Expulsion etiquette

I want to know if anyone does any of these, after giving their partners a good loving enema.

The do's and don'ts.

Should you accompany your partner to the loo, and watch her in all her glory as she expels.

And if you do tag along, do any of you ask for a nice loving blow job.

Or do you ask them to face the other way and watch the expulsion.

Most partners I've been with don't like being touched, but are will to do the blow job (taking it in one place as you let it out the other as I say)

Other than totally open enema childhood with my younger sister, my only other enema "partner" has been my wife. We are completely open with each other in the bathroom. I love to watch and listen to her pooping and peeing. She hates enemas but will give me enemas when ever I ask. But she much prefers to be gone when I expel. She'll come back in for re-fillings, but leaves each time. A few times she's stayed and helped me masturbate (soapy or with lotion) as I expel but those times are getting fewer and fewer. She'll allow me to fill her with suppositories and "assist" her in expelling - massaging her tummy, back and down to and around her anus. Once she let me masturbate her as she sat on the pot pooping. But she claimed she didn't like it - too hard to concentrate. I love to wipe her after she poops or pees, and she's becoming more comfortable with that. She's even returned the favor several times using medicated wipes for cleanliness. This may not be a direct answer to your question, just how it goes in our house.

I recently had a few enemas given to me by another person, and when it came time to "go", I just sat there on toilet and let it go! The guy that gave me the enemas was present and only a few feet away, seen and heard the whole thing.

Did I mind? Not at all.. I had hoped that that would be part of the scenario. I was glad that he didn't mind either.

In addition to him seeing me (naked) on the toilet after he had given me an enema, he saw my hard on sticking straight up, and he saw me play with it. I didn't try to hide or cover anything. He even saw me wipe my butt while I was standing up with my hard on pointing out in front of me!

The one partner that I had who I had multiple enema sessions with always wanted me in the bathroom with him so I could watch him expel. Both of us would be hard the whole time!

Only watch the expulsion if it is a total cleanout. Not otherwise!

If it is a total cleanout, you need to know, if it is a first enema, whether they got too much Epsom Salt, and for the later rounds, what came out and how much of it.

It comes down to whether you, as the giver need to know what the expulsions are like, or watch for bad side effects.

When a patient goes to the bathroom at my office, my firm rule is the bathroom door ALWAYS stays open and i'll usually stand outside in the hallway chatting or just walking by and checking in. many reasons for this such as 1) patient safety! if you need something or don't feel well just yell and i can help. 2) ease of communication, i just hate talking through a closed door. 3) SECURITY! had one patient go through my medicine cabinet and that freaked me out. being "snoopy" isn't cool.

Since neither my reluctant enemate husband nor I are into scat in any way, a small modicum of privacy while expelling seems appropriate to both of us. If we're alone in the house we usually leave the bathroom door open.

(Well, now that's a silly way to say it, Diane. If we're not alone in the house then we aren't trading enemas! :😃 )

We are both comfortable with the other's presence while on the biffy, but usually the one on their feet leaves the bathroom and gives the other privacy for a few minutes, at least early in the session. I think both of us get more comfortable being close to the other while expelling when the likelihood of encountering chunks has been virtually eliminated. After a few liters of good clean water have removed the smelly brown stuff entirely, the gross factor is gone, and aroma becomes a non-issue.At that point we get cozier.

Great title for this thread: Expulsion Etiquette. Interesting concept.

Hugs,

Diane

@ Dr Enema do u have to have a nurse present when giving a patient an enema?

Or can u do it alone. Do u ever get an erection when administering it urself?

One of the reasons I haven't let anyone give me an enema is because of the expulsion.

First, I'd be mortified if I leaked or had an accident.

Second, the sounds. When my ex-boyfriend had a bad case of food poisoning, he came out of the bathroom and said, "It sounded like a thousand ducks going over a waterfall." I can't get over that remark and would hate for anyone to hear me expel.

Third, I wouldn't want him to see any fecal matter coming from me. Even if there was just a little smudge on the nozzle, I'd feel ashamed.

Fourth, well, the odor. I've always been shy about that. In a house with six family members and one bathroom, there was little privacy. My father was a rather blue collar man and had a gross sense of humor. He'd make jokes about the odor when coming out of the bathroom or when going into the bathroom after someone else had been there. And if anyone was in a bad mood, his comment was always, "What's wrong with you? Are your hemorrhoids bugging you?" So due to all the immature, embarrassing scatological jokes, I've always been very private about bathroom matters.

