Does men's size matter?

I would like to throw out the question to those men with a larger than average penis and ask them if they have found their large size to be a "curse" in finding willing partners to have sex with?

My penis is a bit larger than average, and I've occasionally met men who were unwilling to let me penetrate them - I've been told, "it's too big for me".

I had a boyfriend for a while who didn't like me inside him - he said it went "too deep". Obviously I tried being very gentle, using lots of lube and not using the full length of my penis, but it was kind of unsatisfactory and we eventually stuck to him fucking me - I became a 'bottom' for a while! The irony was that he was well hung too, and quite rough in bed - I never complained - ; )

I have to say, I much prefer to suck a smaller penis - if a guy's erect penis is small enough that I can easily take the full length in my mouth without gagging, I find it very hot.

More than the size what I appreciate is the quality of the erection. Hard for longtime ...

Under this condition the size is a welcome bonus.

It's how you use it

It would appear that there will never be an answer to this question? It just goes on and on and on... Boring people!!!

I am average in length at 6 inches. All the women I have slept with have enjoyed the sex we had.

I do think it is about how you use your cock. I have found the time dedicated to foreplay can get the woman very close to orgasm before you enter can really make the difference in how much pleasure you can give a woman. Also knowing what positions create the most pleasure for her are key- the ladies I have been with seem to each have a favorite position because the angle of penetration seems to make a big difference on the receiving end.

Just my observations from a guy's point of view.

Absolutely, men's size matters, mostly to the men. If it didn't matter to anyone, many guys would have to find something else to worry about. They might have to worry about whether they are using it, or their other parts well. And who would want to worry about that.

Any woman who say's it doesn't matter the size is avoiding her true feelings. However, having said that, I have found over the years that a woman relates to sexual activity with a great deal more emotional involvement than a man does. Men can grunt, grunt, go and be done with it. My wife made it clear from the start that I had better be more communicative and emotionally invested in our love making. And to be honest, I now agree that the physical act of sex is much better if the woman feels her mate is into her, not the sex.

I have read that greater girth stimulates the G-spot and by that increases the lady's pleasure. A friend has a Bottle shaped penis, with a head about the usual size but a shaft that is much greater in diameter than the head (and anyone else's shaft that I have seen). He claims that when he inserts it in a lady's vagina, she usually has an orgasm in five seconds or so after the large diameter shaft is pushed inside her. He has many ladies contacting him out of the blue because his fame has spread by word of mouth.

As a bi-WM some years ago I made an appointment with a male escort who really did have almost 12", and girth a bit larger than usual, but not proportionally so. He was a super nice guy and very gentle, and eased it into me slowly and carefully and surprised me with how much of his great length managed to be inside me. He said that he could work it in so that the sigmoid colon was straightened out and lined up with rectum enough to receive his slowly inserted penis gradually. He thought that in some cases he might have gotten some of his penis into the descending colon, beyond the sigmoid colon. That of course suggests a radical straightening out and linear alignment of the rectum, sigmoid colon, and descending colon, even with some flexibility of the penis. It felt wonderful when he was fully inside of me (not the entire 12", but most of it). One or more of the valves in the colons seem to be sources of pleasure when something passes through them, even something as small as a colon tube. I have felt that pleasure most times with deep insertion of a colon tube, both during insertion and withdrawal. Incidentally, this nice man is well known and is engaged by clients all over the world, who pay to fly him to service them time after time.

The experience with that man suggests to me that great length may be of dubious desirability when inserted into a vagina, but with skillfull insertion it might yield great pleasure during anal intercourse. There is an entry on the internet that illustrates the expansion of the vagina and refers to it as "tenting."

Suzie has mentioned inserting her arm far enough into the colons to touch her lover's rib cage, perhaps she might be able to tell us something about the re-aligning of the various parts of the colon when an arm is inserted very far.

. . . . A friend has a Bottle shaped penis, with a head about the usual size but a shaft that is much greater in diameter than the head (and anyone else's shaft that I have seen). He claims that when he inserts it in a lady's vagina, she usually has an orgasm in five seconds or so after the large diameter shaft is pushed inside her. He has many ladies contacting him out of the blue because his fame has spread by word of mouth. . . . .

