Does men's size matter?

Ive had physicals before but, always hated going because i thought my anatomy was smaller than normal. What is the normal size, and do woman care if it erects at 6in?

Some women care, others don't. Find a woman who likes you for who you are.

A six inch erection is a perfectly good penis-you have nothing to be shy about. I have been very excited and well satisfied by men with seemingly less than five inch cocks and left devoid of pleasant sensation by guys with king sized cucumber cocks. It's what they do with it, the security and happiness you feel with each other and the emotions they elicit in you that counts. As far as satisfying women is concerned, a large proportion don't have an orgasm from intercourse anyway, especially without simultaneous manual stimulation. Most women I know have the fondest memories of those men who were the best at oralling them, not fucking. Besides, the real sex organ is between your ears.

I know there are size queens out there, but I agree with sbwtwo, find someone who likes you for who you are. Size really doesn't matter.

Part of my fear of seeing female doctors when I was younger was wondering if I would appear small either because the room would be cold, or I'd be nervous, of if maybe I was just really small anyway. As I've gotten older and more comfortable with my body I've realized or learned a few things:

1) we come in all shapes and sizes for all our body parts, and with this one I'm probably average since I'm somewhere between 5-6 inches when erect.

2)Non erect sizes don't necessarily reflect your erect size and they can vary depending on circumstances. I've read that some men who are smaller when flaccid expand more when they are erect than some guys that are normally a bit longer in their flaccid state.

3)The doctors, etc. went to school, took medical classes including anatomy, so I'm sure they know more about what's average and how things vary than I do.

4) They've pretty much seen it all and are professionals. So even if they still enjoy seeing people undressed and have any personal preferences about size, good or bad, they pretty much keep their feelings to themselves and conduct themselves appropriately to do their jobs.

5) I've decided I don't care what they think. I'm comfortable with my body, and when I'm the patient its basically all about me, so whether they think I'm too small, too big, just right, whatever doesn't matter.

In my experience, it's not the size that matters. It's the attitude of the participants.

However, having a big one can't hurt......(or can it?.....)

All comments so far have been on length, but for the females in the group here, do the same comments apply to girth, or is diameter more/less important than length?

I'd suspect there's some truth in that based on some of the non-fetish articles I've read. From what I've read, the typical vagina is around 6 inches and has to stretch to accommodate a longer penis, which it can do but can be uncomfortable for some women. But girth apparently can provide a more full feeling in some women. I'm not on either the super thin or super thick side of things I don't guess since I've never had any partners complain or excessively compliment either.

I'd also suspect that a lot of its mental more than physical the same way it is for men with breast or ass sizes on women. Does it really make them physically a better lover? Probably not, but if mentally it excites you more, then that makes the sex more enjoyable for you.

And of course, for most of us when it comes to long term love and relationships, such things usually become just one of many factors we value, so we tend to be more accepting of our mates regardless of how close they are to our "ideal" in any one area.

If you can make them happy,who cares.

it how you use it tha matters.

Most women are more interested in what you can do with you have. Actually a really large penis is uncomfortable. A six inch penis is actually the normal size for a man. Most of the feeling for a woman is at the opening, and a few inches back. What turns on a woman is a lot of kissing, a lot of attention paid to her breasts, and a lot of oral. If you can bring a woman to several orgasms orally, she doesn't care what size penis you have. A woman is more interested in her partner, than she is in the size of his penis.

To be honest size doesnt matter to me and sometimes i find those on the larger scale hurt a little to much as they can be rough i think its just one of those things bigger doesnt always mean better heh heh

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Most women are more interested in what you can do with you have. Actually a really large penis is uncomfortable. A six inch penis is actually the normal size for a man. Most of the feeling for a woman is at the opening, and a few inches back. What turns on a woman is a lot of kissing, a lot of attention paid to her breasts, and a lot of oral. If you can bring a woman to several orgasms orally, she doesn't care what size penis you have. A woman is more interested in her partner, than she is in the size of his penis.

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Kimberly, I agree with you completely.

