Telling your partner about your medical fetish

I have never dared tot tell. i was afraid that she will be end the relationship

Told her I was a bit in to it, but we haven't tried anything yet.

It will be nice off course if we did so 😉

I've hinted at my fetish, but my wife thinks its a little weird. Unfortunately, I don't think there's any chance she'd role play, even though I'd love to role play an exam on her.

Some that I dated I never told, others I told bits and pieces and only two have I told the full story to.

I kept it to myself for many years since my wife side of the family is full of doctors and she has a cold clinical outlook. She believed that medical procedures were to heal and it was neither funny nor erotic to mimic them or role play them. However, after many years of marriage, i introduced her to medfet. at first she thought i was crazy, then she finally agreed to play along - possibly just to please me. She claims that it turns her on as well, but I cant be sure. We take turns being the doctor while the other the patient. Even with her limited enthusiasm, I do enjoy myself a lot.

I hope with time she will really take to it...😉

I was nervous about telling my partner about my medical fetish at first as I wasn't sure how he would take it. It actually came out in conversation quite naturally without me having to pre think things through or plan what I was going to say. In fact it happened so casually (while we were discussing internet anonymity of all things) that I didn't realise it at first lol. Anyway it turns out that, he's into med play at all and loved the idea of being a patient, although he'd never had a partner who was into it so had no actual experience. I'm currently having the time of my life introducing my willing little sub to the world of med play and he's loving it too

I think it would be very difficult to tell your husband/wife. It could change things for a very long time (for better or worse). On the other hand, you never know til you ask.

I have told my bf I'm curious about medfet a couple of months after I told him I was curious about bdsm. Somehow it was easier to tell him I'd like to be spanked then anything medfet related. Last week I had ordered several glass syringes and for practical reasons sent them to his place. I was a bit reluctant to open the package in his presence but I did so anyway because I didn't want him to think something was going on behind his back. He reacted ok. However when he said :"You're not going to use them are you?" I answered: "Of course not!" :😃

I honestly don't know if I will ever use them on myself. I guess it would be smart to see if it's for me before you let your playdoc stick you and you freak out! 😁

This is how I brought it up to my, at the time, girlfriend.

Several years ago, on a Saturday afternoon, my girlfriend was over at my house. She said she felt like she had a fever. I had never brought up the subject of RT's before and thought now was my chance. I told her I could take her temperature but the only thermometer I had was a rectal one. She declined and no more was said.

Several weeks later we were out cruising around. We both worked 3rd shift and on our nights off we would just drive around. We were about an hour or so from returning home and I thought I would just get it out in the open. I told her I had a fever one time and had to use the rectal thermometer on myself. When I did I became quite aroused. Her only reaction was, "Hmmm. Interesting".

When we finally made it home she said she was going to take a shower. I told her I needed to, also. She told me to go ahead and go first. I did. When I got out I told her it was her turn. She gave me a sly little smile as she went into the bathroom. I wondered what that was all about. I soon found out. When I went into the bedroom, there, laying on the nightstand, was my thermometer and tube of KY. My heart started racing a mile a minute. She got finished and came into the bedroom. She asked, "Surprised?" I said, "Hell yes!" She told me that ever since I had mentioned it earlier she was curious about it. She told me to roll over, which I did in a flash. She then proceeded to take my temperature. This was a dream come true. To have a girl take my temperature. When she was done, she said something that nearly floored me. "OK. My turn." Another dream come true. To take a girls temperature. When I inserted the thermometer she said, "MMMMM. Kinky." From then on temperature taking became a part of out love making.

We married but eventually divorced. But from time to time we get together and 'play doctor'.

I had a quite bad experience in the past, she was a dental hygienist and when I told her she thought I choose her just because of her profession, which was not true, I would have loved her whatever she would do, this badly affected our relationship

My partner and I met because we are both kinksters, but our interests are very different. We've arrived at an "I'll play yours if you'll play mine" arrangement that works well for both of us. He's becoming a really good playdoc and is an excellent patient! The best of both worlds.

I slowly dropped hints to my boyfriend over the course of about a year, and we finally started actually exploring it very recently. We try to indulge in each others interests, but he's primarily into furry so that's kinda difficult to do anything really, short of getting a fursuit.

My wife found out when she found my web history ... I eventually got her to try a play exam with me but she didn't like it

My Wife knows that I enjoy medical exams but not really as a fetish. We sometimes talk about a pre employment exam we had at the same company with the same Doctor. She thinks he was a Dirty Old Git making her strip to her pants and bra then bra off for the chest exam. He had me to underpants then down for the hernia exam. Very much hands on!

