How Do You Like Your Anal Sex... Pleasure or Pain

Want to experience pleasure! have to trust your partner will be tuned into your needs and be very patient. helps to know they really genuinely want to please you.

Anal sex is still on my "bucket list" of things to do. I've had plenty of dildos in my rectum over the years but never the real deal or a strap-on so far. This is one of the things I'm trying to make happen.

My vision is of a slow, sensual anus massage to loosen things up followed by more anal insertions of fingers, dildos etc leading up to the main event. I would enjoy a slow, sensual pace to start and then picking up the pace as the nerve endings respond and the sphincter relaxes for a more thorough rectal massage leading to a grand orgasm. I envision a lithotomy position to experience my first attempt to visually take-in all the action causing such grand feelings in my then heightened state of arousal.

My first experience with anal was very painful. My boyfriend and I were having missionary sex, when he asked me to turn over. I love doggie so I immediately complied. He asked me to arch my ass up a bit and I thought that sounded nice, so I did. He entered vaginally and got me wet, then eased out covered in my juices and pressed his cock up against my anus. I tried to move away but he pushed me down and pushed his cock into me. Not the best intro to something that I now love. Over time, and with his understanding that LUBE and fingering are GOOD things, I learned to really enjoy it, and I now like mine more on the pleasurable side for sure.

Pleasure.

Pain is a sign that you are doing something wrong or that you are simply not relaxed enough.

My first experiences with anal were agonizing. But now I love it.

In fact receiving anal is absolutely the best sort of sex for me.

For me there's nothing so good as the feeling of being massively penetrated, either by a big dildo or my lover's hand.

Pleasure. My ex allowed me to penetrate her ass multiple times but before that we had to take it really slow because she couldn't handle the pain. Once we got a nice rhythm going tho she found it very pleasurable. I will admit it was hard not to be selfish and go at my own pace for my own pleasure!

My husband and I love anal sex, and often our experiences last an hour or more--I'm talking continuous thrusting. It's beyond pleasure . . . it's heaven. I'm easily aroused anally, so we add some lube and get busy. I can completely relax with him and avoid any pain. I can't imagine not having frequent anal activity.

I think that the best part about anal sex is the preperation. For me it is a great pleasure to to touch and explore the area of the girl with me. I think that it is important to start an anal session very gently at first. To use the fingers and maybe a good lubrication. This is a very intimic and a special moment. The sex itself is just a bonus.

I ve found that when i had slow and baby oil lubricanted anal pleasuring,it was a mixture of gasping bliss and stretching soreness as my lover had a very wide cock and tho he was slow and gentle i could still feel that id been taken the next morning,but it was a nice pain. Du

On my back my ass up and my legs wraped arouned my wife as she fucks my ass with a big strapon

As we like to play with large toys, there's a little pain before the intense pleasure takes over........Aaaaaaah......

I like it to be pleasurable HOWEVER depending upon the mood, there are times when it starts off a little painful and it eventually leads to a more magnified pleasure. I definitely enjoy a spanking along with anal sex when I'm in that submissive BDSM type of a mood. The combination of pain from the spanking and pleasure heightens the experience and can take the anal sex to another level of enjoyment. Other than that, I'm not into pain.

We go for pleasure. We use a slow dilation method that works great. I don't like that wham, bamm thank you mam kind of stuff. I have this pink glass dilator we use. A sequence of balls that get bigger as the dilator goes deeper. It's about ten inches long. Once it's up to the last bead which is about 1 3/8 inches in diameter it's time to slowly remove it and slip in the real business. Passionate and slow anal sex is my absolute favorite. I like vaginal sex however I say anal is my favorite. I want those slow, deep in my body orgasms that only anal sex can provide for me.

As a guy, I love to use slow lubrication and dilation as foreplay. The anticipation builds and builds for both parties.

Slow and steady wins the race. I had an ex who finally consented to try it but her "get it over with" attitude stopped her from being able to relax or get any penetration with out pain. I'd say pleasure has to be the way to get it started, then the girl herself will let you know when she wants it rough(or she'll show you rather).

