How Do You Like Your Anal Sex... Pleasure or Pain

I get the most pleasure by seeing her enjoyment... When anal hasn't gone as well, I feel horrible for trying it.

OK for me Mrs L. A good long massage on our massage table with oils slowly working my butt cheeks and my inner thighs slip a vibrator under me between my legs bring me to a orgasm ,still continue my massage slowly slide a finger in me now I'm needing it wanting more by this time I've had my 2nd orgasm .now in want it hard and deep .taking Mr. L cock analy isn't easy he is pretty big but by this time he's slamming my ass 😉

It really is a matter of trust. If your lover trusts you to provide mutual pleasure, they will be able to receive anal attentions as pleasure. If on the other hand, a lack of trust will frustrate both players and cause pain and an indifferent experience at best. Pace

I remember first attempts with a guy were hurting long time ago. Then at one time I really wanted it so I let it happen and it was great, a little pain at first, but then the pain became pleasurable pain.

Afterwards I felt my sore butt for two days, but it also made me remember the pleasure I had.

Now I don't have pain and work my way up.

Lube is very important and so is slowly inserting toys, or dick. I enjoy from the slow movement.

Well, my guy’s penis is really small so there is never any pain with his personal insertion. But sometimes I will let him use my strap-on in order to feel something larger and to experience what he feels when I do him. That causes some pain at first, from the stretching, but it also feels pleasurable and I like the sensations.

I suspect that this depends on the recipient's attitude. I can remember at least three lady friends who had "constructive" attitudes about anal sex, and with them, they were so willing and open, that lube wasn't even necessary for shared comfort and pleasure. Others, a gallon of lube wasn't enough. Which leads me to the conclusion that there are really three modalities to anal sex: I love it and want it, and can make the act fit the need, either pleasurable, or painful as the psyche demands, or no, I don't wanna, and you can't make me, and I'll spoil it for both of us. Personally, if it hurts, don't do it. Pain is God's way of telling us not to do it that way. Sex of any flavor should bring extraordinary pleasure, and if it doesn't, you're not doing it right.

In my experience it can be enjoyable if a man uses lube and takes time to make you comfortable.

As we have aged into the menopausal years, my wife enjoys spooning and then pressing into my penis so she control the dilation of her anus. She does not enjoy pain. She's the one that always initiates it (I've learned not to ask, because it is a no-go when she's not in the mood). We use a thick-heavy lube and she will wiggle and push until I'm pressed up against her bottom tightly. Then, we just drift together for a long time, enjoying the sensations. She likes me to kiss her neck, and smooth back her hair. The motion is kept to a minimum, but just enough to keep me hard as a rock. She likes the full feeling and I like the hot, squeezing feeling. When she is ready she will apply her Hitachi Wand to her clitoris, and then it's impossible for me to keep still and I will thrust gently; in slow but firm, and withdraw more quickly. When I feel her anus squeezing me in hard waves, I know she is climaxing, and it never fails to push me over the edge. Then we just drift again until I am soft and her body pushes me out.

Wow colontherapist, what a nice way to have anal sex. Both sexy and romantic!

I like anal sex, not all the time but occasionally. When I'm in the mood it needs to be slow and easy. No pain only pleasure. If you go too fast too soon and there's pain we're done. Pain is the biggest turn off there is

Well penetrating anyone's unsuspecting anus is simply abusive. I personally enjoy being a bottom with a considerate partner. My first experience was pretty painful because neither of us knew what we were doing. When I want good hard pounding, I'll let my partner know. That's part of the fun.

For me it depends upon my mood. There are times when I want it a little rough and the light pain is delicious! Other times I want it slow, taking time to get me loosened up - those times I could (it seems like) go for hours. Regardless of how, I always like some dirty talk - helps to set the mood.

Absolutely no pain is my goal when I penetrate a woman. I want it to be pleasurable for both. Lots of lube is a must. But most important I try to make the woman on the receiving end to relax their anus. This is where I think foreplay is important. You start with a finger and then slowly work to up to two. You can feel the her anus start to open and relax. Also I like to work the clit at the same time so that it can get her close to cuming before I start penetrating her ass.

