Anal sex

Would you believe that years ago I dated a man who had never tried anal sex and who didn't have any interest in doing it at all? It was the worst. I have never heard of a woman having to convince a man to give her anal sex. Most men would jump at the chance. But he said he'd been perfectly happy with the choice of orifices he'd had for his past 48 years and he didn't see any reason to try anything else. He was happy with vaginal sex and blow jobs and I couldn't convince him otherwise. Well, he was a big pain in the ass outside of the bedroom, so maybe it was just as well. 😃

I love anal sex, too, but don't get it as often as I would like. The ladies who refuse to try it don't know what they're missing. There is something sexy about having a man, and pardon the expression, balls deep in my tight ass. Totally primal and totally hot. I just love it. Especially bareback so I can feel his hot semen spurt deep inside me. I can feel his orgasm much stronger in my bottom and there's nothing quite like those tell-tale spasms followed by the warmth shooting inside me. Damn, now I'm hungry for it all over again...

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I love it with or without enemas but it is nice to know that you are cleaned out

I've been a fan of anal sex for decades. Over the years, I've met several men who wanted no part of it (even with a condom). Go figure! The men I've been with who hadn't tried it before and decided to take the plunge, thorougly enjoyed it. They also learned that it wasn't "messy." Perhaps this is the concern for guys who don't want to try it...the potential mess/unpleasantness. As we all know, if the receiver is prepared, there is nothing unpleasant or messy about it.

Thinking about this, if I were a male doing anal bareback, I wouldn't want my penis to be covered in fecal matter.

Arianna

Anal sex can hurt a lot if your partner is not considerate. A frantic attempt to push a large dick into an unprepared ass hurts-believe me I know. But a gentle approach, plenty of lube well fingered in. A comfortable togetherness -candles -wine all make me ready and willing to enjoy and welcome my partner into me

I began enemas about 10 years ago as a way to prepare for anal play. I am a bit of a clean freak there. I like to fast for at least two days and then give myself two large enemas early in the day before we play back there. This gives time to void and absorb all liquid. My hubby enjoys anal play with me but is not at all interested in the enema part. I wish he was interested but just not his thing. I have found the excitement of the preparation and the the mental experience really turns me on. I often do enemas just for myself now. As for anal play lots of lubrication and take your time. Complete relaxation is needed to enjoy it I think.

In high school my girlfriend only wanted anal sex everyday of the year. We had anal sex at school, under the bleachers, cafeteria and even once in the vice principles office. She had the most perfect ass I have ever seen or had. She always never wore pantys and a mini dress or shorts. What i guess made more erotic is that she had the fullest bush and it was incredible.. After high school she married and never saw her again.

In addition to using lots of lubrication and going slow, I would add foreplay, preferably the kind that brings on an orgasm. For some reason, that relaxes my anus for penetration.

My favorite position is on my side. I like to enjoy the sensation of the penis in my rear without a lot of thrusting action. The side position is also more relaxing...my husband can fondle my breasts and clit while I lie there and enjoy that wonderful, full sensation of his cock up my ass, waiting to feel his semen release....oh my, starting to get in the mood....LOL

Every film that includes anal action means an enema for the lady, this should get more play

It is not a have to thing for me to do with a lady. I have had anal sex with a female a few times but vaginal sex is my thing . For me it is always up to the lady.

I only had anal sex once (getting it in MY behind) from an actual live penis, and like Aprilfirez's mine HURT. Also, it was a very humiliating experience. That was 27 yrs. ago.

I had always been curious about like you are, before the time I had it, & I'm still curious about it now, even though I have tried it and didn't enjoy it. It may be kind of odd but although I didn't care for it at the time, now it is often part of my masturbation fantasies. Although I cannot explain fully why, my mind often flashes back to the time I was hunkered down on all fours while this BIG (big COCK!)guy pounded away at my ass from behind. I moaned, complained, and he'd reach around under me and jerk on my hard dick, telling me to hold on, bear with it, you're liking it.

I had always liked an occasional toy up my butt (including & especially enemas) before I took the dick up my ass, and I still like enemas & occasionally toys now. The enemas are my favorite.

I've often thought about trying actual anal sex again, but the next time I will be sure that it's with a much smaller, gentler person! BTW, I've had anal sex twice, where I was "on top", & both those times it was with two different women.

