Telling your partner about your medical fetish

On our 2nd or 3rd 'date' my husband tied me up and blindfolded me, I had no trouble telling him anything.

If you are looking for advice, go slow, show them a story or video to introduce them. Baby steps, (yes I went there). Don't core dump, Rome was nit built in a day, your fetish must be given in small doses.

It took me a while before I told my SO. I brought up the topic by saying, "would you be weirded out if I told you I was into something unusual?" After the whole, long conversation, he seemed to be much more relaxed and said something along the lines of "thank god I thought you were going to say you had criminal/cop fantasies"...he's in law enforcement, so I guess I picked the right kink. That same night he "examined" me for the first time; I had to walk him through it step by step how I wanted it done, but he's mostly got the hang of it now...although, he still calls my speculum the "duck" thing. Oh well can't win them all.

I think it depends on the relationship, the length and depth.

If you bring someone home and you know they are not life partner material, perhaps after the first round it might be time to open up the fetish toybox. What the hell. With me, after the first time if you don't pick up on the vibe that I have some real kinks you are either drop dead stupid or so much kinkier than I am that my kinks just don't wiggle your meter. I have yet to have that happen. In any case by than you have gotten your rocks off once so you can call it a good night, and who knows, it might become a great night. Very little loss potential there.

If you have just started seeing someone who you like after a couple romps they must be starting to pick up on the fact that you are kinky.. So it might be time to bring up the fetishes that are very near and dear to your heart. This may end the relationship, but if the kink is near and dear to your heart you really need to find someone who will share it with you. Do you really want to go through life either sneaking around or frustrated? I think after a bunch of years that would lead to resentment and you will wind up at the same place you are at now, only having wasted a lot of good years on both parties parts and with a lot more baggage.

If you are in an established relationship with kids, houses etc etc, than it is going to be a bit harder. You have baggage to the point that it would be a real life fuck to put things where they should be. That is why you try and get this out in the open early on as in the last paragraph. You don't want to wind up here... But here some of you sit none the less. So, what to do. I would let the cat out of the bag slowly, but I would also try and get the SO to be open about what gets them hot, or what they always wanted to do. I am a firm believer that kinks are a lot like mastrabation. There are two kinds of people, people who have them and people who lie about having them. So it might be time to dig into what gets the SO hot and than what gets you hot, and either trying to combine the two (I can see med fet mixing swimmingly with bondage, enemas, perhaps fisting if you have a table with stirrups...) or swing into her fetish on occasion and yours on others. I think the key is trying to make everybody happy. Hopefully after however many years you have some common ground.

I have to say that I firmly agree with MissD. I could never be happy with someone who is vanella.

I don't tell anyone about my relationship to injections. Only on this site or other net injections sites. I suspect that my doc could be an idea about.

People think we are crazy. I did not tell any of my friends or wife yet. I share it only with friends here like me.....

Telling people about your medical fetish, "playing doctor" is orders of magnitude easier than telling them about your enema fetish.

If you don't believe me, try it!

Telling people about your medical fetish, "playing doctor" is orders of magnitude easier than telling them about your enema fetish.

If you don't believe me, try it!

If you think that's hard, imagine a birth fetish. That's why most birth fetishists, male and female, are still in the closet. In fact, I suspect that even most people on this forum think we're weird.

I told my wife many years ago and she did try some play but due to her having many health issues she doesnt share my interest so I have to go other places for medfet play.

I dont tell her about it but it keeps me satisfied and we still have a great marriage

Telling people about your medical fetish, "playing doctor" is orders of magnitude easier than telling them about your enema fetish.

If you don't believe me, try it!

Right about that.

In fact, while it may not be a 100% true medical fetish, just about red-blooded man is expected to have a thing for and get a raise from nurses or nowadays a lady doctor. It's almost considered normal. I've even had some of my female friends bring up the subject on their own themselves, 'jokingly' of course, in the manner of 'men, what can you otherwise expect?' and often hinting at how 'immature' men are in that way, while still thinking it 'cute' in a certain way, as if we've never grown up.

