Why do women like anal intercourse?

The guy I was dating would beg me to let him go there. One night I agreed. I loved the taboo nature of it and found I really loved the feeling of being taken that way

I like anal for two reasons now that I am getting a bit older. I like it becaue with the right person it actually feels out of this worl fantastic, and two, it's so gosh darn intimate,it's naughty, it's animalistic,it's dirty andI don't mean in a poopy sort of a way. I guess the best way to put it is that it is so naughty and for me ayway and I can't speak for the other girls or guys here, but it's saved for a very slelected few, the trusted few , the loved few. It's for me still considered my special place, and resered for that special person, because he is the only one allowed to een think about going there..

I like vaginal .. oral .. and anal. For my lover it is a way of having him .. or her .. in all ways. I get to have it all and I like it.

Anal sex is something that you husbands and lovers can't just climb on for a quickie, rather it's something you all have to work for. It takes time, trust, and a tenderness which heighten the intimacy level for me as a woman. I think that's why anal sex exceeds standard vanilla vaginal sex any day. Not to mention, anal penetration, along with a vibrator on the clit, produces the ultimate in orgasms---deep and lingering and so rewarding for both.

Very well stated! In some ways, the slower and longer approach is well worth the time and effort. It certainly involves a much deeper degree of intimacy and involvement between the two people.

Anal, vaginal and/or oral orgasms each have their own feel. Sometimes I'm in the mood for one or the other but I love them all!

It always makes me cum harder maybe because its naughty or maybe im just all about the anal

I have never had such strong orgasms as I have when something is in my ass. Toys, suppositories, enema nozzles, penises. I first saw anal sex in a movie that I had purchased for other reasons and I played along with some toys. The first time I put a dildo in my bottom I thought I had died from the strength of that sensation. It was amazing and glorious!

For me, warming up beforehand is essential...smaller objects first and then gradually larger, and watching videos, looking at pictures, reading forum posts or chatting all help me to welcome something larger and larger.

I have been anal erotic as a child, though I had no idea what that was, the. I just like to give myself suppositories and enemas and look at the Sears catalog pics of enema equipment, or walk down that aisle in the store. I always had my stomach "aflutter" when I did that.

The penetration simply feels great as well as being a very submissive act. Bob

It's only a "very submissive act" if that is your intent.

There are times when I tell my husband to fuck me in the ass. I guess by your reasoning, that makes it a submissive act for HIM.

I think for many women anal sex is a "frame of mind", as much as it is about physical sensation, at least that's the way it is for my gf's. For me there is a "switch" that has to be turned on to get me in the right frame of mind. Certain elements must be in place first. I can't leap into bed and do it on the spot, I have to already be very aroused. And I'm about as open-minded as they get. I have my doubts when viewing porn or hearing stories of women just diving into anal sex, without much other stimulation, that she's really indeed enjoying it. Relaxation is the key for me and my girls.

Questions on my mind prior....

1) Do we have to watch the clock (hurry)?

2) Do I really trust my partner enough to expose myself that way? Is my lover getting me very heated?

I also prefer to have several orgasms via clit/spot first.

Also, the BIGGEST QUESTION for any women with a conscience and class are asking themselves, "what will he think of me after?" If your partner gives you all green lights that he's good with it and he'll respect you in the morning", then it's a thing of beauty.

I have been dating my bf for over 7 months now. We are just getting to the point of venturing there, I am only now feeling comfortable.

-A

Regarding questions posed by Asha above:

"what will he think of me after?"

My husband and I are both 42. We know each other since middle school, or about 30 years. We have been married almost 20 years and monogamous for almost as long. We have both been with numerous people prior to and after marriage, especially me. We were always fluid bonded, but stopped swinging a year before I became pregnant with our first daughter. So, what will he think of me? He'll think I showed him a great time and he will come back again and again for more. I don't have to be concerned about him going anywhere else for any kind of sex or experimentation because I'll do whatever he wants. The real joy is, I LOVE IT.

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Asha asked

"do I trust my partner?"

I guess so!

"is there a switch to turn on?" Not for me. Just tell me you want my ass, and you can have it. Don't jam your cock in, get me well lubricated and at least start getting my anus dilated, but after less than a minute, I'm yours to defile! He'll have his orgasm, and he or I, usually I, will use my fingers to massage my clit, and I'll have a fine orgasm, thank you.

Oh, please let me field this one, I happen to be in one of my "moods". And we all know when Nurse Mashie is in one of her moods, sometimes it isn't always very pretty, but, lucky for you, I am just returning from a week long vacation with my boyfriend, who dropped me off at my house, came in, fixed my furnace, visited with my two children, and my HUSBAND, yes, you read that correctly, my husband, had a nice hot cup of coffee, nice visit with the family while I got dressed in my scrubs so I could go to work.

For the record, I never ass kiss, unless it's naked, clean, presentable and I want to or have been ordered to by my doctor/boyfriend/lover/owner, and, of course, I want to.