Anal has always been pleasurable to me , both giving and receiving. My first wife however hated it, probably because it was one time in life she didn't feel she was completely in charge of everything that was happening. She loved using a strap on on me, especially getting rough but when it came to me penetrating her anus you'd think I was using my 1917 Enfield rifle and Bayonet. Hardly worth the trouble. My second wife liked anal occasionally (discussed in another post ) and grew to like it more the longer we were married she still had problems with it that went back to the fact that her first husband (a Viet Vet with PTSD problems) had gone off the deep end fairly regularly and would beat her and dry rape her anally for things like breaking the yoke on his egg at breakfast. She was however fantastically orgasmic and when we did have anal she had the most fantastic anal multi-orgasms I've ever seen.

My current wife thoroughly enjoys anal and usually wants to initiate it herself several times a month as well as when we have anal as part of a BDSM session. She does however have the occasional constipation problem that creates a problem that she doesn't like to tell me about.

I've been very fortunate to train several women through the years to not only enjoy anal sex but to teach them of the pleasure of an anal orgasm and ejaculation. One of these women tells me that now anal is her favorite way to orgasm, much stronger than vaginal alone, but also the only way she is able to "squirt" and have massive orgasms. She now loves anal fisting and what she achieves when she orgasms that way is truly remarkable.

Is it just my observation, or have some of you also noticed that BBW's (which I prefer anyway) seem to be more easily trained to become anally multiorgasmic, as well as more apt to ejaculate on orgasm?

To me, anal sex is all about the pleasure. If there is pain, it's time to stop and determine what's wrong.

Lots of lube and lots of love make anal sex one of the most enjoyable activities I can think of. The orgasms are more intense and longer lasting than with vaginal intercourse...and getting ready for a nice love making session with several enemas only adds to the fun!

I have to mine solo. I have had a woman use a strapon and with it in her hands. She slowly eased it in and out until she used one bigger : ) Best sex experience I have ever had. Pleasure for me please. I am not into pain. Gentle, tender kindness enjoyed by both.

I like just a little bit of warm up when my wife uses the strapon so that full entry isn't extremely painful. Once in, I like be fucked hard, fast and rough with long strokes until/while I cum.

I love getten it in the ass. On my knees in doggy or on my back. It don't matter to me.

I like it as well, it's a mix of pleasure and pain - that's what I enjoy about it.

For me anal sex should be painful and a bit scary - it's all about being dominated, raped. It's all about a strong person "doing" a weak person, not just "using" them, but reducing them to shit (aka "do") by invading their shit-passage.

Which is something we learn as "normal" from babyhood - from being given suppositories and enemas - only here the "tools" are different.

And if you're not left with sore external hemorroids, fissures bleeding, and a few cuts and bruises elsewhere...it's just not complete is it!

I'm not into causing pain when having anal sex with a woman. It should be a really pleasurable experience for both parties, and performed gently and with tenderness.

Anal sex should be a painful or pleasurable as the two people want.

There are no rules on this.

Each to his/her own as they say. My philosophy is that it should be enjoyable and agreeable to both parties involved, and not a one-sided proposition.

. . . . If you love someone, you try to give her pleasure;; not pain!

Well, not always! 😁 😈

For me, whether giving or receiving, it has to be pleasure every time. If it hurts there is something wrong (although I know some people get off on the pain) Plenty of lube, nice & slow & that magic monent as my knob first enters a womans tight anal ring - can't think of many things better. As quite a young man a lady taught me that a condom helps things go more smoothly (as well as helping guard against STIs) So giving or receiving I'll go for gentle! Just wish I could be on the end of a sensuous strap on more often...

My wife likes the pleasure not pain. Take a lot of foreplay and a lot lube and patience for sure. Just my two cents

Sex is pleasure, foreplay can include pain

I personally can deal with some pain because I understand my body and how it will eventually turn to pleasure. It's funny because my wife comments on how large some of the toys she uses on me are and I reassure her that she isn't going to hurt me. Depending how fast things are moving with my wife, sometimes there may be a bit of pain that she feels initially, but that's not typical. If there is any pain, it doesn't last long due to clitoral and nipple stimulation which naturally relaxes the anus.

I always do my best in order to make anal sex as pleasurable as possible for my partner and me, I never have anal without been ready for.