Expulsion etiquette

The expulsion is a very private experience for some and I prefer to do it alone if I am not well bonded with the giver. however, if we are doing a scene where I am submitting to a thorough cleaning out the element of control and humiliation can make the experience more satisfying.

My enemas have been solo during my first week of submitting to my fetish. I decided to record a session on my iPhone yesterday and spent the evening editing down to 36 minutes of footage.

If you would have asked me before then, I would have immediately said that expelling privately would be my choice. However, after watching myself go through the process during three rounds - I found it very interesting and satisfying to observe. Seeing the relief of physical and emotional tension and watching my swollen gut shrink back down to the sound of streaming water that seemed to go on forever gave me a new appreciation for this part of the experience.

Today my stand on the topic would be that if the other person had the desire for shared presence, I would be quite ok with it.

Of course it's easy for me to say that in my mind. Truth being, I'm not even certain how I will react if I even get the opportunity for an enema partner. May completely freak me out - lol.

If two people are totally intimate and trusting then I would think that watching a partner expel would not be a problem. It is part of the whole experience. Making a partner feel at ease and during expelling I would think make the experience a more shared experience.

If someone leaves and goes away into private for several minutes would seem to break the mood. Expelling in front of someone and feeling totally at ease by the enema giver as well as one expelling would seem to really make the experience much more satisfying and sensual.

Rule #1. Ivory soapsuds enema is a great way to control odor.

Rule #2. Agree beforehand on how you two handle expulsions.

Rule #3. The enema giver gets two votes, the receiver one vote.

Rule #4. Giver tell receiver what to expect and follow the script. Remember Win - Win.

Rule #5. Have fun sharing the experience. ?

As we've seen on this thread, different people have different philosophies when it comes to enema expulsions. Mine is pretty clear. When giving enemas to my patients, I do not want to watch them expel, and on those infrequent occasions when I receive, I don't want anyone watching me expel, either. I find the other parts of the process exciting -- the rectal exam preceding it, the nozzle insertion, the filling with water -- but the expulsion itself is definitely an unsexy moment (for reasons I could explain but should be obvious enough).

My wife and I always use a bed pan for expulsion

If I give a guy an enema I want to follow through and watch him expel!!!

I've never had an enema or gave someone an enema but if I ever did have an enema I wouldn't want anyone in the bathroom with me watching me or touching me while I'm using the bathroom and I wouldn't want to be in the bathroom with someone while they are "letting loose"

Our little community clearly has divided preferences on the expulsion issue, although I think most of us would agree that it's a matter for both (all?) parties involved to agree on ... with the possible exception of dominant/submissive lifestyles, which hopefully still involve consensual relationships. My personal preferences ... I enjoy seeing a woman expelling an enema; it excites me because I can totally empathize with what she's feeling inside (tummy discomforts, straining, messy bum, etc.) and with her feelings of vulnerability and exposure. Same when the shoe's on the other foot, I would welcome having a dominant woman invade my privacy at this vulnerable time. (Except if it's strictly business, like in a hospital, I prefer privacy.) Actually, I fantasize playing with a woman erotically while she expels, but I've never had the opportunity!

I posted this situation on a previous heading..After I had been given a large tap water enema by an x ray tech, prior to having a colon X-ray procedure, I was in the restroom expelling of course, when she came in to check on me. She was very nurturing and kind,which was a big turn on..The feeling of being totally helpless to do anything other than expel was awesome…This had to be the hottest, most sensual experience of my life…I was very vulnerable, yet turned on, and the tech was so compassionate and nurturing… She stayed almost the entire time i was expelling…..

I respect my partners feelings are far as being together during expulsion is concerned. I like having my partner there when I expel and like being there when my partner expels. I like to touch my partner when they're expelling and like my partner to touch be gently when I'm expelling. Yes I have been with partners who stayed with me when I expelled and allowed me to stay with them when they expelled. And I have been sucked by my partner when he was expelling but I prefer having him suck me while he's giving me an enema.

My partner and I have always felt that when expelling an enema we should have our privacy.

Well if it is your partner it is up to either of you as to how this happens and you should respect it. It has never bothered me either way. I mean sometimes you or your partner may have to jump up to the potty fast. The way I see it is that after time you and your partner will get use to doing things in front of each other.

In my younger days my partner always watched and vice versa. That was decided the first time she gave me an enema. We also had "other activities" while expelling. Those were the days.

I've had a partner volunteer to sit backwards on toilet so I could see expulsion. I do respect my partner's feelings about being together when one of us is expelling. I allow partners who prefer it to expel privately and I'll expel privately with partners that don't want to be there.

