How many people out there actively pursue their enema fetish

Jill s,

You never know. I have the same fantasy, and it has come true to a limited degree....twice.

It's just harder for a woman, I think.

I feel certain that my first serious girl friend had an erotic interest in enemas. She never suggested trying one but sometimes she would relate stories of other people getting them, and she had this excited edge to her voice. One time when we had intercourse I became bold enough to insert a finger in her rectum and she practically went ballistic. Afterward she said she was ashamed about it, but her denial did not have the ring of sincerity. I was too young, callow, and ashamed of my klismaphilia to let her know I had similar feelings. When she broke up with me it was the most emotionally devastating event in my life, and still bothers me sometimes almost 50 years later.

My first wife was willing to experiment with enemas and did derive some sexual stimulation from them, but we were incompatible in other ways and the marriage did not last very long.

I had a few girl friends who enjoyed enema play. One enjoyed bondage, but not receiving enemas, but she liked being dom, too, and giving them to me.

I have been married to my second wife for 20 years. She knows about my fetish, but is mildly repulsed by it and will not participate. But we get along great otherwise, and I would do nothing to jeopardize our marriage, hence do not seek other partners. Wish she enjoyed enema play like a couple of those girl friends, though.

My sex life now consists almost exclusively of taking enemas while I masturbate, which I do several times a week. Maybe its not as great as with a partner, but I usually make it last a long time which is gratifying in its own way.

When I told my ex-husband about my enema fetish, he got disgusted, would not engage in the fetish with me, and that was one of the many things that ended our marriage. My current boyfriend is very tolerant, enjoys them with me and my nurse girlfriends. He joins in our enema parties when we have them at our flat. I only wish we had more than one loo.

I have told several of the ladies that I have dated or known.

I talked about it once with a lady that I never dated but we would spend some time together (platonicly), she had no interest, my second wife was studing to be a nurse and she thought it was weird, the last two girlfrinds said replied YUCK, quitI have all butt quit.

I try on various occasions. I think the social acceptance of enemas is a problem. I met a lasy in Canada that is somewhat open to the idea, but Canada is 1200 miles away from me.

I play in a couple of bands and today we were rehearsing from 10:00 to 1:30. My visiting nurse was due at 1:00. She came early, liked the music...bought a CD and hung around. At 1:30 she let me know that she was pressed for time so we excused ourselves and went about our business. She is prepping me for surgery Thursday, starting today, then Tuesday and Wednesday afternoon. I will be on a liquid diet from Tuesdy morning on. We didn't say anything to the other musicians but it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what was going on. the guys knew that I was having 'bowel surgery', etc.

So, I guess that I could say the we didn't hide anything. By the time that we finished the guys had left.

The boxcar

I once told my wife about my love affair for the bag. She went along with it for a couple of months and then grew tired of it. I now have to hire enema escorts for my pleasures...

A long time ago- I thought that I had something seriously wrong with me because of my enema fantasies. I told a therapist about what I then thought was some horrible perversion (at that time I only had fantasies about what I now understand is a common fetish)- he acted like I needed to work on getting rid of this.. but years later, I met a very experimental man- and as a fun bet- a whole new sexual world opened up. He and his friend are the only people that I have ever shared this with- we all played around with this. I am afraid to talk to my new man about this- he is very open- but how can I introduce this to him??

Where does this fetish come from?

That's a huge question Katrina. I would say that not only do the causes of enema lovers vary, but the anwser may depend on what you beleive on a deeper level. For instance:

Clearly, many people on this forum have this addiction as a result of childhood trauma or experiences which range from nuturing to sexual abuse. On the other hand, there are also many humans that are anally erotic, and get great sexual pleasure from all forms of anal masturbation. Enemas are a natural conclusion for many of them because it is arousing in itself and also cleans them out for further anal adventures. Neither of the two scenarios mentioned are mentally unsound individuals unless they take their passion to an unsafe, unhealthy, or self-destructive level like the Illionis enema bandit.

Likewise, there are humans that are born thrill seekers and boundry pushers, and they too find stimulation in enema play through the competive factor (trying to up your best volume or retention time) and the struggle or the whole scenario. Similarly, there are those that feed off the humilation and pain that can be associated with a punishment enema scenario, and they too find enemas a hot-button issue.

In these modern times, we also have the granola, yoga, pilates, and crystals new-age craze, and those people love them some enemas and colonics with all kinds of solutions and variations. Are they really that different from us in their enema obsession?

Finally, I would argue that enema play is part of human DNA. This is where your beliefs come into play. In basic psych, there are theories that people can have fears about animals and other living beings because their DNA and cellular memory holds instinct from a time when we were the prey and not the predator.

Moreover, from that same evolutionary period following the rise of man, we see the phenomenon of power exchange. Tribal rulers rise from the crowd and leaders are picked. Humans have this in the their cellular memory too- picking someone to give power and control to in exchange for security and comfort. Be it the church, a king, or a president, humans seem quite content to give away control to a higher power in return for answers and safety. Sexual power exchange is a microchosam for this instinct, as some of us play out our evolutionary role as slaves while others become masters.

Enemas too have a great history in mankind dating back to prehistoric times. Every period in history has had its moment of enema madness where constant cleansing is the answer to mans ills. This was true in Latin America, Renaissance Europe, Victorian times, Pioneer America, the Roaring 20s, and every other time. Humans have this practice in their instinct from millenia of training. Even animals exhibit this kind of behavior be it enemas, masturbation, or other alternative sexual play.

It is only a problem if you let the demons out of control when you let them out to play.

Told you it wasn't an easy answer.

My wife use to participate in my fetish - filling me up and playing before, during and after, if I made it that long. I used to administer to her also, but she never really got into it. Since then, she has had some medical problems and does not enjoy anymore. I have pretty much soloed with enemas, but every once in a while I meet someone who enjoys as much as me.

In today's busy world, it is tough to get to know someone, set something up and take the time to meet somewhere. I can set things up at home, enjoy some good enemas and fantasize a whole lot while getting off. Of course, it's not as good as the real thing. So, any takers? 😉

Still trying to find that elusive 50s Hospital enema......