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I introduced my exgirlfriend the easy way. She was "all tied up". She liked the thrill and rush that came from being restrained, though not initially into med fetish. Started with simple sex, became a little more forceful, then advanced into light spanking, then more intense.

Eventually (and all by plan of course) I began to penetrate her with other objects (rectal thermometers, etc), larger vaginal probes, and found she really enjoyed it.

By accident I discovered she liked to have her butt pinched. Once tied down, I drove her to orgasm by pinching her butt and breasts. It was an easy progression to light needle play (she was blindfolded) which she thought was just more intense pinching, but really liked. When I told her, at first she was reluctant, but realized she liked it, and we were playing safe.

From there, her first injection in her butt felt like I was "twisting the needle or something" but the sting made her moan as I was stimulating her clit.

I actually told my partner some years ago BUT he fell asleep and didn't get a word! ??? At first I was afraid he was so horrified that he felt he had to pretend he was sleeping but now I am sure he has no idea what I am into. For various reasons I am afraid of what he might think if he now gets to know. I have tried to present it in drips and drops, for example by saying that I like being passive and love having my legs forced apart by him. I have yet to present the headline though. To my defense, he is not particularly open either and simply says that he doesn't have any kinky side. In essence I am torn since my medfet by large relates to being examined by a pro anyway. Yet I am a faithful girl :-\

I believe and have posted it before but I think the person is born/hardwired if you will with Medfet tendencies. You may be able to convince a partner to 'let' you play but its not the same and yearing for it. I now realize I do not think I could have a 'vanilla' relationship without medfet and be happy. The 'itch' just isnt scratched with regular sex. The desire has to come from within.

We're not "born" with it - all the fetishes we have are caused by some event (small or big) from our childhood, either a picture/movie we saw, or an actual experience 😉

Other than that, you're absolutely right, alfdtuna - if the partner doesn't show much interest, then it's most likely they don't have the fetish, and thus will not really enjoy it, even though you do 😉

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I believe and have posted it before but I think the person is born/hardwired if you will with Medfet tendencies. . . . .

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We're not "born" with it - all the fetishes we have are caused by some event (small or big) from our childhood, either a picture/movie we saw, or an actual experience 😉 . . .

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I agree with aldftuna, we are definitely born with it. although you can learn to like it.

It may not show up for a while, but you have it in yourself. There does not have to be an experience or something you saw to initiate your desires.

I was never given a medically required enema by anyone, but by age 8, I played with myself enough and gave myself enemas because I loved them. The same goes for med-fet desires.

There was a thread around here about medical exams people got as children. Read through it, and you'll see what I mean 😉

Also - how could you understand you loved enemas at 8 when you never received one? I'm not attacking you or anything, I'm just curious 😃

^^^^ I've posted on this several times before. Read my old posts. I have always enjoyed anal stimulation and knew I would like enemas even before I started taking my own enemas.

Seems the thread is off topic, but after reading the most recent replies, I had to post. I'm leaning more toward Timetraveller's explanation...because I was lying here this morning thinking about my childhood exam at age 8 and how weird it was, yet how the thought of the doctor doing the same to me at 16 was both embarassing, horrifying, scary, and yes, even arousing (though I didn't know what erotic was at that time).

But who knows? Perhaps I was born with this fetish and it was the exam at age 8 that flipped the first switch, and the thoughts of the exam at 16 - verses what happened - that turned it on the rest of the way.

Either way, I'm here!

Switchablesusie (hope I spelled that right):

I did look through your post and found the story (although I didn't read though ALL of your posts, so I got just the basics, and I'd love to hear the story with more details, if that's OK), and it only proved my point. That first enema you gave to yourself was the thing that spawned your fetish. Think about it 😃

Doctorgene that is by far one of the best posts ive ever read on this forum omg

Bluecar, Maybe you can try to introduce it to her "by accident".

For exemple, set-up something sothat she "finds" a stethoscope along the car in a parking lot, bring it aat home and try further...

I told my girlfriend up front. She said "Wow, babe, wow" and promised a stethoscope as a present later in the year.

I have just told my wife that I wanted to examine her. My wife at first said that she did not really like Dr-patient role play, but that she went along with it for my pleasuer alone. I incorporate a lot of oral sex (both pussy and anal) during a play exam. and she looks forward to her exams and even asks for them now

Playing Doctor was always a staple in my childhood The main difference was I injected a swat on the girls butt to spice things up

Because I'm most interested in rectal/ prostate exams, I told my girlfriend I was interested in anal play and that I would be happy if she wore a glove while she tried it out. From there I told her the gloves alone are a turn on. The next step will be introducing a medical role-play scenario. As others have said—baby steps.

Neither my girlfriend nor I are very good at dirty talk, so one night we asked each other for inspiration. She told me her kink and I told her mine - a medfet exam where I'm the patient. A couple weeks ago we got up the courage to try it - she wasn't sure she'd have fun giving an exam and I was nervous that I wouldn't enjoy it. Fortunately, we both have a good sense of humor so we joked our way through a very sexy, un-clinical play exam with her as a doctor. While it was scary to tell her about it and try it out, we ended up having a good time (and I think we'll do it again soon!).