Also for the record, and forgive me, Susie, goodness knows you don't need me defending you, but I happen to have the utmost respect for you on many levels. Please, allow me to spell them out.......

1) We are both medical professionals

2) We are both women

3) We are both human beings

4) Your level of both medical knowledge and education far exceed mine, not only at this time, but probably always will.

5) Your knowledge of all things kinky and BDSM related also will probably always exceed my level of knowledge and experience.

6) I greatly respect your level of confidence not only in you that you have for yourself, but also in the knowledge and skill sets you posses in all of the above mentioned areas.

7) You have confidence to say and express how you feel without beating around the bush, you sometimes can be crass, but always tactful. I have the crass down to a fine art, but I'm still working on the tactfulness that you posses.

And, in my opinion yes, a whore "does it for the money", but first of all, have you seen the amount of cash some of these "ladies" make? lol. However, whores also do it because most of them need to either please their pimp, or their drug habits, just saying.

You want to start bible thumping, well brother, bring it, because you won't win an argument from me in that category either. Interpret the Bible as you see fit if that's what you want to do. God said that there is nothing more beautiful that sex between a man and a woman, and he gave us the ability to be physically gratified while doing so, if not, the race would have died out a million years ago.

The good book also say "go forth and prosper", also people in glass houses should not throw stones. It seems to me Vlad, you live in a glass house. I guess one of my first questions here for you Vlad is why are you here? What brings you to the site. Not criticizing, just curious, just asking. You here to pick up a "whore" of your own or what?

I guess my another question is what is it that you seek from us? I noticed in another one of your posts that you stated that a woman's place belongs at her mans feet. I happen to totally disagree, In a good and equal relationship, a relationship built out of love, respect, honor, it is a a relationship that is equal on all sides. Power between two loving couples will many times waxes and wanes. That comes from knowing you partner and loving you partner well enough to put their needs, wants and desires above your wants and needs of your self, thus in turn, because you are making your partner so loved and giving him exactly what he wants, which in turns ultimately pleases you.

A marriage is a contract between two people who are really in love, and what those two people decide to do in their contract is totally up to them as two alert and oriented sane consensual adults. Again, it all boils down to the setting of what the two people who are contracted together want to fine and allow to be accepted within the parameters of their OWN SET relationship guideline and what's acceptable.

So let's not judge others too harshly when you apparently are on the same site, and I can only assume you are shopping for "others" for the same thing, no?

Yes, I know this is and can be a lot more complicated than what I am making it out to be here, but the facts remain, you are here too. Now, that's food for thought.

I am sure I will have lots more when I am not quite so tires. Until then. tthat's my food for thought to day.

Mashie

Susie cares about the physical and mental parts of complex relationships. I'm sure she a competent, caring nurse. With her, who needs Dr.Ruth. The rest of you ladies are giving of your knowlege as well.

A lot of women don't like it, but I think it's something everyone should try a few times. Guys don't really understand the need to go slow, to use fingers and a lot of lube and work up to it over several sessions, they just push it in and hurt the girl and wonder why it's no good and why she doesn't want to do it any more.

Joanne, you are so right. I keep hearing that from women a lot. That is why I am extra slow and listen to my partner for the first sign of discomfort and stop before it becomes painful.

Anal sex to me is all about domination. I love it because i feel my boyfriend has dominated me. 😃

Being male, I may be off the mark, but experience tells me that it's not about the opening, but rather the trust and closeness required to make it happen.

I think my wife enjoys a hard asshole fuck after she has cum a few times. I watch her face as I work my dick up her ass.

The sensation of anal sex is very intense. It can border on pain, but shouldn't be painful. The stretching sensation is very different from other acts of sex, and then there's the sensation of a man ejaculating into your rectum. I love to feel the warm pulsing of the semen; it is soo different when it happens back there.

But to get to that stage where I'm in the mood and ready for anal takes time, often requires my partner to pleasure me to several orgasms before I'm extremely relaxed and ready to be penetrated (with lots of lube to ease the friction). I prefer to be fucked slowly anally.

For me, I do it only once in a while, but when done right, it is extremely pleasurable.

Since there is a greater risk for pain and tearing, both partners must be in tune with each other and work together to make good things happen. It's important to communicate with each other intimately and to understand and to cater to your partners needs.

It's very erotic to feel your partner's heartbeat and breath on your back, to feel him hold you close and hear him ask, "Am I hurting you?" while he slowly guides his lubricated cock into your anus and takes measured motions to move deeper inside you. There is also the pain factor to consider. It is always a stretch for me and I recognize that there is going to be a certain amount of pain as does my partner. Knowing that it is going to hurt and to accept the pain for him is extremely arousing as is him knowing I'm taking it for him. He loves the sound of my breath as I gasp from pain and breathe slowly to try to relax to accommodate him so he can enter me fully. For him to move inside me knowing that it hurts me but that soon I will moan from pleasure and move against him and settle my anus at the base of his cock with his entire length inside me and the intensity of him sliding inside me gently, at first, to full fledged fucking.