Your friend is a bullshit artist and has quite a fantasy about himself.

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. . . .Suzie has mentioned inserting her arm far enough into the colons to touch her lover's rib cage, perhaps she might be able to tell us something about the re-aligning of the various parts of the colon when an arm is inserted very far.

In people who have been fisting or inserting very long dildos (double dongs) and in a video someone posted here a couple of times, you can see the dildo doing diagonally superiorly and to the person's upper left abdominal area toward the ribcage. There isn't anything magical or difficult to do about it. It has more to do with getting your hand and forearm past the rectum than anything else.

I have a 8" quite thick penis and I can assure you that all it takes is one time that u sit down on a toilet and have it splash into the water for it to be a pain

My wife's theory is that

- length is not very important, unless it's really too short, and probably also too long (in certain positions I sometimes hit her cervix and it's painful for her, and she thinks that if my penis was longer it would happen more often)

- girth is more important, it's what gives the "well filled" feeling.

At the beginning she mentioned that my penis was somewhat wider than those of the few lovers she'd had.

I do not think that is important if the small or large it does not matter if the girl love you

A man's size really only matters to the man himself. Is he comfortable, confident, psychologically secure with his own size?

Unless you're trying to pick potential partners up, and they say "Cocks 8" and up only please". Then you have a requirement to fulfill, at which time, size would apparently matter. Or if the woman won't sleep with you unless your cock is at least a certain size. Not really aware of women who would have such a requirement.

If you're someone who wants to show off your bulge in undergarments, or even show off your exposed genitalia, with the goal of receiving compliments, then size may matter in order to receive all the compliments you want. How big you have to be to receive the compliments you want depends on the audience with which you share your exposed self.

@UglyDuckling said

I have a 8" quite thick penis and I can assure you that all it takes is one time that u sit down on a toilet and have it splash into the water for it to be a pain

It isn't going to be anywhere near reaching the water. What are you talking about?

Maybe the water is overflowed ?

That reminds me of an old joke.

Two men are walking down a country road. They come to a bridge over a small river. One of the men says, "You know, I've always wanted to pee off a bridge into a river."

The other man says, "Hey, me too!"

So they go to opposite sides of the bridge (for modesty) and unzip. A few seconds later, as a joke, the first man calls out to his friend, "Damn, this water's cold!"

Nonplussed, the other man replies, "Yeah, deep, too!"

My boyfriend's penis is a bit too long. It bumps up against my cervix if he goes too deep which I dont like. Which he likes because he loves the sensation of going deep.

I find that I am better able to take all of him if he enters from behind or the side. That way he gets to go as deep as he wants.

He is also not thick which is a sensation I would prefer but he definitely knows my spot because somehow he has managed to make me climax between 4 to 13 times during sex. So the saying its not the size of the boat its the motion in the ocean. Its true size don't matter. If you truly love each other you will put your partner's pleasure first.

My boyfriend's penis is a bit too long. It bumps up against my cervix if he goes too deep which I dont like. Which he likes because he loves the sensation of going deep.

I find that I am better able to take all of him if he enters from behind or the side. That way he gets to go as deep as he wants.

I have only had sex with my husband so I can not compare him with anybody else but I think his penis is about an inch or so longer than the average is for British men. I think it is a good looking penis with just the right girth too, and his foreskin is very nice. I am lucky that he has got the right penis for me.

When we are fucking his penis some times can touch my cervix but it feels like just a light touch and if it happens he just does it by accident. I really do not mind it but if it happens it always makes me dying for a piss straight after sex and that urge just seems stronger than it is just normally after orgasms.

The doggy position is my favourite and it is not only because there is a lot less chance he will touch my cervix when we do it like that.

When I am talking about sex with my friends they say that really it is most important that the man knows what to do with what he has got. I think most of them just think girth matters when you have sex and that long length is just nice to look at but it is not too important for good sex.

Hello BJF1 have you tried positioning your knees bent and up to chest as he enters my wife does this when wants to control the depth of penetration and can move legs away to make penetration shorter or other way go take all of me.

Funny, I don't touch my wife's cervix in missionary (or at least, not in a painful way) but this happened in doggy-style.