Does Age Really Matter

You have a very good point...I hate seeing people with bad teeth and would not consider them a likely candidate for a mate..some things are dealbreakers.Everyone has their limits and it doesn't mean that the person is not a good person.If we all liked the same thing..it would be boring!

Yep, I'm with you. And no tufts of ear hair, wayward nose hairs, etc. Essentially, I'm attracted to men who are well-groomed and maintain themselves like I maintain myself. Personality and sensuality aside, there is also a physical side to attraction - at least for me.

And, Mother Nature is Mother Nature. Sometimes she can be fooled, but I think most (not all) people are only fooling themselves if they think they are physically like someone 20 years younger.

It depends i have done it with a 36 year old girl that looked like she was 25 and i was 18 i think it should matter on ur minds age not ur bodies age

If I were receiving an enema, age of the giver is not as important as experience. Some are good at what they do no matter what the age.

I guess my age and experience would classify me as being an older enema giver.

I personally feel age is a HUGE issue. I think the stereotype pictures in our minds of older people, stop budding relationships, quickly. I mean, old guys are all bald, potbellied, soft bodies, right? Older women all sag in the wrong places, right? Walt

Well these are generalizations, Mule, but in most cases, it's reality (versus stereotyping), whether we like it or not. Obviously, there are always exceptions.

For me, age can matter - in both directions, younger and older. That's why I tend to stick to my guideline of +/- five years age difference. It's not a hard rule, but a guideline that seems to work best for me.

I wrote about an experience with a guy 14 years my senior, here's a flip side experience.

There was one young man I met when I was 44. He was 24 and the son of one of the VCs I was working with. There was such a strong and completely natural bond between us...words cannot describe it. I remember when we both realized this - it was at lunch and there was a deep and sudden connection - like time stood still with a bolt of lightening or something all rolled into one. Sounds crazy, but again, words cannot describe this. It was unexpected and amazing at the same time. Anyway, I didn't use this as an opportunity to get involved with younger and very hot guy - and I could have. Instead, we forged a wonderful friendship. He even told his father that I was like a second mom to him. His dad, who is my age, thought it was cool - we talked about it. It wasn't inappropriate and to this day, 6 years later, we remain good friends. I attended his wedding and am so proud of him.

Arianna

As we get older,as in my case the choices of age ,plus or minus becomes a little slimmer,especialy when in comes to sexual performance.

When I first met my wife in 1967,she was a sixteen year old kid who lived down the street.At that time I was 32yrs old and had just bought the house from the owners who were friends of the kid I married some 17yrs later.The sixteen year differance did not seem to matter much when we married because my wife was 33yrs and I was 49yrs in 1984, and today we are still crazy about each other even though we do not share or do enemas.

The purpose of my thread,Does Age Really Matter was to find out if others on this site felt the same way as I do about having a lasting loving relationship even though their ages where quite apart.

Let the good times FLOW.w/m73yrs/Western Ma

I think it can work BUT it is hard.I lived the age diff for over 15 yrs. and I just couldn't do it anymore.This is from MY perspective-not someone elses'.I personally wouldn't do it again because it was very difficult for me-maybe not from his perspective but nonetheless,I needed out to be with someone closer to my age diff and compatabilty.How we got together is beyond me as my mom thought it was a good idea.Mmmmm.... :😃

I think age matters more if the man is older than if the woman is older. I know a couple of guys in their early 50s who have gone the young "trophy" wife route and they now have a wife in her early 30s and a couple of preschoolers crawling around the house. I'm 64 and the last thing I want is a wild-ass teenager who just got their driver's liscense to deal with while possibly looking at college tuition and weddings to pay for. Besides that trophy wife will probably still have a healthy libido at 50 and he will be pushing 70.

The wives would never have married these older guys if they didn't have plenty of money so "till death do us part" are just empty words.

It's different if a younger guy marries an older woman. I have a 35 year old nephew who married a 45 year old woman. She is about the youngest looking 45 year old I have ever seen, very petite with long flowing blond hair. She still gets asked for an ID occasionally when ordering a drink. I don't see age being an issue as they get older.

I don't want to reduce relationships to just one's sex drive but it is a big consideration.

For sex, I don't think it matters. There's a trade off. Older men are generally more experienced and patient, and willing to put their partner's pleasure first. Younger ones, on the other hand, generally have more interest and energy. (I'm gonna get flamed for that, I know it.)

