What do you feel sex is?

@SwitchableSusie Just playing devils advocate here - so 2 women cannot have sex together? Or do insertable toys count? I know you have 1 or 2 female friends you play with, and I’m guessing in the last 10 yrs of posting you probably used the word ‘sex’ to describe what you do.

I have addressed that in this thread here:

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=310919

and in other threads.

You can also go back and read all my posts in this thread.

To answer your question homosexuals DO NOT have sex. They masturbate each other. Masturbation is NOT having sex. Toys absolutely DO NOT count. Playing with toys is masturbating with toys.

Here is the Merriam Webster definition of masturbation.

Definition of masturbation

: erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital (see genital 2) organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual (see 1manual 1) or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation (see manipulate 1), occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies

Here is the Merriam Webster definition of masturbation.

So you mean to tell me when my wife tells me to fuck off that isn't sex?

Regardless of the definition of what actually constitutes SEX - I'm just thankful we have it!!

Well Rigel according to you as long as you can stick your penis in a vagina it is sex and it is great. Well there is a nice female pit bull, with a vagina, next door to you so let us all know how the sex was.

And Missstress is right, READ THE QUESTION!!!!!!!

Well Rigel according to you as long as you can stick your penis in a vagina it is sex and it is great.

You got me wrong. I think sex covers a lot more than inserting a penis in a vagina. I like doggy sex, but not dogs!

Rigel, glad to hear you do not do the dogs. Happy sexing!!!!

I said

It's only a question of terms, but when we use terms, we must be clear about what they mean.

@Rigel said

Why?? Many terms have different meaning to different people - there are no clear cut and dried definitions for many things.

People only understand each other correctly if both the person speaking/writing the word and the person hearing/reading it share the same definition.

If everyone makes up their own meanings for words and they don't use the accepted, dictionary meaning, the language becomes mangled and incomprehensible - and no one will understand each other.

People only understand each other correctly if both the person speaking/writing the word and the person hearing/reading it share the same definition.

In an ideal world that is true. We don't live in an ideal world - just look at the news and how many different 'spins' are put on what people say or were perceived to have said.

Back to the original question - per Merriam-Webster def'n of sex

3 a : sexually motivated phenomena or behavior

b : sexual intercourse

1 : heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis : coitus

2 : intercourse (such as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis

When the def'n states "such as" ... that leaves a lot of doors open.

@DrZ and @SwitchableSusie - I don't think either one of us will budge on this - but I certainly respect your positions!

In an ideal world that is true. We don't live in an ideal world - just look at the news and how many different 'spins' are put on what people say or were perceived to have said.

I don't live in an ideal world, that's for sure. I like to think that I'm fairly well up on the street slang that is used by certain groups in my locality, but always there is someone bending yet another word out of shape because they think it's "cool" or "clever" in a perverse kind of way. But the deliberate blurring of the meaning of words by many to create confusion and mislead the masses to suit their agenda, as you point out, doesn't mean we should all do it. Being clear in your meaning is good, and that's why I like to keep it simple when I define what to "have sex with" or to "sleep with" someone is.

In an ideal world that is true. We don't live in an ideal world - just look at the news and how many different 'spins' are put on what people say or were perceived to have said.

Back to the original question - per Merriam-Webster def'n of sex

3 a : sexually motivated phenomena or behavior

b : sexual intercourse

1 : heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis : coitus

2 : intercourse (such as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis

When the def'n states "such as" ... that leaves a lot of doors open.

@DrZ and @SwitchableSusie - I don't think either one of us will budge on this - but I certainly respect your positions!

The definition of masturbation is properly set.

ORAL intercourse???ever hear somebody actually say that??

ANAL intercourse--just a bastardization of sexual intercourse. The anus isn't a sex organ so how can that be SEXUAL intercourse. The same goes for oral. The mouth is not a sex organ either.

AXILLARY intercourse--

NASAL intercourse--

POPLITEAL intercourse--

Do you see how asinine it is to add "intercourse" an another term and have it become SEX???

SOCIAL intercourse--do you know what that is????

The definition of sexual intercourse has apparently been bastardized by people who think a definition is whatever something means to them, BUT IT'S NOT.

I think that the premise that just because Webster says it is penis in vagina doesn't necessarily make it true. Definitions are changing all the time as well as peoples perception of what sex is. 50 years ago there would have been much consternation and gnashing of teeth if someone would have suggested that 2 people of the same sex could get married. While I wouldn't choose that path for myself I don't harbor any ill will for those that do. What they do in the bedroom would then not constitute "sex". I'll bet all of them would beg to differ.

I think that the premise that just because Webster says it is penis in vagina doesn't necessarily make it true.

NOTHING could be farther from the truth.

ANAL intercourse--just a bastardization of sexual intercourse. The anus isn't a sex organ so how can that be SEXUAL intercourse. The same goes for oral. The mouth is not a sex organ either.

Agree - the anus and mouth are not sexual organs - but the dicks being shoved into them ARE sexual organs - so it's SEX.

I am going to give one last example of why it is bad for lay, unknowledgeable people to make definitions.