To this day, I prefer to be the only one in the house, the door locked and the water running. If someone is in the house with me, I like them to be in a room far away from the bathroom and with the tv or music on. I'm just skittish about the whole elimination thing when it comes to bowel movements.

I'm not so shy about urinating. In fact, I tend to leave the door open when I go and will carry on conversations with friends. I don't really care who watches when I pee.

I never tag along with my play partner expels. He knows what he's doing so I let him have his privacy. I have no desire to see or smell anything that comes out of his body. Every now and then, when we play and I'm massaging his prostate or fisting him, there may be a little residual fecal matter or liquid and I'll just wipe it up, let him know there's a little mess left behind and send him into the bathroom to take care of it. It isn't really a big deal to me.

I once, ONCE, shut the door and stayed in the bathroom after giving an enema to a sub and made him expel in front of me. It was a BIG mistake. He had been constipated for three days and had eaten Mexican food the night before. I had a very small bathroom and it was not equipped to handle a smell that bad and that strong. I'm not sure which one of us was more miserable. Him expelling the three quarts and two Fleets or me suffering through it.

Now, I would not mind watching if the expulsion was clear. And in a Dom situation, I can see myself forcing a sub to expel in front of me. In fact, I plan on doing that when I find the right sub. I have a couple of scenarios in mind regarding enemas, pain, pleasure and humiliation and am looking forward to playing them out.

If you are outdoors with or without a partner, there is no privacy. That's part of the fun, just let it go. No mess, no bad ordors ( at least not for long). Great game to see who during multiple sessions is clear first.

@ egirlky #9 ... damn girl, you have enema and expulsion issues 😉

Expat - Yes, I do. I realize that.

When the lady sits down iw ant her to have my finger on her clitoris to enjoy if she took the enema at least i can help her enjoy the whole event especially if she reaches for the cock and enjoys it for a while

@ egirlky ... where u forced potty trained by any chance?

Funny, since being in south africa now for a few years, I find the women I've dated and shagged, are not into having their feet caressed or sucked, and certainly not their assholes rimmed. No matte how sexy their assess and feet are, or how typsy they get.

And when they do get constipated, some for. Up to 2-3 days, they take laxatives like dulcolax, or rooibos tea (some herbal thing). Also they have ads on tv here, but after 9pm ish, for the tea and kellogs all bran , with some personality hilding her tummy and being 'regular'.

No, potty-training was normal, I assume. I don't recall any differently and I was the 4th child in the family so I'd like to think they worked out the kinks before they got to me.

It mainly has to do with embarrassment from my father and of my father. His humor is very low-class and made for an unpleasant childhood.

"I have a couple of scenarios in mind regarding enemas, pain, pleasure and humiliation and am looking forward to playing them out."

Care to share your scenarios?

Only two people have ever given me enemas neither watched me expel, they each just stayed in their room and got ready for the next.

I've given a few to my lady and I let her expel in private, after the first enema or two I would be unopposed to her watching me or being in the bathroom while i expel.

To expel in private or not is to be decided by the individuals involved in the scene. What is permitted or considered good ettiquette should be decided on an individual basis and may be different for the same partners at different times.

As far as finding feces on the nozzle when it is removed, if you play in the back, sooner or later, you are going to find feces. It's just part of the scene and unavoidable at times.

My husband and I are very open with each other. We have no problem using the toilet in front of each other, however, if either of us had had digestive troubles because of spicy foods or other problem, we will allow the other to have a closed door. Furthermore, why would anybody engage in enema fun if they are having a digestive disorder which could make the experience "unpleasant?"

If an enema experience is supposed to be unpleasant and distasteful, it should be because it will be fun, not unpleasant because the receiver is ill.

Oh, God, no. I can't share. Not yet anyway. I wouldn't let the cat out of the bag, so to speak before he has the chance to live them out. I don't want him to know what he's in for.

I'm glad to hear that you've found yourself a wonderful enemate to share in the pleasures of enemas with. Lucky you. To you both. And shame on you for not meeting me when you had the chance and letting me give them to you. 😄

~ Dianne

My wife was a nurse, When it looked like an accident may result on the way to the bathroom she insisted I use a bedpan.