I think the sad thing about enjoying anal masturbation, whether it be an enema or a dildo or a strap-on, is that many people grow old without ever having experienced the fun of having something in their anus. Small children will frequently extend the time they go to the loo because they enjoy the sensation of expelling but then they grow up and are told it is not nice! Modern society considers anything anul to be dirty and non-discussable, unfortunately, hence forums like this have expanded in recent years

I usually need to be in kind of a kinky mood for anal sex but on a normal day any smaller thing is welcomed

I just love having anal after cleaning out. Messes are avoided and my butt can get filled with a hot cream. MNMMMMM...yes. I recommend it.

This may help, however it takes time... several sessions if necessary, however if it gets you over the line into the land of the anally experienced all is good!

Find a partner you trust!!! I repeat, find a partner you can trust.

Anal Rule #1 for newbies... too much lube is almost enough!

You may want to start with doing rectal temps if you are very, very tight just to get used to having an friendly intruder in you bottom.

Work up to a well lubed finger rimming your anus, then as you get used to the finger being on the outside move on to gently sliding that finger inside... one knuckle at a time stopping to work that tiny love knot into a relaxed state at each pause.

Once the finger is all the way in, gently rotate & withdraw the finger as you become adjusted to things.

For maximum effect quickly withdraw the finger about half way followed by a slow advance all the way in... take the most friction & quickness withdrawing the finger then a slower & more deliberate push back into the rectum.

As you become adjusted to a finger thrusting in & out of your butt you can move on to dildos, carrots, or small butt plugs to help you to learn how to accept larger & larger implements of pleasure.

Once you have learned to relax and receive you can move onto your ultimate prize.

Have your trusted partner take you slowly so you can adjust to having a firm cock stretching out your freshly lubed & fingered love knot... filling your beautiful behind with pure pleasure!

Don't be afraid... jump in & enjoy. 😁

Fantasizing about anal sex or anal play is an instant turn-on but then I prefer orgasm from vaginal penetration. It's like there's a loose mental wire up there. Occasionally like real anal play with plugs.

I like anal sex but my wife isn't so open minded. sigh!

After reading all the postings, I showed my husband this site and he agreed that he was a bit rough when we first tried anal. So we went and bought lube (I think it was astro) and a anal dildo (about 4" long). We took the kids over to my sisters house and then had the whole night to ourselves. We prepared everything and started foreplay (oral, fingering, etc). After about 2 hours I was ready to try anal again (after 12 years from my first experience) to my surprise, my husband was very gentle and by the end of the night I was able to accept about 6" of his penis. After about 10 minutes of slow movement he shot his load and I must say the feeling was exciting but I do not have an orgasim. From what I read here, I expected a super orgasim. I wonder what went wrong?

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After reading all the postings . . . . [and] . . . After about 10 minutes of slow movement he shot his load and I must say the feeling was exciting but I do not have an orgasim. From what I read here, I expected a super orgasim. I wonder what went wrong?

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NOTHING WENT WRONG.

Don't believe everything you read. It is not reasonable for you to expect to have an orgasm from anal sex without sufficient clitoral stimulation done either by your husband or yourself (usually the better way).

Until you become more proficient at anal sex, I suggest laying on your back with your legs drawn far up towards your ears while your husband enters your anus so you can keep your arms free for self stimulation. Doing that will usually ensure, but not guarantee a powerful orgasm for you while having anal sex.

After you become more experienced at this, you can assume other positions and see how they do for you.

I luv anal sex with a woman. Unfortunately, I've only been with one woman who asked me to do it to her. It was my first and last experience as I've never found another woman who liked it or wanted to try. BTW, I didn't do bad for my first attempt 30 years ago. My anus was highly sensitive when I was younger and what I now believe is similar to a prostate massage, I could be caused to orgasm and ejaculate back there back then.

Who here actually enjoys the penis going up the bottom? I won't even let my partner touch my hole or go near it.

I hear lots of people say it's good fun and very enjoyable and they can also cum through anal sex. Thus the reason to start this post is to find out about who on here enjoys it and who will not have none of it, like myself, and why?

My reason is I just don't like the feel of it and it also hurts me.

