Do we care if a person is gay or straight?

Honestly, I'm more turned on at the prospect of a straight, married man with children being a secret cocksucker, or a similarly oriented man craving to dominate and be orally serviced by another man. Watching two women make love is definitely a turn-on, too. I believe my wife has some bisexual tendencies but she'd never admit to them, but she's made some shocking statements about it when she's drunk.

The private taboo sexual desires are the ones that are most kinky to me and it doesn't matter to me if someone is gay or not because I hate labels.

Honestly, I'm more turned on at the prospect of a straight, married man with children being a secret cocksucker, or a similarly oriented man craving to dominate and be orally serviced by another man.

I'm not really sure either of the men you are describing there are straight, sounds more like 'closet gay' fantasy you have there.

I don't care about ones sexuality I have been approached by men who label themselves straight and who I believe are simply because they are horny, I do not like being refereed to in feminine language really but if a man has to think of my mouth as a woman's go right ahead. If i am not having sex with them I just want them to be happy and could care less what their sexuality. A personal issue for me is the sex. I mean obviously as a gay male I don't have interest in women (although a friend did tell me about a lesbian that really enjoyed wailing on a man's butt gay or straight, but still no real interest), but I do have issues in that I have no attraction to trans individuals.. Obviously a she male may have a beautiful cock but the feminine upper is not attractive to me, I have known a few and they are really great girls. And then I think of men like Buck Angel, a man I am super attracted to except I do not seem to be able to get past his vagina. Not that a famous hot trans man has been after me ever. So for me I don't care about your sexuality or who you are physically unless we are hooking up. But I do like my men sexually to be all men, that is just a hang up with me. I have one person I know who is non binary but has lived most sexualities. They are cute for either sex and have done no hormones, but when they tried living as a gay male, they wondered why it was so hard for gay men to accept them as a gay male who happen to be in a woman's body. I really like them but know it would not be easy to accept that... Now they live as non gendered and have a female identified partner. I know this was about gay or straight but expanded it because of those i have encountered.

It does not matter to me

One should always put things in context. Do I care about my coworkers being gay? Do I care about sitting on the bus next to a gay guy? Or most commonly my hair cut by one? I am cheap. I go to places like Supercuts BTW.

Nor I'd care about gay doctors, nurses, teachers, or even preschool workers. In real life, where that doctor is saving my life.

But... it doesn't automatically make me want to play any MedFet scenario or even discuss my kinks with a gay person. Which also goes for lesbians. I'm not attracted to them, and they're not attracted to me, period. I am definitely not "bi-curious" to try it. It doesn't turn me on at all.

And if I have a choice, I prefer a female physician checking my privates and giving me a DRE. Not for kinks (well, maybe a little). It just seems right to me. We are free people. To choose doctors. No equality should be instituted in that somewhat intimate field. Of course, all bets are off in case of emergency, like I mentioned above.

My two-week membership on this site led me to an interesting discovery. Most of us automatically expect people with alternative sexuality and sexual deviations e.g. of BDSM variety to have high IQ. True for the most part, since a lot of "freaks" have to defend themselves all their life and fight for their survival. They tend to develop higher professional skills, not to mention general understanding and tolerance. But you know what... gays and freaks are part of the same averagely unimaginative and conservative demographics. They can be rude, near-sighted, and may I say, stupid. Just like your typical homophobic chauvinist from some "hick town".

As the LGBT becomes more visible and official in the society, it also reveals that not all gays are artists and scientists. The average IQ is undeniably higher, than the country's "baseline", but there's plenty of people you'd not want to talk to in a grocery store, whether they are gay or straight. Particularly ones making assumptions about everyone (out of the "freaks" joined Zity) being bi-curious, just like male chauvinists consider every straight girl a latent lesbian.

In a specific context I only care if a movie star is gay. For me it spoils their "hotness" when I know they don't have a thing for girls. But I wish them all the happiness they deserve with their special someone. Everyone deserves to find love.

I hope we are at a point of acceptance of others.

A PERSON is a collection of different characteristics, strengths and behaviors. I wouldn't say a person "is gay" or "is straight." That automatically labels the individual, ignoring all the other characteristics. Remember in the old days if one engaged in homosexual behavior s/he WAS a fag, queer or worse. S/he was then a target for all sorts of ridicule, shunning, firing, prosecution. Better one is PERSON with a gay or straight sexual orientation. Actually in 2017 many PERSONS are not in either slot, but may be non-binary, gender fluid, or agender, or whatever.

IMHO if the relationship is non-sexual, the orientation shouldn't matter--at work, having common interests such as charity, athletics, the arts, hobby, clubs, social lodges. Even if you know what the person's orientation is, one should neither use it for or against the relationship. However when the relationship gets sexual or intimate then it makes a difference. Another reader mentioned doctors. I would trust a known gay doctor not to abuse or take advantage of me, just a women trust the male ob/gyn to be professional. On a socially intimate level, personally I date consistent with my orientation, and that of the other person.