For me it was kinda tricky: when I met my wife I had no idea that she was a student nurse. I found out at our second date and i had the same thing ss one of the other authors: i thought she would think I dated her for her professional skills. Eventually, after one month I came out of the closet and she wasn't to surprised...in fact, we did OK as we have been a couple since 1987. Medfet is never far away in our relationship but it is mainly my thing but we have a kind off modus vivendi: once a month we will do a major "surgery" with me being the guinea pig;-)

cheers

Utah

I tried explaining this to my wife. Unfortunately, she doesn't understand. She will not tell me anything about her doctor's visits and forbids me to go with her. Part of this is my fault as several years ago when we were trying to get pregnant I accompanied her to a gyno appointment. I was overcome with anxiety about not knowing what was happening in the room and I wanted to go in there with her. This led to an embarrassing moment with the nurse telling me I had to wait in the waiting room, which I did. Anyway since that day my wife will not tell me what goes on at the doctors other than, I got a prescription, I have to have an x-ray, etc. Never any details of the examination itself.

This drives me crazy as it fuels my aniexty even more. My wife thinks this is a jealousy issue. It is not. I am a detail oriented person and like to know every aspect of what is going on. Since I can't accompany her, I like the details so I can visualize the exam in my head. By her refusal to tell me, it makes it even worse.

She stated that she doesn't think she has to tell me about her appointment. Even after I explain to her that I can't get the thoughts out of my head as to what went on at the doctors and by her simply stating what happened would end my curiousity and also calm my anxiety, she refuses.

I am glad to see that I am not alone by having a partner that won't share information or allowing you to accompany them to their appointments.

So I finally told my wife of eight years about my fetish recently. How she didn't suspect it, I'm not sure. I really wasn't sure how it was going to go, she's not really into role play or anything else kinky plus she's in the medical profession. I was worried that she would be completely weirded out and would be conflicted with her professional ethics. But, she was surprisingly supportive. She understood that it's something I'm into and if it makes me happy, she would support and participate in it.

I told her, in large part, thanks to everyone's advice here on Zity. So, thanks every one!!!!! So far, we've had two role playing sessions. We are still learning the ropes and learning each others boundaries, but more exams to follow :-D She didn't even have a problem letting me go on a bit of a shopping spree for toys!!!

-T

P.S. Long time, First Time

Brilliant! I hope you will both continue to enjoy your role playing.

I've never even considered telling my partner. I don't think she'd be into it at all, and i'm pretty sure she'd think it was weird! I'd love to give her an exam, but it will never happen.

I would like to tell her. But I don't know if she would go for it.

I don't tell anyone about my fetish. Only here on this site.

As I'm active in the local kink community, my kinky brothers and sisters know.

Went with my wife to her OB/Gyn appointments while she was pregnant. While she was waiting for the doctor to come in she would tease me. After a short time it was obvious that i was enjoying it.

I have never had any luck telling any of my gfs about this.,, most want to turn and run..

In the past, my wife has said she would be interested, but nothing ever came of it.

My First Play partner was my best friend / also my first time sex partner. He and I both were intrested into BDSM from age 13. We talked hours and hours about how our first bdsm play will be like. He is very open minded and open to most of the kinks . We were once talking on phone and he asked me " you know all about my kinks , what about yours? there must be something except for bdsm right?"

I told him it will sound really weird if I tell You. He Said that he trusts me and it must be something very interesting. I told him that whenever we will meet I will let him know.

After two weeks he came at my home and I showed him all the medfet vedios and stories I had. He became so excited . Years later when we We had out first BDSM play it was followed by a exam scene. He laterwards became more interested in medical fetish and little less in BDSM.

I've come out to my current partner, and she's vey happy to play. Full medical scenes are rare, but elements of medical play (especially gloves and masks) are incorporated into sex very frequently. It helps that she's pre-Med and has a lot of the gear already. It helps even more that she's very open-minded and sex positive.

After getting out of a relationship with a woman who was less enthusiastic about the whole thing, I realized how important medfet was to me. For a while I felt guilty considering a willingness to do medfet play something that I was deliberately seeking in a partner. Now I'm glad I did.

I think the most important thing to remember when coming out is stressing how it's a way to increase intimacy and mutual pleasure.

I've told quite a few of my boyfriends over the years about my fetish and had mixed reactions. I always like to mention it pretty early on because I'm an open book and sex is a fun topic.

The guy that was most receptive to it was also into BDSM, so he'd tie me up and indulge me in play piercing. Not quite what I was after, but fun nonetheless. The worst reaction was from my first love, who was also coincidentally a virgin. He had his own fetish, so he was somewhat understanding at first. We also had pretty great sex, although we never played or talked much about my interests. By the end of the relationship, he'd changed his tune and was saying he couldn't compete with an object (syringe), and that it wasn't healthy. Apparently he didn't like me watching so much porn.

I've been with my current partner for five years, and I told him about what I was into maybe a month after we started dating. We haven't talked about it since. I don't see him becoming interested either because "he doesn't want to hurt me since he loves me." At least I know how to take care of my needs!

Personally i would never be with someone who wasn't kinky in the first place. I met my partner on the scene, and then told him what i was in to. Can't imagine having a vanilla relationship.

I told my wife early on in our marriage. I am not quite sure how I got the courage up to share something I thought I might be judged on. Initially she was pretty playful and we put together a medical bag of toys.