The anus has so many sensitive nerve endings to tickle

Once I have read that for Muslim women it is absolutely necessary to marry with an intact hymen. So they will insist on the anal sex before the wedding.

Even if the guy doesn't know what he's doing, it's great, as long as he follows your orders. How many guys know how to work the G spot or the tail bone to orgasm? Tho there are pleanty of women with sub par G spots, just like their breasts.

OK, here goes FYI, Anal play wakes up the nipples and/or breasts. The anal-vaginal wall is super pleasurable. Have your S.O. rub it between the thumb and the fingers (both moving in opposite direction) to see what I mean.

Avoiding PAIN: The colon goes towards the belly button then makes a sharp turn to the left hand side. This 'kink' is the 2nd pain area. You should move the hips side to side to open the kink. Also hunch foward and arch back and forth. You can also push as if to shit.

Entry Pain. Like others said, slowly. Cock shoulds massage it and shake, ie emulate a vibrator.

Sex: If you're on top, I hope you'll feel the need to fart or shit out the cock, DO IT while sitting on it to keep it in. You'll die and go to heaven. He will love it.

The tail bone needs fore play to wake it up, before the entry. There's more but I have to go.

For me it's about the physical sensation, plus the feeling of being dominated, along with the feeling of being such a naughty girl. I have a very small vibrator I use on my clit,,or just fingers when that's not available, and I'm off to the moon.

There is much to-do made over prostate stimulation, and I've found out, rather the hard way, that it's not what I supposed it to be. After prostate removal 6 years ago, I can say with certainty that enemas and other forms of anal stimulation feel exactly the same to me as they did when I had a prostate. Men and women share all the same nerve endings around/in the anus, no suprise that women can enjoy anal stimulation just as any man might.

Given that we all have those nerve endings, I'm more surprised when anyone, man or woman, doesn't enjoy anal pleasures.

I like it simply because it feels good =3

No worries about getting pregnant. Plus it feels rather nice. And after he does it to me, he must accept my strap-on doing it to him.

Hi first post. After our second child (in 19 months) we discussed the pro's and cons of my wife going back on contraception. As we studied the different ways available to us (her) beside the pill she'd been on for the first 12 years of our marriage we just decided to 'be careful' instead.

Well this was o.k. we were new parents with two kids in diapers, two full-time jobs, so the whole intimacy thing was on the back burner anyway.

In my younger single days I had a girlfriend that just loved anal, nothing else, we used toys on each other and generally had a great time of it.

My wife wasn't like this, not that she had objections to anything 'dirty' she just had a pretty sheltered up-bringing, I was her first boyfriend and we married without ever living together, although we were having sex, she got on the pill 6 months or so into our relationship.

After about five years we'd had some time to get our mojo back and we got pretty skilled at oral and hand stimulation, knowing when to pull out....maybe some 'booby porking' etc 😃 and I brought up the subject of 'anal'....well. Dang. There will be NOTHING going in back there.....even though we had been using anal stimulation, so I thought, the idea of anything bigger than my middle finger was terrifying (she kinda forgot about the 'finger').

Well I worked on it, little by little, making sure my fingers were well lubed and she was nice and relaxed and in a happy place with her vibrator, I slipped in TWO fingers very gently, a couple times later I went to the BIG THREE...... Well she sat up bolt upright, grabbed me by the wrist outta there and inspected my still squeezed together tri-digits. She looked, turned my wrist around, looked again and said, 'o.k. but if it hurts it's not happening again Do.You.Understand.' 😃

That was five years ago, anal is now part of almost every sexual encounter, although it's usually in silence, we don't openly discuss what we're doing, while we're doing it, no porno 'take me in the ass big boy' or anything like that, it's primal, private and very satisfying for both of us.

I'm almost 55, I have health insurance and as we get to towards the end of the year our deductible is almost covered. I am getting a physical, I go back next week for results on blood tests etc. and I mentioned to my wife maybe it's time I got 'the snip', I said we're definitely too old for more kids and we could go back to a 'normal' sex life...you know, the early morning roll-on, roll-off quickie.

The first words out of her mouth were 'What? No more bottom porking? No don't do it!' She blushed, it was the first time she'd vocalized just how much she enjoys anal. I was bad, I made her say it, 'You like anal a lot don't you?'.....'yes, very much', she said.

Now if I can only get her to strap something on and give it to me.....

I've been anal erotic since my teen years. I masturbate often and my orgasms are very intense

when I have my butt filled. The sensations are indescribable, especially the stretching and insertion.

For me, there are two reasons.

The first, sometimes it just feels amazing to have something in my ass. I actually find anal penetration more pleasurable than vaginal.

The second, sometimes I enjoy painful anal penetration. I do like a bit of pain but I think it runs deeper than that. It's a level of trust and submission between you and the other person; it hurts but you take it for them, for their pleasure, and you trust them not to push you beyond your limits or to do damage.