My past experience has evolved into the woman being given an enema with a double balloon and then when the scene calls for it, she does NOT expel..she is drained through the still inserted and inflated balloon...the draining is a highly submissive act as she has no control over the speed or the amount she is being drained as I have control over that aspect. For the submissive woman, this can be a really erotic part of her enema. Usually, at this point she is bound and unable to control the amount she has received or how long she will hold it. To many, this may be hard to imagine or even seem cruel...however...for those that crave this type of D/s, it is very sensual

I fully understand and share egirlky's issues with taking and expelling enemas. I feel exactly the same way. I've been playing with the same wonderful man for three years and only during the most recent play session have i found myself anywhere near the point of enjoying an enema. He's been gently persistent and incredibly understanding and that is starting to pay huge benefits. Who know, maybe next time we play, we'll have the ultimate breakthrough and I'll actually enjoy it.

Anyway, back to the topic. It (almost) goes without saying that what goes in must come out. It's a simple fact of life. If a couple is sharing the relatively close quarters of a hotel room, one or the other is likely to hear or see something. When I administer to my partner, he prefers to expel privately with the bathroom door closed. He is very considerate and generous with the use of air freshener. When he's done expelling, he cleans the bag and nozzle so it's ready for the next use.

The first time he evert administered to me, he stayed with me during the expulsion. Was I mortified? Yes. But he wanted me to understand that expulsion is merely a bodily function, like all the others and not a big deal. He also wanted to be there to reassure me and make sure that I was okay since i have some health issues. For the most part, he gives me all the privacy I need but quite frequently inquires as to whether I'm okay. I know if he didn't get an affirmative answer, he'd be in that bathroom in a skinny minute.

Do I enjoy expulsion? Not particularly, but it is part of the process. A dose of consideration between the partners involved can make a huge difference.

As switchablesuzie said its inevitable that if you play around the back door you are going to see feces sooner or later. however since you are playing around the back door it shouldnt bother you that much if an accident does happen. that being said what i have done to try and avoid accidents like that is to do at least one or two enemas before i am to be with a person. the person im with also does this and so when we meet and enjoy enemas together the chances of a major accident are signifigantly lowered. then when we expell together if that is something we decide to do there usually is no foul odor or embarrassing accidents. just mostly clear water and air.

I think there is a disconnect between the different stages of enema. Expulsion can be a loud, messy affair and I like it in private. But to each his/her own.

I prefer to be alone for the expulsion which is exactly why my mistress will accompany me for the expulsion following me in for the pure humiliation of it. She stays for the first few and loudest moments, makes her comments and will leave for privacy to clean up. The first time I ever had someone in the toilet with me following an enema was a sadistic New York e-nurse. She followed me in to the bathroom, told me to spread my legs and hold my arms to the side. She then put her foot on my stomach and pushed as I expelled. What fond memories of that...

I think that some privacy while expelling is a good idea. While many of us have the pleasure of an enemate, their role is in the administering, but once that enema is inside of you and does its thing, the rest is up to just you.

I can remember being given an enema while growing up and as usual I had moaned and complained about not only having to have one but insisting that I didn't need it, but was given it just the same. As I sat there making a very noisy expulsion, my mother, who was still in the bathroom cleaning up the enema bag, commented "and didn't you tell me that you didn't need an enema tonight?" It made everything doubly embarrassing and nobody has witnessed my expulsions since.

I think that is a decision that should be made by the people involved.

I think some privacy is good but especially at the start.

Sometimes my wife will stay, especially if I have been loudly complaining of being backed up. She will was and rinse the bag and hose but really just wants to make sure i really needed the enema

I think it depends on the situation and the people involved.

As for myself, beeing a guy that enjoys both giving and getting enema, I do like to have company when I expel - IF the person giving me the enema is comfortable with that.

When I give an enema to someone I do like to stay and make sure everything goes ok, and that the guy feel ok during the entire experience. Again IF the person getting the enema is comfortable with that.

With that said I don't like to see or show anything coming out unless it's a clean flow of water. I'm not easily disgusted so smell is no problem. If there is anything that bothers me is if the enema partner feels uncomfortable with something.