Does Bondage Hurt or Feel Good?

For me bondage shouldn't hurt. There might be some positions that are more challenging than others - certainly some of the positions the pro bondage models can endure I wouldn't even be able to get into to begin with!

The point of bondage in my mind is to prevent the victim from being able to stop whatever the dominant doing whatever it is they want to do. It doesn't need to be painful to achieve this, it just needs the victim to be prevented from moving. In fact I actually think It's more a rousing knowing that it's not the pain keeping you in place, instead it's the well thought through and designed restraints. Knowing someone has put time and thought into your restraint is a lot more foreboding than some hack just tying you badly with whatever is to hand. My opinion anyway.

@ SwitchableSusie

When you have your husband tied up for two to three days doesn’t it get a bit messy after a day or so ? How do you deal with bodily functions ?

@ SwitchableSusie

When you have your husband tied up for two to three days doesn’t it get a bit messy after a day or so ? How do you deal with bodily functions ?

I have posted about doing this. I clean him out with enemas and/or colonoscopy prep solutions first and he doesn't get solid food--just whey protein and juice drinks. He also has a foley catheter.

He also is hooked up to vital sign monitors--pulse-oximeter and BP.

Its not for me i am a pussy i dont like pain

To me it hurts i cant understand why people get pleasure out of it

Bondage does NOT inherently involve pain...

Pain does not necessarily have to a component. You can do bondage and do things like enemas which doesn't involve pain but can make a mess of you aren't careful.

Understand that for me, pain is not necessary and definitely not a goal in and of itself. I admit there may be those, more hardcore than I am, who crave that element of pain, but then I wonder if the desired effect is the inflicting of pain rather than the accomplishment of a specific procedure or process. I am told I am too soft however sometimes and likely I am not changing much anytime soon.

I agree with the previous posters who advised to not only have a safe word, but also evaluate the trust you have in your partner.

The only other thing I would recommend discussing would be his level of experience. Suspensions using only rope are not easy and can go from fun to dangerous with an inexperienced rigger. If he doesn't have experience with suspension but you are both interested to try it, go slow, get some education (there are many shibari books out there) and find the BDSM group in your area. I have found most of the kinky people I've met are only too willing to help you learn. Some even mentor newbies.

Have fun!

To me it hurts i cant understand why people get pleasure out of it

Bondage does not have to or always hurt. It is mostly a matter of restraint.

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I agree with the previous posters who advised to not only have a safe word, but also evaluate the trust you have in your partner. . . . .

A safe word is imperative even for experienced players if you play hard. Occasionally there is an accident where a knot may slide or a rope may slip and some kind of clear communication with the top/dominant is necessary to let them know something isn't right.

Once you are tied up, it's a little late to start evaluating the trust you have in your partner. You have to do that first.

I thought I had commented on this...

Rope bondage does not hurt unless you are being suspended. It will leave ligature marks and may cause some tingling from constricted circulation. This is not a problem unless the rope is tightly impinging on a nerve, especially in the upper arms.

It does feel snug and restrict movement, plus it looks nice.

You can suspend using steel cuffs ganged together to spread the weight over the thighs. This only works with waif-like bottoms, however. With rope, any body type can be suspended.

Pain and bondage is heavily determinant on method, positions, and degree to which one is restrained. You can restrain someone comfortably for hours or even days using padded cuffs with some slack and a comfortable position. Contrast that with someone bound tightly in irons in a stress position. bondage is very subjective and the degree of pain that can be involved really is up to you.

It can be both or one and not the offer. That is part of the fun experimenting and playing

Im not much into sadism but the idea does sound inviting .

Bondage is not necessarily to hurt or not hurt.

Bondage can be used in corporal punishment or to keep someone still, but is mostly used to teach personal discipline.

...but is mostly used to teach personal discipline.

Or to keep someone still whilst all sorts of things are done to them ?

Or to keep someone still whilst all sorts of things are done to them ?

Yes, for me the point being to be restrained by my Domme lover so I can experience the enhanced intensity and arousal of having things done to me that I have to accept and can't physically resist. The feeling of "she's doing these erotic things to me that I can't stop and have no choice about except to arouse and orgasm" is very powerful. It also requires a great deal of mutual trust. Both are intoxicating. For us, we don't want any pain involved, either from the bondage or any other source. It would be a turnoff.

Eric

My husband and I have discussed restraining me in the manner I restrained him in Full Metal Jacket two years ago and 15 years ago except I won't be doing for 48 hours because I know I couldn't do it for so long without going crazy. We decided (actually HE decided and I agreed) that I would be totally restrained by mummification for 24 hours to see if I could do it. If it goes well, maybe I will go longer, time permitting.