It doesn't matter to me,

Personally, it does not matter to me if a person is gay or straight. I would like to think that we have developed the ability to not judge others based on sexual orientation.

I think it's time we lost the labels. Call us human. If you are attracted to someone, and the feeling is mutual, their gender should be the least of your worries.

I've been in theatre my entire life. A person's sexuality has been fairly open in our field so I could never understood why it was such a big deal to so many people. We should treat all people with respect and allow them to live their lives with dignity.

As a woman who prefers women, you know my stance. As long as the gay is a decent and caring person, what is the big deal? Most gay people I know are kind whether they are men or women... Never mind the one I don't find kind.

No. If someone wants to enjoy sex, then what matter does it make. If one wants to have a child, it might be a consideration. Sex and procreation are no longer concomitant.

It does not matter if some one is gay, straight, bi, or other. As long as they are nice, happy, and take care of themselves who cars? BF and I discuss this quite often. I am pretty sure we are moving towards adding another male to our activities (for him). I think he really wants to experience sex with another man. I am not threatened by the idea nor do I think he will seem any less "manly" to me.

In some respects the sensations of both enemas and spanking are not sexual. They're something else. More knowledgeable people than I could elaborate. If these sensations are not sexual, the question of gay or straight is not particularly relevant.

I'm relatively new to this site, but I was kinda suprise to see this was even a question to ask. I have taken so much joy to find a group that is so diverse, yet so accepting. I get such a kick out of a true chat with y'all, or a 'like' next to a comment I make (for the first time in my life). This group is a perfect microcosm of what I think we could all be in a more progressive society. ....yeah for us, all we need now is a t-shirt!

It doesn't matter to me in the least. I have friends all across the spectrum of sexual preferences and I positively adore all of them. To me a good person is a good person so why should it matter what they desire in terms of sex. Just my honest opinion.

It does not matter to me. It's still the same person. I have gay and straight friends. Love them all equally

I have a son in his late teens that came out as being gay. The mental struggle he put himself through From 16 to 17 was unbearable as a father. People need to live their life by what makes them happy, not what anyone else envisions for them. In the end, we are all just people trying to find happiness. I hope the subject continues to become more and more acceptable and mainstream so that young men and women don't have to put themselves through the anguish my son did

You are treading awfully close to saying 'lifestyle choices' in the same breath as gay/straight. I don't know if that was intentional, or just a slip of the tongue. The two can NOT be placed together. Gay/straight is not, and has never been a choice.

No dors not matter every one to there own.

I went out with a gay/gender variant man for a few months. The sex was terrible, we both wanted to be the ones with our legs in the air.

He was experimenting with straightness. What a reversal.

I've never asked him, but I'm pretty sure an old high school classmate (male) and long term, long distance pen pal friend is gay. No wife, no kids, no mention of a woman in his life ever, although we both at one point had a crush on the same girl in high school (both of us got shot down by her). Also somewhat effeminate; not Liberace effeminate, but that edge is there. So maybe he's a Kinsey 2 or something, whatever. And I don't care, although I hope he is happy, alone or with someone, whatever the case may be. His bidness...

At work, doubly don't care because it's all about competence and contribution to the team. We have openly gay, straight normies, trans, questionable, and some of the dumbest and smartest people of all descriptions. 95% sure one of the better ones on our team is a lesbian; not attracted to her (butch and not my ethnicity preference) but I enjoy hanging out with her because she's quick-witted, and very, very funny, and here where I work - an otherwise depressing corporate cubicle farm environment - humor goes a long way.

That said, lipstick lesbians and bisexual women are pretty hot. Would love love LOVE to find out my woman had a taste for the halibut, but it's just not the case.

That said, lipstick lesbians and bisexual women are pretty hot. Would love love LOVE to find out my woman had a taste for the halibut, but it's just not the case.

IMHO, Gay women are easy to find. I find them at the supermarket, the library, and the gym. They tend to not congregate like gay men, but there are lesbian bars. A bi woman is just an ordinary woman who has had three glasses of prosecco.

A bi woman is just an ordinary woman who has had three glasses of prosecco.

Hmmmm....food for thought. A buddy of mine found out his (now ex-) wife had a thing for other chicks this very way.

ONCE again just MHO, women are easier to entice over to the other side. There is less stigma. Also, I have been with a few women on their first time, and I get them to just lay back, and do nothing. It can be very passive. They never have to say 'I don't know what to do'.

Really don't care, I'm straight but have friends in both camps.

I am not sure why anyone would care whether someone else on this site is straight or gay. I am a very open-minded straight guy and have no problem chatting with people of an preference. The conversation may not always become something of a sexual nature, but I am always willing to chat with anyone.

It does not make a difference. Everyone is here to share their experiences and learn more about their sexuality.