Define the word PERUSE.

If you ask people today what it means 90% of them will say it means to read quickly or skim.

BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT IT MEANS.

To peruse means to read carefully. The lowest common denominator of unknowledgeable imbeciles with zero intellectual acumen have through their ignorance and lack of education, mistakenly REVERSED what the word actually means.

The same thing has apparently happened to "sex" with the laymen's desire to be all things to all people.

It's frustrating being part of the intelligentsia. I think I may need this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=z9pD_UK6vGU

I am going to give one last example of why it is bad for lay, unknowledgeable people to make definitions.

It's frustrating being part of the intelligentsia. I think I may need this:

Moppy said: Just because Webster defined it doesn't make it the truth

NOTHING could be farther from the truth.

You may be right but you are certainly coming off as arrogant as well. Your education doesn't make you the last word on every topic and I resent your inference that because we aren't as educated our opinion doesn't count. Please peruse this reply carefully.

Why all the fuss about arguing over the definition of the word "SEX" when there are so many more important issues to discuss. Such as: Is a female canine really a dog - or simply a bitch.

What are you REALLY trying to define here? "Sex" can mean many things.

Are you really trying to define "sexual intercourse" or "sexual act"?

The US Government can be helpful here, since it defines "sexual act" in the UCMJ (official law, as 10 U.S.C. §§ 801–946). Article 120 says:

Sexual act. The term ‘sexual act’ means --

(A) contact between the penis and the vulva or anus or mouth, and for purposes of this subparagraph contact involving the penis occurs upon penetration, however slight; or

(B) the penetration, however slight, of the vulva or anus or mouth of another by any part of the body or by any object, with an intent to abuse, humiliate, harass, or degrade any person or to arouse or gratify the sexual desire of any person.

Procreation, pleasure, and power.

To my mind the word sex is a general term for all sexual activity. If my hand is moving slowly up a woman's skirt, getting ever closer to her underwear, then that's sex it can't be anything else. It's not ice skating or baking or anything else, it's just sex primarily.

You can break it down further if you wish...

Licking a woman's genitals= Cunnilingus.

Sucking the penis= Fellatio.

Penis entering vagina = Sexual Intercourse.

Penis entering rectum = Anal sex.

Whatever the act it all comes under the general word sex.

PS...I've never heard the word peruse to mean skim over something quickly. In my world it always means to study something carefully.

. . . . PS...I've never heard the word peruse to mean skim over something quickly. In my world it always means to study something carefully.

You're just saying that. . . .It's OK, I trust you. Somebody has to be in the top 10% 😁

Pe·ruse

pəˈro͞oz/Submit

verbformal

read (something), typically in a thorough or careful way.

"he has spent countless hours in libraries perusing art history books and catalogues"

examine carefully or at length.

"Laura perused a Caravaggio"

Pe·ruse

pəˈro͞oz/Submit

verbformal

"Laura perused a Caravaggio"

Dr Philip perused a Caravaggio in St John's Co-Cathedral, Valletta, Malta...The Beheading of St John the Baptist. I do love a Caravaggio but not as much as sex perhaps...

If I can get a guy to moan and cum, we have had sex.

My play doctor can insert his gloved fingers in my pussy or my real gynecologist can insert his gloved fingers into my pussy. Is this sex? Everyone is going have a different interpretation what sex is so it will be interesting to see all the different interpretations.

My play doctor can insert his gloved fingers in my pussy or my real gynecologist can insert his gloved fingers into my pussy. Is this sex?

No, not if your play doctor doesn't then have sexual intercourse with you.

I imagine your real gynaecologist would be horrified at you describing a real bimanual exam as "having sex". To suggest it would lead to some very damaging misunderstandings professionally.

It was a rhetorical question

My play doctor can insert his gloved fingers in my pussy or my real gynecologist can insert his gloved fingers into my pussy. Is this sex? Everyone is going have a different interpretation what sex is so it will be interesting to see all the different interpretations.

The intent of a real doctor putting their fingers inside is to find out if there is anything wrong. A play doctor may have another reason depending on the arranged "rules" of the play senario.

The original question that was asked was -

What is sex to you?

not to define sexual intercourse. Opinions will not be a definition, but what is felt by the member to be their opinion of a sexual encounter. It will not be the same for everyone, hence why it is an opinion.

The posting is sex is many things. Everyone has his or her own definition. You moderators want to beat on me go ahead. Like it or not some people on this site like playing doctor because they find it sexually and some people on this site like going to a real doctor because they find it sexually. It is what it is. I never gave my opinion on what sex is? It just gave a rhetorical question. I said in the end of my statement that it will be interesting what people will interpret.

You moderators want to beat on me go ahead. Like it or not some people on this site like playing doctor because they find it sexually and some people on this site like going to a real doctor because they find it sexually. It is what it is. I never gave my opinion on what sex is? It just gave a rhetorical question. I said in the end of my statement that it will be interesting what people will interpret.

Relax. Neither of us is 'beating' on you, and it wasn't clear that it was a rhetorical question. That can be one of the problems of a text-only medium when the reader doesn't really expect such a rhetorical question to be asked.