Lastly, I go slow and take as long as necessary to penetrate by having her tell me when to push and advance. Her ass will eventually open to take the whole penis; slow strokes are best to start with before getting up to full speed.

BUT you have to be prepared to stop if it hurts. If this becomes a painful experience, it will be the last time you do this. So do it right so you both can enjoy it from the very first time. A good first experience means more anal intercourse in the future.

OMG I love anal sex ! When with a man I love the pain of the head of his penis streaching my rosebud SLOWLY again and again Than him going faster & deeper.Feeling his balls slap my ass. I do enjoy some pain.

It's just as much fun to take as it is to give. I'll take whichever. The only requirement is that we both enjoy the experience. If that doesn't happen, then we can use some toys until it does. I'm finding there are more and more straight men who enjoy a good deep ramming and cramming themselves.

I love when my husband rams my ass and gives me pain from anal.I love when he tells me its gona hurt and tells me to take his cock in my ass.I love when he makes me scream and cry and he fucks it even harder.

It does not have to be hard and fast to feel great. I prefer recieving long, slow, deep thrusts. The long, slow pull out, right to the tip, and then a long slow insertion over anbd over again makes me loose my mind. And then I cum all over his belly.

Amen brother, well said!

Pleasure and pain are not mutually exclusive in anal play. Only that everyone has a fair measure.

I like a little pain. I love having my bottom stretched but when I am close to orgasm, I prefer it hard and fast. Maybe I'm a little weird.

My wife and I do not like it painful (we do it both ways, she uses a dildo on me). So it's very progressive with lots of lube.

We both like the somewhat submissive feeling, the feeling of the anus opening and "yielding"...

I think the combination of some pain and a lot of pleasure make anal sex very exotic. My fascination with enemas led me to experience anal sex. Having experimented many times I found most of it unsatisfying until I was treated a to a great fuck, being forced into submission, and used long and hard. It changed the way I related to women as I experienced what it's like to be used and pleasured.

I've had great experiences with anal sex. It's amazing when done with a partner who has patience. I remember my first time I was slightly drunk but my partner at the slightest twinge of pain.he pulled out the squirt bottle of lube. And since then I've been hooked. Granted I've had some painful experiences thereafter but none of my men were so inconsiderate or obvious to ignore my pain and try to continue to ram their way in.Anal ??

I think I'm obsessed with anal. At one point I enjoy more anal than regular sex but only when done right and right means the way I like. He have to listen to me and not do it just for his pleasure.

That's why when comes to anal I actually prefer to be on the top and control a little more the whole situation.

I love anal! Love it when I'm on all fours and get a good butt teasing followed by a slow, careful insertion. The longer I do it I seem to loosen up. Dirty talk heightens the mood.

It depends on my mood but it changed during time as well. First I would have been too afraid when a bit of pain started, so my introduction was very slow with lots of cream and this was going on for a while. Now I have to admit I sometimes like it more rough with a good portion of dirty talk, although it makes me blush...

I'm a bit like Holditin, if I'm penetrating a woman, it's up to her, but if I'm playing alone, or being pegged, I like some pain, hard and fast is wonderful.

I LOVE enemas and large dildoes in my ass.I use a Dr. Johnson 18in. double- end dildoe,and can take all of it without any problems.I would like to take a large dick and cum enema.I love all things anal! I like to give enemas and be top also. inEmeX7.

I definitely like anal sex for the pleasure. My anal organisms are incredibly intense and I really do enjoy anal as much as vaginal sex. It takes a while to get me ready which is all part of the excitement. Love the feeling of a finger sliding up my ass, then as I relax sometimes a dildo or butt plug to prepare for my partners penis. He is not small so at first there is always some discomfort which gives way to incredible pleasure.

Last weekend he finally got a large glass butt plug to fit, then slide his penis in my vagina. Wow! It felt amazing!

Anal sex does not have to be painful. The women I have had anal sex with love it and it had nothing to do with pain.

I have received anal sex (with strapons so far... still waiting for real), and it is not about pain either... It can be very pleasurable!!