I didn't have much issue. My girlfriend is extremely open minded, and we had the "kink" discussion over Skype one evening playing the whole "I'll tell you one, if you tell me one" game.

I told her mine, basically being upfront and honest, and she did the same. She has a real forced control thing, and is big into BDSM, so I suggested that with my likes, we could run some sort of institutional scene, and she really liked the idea.

To the point of initiating a nice online shopping trip, lol.

Point is, I think get a good, plyaful mood going, be honest, and be receptive to your partner's needs and wishes as well.

I ask a partner to have a lot "down there" because I think there might be a problem and then hope they take the initiative

Two things that worked for us

1. shower cap ... really! The ones that look like bouffant hats...my gf uses one and I made her know that I found it "sexy". I think she made a point of using it more. Anyway, in bed, I asked her to wear it...and she did

2. painting respirator ... actually one of these: http://northsafety.com/TriggerWorkflow.aspx?WorkflowModuleGUID=a3c3bf34-f500-45aa-a73f-13a246669a21&Alias=NSUS&SB_ContentItemGuid=b55fb755-d4a7-40dc-8e76-f21a2d582782&KeepSession=True&Tags😜C%20Tags😜C_ItemGuid=c6dfcbe4-9c9d-441d-a3dc-fb7a78a9647d

We we doing painting work and she used one...again, tell her how great she looks :-)

One day watching some medical programme I casually mentioned that a patient with mask and hat looked sexy. Then I just asked her outright to wear the hat and mask... :-)

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I'm waiting divine inspiration, from almost 4 years , if someone suggests something better than "wait and prey", pm me ahaha

I try and I try but she's just not into it. Last night i blindfolded and spread her out just so I could have my perverted fun.

I simply told my husband about it, but that makes it sound a lot easier than it felt. I wanted to make sure I did it it at a time where we were very close, so close that I knew with certainty he would share if he had any concerns or misconceptions that he might otherwise let fester for months before disclosing for being too hesitant to ask. It helped that he's into BDSM. I at least did not have to worry as much about a vanilla partner viewing me as a freak.

But sharing a fantasy is not the same as getting him to start participating. It took a long time after that to slowly pry the topic open further. I talked casually here and there about getting a stethoscope or a doctor's coat, but I do not think he realized how serious I was about this until we were in a sexy store that mostly sold bondage stuff and there was this perfectly ordinary white lab coat. I was like, "Hey look, there's a lab coat! Wow!" and he, dear fellow, oblivious to where I was going with that, was like, "Uh-huh," and did not even pause as he went on by it. I had to ask directly for what I wanted. "I want to see what you look like in it! Would you try it on?"

He did. I had never seen him in one before, but when he saw my face, he understood! Especially when I quietly told him it made me get "instantly wet." We did not buy that particular one because it was horribly overpriced, but the incident served its purpose in getting him willing to wear a lab coat.

One day when we were lying in bed talking he was joking about me going to the doctor and he did something with his fingers imitating what doctors do, so I said, "Wow, that actually felt really good. Could you do that to me while I use the vibrator?" He agreed, and when he saw what it did to me he has been doing it ever since.

It's been a very slow process and I think we have some distance to go. I didn't want to potentially turn him off to medfet by plunging him straight into it the way he did with me and bondage. (It didn't turn me off to bondage and eventually I developed my love for it, but at first I did not think I enjoyed it because it was too much too soon.)

I dont know when started my pleasure...

It took me several years but my wife agreed to at least incorporate roleplay of doctor into foreplay by my asking. We needed something different after falling into a bit of a dull routine. We don't do much more than a pretend breast and vaginal exam getting her warmed up for intercourse. I will sometimes check to see if she can have an orgasm or tell that she needs to have sex with the doctor because she is too aroused. Simply asking can't hurt!

I think just suggesting the infamy that it brings between the husband and wf of knowing all about the others body. Helps

I`d love to know too... I`ve told my hubby, kinda. he`s not willing.

I suppose you have breasts like every woman, ask him to make you a mammary palpation to be sure you have no breast problem.

This must be done every 2 - 4 weeks. I suppose that he enjoy cupping your breasts, try to warm him up in with way.

Good Luck

I`d love to know too... I`ve told my hubby, kinda. he`s not willing.

If you'll be more specific, I'll help.

Most men are not too difficult to get into this unless they are very hung up because most of them are driven by their penises whether they admit it or not.

Patience patience and patience. Then after that hopefully there will be lots of gloves and lube. Start slow and small. Ask her to change bandages and such. Then go from there.

I have finally told my bf that I am into medfet and want to experiment with it. I told him about 3 months ago. He is still a little nervous about it. I don't want to be pushy- but sometimes he says he'd be interested and sometimes he says he's nervous. Anyway- we bought some things so maybe we will end up trying them out. I hope we do.