.

Looseness of the knots or restraints is not.

Bondage, in and of itself can become tedious. I look at bondage as a gateway to other things....just having a woman bound and set aside....that's ok for a while....but I like to discuss the purpose before hand....there needs to be a reason for her bondage....even if it's just to tease her

It feels good as long as its not tied to tight just enough where you can move or get out

Yeah, I have to agree with the other posters. If you can move or get out, that defeats the whole purpose of bondage. At least it does for me. The entire reason I like bondage is the total loss of control. I'm at the mercy of my Dom and they can do pretty much whatever they want to me (within pre-established limits, of course). I want to feel totally submissive and completely out of control of the situation. If I know that I can move or escape, that would kind of ruin it for me.

Yes, you want the ability to move just a bit to avoid muscle cramps, etc. But beyond that, no.

I suppose it depends on what you seek. I can restrain someone so they have no way of escaping or moving. I can make it as comfortable or uncomfortable as they or I desire. Its all about what is wanted or desired by those participating.

I prefer, when in charge, to make sure I'm the only one that can set them free and also make everything desired to play with accessable. My favorite choice, at this time, is restraints from ceiling to floor. Spreader bar at ankles. Wrists overhead, naturally. This allows 360 degrees of skin canvass to work with. Artists need room to work...lol

Faith

Oh it feels so good! To me anyway. I like the 4 point medical restraints. They go on tight enough so you can't get out but not so tight that it is squeezing you. I believe the rule is you are supposed to be able to put two finders underneath. They have ones that are cloth that close with Velcro. I bought a set from ebay that was made for use on the bed, it was less then $20 and it was marketed as a sex toy. They are not the same as what they use in the hospital but they feel the same around the wrists and ankles because they have the soft padding and the Velcro like the medical ones do. I have also been strapped down at the hospital non-consequentially by nurses. And even though it was non-consequential I really liked it. I trusted them. It's about trust. You have to really trust the person or persons restraining you. It felt really nice laying on that gurney in restraints.

I just love the way the restraints feel around my wrists and ankles and I love the feeling of being forced to stay on the bed and not being able to move much. I just love the way it feels.

I had a partner ones that was into it too, and she asked me to restrain her with the restraints I got from ebay. She layed in the restraints for a while before she asked me to unstrap her. I could tell it was something she really liked.

I've always assumed that bondage shouldn't necessarily hurt, but shouldn't be comfortable either. It's an extension of your partner's control, after all. There are plenty of other ways to inflict pain that will elicit much more appropriate responses.

IMHO it shouldn’t be the bondage that hurts, it’s what they do to you while you’re tied up! Hopefully,it hurts so good!

Bondage hurts if it is tight. It is easier to start out light and have discussions about playing and always use a safe word to stop if something is really hurting you. Start light then slowly work your way up.

For me, bondage feels very good. It doesn't have to hurt, but I want to be unable to move and completely at the mercy of my partner. It makes everything much more interesting and unpredictable. Hopefully, she will do something painful to me while I'm tied up 😃

Since by definition, bondage is a voluntary kind of (sex) play, even though many people may not like it or feel various kinds of adverse symptoms such as pain, constriction, fear or whatever, those who do like the practice and having consented and continue, must perse experience some kind of pleasure from being in bondage.

Otherwise why would they engage voluntarily in the practice to begin with? So obviously, for such people, it must feel good in one way or another and satisfy some of their desires and wishes.

It 100% totally depends on the type of bondage.

Are we talking Sex play? Tied spread eagled to the bed with scarves, soft rope, leather cuffs, or other tying mechanism?

Cuffed by your wrists and ankles to a St. Andrews Cross for bdsm play?

Tied with rope on the floor so you can't get out?

Or, a VERY different sensation, your entire body suspended from a rig?

Some people absolutely love being suspended, but this is were the major discomfort comes from, permanent or temporary nerve damage can and does happen when the rigger is unqualified, not knowledgeable, or just plain not careful. The people that LOVE it, are suspended in ways I could not even imagine, but they go right into a subspace. It is about clearing their head and of course sensation and or sexual play.

I have been suspended twice by experience people. it was super painful because the rope cuts into your body and supports your entire weight. I am only about 150 lbs 5'6" and it was not anything I want to try a 3rd time.

I get tied or cuffed frequently to a cross or table or other place, not full body, but definitely restrained.

I personally like light bondage where I still cannot get out but not suspension bondage where I am feeling my own weight on every strand of rope.

I like bondage because of how in control I feel of my body.. I love crazy bondage positions.. some people have been known to go too far. Bondage not done well especially with an inexperienced or selfish partner can quickly change to unwanted pain

For sure it has to be done by an experienced partner !! - then it will take the right way to be stimulated !!

I love sex play with bondage, but it has to be slowly done and no suspension or gag. I love nipple torture too and enemas with a plug within reason but again slow arousement leading to it. Then during climax, the pain becomes enmeshed with the pleasure and my climax is earth shattering

I love sex play with bondage, but it has to be slowly done and no suspension or gag. I love nipple torture too and enemas with a plug within reason but again slow arousement leading to it. Then during climax, the pain becomes enmeshed with the pleasure and my climax is earth shattering

It hurts so good! 😈