Oh, I love buttsecks! The key to good buttsecks is preparation and relaxation. When I know I have a anal session coming up, I'll prepare by having an enema session until I'm clear. I'll wait a few hours before having my sexy times. When the time comes, I'll either finger my ass or have my partner do it for me. Once I'm used to fingers, then I'll switch it up to a dildo or a vibe. After that, then bring on the man! I'll start off in missionary or cowgirl until I'm used to it. And can't forget the lube!

From a male point of view, I discovered a few years ago that I enjoyed anal stimulation. As I am bi, I have "tasted" a few penises and decided to try anal sex. The first time was a little painful but I loved it. I do not do this often, but it is a special thrill when I find a willing partner.

I always open up with a butt plug before I start and lube up a lot. The best part is when the man places his organ at the sphincter and gently presses. I push back to allow him into me and let him go. Only once did I have a man hurt me. He pounded me fast and hard for almost ten minutes before he ejaculated. I was getting pretty sore at the end.

Of course, I always practice safe sex. I would love to find a woman into pegging and let myself surrender to her.

As a straight male, I enjoy on occasional dildo up my butt, 😁 compliments of my wife! She enjoys it too. All part of the fun of sex.

I am a married straight male who is old enough to know better. >😄

I enjoy being fisted or having a larger dildo inserted rectally from time to time.

My first wife often wanted to try anal. Usually, she found it too painful even with a lot of slow and careful warm-up. One time, though, things must have been just right. She started to insert me and literally lunged on to me. She was in a rolling orgasm for all the time we were engaged. She was very enthused to try anal again and a couple of days later, we did and she found it was extremely painful for her. We never did know why that one time was so good and the rest bad.

My now wife and I do anal once in a while. Most of the time, she is able to take it, but it is far from her favorite activity. However, she will sometimes sit on me and force me into her hard and full depth. I know I am in for a ride when that happens. She will achieve an early orgasm and enjoy the penetration. Most of the time, though, she just does not like anal very much, so I do not ask for it.

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You are correct.A nice gloved hand,one,two then three fingers, then the dildo. She will do me but will not accept me or a dildo in her.I respect her for that decision.

Ok, I've never had anal sex before but while during my vaginal play sessions with my dildo "Perfect Gentleman"...I get this urge to stick it up my bum! I've tried fingers and a candlestick once, it felt pretty good! I shall have to try my toy sometime...and I would only have anal sex with the right person, meaning a man who was gentle and patient 😃

I LOVE it with my wife, but she doesn't really care much for it, so I don't get it very often. Only once I've been able to really 'stroke' with any speed with-out hurting her. Also, she's so tight, I can't last long at all!!

My experience with actual anal penetration has not been all that great. My wife loves anal stimulation with a finger, tongue, and any manner of dildo. Just putting my penis in has never been that great for either of us but anal is a great part of foreplay. I do wish she would provide more anal stimulation to me though.

My wife enjoyed anal sex, both receiving and giving it with a strap on to me. It was a new experience for me, but erotic once I got over the initial reluctance.

My wife and tried anal early in our life together and it didn't work. Probably because I was just a typical horn dog man without much patience. Years later my wife expressed interest again after seeing plugs and fingers in a porn vid. This was before every porn showed anal sex. We incorporated anal stimulation into our play (both) and she was surprised she enjoyed it. She wouldn't ever admit to that, but she did start to ask for it while I was down on her.

She ended up really enjoying the feeling of simultaneous vaginal and anal fingering during oral. This went on for a while until one time on vacation she had a huge orgasm from this attention to both orifices and I was amazed that as her pussy spasmed during the orgasm, her anus totally relaxed. I remember adding my ring finger and pinkie and telling her how loose it was. I asked to try my cock and she readily agreed. The look on both our faces as I slid balls deep in her formerly virgin ass must have been priceless. I obviously didn't last long and she said she wouldn't have wanted me to, but it was great and is still an occasional treat for both of us. Since then, some our most memorable sex has been anal. We still laugh about the "great houseboat ass fuck" where we had hard. vigorous anal sex all the while listening to people on a nearby boat.

I am now trying to convince her to use a strap on in my ass, but she is showing some reluctance although I've told her how much I love it when she uses a dildo in me.