We are going to pick a good weekend to do it before Thanksgiving time when my two girlfriends Beth and Joan who assisted me with my husband can help monitor me. I'm a little apprehensive about this because I'm the one normally tying people up and I have never been tied up longer than six to eight hours at once. I have no idea what he plans to do to me while I am so tightly restrained. This will be a new experience.

We decided (actually HE decided and I agreed) that I would be totally restrained by mummification for 24 hours to see if I could do it.

In another post you said after 4-6 hours of being restrained (don't remember the exact number) you said you HAVE to get up and walk around - no matter what the consequence.

We are going to pick a good weekend to do it before Thanksgiving time when my two girlfriends Beth and Joan who assisted me with my husband can help monitor me.

For as crazy as you are - at least you are safe! I know you monitored your husband when he was encased and decided to hold his breath....and were all over him when you thought he was having a problem.

But how many people do this or other potentially dangerous activities without a safety net??

Good Luck!!!!!

In another post you said after 4-6 hours of being restrained (don't remember the exact number) you said you HAVE to get up and walk around - no matter what the consequence.

Good Luck!!!!!

That is correct. I have never attempted something like this before.

Susie,

I've been wondering when you two might decide to try this. I always thought you were too curious, adventurous and sexual not to do it! I'm actually quite envious, as I've been tied up in tight rubber for several hours at a time and given forced enemas and masturbation and edging and I'm dying to try it overnight or even longer, as long as I'm guaranteed to be restrained or mummified in real rubber. Actually it would be fun if part of my time were spent still being encased in rubber and sneakers and enema-filled but then made to get up and walk around and perhaps even do chores before going back to bondage and more forced bound enema holding. I'm really looking forward to hearing your report on what he did to you and how it all went. Good luck and ENJOY yourself! Wish it was me!

Eric

Susie,

I've been wondering when you two might decide to try this. I always thought you were too curious, adventurous and sexual not to do it! I'm actually quite envious, as I've been tied up in tight rubber for several hours at a time and given forced enemas and masturbation and edging and I'm dying to try it overnight or even longer, as long as I'm guaranteed to be restrained or mummified in real rubber. Actually it would be fun if part of my time were spent still being encased in rubber and sneakers and enema-filled but then made to get up and walk around and perhaps even do chores before going back to bondage and more forced bound enema holding. I'm really looking forward to hearing your report on what he did to you and how it all went. Good luck and ENJOY yourself! Wish it was me!

Eric

We have a strong tentative date for mid-November that will follow my first colonoscopy which has a definite date! There are no known health issues, I just decided to do it because I'm 49 and that's close enough to the guideline being 50. Besides, I always wanted a guided tour of my colon. I'm doing it drug free so I can watch and talk with the gastroenterologist while he does it.

I'm actually looking more forward to the colonoscopy than being restrained!

I will post more when we get within a week or two of the date.

Can't wait to hear about it, though I'd definitely be looking forward to your upcoming prolonged encasement in rubber bondage enemas more than the colonoscopy!

Eric

I'm actually looking more forward to the colonoscopy than being restrained!

Now, there's a phrase you don't hear everyday.

I love feeling of freedom from being tied down. It is a feeling I cannot describe but it is amazing.

I love feeling of freedom from being tied down. It is a feeling I cannot describe but it is amazing.

I completely agree. Assuming you're bound/cuffed properly, it doesn't hurt, though you may get muscle cramps from long odd positions sometimes. But being unable to move or at least stop what's being done to you is highly exciting and sexually arousing. On a very basic level, it almost feels like "she's doing all these provocative erotic things to me so it's not my doing or my fault, so I have to be aroused and have an orgasm." Tends to get rid of lingering inhibitions and allow the orgasm to come forth easily. I love it.

You just need to communicate with the Dom(me) to be sure you can be released ASAP if need be. Usually you won't, but might issue a lot of protests and pleadings during your bondaged period.

Eric

Use safe words and talk things over first. Good bondage is liberating: it lets you let go of control in a powerful way so hurt or harm is rare with good players.

Good luck with it.

Susie says:

I'm doing it drug free so I can watch and talk with the gastroenterologist while he does it.

I am not sure how to make that look like a quote but what I'm curious about is why all the sedation in the first place? I doubt the scope is all that painful, or the entry. Is it snipping off polyps? I thought the colon was relatively nerve sensor free?

I have thought of having one without sedation too so I am very curious about this.

Tightly bound balls feel great - some level of pain is exhiliarting.

It feels good as long as its not tied to tight just enough where you can move or get out

@ken14 said

It feels good as long as its not tied to tight just enough where you can move or get out

Ohhh, no, no, no, no, no.

When you are tied up you must be inextricably, inescapably bound.

You owe your release to the person who tied you up.

You are immobilized and restrained for the duration.

You MUST NOT be able to move or get out.

I get no pleasure watching someone work their way out of a poorly tied restraint.

Is a couple of silk scarves your idea of bondage?