Though i don't have a partner... looking for the right one.. i'd be careful telling anyhting about my medfet.. at the first date.. perhaps after a few months i could give a hint like i like nurse fanatsies.. but then there's a differnece beetween liking a naughty nurse fantasy every now adn then than being a full blown medfet surfing sites like these one at least one hour a day, dreaming of different Medical scenarios, buying Tools etc.

I'd Think most people would think you're simply mad.. if you would devulge all this at one time.

I told my fiancee about my medical fetish at the very beginning of our relationship. I thought it would disgust him.

I still do my own enemas but he often calls me nurse in bed. He enjoys me treating him like a patient even though I prefer being the one who's sick. I think that's a good start.

And those things need time I guess.

My husband and I have always been open in our sex life. So when I was becoming aroused during my annual gyne exams, we discussed it. When I found this site and others like it I realized it was a fetish not an oddity.

While my husband doesn't share my fetish he does understand and support it. Just like I support his fetishes. If you don't have a spouse who has the same fetishes It helps to have one who support you.

Xguy47😎

I think you are right. I told my husband only a few months ago and we're married for 6 years now. But I'm a real nurse and kinky, so he wasn't suprised and shares my fantasies (both ways)

You are lucky girls: my wife is a real doctor, but she doesn't share my medical fetish. She has taken my rectal temp a couple of times as part of our foreplay though, and given me DRE (or a prostate massage for that matter) -- but she still would not let me take her temperature...

Hey Chris,

what does DRE stand for?

@Lana2410, DRE stands for Digital Rectal Exam.

@Lana2410 and @AberrantDoc, which means with the finger in the ass.

The "DIGITAL" refers to the fingers--digits.

What ever happened to analog rectal exams?

@AberrantDoc thanks for clearing that up

I was very reluctant to tell my parter about my fetish for rectal temperature when we met. However I did it when we were dating - it was kind of a spur of the moment - we sat one night writing to each other online - and I just wrote I liked rectal temperature. And as soon as I had wrote it I walked away from the computer. I was soo ashamed and embarrased. What would she think? Would she find me wierd? Would she stop seing me? All those thoughts ran through my mind - but lucky her answer warm me. She did'nt quite understand - but accepted it. An now, ten years later we use the rectal thermometer during forplay! lucky me!

I had been seeing my partner for 3-4 years before I told him. Actually, he mentioned that he enjoyed visiting his dentist and the feel of metal instruments in his mouth. I asked him if he enjoyed visiting his doctor as well. It turns out that he doesn't 😢

He has indulged me by letting me use the steth and BP cuff on him a few times but I don't often suggest it as I know he is not getting anything out of it

Luckily, he still allows me to play with others.

I have told a few of my partners over the years. Oftentimes it comes up naturally in conversation. I used to be very open about it but now I find that I am a bit more reluctant to share. I think that's because of all the partners I have told, only one has been willing to try out a scene with me and it didn't go well. None of my partners have had a negative reaction per se, but they have all indicated that it's not for them. A few seemed to get progressively more uncomfortable with it after the fact, especially if I told them about a play exam coming up (with a medical play partner) or if they saw how much equipment I have. It just doesn't seem that worth it to tell just anyone, so I now only tell partners who I feel would be completely comfortable with at least the idea.

My medical fetish is buttock injections and, whilst I have never overtly admitted it, I like to have girlfriends watch me get them back there and often persuade them to get their shots in the bottom - ideally with me watching.

I admitted it to my girlfriend when I was 23. I was getting a serial of 10 daly injections of penicillin and since she was a nurse (not the one that giving me injections) we talked a lot about injections. I admit I would like to give her injection as same as she give it to me.

@Katalanta

You bring up some good points, and IMHO, and I could be very wrong about this, but I feel it is generally easier for a woman to meet men than it is for men to meet woman. So if you are concerned about scaring a prospective male off, think how it feels for the poor males that have a much harder time hooking up with females.

Outside of that I think you have to kind of sort the people into roughly 3 piles and perhaps treat them a bit differently.