When we play, my wife gives me privacy to expel. I like that time to myself to enjoy the expulsion and relax.

This is one reason I insist upon complete privacy during an enema session.

THERE IS NO DIGNIFIED WAY to expel a properly retained enema!!

There is little dignity and often humiliation in retention.

Since there is no one in the bedroom and bathroom at any point after I get the bag out of the closet It makes no difference how I look, how hard I sweat or what noises I make.

As a result I don't worry about etiquette at any stage of the process. Only thing I focus on during expulsion is getting it all in the toilet!

Privacy please!

If I take an enema via a colonic speculum & large enhancer, so that after retention it drains into a jerry jug, there is very little to expel. After a session of two one gallon bags, i.e. fill from one bag, retain, drain, then fill from the second bag; almost everything will drain into the container after the drain valve is opened. I may have only a pint to expel in the toilet. So I don't care if I am alone or not.

Otherwise if I have taken an enema via a double balloon and the smell is really vile, I prefer to be alone and spair my emate.

I see nothing fascinating about someone voiding.

In general you check in with your partner and see what they would prefer.

Agree wit Moliere

My husband and I both respect each other's privacy when when expelling an enema. To each their own....if it is ok with your partner or spouse, I have not judgement...it is just not for us. Denise

Living in a small two bedroom one bathroom house growing up. With mom giving us enemas laying across a bed with each other. Once the first one got and held an enema for ten minutes, it was off to the bathroom. The second arriving in the bathroom, while the first was still on the toilet, and the third arriving while the second was still on the toilet, along with mom to fix our rinse enema. The only one that got any privacy at all, was the first one, and that was short lived. It was normal for us... We shared a bedroom, saw each naked most days, and shared a bathroom without a door lock, in various states of dress.

I'm not turning down a blowjob regardless of anything aside from me bleeding out and need immediate medical attention. That said I understand if I'm not offered one while expelling an enema. If my wife wanted to watch me expel or wanted me to watch her expel an enema I would not object and I can see why this would be kinda fun with it adding in an embarrassment factor.

Honestly though I'm fine with her just walking me to the bathroom with the still pumped up nozzle up my bum and than leaving me alone to tend to myself and just tell her when I'm done to proceed with more fun after I'm done. To sum it up I'm not into it but not really opposed to it either.

We’ve done expulsion in front of partner too increase embarrassment if that was the goal of the enema (bad behavior)

When hubby is involved in giving me an enema, he always respects my privacy and lets me expel the enema by myself. He stays only if I ask him to do so and those times are few and far between. The converse is also true. If I'm on the business end administering an enema, I'll let him have the privacy he needs while expelling.

For some, being on full display as one's bowel contents are emptied is part of the ritual...but that's not the rule at our house.

What is fascinating about our collective enema experiences is that we almost universally love the enema itself, but differ widely on preferred nozzles and whether or not we like to be on display through the process.

We are an interesting bunch!

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

Privacy during expulsion is expected and practiced in my family. I only remember two times when either a nurse or I remained in the bathroom. The first was when I had a home health nurse in my 20s, and I needed help physically due to my injuries. I was so embarrassed at first, but she had given plenty of enemas in her young career and seen everything. She said not to freak out at what was pouring out of me -- and the noise I was making, the awful noises and smells! I couldn't stand them either.

The only other time was with my older daughter Jen, then 17, who was very sick one night and was frightened and barely strong enough to hold herself on the toilet. She didn't want me to leave her alone, and I didn't, either. That was a tough night as a mom, but the enemas helped her feel much better when I put her to bed that we both hugged and cried.

Otherwise, whenever I've gave an enema, which is not often, I was always out the door but within shooting range in case I was needed. I never remember "inspecting' the remains -- only asking "did a lot come out?" And then deciding what to do, a second fill or not. Usually not. In most cases, it takes more than one sitting to expel first enema for relief, and stay close to the bathroom.

My husband and I both respect each other's privacy when when expelling an enema. To each their own....if it is ok with your partner or spouse, I have not judgement...it is just not for us. Denise

While I agree and respect @Denise, expelling, is, a very important part of the enema experience.

As the giver I like to be there with my mate if she should need any assistance, e.g. if she were to have a cramp, massage her shoulder, rub her cute enema belly. Also to see if she will need more. And oral sexting with your partner during, is a whole new pleasure

Being with your mate is the most intimate, loving, bonding of experiences. Yes, giving an enema is personal, being there is an expression of, true love, for both.

To me, I would want to be present when my partner is expelling her enema. All part of the total experience and closeness. Her giving oral at the same time sounds like such a wonderful experience.