It really depends on the individual woman. Personally, I would much rather have a man with more girth than length. If a penis is too long, it can be uncomfortable and I find that a man with a shorter penis can often use a larger variety of positions without making the woman uncomfortable.

Girth, on the other hand, increases the feeling of fullness experienced during sex which is my favorite part, but some women may not like feeling so full.

Although I understand why they do, I wish men wouldn't worry so much about their penis size, it all depends on the woman you're with.

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... I wish men wouldn't worry so much about their penis size, it all depends on the woman you're with.

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It's not just the men! I had a female patient once ask me, after I examined her, if she was too big down there.

It's not what you've got, it's what you do with it that counts.

I always thought they liked the way I got on and off !!!

I appreciate the posts here, especially from the women. I have a below average size in length but have been told that I am above average in girth. I think that treating a woman like she deserves is much more important than whats between your legs. I am more interested in a woman's personality and intelligence than her breast size (even though I love breasts) and I would be much happier with a woman I could have an extraordinary conversation with that with an empty head who has a perfect body

I agree one hundred percent. What turns me on most about a girl is not her body but her mind....and I hope to meet a girl who feels the same about me.

But I also expect size does matter. Not that a smaller guy cannot be wonderful, just that he has do do things differently. It is all going to depend on the exact dynamics of the couple, what she likes - what he likes, etc.

I expect the best thing a guy can do is learn his girl and what gives her the most pleasure. From the guy's perspective, I see it as a sign of respect and true love if a girl is truly interested in learning about me and what I want...and while I don't know that gals feel the same way, I try to do what I can to reciprocate that respect and love!

I think this is an issue with men that will never be resolved. Part of our evolutionary programing? No matter how he performs in bed or how we intellectualize it, it will always be "If I just had one more inch." I think a boys first love is his penis and then its on to how do I measure up. THEN, the life long competitive race is on. From boy toys and games, to cars an jobs. From water guns to George Bush and weapons of mass distruction. Why am I going on like this? I guess us smaller guys have to compensate somehow.

My husband is about 4 and 1/2 and he has always satisfied me so no it does not matter

Phew, i'm glad most women think size doesn't matter.

I can sleep easy tonight ;-)

We are all individuals and what works for one may not work for another. For me, I'm not big on receiving oral, and I can orgasm from intercourse alone IF I am on top. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who was a little under-endowed. We connected real well, though, and he liked "playing doctor" which is a huge turn-on for me. Because I need to be on top to orgasm (so far, I'm willing to try new positions as well 😁), size isn't as important as fit - it has to be able to reach me in the right spot while in that position. That can happen with a guy who is under-endowed, normally endowed or even over-endowed. And the level of "connection" psychologically has just as much to do with it.

Apart from a very rare phenomenon called "micro penis" size doesn't really matter. Besides sexuality is such a rich and diverse universe...

And then again I think SIZE IS VERY IMPORTANT! - but only the size of the brain that is the most important sexual organ.

From a male point of view, when giving oral a large penis is a turn on but you cannot service it as well as a smaller one. It is a turn on for the guy being sucked to go "balls deep." When receiving anal, I have had both large and small. The guys that have small ones can make me feel as good as the one with the bigger penises. I have tried a 12" penis and it was a very good but painful experience. I am sure it was more in my head than in my butt!

Reminds me of an old joke:

Nigel, a man with somewhat limited endowment was approached at an orgy by a beautiful blonde women. She pointed at his penis and said "Just who do you expect to please with that?"

"Me" Nigel replied, smiling.

Or as Marsha Warfield (she was the black bailiff on "Night Court") said:

I don't know what the big deal is about penis size. They all fit somewhere

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As a straight married guy, size is always on my mind, but never as important as being able to get ready. Since my wife is not into enemas and I am, I find myself fantasizing about my cock a lot during enemas. Recently I have started taking a few close-up photos of my cock from different angles. Eventually I may share them on this site. conclusion: size matters, and is mostly in the eye of the beholder.