I would classify the piles as..

1) Prospective life mates. These are people you really click with and you would like to be in a long term relationship with. This pile needs to be treated the most gingerly IMHO. Different people are into their kinks by different amounts. I could not imagine a long term relationship without my kink. So, when I was in the looking for a life mate mode, I would get "traditionally" kinky fairley fast, but also go out of my way to make it enjoyable. Toying with her ass while eating her out as a prelude to anal, getting insertion toys as a prelude to speculums. And used the results of that type of activity to judge if we were really sexually compatible. Some people may not require that degree of sexual compatibility, but I really do. If they responded favorably, I would ramp it up and soon med fet was not that big an incremental jump. By that time, many of my old GF's were pretty excited at the prospect of being eaten for hours and funked really well on my exam table. If they did not respond well I would generally give the lower level stuff consistent tries and more often than not they would just go away on their own. No big low up etc etc. They would realize that we were not compatible and fade into the background. One thing with a prospective life mate, it is a lot easier to be open about our fetish early on as opposed to later on. I also always ask what she likes and try to get her to open up and tell me what she *really* wants.

2) 1 nighters or quickies where you definitely want to get fucked. Stick to mildy normally kinky the first round, if that freaks her out, throttle it back. Get both of your rocks off, and don't go back there again unless you are so hard up you want boring sex.

3) 1 nighters or quickies where you really don't care. I have been known to crack out the speculum. I mean I try and warm them up to the idea of insertions etc first. I have been called a perv other things. I have also had some fun times. Much like a life partner, I try and find out what she really wants. And not the vanella shit on the surface.

Extreme reluctance in divulging the extent of my kinks and how they occupy my mind! The reaction I got from my husband back when I hinted as strongly as I dared told me this was a dead end street not worth pursuing - so good vanilla is the best I can do currently in real life. And my mind lets me travel other places without him and I make the best of any safe alone time I am gifted with!

I have always been fairly opened about the subject. I told my wife when we were still dating (and that is a l-o-n-g time ago!) I recall, with a smile, telling her one night that I loved using rectal thermometers. She initially winkled her nose because she thought back to when she, as a little girl, would fight her mother about getting that procedure done. However, with some gentle coaxing, I got her to find the very same thermometer that her mom used all those years back. It was still in the closet - forgotten all that time. That evening I took her temperature and it was heavenly!

Now, she doesn't love everything I do. She does not like enemas for instance but I got her very into some BDSM too.

The moral of the story is hopefully, you should feel comfortable with your partner to share what you like. They will never say 'yes' if you don't even ask!

While I'm still new to dating and still new to the fetish, I find it kind of hard to date or to bring this up. I know what I want, but I need to meet someone with the same interests and desires.

I think people have the luxury if the internet and sites such as this one, where a handful of humans share the same kinky niches... and we get caught up in the ease of exploring videos, stories, chatrooms, online focused roleplays... that it's easy to feel accepted and our fetishes are totally "normal".

So many people are seeking a "partner likeminded" in our kinks and think finding one should be easy. We believe in monogamous relationships we should be able to be open and honest about our fetish wants and our partners should be accepting and participate in the exploration of our fetish fantasies.

More often than not our partners do not accept, want to participate, or explore the various kinks we may choose to share with them. It can backlash badly, go over badly, stress and strain a marriage, humiliate either/or our partners. It's a risky proposition at best to share our kinky wants with our mates.

I sometimes feel it's easier to have fetish play partners with a bit of separation between them and me.... because I don't want to deal with the emotional impact on the relationship I have with my significant other who is not kinky. Medical kink goes a notch above as there is a lot of things n stuff props supplies and staging that goes with medical roleplays. To find a partner who is going to ting your tang in the medfet scene..... good luck. It's a long shot at best.

My wife is a nurse, and the mere thought of med kink is replusive to her. We are very vanilla (happily) and I respect that. And she takes her profession very seriously. So I keep my kink to myself and enjoy reading stories, watching videos etc. I do not masturbate to these as I keep all sexual activity with her only.