BUT- as far as relationships go, I am convinced that age matters a great deal. When there's an age difference between a couple, it's hard for them to agree on life priorities. I have to admit, I am biased, because I was hurt very badly in my last relationship by someone ten years younger than me. Sigh* I never set out to be a cougar, it just happened.

Anne-let me tell you from experience!My ex was 20 years older but not any better in the sex department!In the 15 years together,he maybe 10 times did oral as he didn't like it.I was very frustrated as he sure wanted it done for him!Not a good trade on my part.He may have been more patient but not very good.As I said,this has been my experience-not anyone else's. :'(

Ouch!!!.... Ya'll are slipping off onto some difficult truths. Personally, I would hope that we are trading off some of the loss of stamina (little blue pills notwithstanding -- that would be cheating)for wisdom, style and grace. Now you tell me that "not very good and getting older" still counts only as "not very good" rather than improving with age. Sigh -- I hope that we can, indeed, learn a few things that makes a "vintage" male a positive friend and partner. That said...I continue to agree with you that in terms of overall relationship it's nice to hold closer birthdays. Shared life experiences, understandings and expectations yield a comfort level that helps to support all else. (Still -- a generational departure either direction can be spicy.) Thanks for sharing even if the truth sometimes pricks us with it's sharp barb.

I don't mean to say that older men aren't any good...it just depends on the person's experience and how it imprints them for future relationships.Sorry!I'm sure there are good ones out there...it's just I won't want to do it again.I'm thinking maybe this topic should be labeled"sticky"!lol.The end! 😁

I guess the truth is when dealing with individuals, it's hard to generalize.

I've had two relationships with significantly older men. Though they didn't want sex as often, it was my experience it was better when it happened, as far as being adventurous, and getting ME off first, every time!

My last boyfriend was the only seriously younger guy I've been with, and he was like a machine. But the inexperience showed, alot.

With youth comes energy; with age comes experience. Personal preferences matter and what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another.

Timeless. It works the same for everyone; fill, dump.

I agree with Harry, i think we get better with age , and experience does count ..

Two words: Bogart and Bacall.

I don't feel that age is very important. I think the type of person they are is much more significant. If I "click" with someone, I don't think it matters if she's older or younger.

I am 65. My wife is 61. She would kill me if I wanted to find out I was looking for a younger woman to give me an enema. Not that the idea has not crossed my mind at times.

If I receive. it can not be by anyone a lot younger tahn myself. I prefer a more mature woman.

Here's a sigh from all us men in our 40's. Personally I think age is a state of mind. I find women of my own age, of younger ages and of more advanced years all can be quite alluring. W

I think age doesn't really matter. However, a person's mentality, personality and interests really matter. One could be young but having an older mindset or vice versa. So it's all about chemistry.

Age doesn't matter to me...I hope i will some day have the chance to insert a lubricated gloved finger inside the anus of a man...and bring him pleasure.

Age doesn't matter to me...I hope i will some day have the chance to insert a lubricated gloved finger inside the anus of a man...and bring him pleasure.

----southwest huh?---hmmmmmmm

I think age doesn't really matter. However, a person's mentality, personality and interests really matter. One could be young but having an older mindset or vice versa. So it's all about chemistry.

I knew I should have paid more attention in school. I failed second semester of Chem I, but aced Anatomy and Physiology. 😄.

Age doesn't matter to me...I hope i will some day have the chance to insert a lubricated gloved finger inside the anus of a man...and bring him pleasure.

Even without a glove, it's pretty fun. See above statement. 😄

I find that age doesn't matter all that much. But, and I can't help it, I find that body proportion does matter. I am really put off by grossly overweight men (I am gay and prefer men.) I just cannot get past all of those rolls and folds. I'm sorry and I don't mean to put people down but I prefer HWP.

Age should not matter in a perfect World. This is not a perfect World therefore it does matter. I think that is a shame but that is the way it is from my prospective.

AGE MATTERS. Maybe not in an already committed relationship, BUT if you are LOOKING, it sure as hell does MATTER. Walt

My female patients aren't thinking about my age when I'm peforming a gyno exam, about to take an RT, administer an enema or two, perform a rectal/lower colon exam, or as I'm filing a syringe for an injection.