Ive quizzed my wife extensively about his, and in our cuckolding past she has had the opportunity to experience one guy who was about 9 inches long and bigger around than her fingers could close on. She said that since the "hooking up" was kinky(I.E. cuckolding.),she was in a higher stage of receptiveness,therefore extremely wet,turned on, etc. She is asian,very short, and this guy, one of our former neighbors was 6ft5, and just fukkin big. She said it took some time to accomidate his member, but once inside the sensation was unbelieveable..........to a point. Her favorite position is on top and she Couldnot get this monster cock fully in (in that position). But being very multiorgasmic, it reall put her on the moon. Her final opinion was, and still is......Once every couple of years would be erotic......but after 15 minutes....enuff already...it hurts too much. Basically she said she could never have married some guy with a dick that big.My take.as a kinky hubby, it was very erotic to unload in her stretched put wet sloppy pussy. Yes, Im shameless.

When in the presence of a female doctor, there is just something about being told to lower your shorts for the exam....I have an overactive cowpers gland which means I produce a veritable stream of pre ejaculate fluid at all times. No matter what I do to prepare for this part of the exam, once my penis is released from the confines of my briefs, I drool clear sticky pre cum, sometimes on a string to the floor!!! This is terribly embarrassing but incredily arousing for me...so my member gets semi erect and drools a string to the floor everytime!

Size CAN matter, usually it doesn't. I think I am the right size for my wife, actually maybe a little to large. When we are in Doggie position I usually end up hitting her cervix and popping through. She is enjoys it mostly, closer to her period though it can hurt. When it does we switch positions.

I have to add I am not huge though, just your average 14 inches. 😜

I have always been self conscious during physicals with new doctors because of my small size when it is cold in the room and I am nervous.

OK, "doc", one would have hoped that by the time men and women get into heavy kinks, they have become comfortable with their genitalia.

First, their are two types of penises. One that is large flaccid and hardly gets any bigger when erect, and the other type that starts small, sometimes very small and grows to tremendous proportions compared to its flaccid size.

The erect sizes of the "showers" and "growers" are similar.

Finally, I have had lovers with large penises that were lousy lovers and others with small penises that were wonderful. It's what you do with it (and your hands and mouth) that counts.

Unless you are so small to be unable to have intercourse, size doesn't matter.

DON'T FEEL SELF CONSCIOUS -- IT ISN'T WORTH THE ANXIETY.

VERY FEW WOMEN CARE.

From my point of view, size can matter sometimes, but only sometimes, and as Susie pointed out, usually only if the guy is either too small, or too big.

One of my first boyfriends was a professional soccer player from Honduras. He used to receive daily steroid injections in his fanny. Not sure if it's a myth or the truth, as to whether or not steroids cause male genitalia to shrink or grow, but needless to say, he was a very tiny man. He was 28 at the time, and probably had 3 inches erect. Needless to say, ummm, well, I was only 20 then, he was my second, he couldn't please me then, but then I didn't know how to please me then either. But I will be honest and tell you I didn't feel much of anything.

There was the next guy, he was huge, probably 8 inches and thick. Most of the time I couldn't even relax enough to get him past the opening. So he was too big. Again, I was young.

As we age, we learn about ourselves, at least was the case for me. I learned how to relax, how and what pleases me.

Doc is bigger than average, and when we first get together each time there are times when it's still a bit tough to get him in, especially quickly, and the few times when I have gone about things too fast, I have regretted it the next day and was sore or raw.

However, when I am relaxed and I don't rush things, and I need to say that he never rushes, he's usually trying to slow me down actually, it's still a pretty tight fit, and it still hurts sometimes, but it's more of a "hurts so good" type of feeling if you know what I mean?

So, I think that overall size probably doesn't matter all that much unless you have a guy that is an extreme case on one side or the other of the size chart, but for the "normal" man, it's all good.

You have to remember that a lot of women don't or can't orgasm inside anyway, but can, will, and do through clitoral stimulation, so be good with your hands, great with your tongue, and all should be just fine and dandy.

Mashie.