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What is the best way to introduce my spouse to my medical fetish?

I have yet to introduce anyone to my medical fetish.. I'm deprived 😢

Try showing your spouse real, actual medical procedures (videos). You can find these videos online (i.e. medscape). Tell your spouse you find those procedures interesting. Work your way from there. Eventually if you're lucky, you can convince your spouse to get into med fetish.

The nest time you go for a physical, maybe explain the general exam. Maybe also start easy and get a stethoscope and play with that for foreplay, see where your spouse takes it. Open communication is the best. Maybe a compromise: play out one of your fantasies this time and next time play out one of theirs.

Flyfisher is on the right track. Start slow and don't get technical with it. Make it 'sex with a twist' and build from there. Honesty and communication is important. Make sure your SO knows that it is something you can and want to do together for fun.

Unfortunalely,, i have never been able to sucessfully introdue any girlfriends to medical play...it seems a shame..... the only real way to do it is to plant the seed in there mind and have them suggest it...but lots of luck with that..

I want a girl who is open minded but i hope that that means she is dirty

I was married over 30 years to a real dud that I could never get into the scene. After divorcing, I wrote my girl friend a story about a young girl that takes a relative to the doctor and sees all sorts of interesting equipment (including enema) and decides to make an appointment for an exam for herself. This takes place after hours (I am the doc), and no equipment is in sight. Gradually, the exam becomes more suggestive, but she doesn't know whether she is imagining the eroticism or whether it exists. I wrote a chapter at a time and judged her reaction. We got around to enemas, spanking(when she flushed her expulsion without letting me examine it), etc. We have since played out every single scene and more! Had she expressed unease at any time, I could have twisted the plot any way I wanted.

Maybe you should get and wear a hot doctor's outfit? 😜

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Maybe you should get and wear a hot doctor's outfit? 😜

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Why doesn't my girlfriend do it? I'd surely like it, I have to tell her 😜

I'd love to get my husband to let me "examine" him. He used to let me give him enemas, but not in a long time anymore.

I wanted to add my input to all who say they've never been able to introduce the medical fetish topic with a spouse/lover, etc. Hypothetically/theoretically, I have to say that when in a relationship, and as a woman, no matter what "my guy" would have to tell me in the "sexual fantasy" arena, I'd want to hear it. 😃 I'd be Thrilled with the thought that we had that tight of an emotional connection going. I'd also now be feeling safe to "share something" back with him about my own fantasies, etc.

It's intense to be in a relationship where one can be that emotionally risk - taking, without having a real fear of judgement from the other person. So, I say, you just go ahead and open up and get it started by being direct. Some of us women Love this. So, risk sharing a sexual fantasy...see how it is received...and build from there. ((I say "Hypothetically/theoretically" because I'm currently single/not in a serious relationship...but I certainly Have revealed sexual fantasies (including this one) in the past - and by the way, it turned out we both had the same fantasy.)) 😃

I've been married for a couple years now and I haven't given full details about my fantasies. He knows I'm a 'dirty girl' as he calls me and I've hinted that I have fantasies he doesn't know about. He hasn't asked about them and I'm trying to find the words to use. I know he'll be supportive of whatever I have to say, I just have to find the right time to say it.

My wife knows that i am into it and has told me of he rvarious indignities/experiences but I am not sure if she would take it to the next stage.

Hello,

im married, though i havent explicitly told her what i would like to do (i have a platonic friendship with which i do my medical play)

my wife has bad migraines, and she was tried on a new medication, which was rectally given. she didnt want to put them in, so it was up to me. i didnt mind one bit!

the first time, she had a really bad migraine and needed the medication asap, but the second and third times, we had more time. so i really went to town, donned the latex gloves, ky jelly, gently massaged her rectum with finger and lube, and gently inserted the tablet deep into her rectum. the good thing was she found it quite erotic, but as she had a migraine coming, wasnt too intersted in sex

the only thing was, the medication didnt work as well as it should,m and she was put on a different pill

I openly approached it with my husband who thought it a little strange but gave in and let me exam him. He found that he really liked it.

My girlfriend introduced me! I'd luck ;-)

For me, it will be a bit of a difficult subject to bring up. Both I and my Lady have medical training and have worked in the medical fields. (Me as a Navy Corpsman, she as a nurse, then as a medical transcriptionist.)

Also, she is a cancer survivor, and I don't want to bring up any unpleasant memories for her.

I think she might be open to it, but don't want to push it. (she did allow me to attempt to teach her prostate massage once, and she does seem to like to "play" in that general area when we get intimate.)

My partner and I are both very into BDSM and I often ask him to describe scenes in order to get me off (there's not always the time or energy to properly act something out). He said the other day that he found it very difficult to describe what I would like because medfet isn't his kink, so he doesn't know what's hot about it. I thought about it and described things like forced submission to pain, humiliation and the feeling of being exposed and it helped him understand what exactly about the scene I liked, because he could see parallels with that and certain other kinks of his, which are satisfied in different ways but for pretty much the same reasons. He will do medfet scenes with me not because he gets off on it personally, but because he is very submissive and gets off on being told "do XYZ" as even if he appears to be in control of the scene he is doing it for my pleasure, thus satisfying his submissive urges.

I was lucky enough to meet my girlfriend in a fetish club. After talking about it, it turns out we shared a lot of the same interests.

My wife is an RN not into the scene. 😢 I wish that I could convince her to try it. She is just not interested.

My girlfriend take me to her gynexam,

from that time I'm very interested

Try to focus on fulfilling her fantasy. Once that is done that would be a good time to have her return the favor. That is something I have done for years. It works.

When we were first married, my husband did not know I had a medical fetish. I thought I was weird because I enjoyed my exams, and I never discused my fetish with anyone. I had an exam, and my husband just started asking questions like "was I dreading it, was it embarrassing?" etc. I answered my husband honestly and told him that yes it was embarrassing, but I felt it to be erotic as well. The more we talked about my exam and what happens, the more excited he got. My husband developed an interest in my exams, and even accompanied me to one of my exams. We occasionally incorporate an exam into our love making.

I am married for a year and a half now and I am with my husband since I am about 20 years old (now I'm 26) and still I haven't had the guts to tell him. I am afraid of what he might think of me, if I told him. Though, we both enjoy enemas, since we are married and found out that this is quite an erotic foreplay. I am not sure, why I am so afraid. Any suggestions, how I could start this without making him think I'm a weirdo??

Besides, he sometimes needs to be hit hard, because he doesn't understand what I mean when I don't nail it exactly.

You've already spoke to him about enemas well that was the first step. from there it should be fairly simple. start out by making your enemas very clinical/medical but still keep in mind it is forplay. maybe get him or yourself a lab coat and a hospital gown. another way i found it easy to incorporate med play with my slaves was to use bdsm and make them do it and they realized very fast that they were into it as well. you have already cracked the ice now just smash it to pieces. good luck!

Thanks a lot for sharing your knowledge... 😃

This is all really great advice i think i might try some of it...

I'd suggest buying some medical instrument and start from there. The first time I tried talking a girlfriend into it, I just bought a speculum and asked if I could try it out. It worked!

I think that if your lover if openminded and loves you, she or he would understand it as something very natural in you, and something that could turn very exciting for both and healthy for your relationship to move forward.

For me, not a medfet, but a medfet lover, it is much more simple, interesting and exctiting then it looked before trying. I just have to have always incredible sex, so for me it works very well as the starting point, as any other fantasie which envolved domination and submission could do. But, if this one is the way he get´s there, offcourse I will enjoy it very much!